What would you change about Daddy's Reviews?

[+ Rickee]

"Eenie Meenie Chilli Beenie - The Spirits are About to Speak"

 

Bullwinkle J Moose

"Are they friendly spirits?"

-- Rocket J. Squirrel

[Mikegaite]

Okay I'll bite.

 

I would call on people to stop describing escorts as "perfect" in reviews. No one is perfect. A sizeable percentage of my reviews describe some aspect of me as perfect, and it's flattering and I appreciate the compliments, but no one is perfect. You shouldn't have to describe an escort as perfect to convey that you want to recommend him, but sadly reviews have a hyperbolically high standard of praiseworthiness, such that calling someone great is insufficient these days.

 

I would like there to be more posts about escorting and fewer posts about what you ate for breakfast.

 

I would not mind if the admins themselves started more threads.

 

I would like people to actually be able to discuss and debate things on the forum rather than be afraid to express their opinions on topics.

 

I would like people to realize that fuchsia font color is never a good idea.

 

I would like people to stop throwing pizza parties. Pizza has carbs.

 

I would like people not to text me and tell me to quit posting on the forum because my posts are "useless."

 

I can't compete with the thread on chili, so I'm quietly stepping away now.

[geminibear]

Sports Forum of course.

[mike carey]

I would like people not to text me and tell me to quit posting on the forum because my posts are "useless."

I hope you are joking with this one. Your posts are perfect! (Please note I did read the rest of your post!)

[rogerG]

We need to attract younger people, say in the 18-35 year age bracket.

I don't know any males in the 18-35 age bracket that can afford $300-an-hour for an escort. Most men in that age group are on Grindr, getting as much cock and ass as they desire. Every guy I see at my gym in that age range is pretty darn sexy. Why have an interest in escorts when you can easily get sex for free?

[+ saminseattle]

There is a lot of great information on this forum. And I’m not just talking about cooking recipes and hair care tips. I’ve been reading this forum religiously since late last August. It has frequently made me laugh. It has sometimes touched me to the point of tears. But most of all, it has allowed me to learn about a range of practical issues and potential ways to deal with them. And when it comes to these issues, I just don’t believe the advice and experiences that have been shared here are really available anywhere else. Sure, there’s a lot of crap and nonsense here too, but it’s worth pouring through that to get to the good stuff.

 

So, my worry about the forum is not so much how it can be improved around the edges, but how it can be preserved and sustained. What if I woke up one morning, and it was just gone? All gone? All the anecdotes and pearls of wisdom and heartfelt advice erased and gone forever. My hope is that people are committed to making sure that does not happen, and that some dedicated group has already or will be looking into all the technical, legal, and personal issues necessary to protect the treasure trove of information and edification that is embodied in all these threads. And the gallery…don’t forget that!

[rvwnsd]

I don't know any males in the 18-35 age bracket that can afford $300-an-hour for an escort. ...

 

Speak for yourself. I hired my first escort at age 32. I was busy working at a telco startup and did not have time for the BS of meeting people via other channels.

[rvwnsd]

What would you change about Daddy's Reviews or the forum in general? It could be small-scale or large-scale, inspirational or aspirational, serious or funny. This place is great overall, but I'm wondering if we can't start a small revolution and make it even better...

Mike, I'm glad you started this thread. I think we need a container forum and a punctuation and vocabulary forum. OK, I am kidding about the former but only half-kidding about the latter.

[stop]

Okay I'll bite.

I would like there to be more posts about escorting and fewer posts about what you ate for breakfast.

I would not mind if the admins themselves started more threads.

I would like people to actually be able to discuss and debate things on the forum rather than be afraid to express their opinions on topics.

 

 

Mike,

 

Interesting perspective, I edited your quote for space purposes only, not to diminish the other aspects of your comments.

 

I would be interested in seeing a wider variety of topics but I at times am hesitant to post questions or topics for fear how they will be received. I note that there is a tendency by some to pounce on questions with flippant responses either about the question itself or referring back to prior discussions. There are many (i am assuming thousands) of threads on here, who has the time to read every one, so when somebody posts a question and it has been already asked its frustrating to see that topic dismissed outright. I do credit Dutch and other who are kind enough to find the thread and link it back, but if somebody posts a question its obviously on their mind.

 

People should be able to ask a question without being attacked about asking it. There is no dumb question, You may find it silly but if that is the case then just move on. I could care less about turkey chili so i just ignore it. Now if the discussion was about Peruvian food then i am all in.....But to attack somebody just because they posted a question to me is pretty disrespectful. This tread is a great example of that. You had a serious thought which by some was dismissed. Its unfortunate that you can't express something without it being attacked. Not everybody has to agree with everybody else but I for one would love people be able to debate without it becoming a war.

 

I would also love it if when somebody starts a post and asks an opinion or question, that they should not then turn around and attack the respondents when they provide their opinion.

 

The internet is full of internet trolls and when I first joined this site I was pleasantly surprised that it seemed like people were on a friendly/familiar basis with the majority of the group which I felt like limited the "trolling", that seems to have disappeared of late, and some folks are just downright mean. I would really like it if the trolling aspect that has crept in would dissipate.

 

Mike, I for one think your post was imperfect because Pizza is the 2nd best food out there and should not be dismissed but the idea of your thread is da-bomb and I thank you for taking the chance and posting it. (Of course Italian beef sandwiches from Portillos is the best food)

[+ purplekow]

Okay I'll bite.

 

I would call on people to stop describing escorts as "perfect" in reviews. No one is perfect. A sizeable percentage of my reviews describe some aspect of me as perfect, and it's flattering and I appreciate the compliments, but no one is perfect. You shouldn't have to describe an escort as perfect to convey that you want to recommend him, but sadly reviews have a hyperbolically high standard of praiseworthiness, such that calling someone great is insufficient these days.

 

I would like there to be more posts about escorting and fewer posts about what you ate for breakfast.

 

I would not mind if the admins themselves started more threads.

 

I would like people to actually be able to discuss and debate things on the forum rather than be afraid to express their opinions on topics.

 

I would like people to realize that fuchsia font color is never a good idea.

 

I would like people to stop throwing pizza parties. Pizza has carbs.

 

I would like people not to text me and tell me to quit posting on the forum because my posts are "useless."

 

I can't compete with the thread on chili, so I'm quietly stepping away now.

So after a very detailed discussion of the Oxford comma, you are suggesting what this forum needs is a more varied and precise vocabulary for the reviews; more tasteful color schemes; low carb dieting ideas; and civility.

I do agree about the civility, but lets face it, that would be a goal for just about every forum which allows uncensored postings. While varied and precise reviews are always a delight, not all of us have the requisite skills to pull that off. Speaking of being pulled off, there are two areas dedicated directly to escorts and escorting. No shortage of space there for specific postings for and about escorts.

 

We are in agreement that the posters have the opportunity to do better here. I applaud your calling for us to do it.

[+ quoththeraven]

But to attack somebody just because they posted a question to me is pretty disrespectful. This tread is a great example of that. You had a serious thought which by some was dismissed. Its unfortunate that you can't express something without it being attacked.

 

Just to clarify where I was coming from:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/welcome-back-marylander.105903/

 

My first post in this thread was a warning, not an attack.

[stop]

Just to clarify where I was coming from:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/welcome-back-marylander.105903/

 

My first post in this thread was a warning, not an attack.

 

 

I'm sorry I didn't mean you or even the first batch of posts which were just outlining guidelines. but I appreciate that you even considered it even if it was unnecessary to do so.

[rogerG]

Speak for yourself.

 

I believe I was speaking for myself.

 

I hired my first escort at age 32.

 

I may have been 20 when I hired my first. Fresh out of the closet, a virgin, and dumb as shit about gay sex. Very shy, too. I wanted to be educated, and that first escort taught me things that still resonate to this day. The cost was $60, which to me, was a lot of money back then, but I thought the information I learned was worth more.

 

If computers existed then, I suppose I might have joined a board like this. It's nice to be able to discuss private matters with like-minded people.

 

I know quite a few gay men under 30. None of them seem to be as shy as I was, and no one has ever expressed to me in private conversation a desire to pay for sex. That's all. I enjoy a younger perspective, so if younger guys discover this site and wish to participate, great. I just don't see that happening, and I don't see the board doing anything to attract them.

[seaboy4hire]

Oh Lord. Get a room you guys. :D

 

Um...can I watch?

 

I'll film it!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[seaboy4hire]

I have only rapidly read all the comments here and probably missed some important points.

 

My suggestion: this website needs to REJUVENATE and attract a much younger crowd, for it to remain relevant. Aging Queen clients (including myself) and Maturing Escorts who fight every day to desperately remain relevant are, or will be, a thing of the past. And soon. We need to attract younger people, say in the 18-35 year age bracket. Those young guys (and perhaps a few girls) don't read their dad's magazines and review their websites anymore. They get their information from very specific social media. The daddysreviews concept needs to be freshened up by expanding into the social media frequented by this group. I am thinking Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat ...

 

With all due respect, this website has the look, feel and content of a late 1980s gay bar - stale beer, cigarette smoke and Abba's Dancing Queen played over and over and over again. It is time to bring it into the new Millenium.

 

Hey whats wrong with Abba?!?!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ WmClarke]

We obviously need a Contaner Store / IKEA forum.

[jjkrkwood]

We obviously need a Contaner Store / IKEA forum.

 

That sells CHILI... !

[rvwnsd]

That sells CHILI... !

You could buy chili containers at both places.

[Paddy]

That sells CHILI... !

 

Off topic, but I'm curious... what's behind the fan?

 

http://assets.nydailynews.com/polopoly_fs/1.2476618.1451030462!/img/httpImage/image.jpg_gen/derivatives/article_400/qg001480.jpg

[jjkrkwood]

Off topic, but I'm curious... what's behind the fan?

 

http://assets.nydailynews.com/polopoly_fs/1.2476618.1451030462!/img/httpImage/image.jpg_gen/derivatives/article_400/qg001480.jpg

 

 

Paddy LOL, YUP, pretty much got me pegged !

[+ Archer]

What would you change about Daddy's Reviews or the forum in general? It could be small-scale or large-scale, inspirational or aspirational, serious or funny. This place is great overall, but I'm wondering if we can't start a small revolution and make it even better...

3D maybe? Or how about scratch-and-sniff?!!

[+ FreshFluff]

A social media-based board would draw more young escorts. But married P4P clients, including those who hire women, are pretty nervous about any connections to social media, even a "Log in using Facebook" option. Fake accounts are getting harder to get, and it's easy to log into the real one by accident. Besides the risk of giving out one's identity, there's..

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/30/way-to-ruin-marriages-facebook_n_7183296.html

[+ Truereview]

There are ways we can change this site without actually changing any of the policies and procedures of the site, simply based on the content that we choose to post and not post. By and large, we control much of the content that is posted here. It's our community to change or to not change.

Ok, Mr. Gaite, I will bite back. i would suggest we all continue to treasure & celebrate our collective humor, intellect, and caring for each other. Just look at the banter above. It is funny, smart and, although we may seem like we don't care much for each other, I feel that posting, in & of itself, is an expression of caring.

 

Whether our site looks like an 80s or 70s bar or the slickest one of all, WE are the draw. We are not defined by our platform, we are defined by the behaviors of our membership, and lately, I believe we've been unusually aggressive and moody. What to do? Here are some starters...

1. Continue to care (celebrate that someone became a great uncle, cheer up someone who is feeling stressed, empathize with an escort or client who has been cheated, tell it like it is)
   
2. Stop instigating or baiting - you know who you are: it is all of us at our worst
   
3. Start using the ignore function if you really dislike someone. There is no shame in it. Frankly, there is some pleasure in noticing that someone is still trying to push your buttons when others respond to their absurdities
   

[+ quoththeraven]

A social media-based board would draw more young escorts. But married P4P clients, including those who hire women, are pretty nervous about any connections to social media, even a "Log in using Facebook" option. Fake accounts are getting harder to get, and it's easy to log into the real one by accident. Besides the risk of giving out one's identity, there's..

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/30/way-to-ruin-marriages-facebook_n_7183296.html

 

As soon as social media was mentioned, I thought about the differences between an audience of young, single gay and bisexual men (and a few women), many of whom may have no interest in, funds for, or feel no need for escorts, and an audience of older gay and bisexual men (and a few women), some out, some not; some married, some single, and some closeted, as we have now, who are interested in escorts and hiring them and think social media would actively drive away most of the second group because of the desire for discretion.

[+ quoththeraven]

Ok, Mr. Gaite, I will bite back. i would suggest we all continue to treasure & celebrate our collective humor, intellect, and caring for each other. Just look at the banter above. It is funny, smart and, although we may seem like we don't care much for each other, I feel that posting, in & of itself, is an expression of caring.

 

Whether our site looks like an 80s or 70s bar or the slickest one of all, WE are the draw. We are not defined by our platform, we are defined by the behaviors of our membership, and lately, I believe we've been unusually aggressive and moody. What to do? Here are some starters...

1. Continue to care (celebrate that someone became a great uncle, cheer up someone who is feeling stressed, empathize with an escort or client who has been cheated, tell it like it is)
   
2. Stop instigating or baiting - you know who you are: it is all of us at our worst
   
3. Start using the ignore function if you really dislike someone. There is no shame in it. Frankly, there is some pleasure in noticing that someone is still trying to push your buttons when others respond to their absurdities
   

 

Triple like, especially number 2.

 

Can I add stop acting like your opinion is always the only right one and be willing to admit that you were wrong? I have recent experience with the latter when I didn't get the point of a single-panel comic about a cheating crayon in the non-political Friday Funnies. It can be painful (especially for Hermione Granger the know-it-all!) but it's also cathartic to realize it's okay to mess up on occasion.