Preference when meeting at hotel- meet in lobby or at door?

[+ DickyF]

When traveling to a client's hotel, do you prefer to go directly to the room? What about when the elevator requires a hotel key? That was the case with my hotel in NYC - I told my "paid companion" I'd meet him in front of the hotel and escort him to my room, though he later said I could have instead told the front desk to provide him with a guest pass to get up the elevator and he said he prefer that (though I forgot to ask why).

Do you have a preference either when hosting in a hotel or traveling to a client's hotel?

[+ bashful]

As a client, I've meet guys at hotels that either allow public access to guest floors, or require key card access to the guests floors. For obvious reasons, it's easier when there's public access. Once, a guy at a hotel with public access (I knew that from my previous stay at the same hotel), wanted to meet downstairs. When meeting where key access was required, it was not a problem. Perhaps, and understandably, it gives the provider an added layer of security. Or, it could be the provider is utilizing reward programs, and key access is just a byproduct.

[Juan Vancouver]

My absolute preference is to meet at the room. There is no place for shenanigans there. I make a point of always staying in hotels that do not need a key in the elevator so my clients can come up directly.

 

If I am visiting someone who is staying at a hotel that needs a key, then I will make sure to confirm that he is at the room he said by calling directly to the room through the hotel number. I do this when I confirm the session. Once it is established that my client is in fact checked in and in the room he told me I have no problem meeting him outside the elevators, outside the hotel or ask at the front desk to be left in. It's entirely up to him.

 

If I stayed in a hotel where people would need a key I would absolutely not like anyone going directly to the from desk and ask about my room. People, even well intentioned ones tend to not care as much for your privacy as you do. I know of escorts whose kind, nice, sweet clients asked the hotel staff to be let into the elevator because their hot escort friend was waiting for them. Absolutely not letting that happen in a hotel I am staying.

 

If you must stay in a hotel that needs a key, you can ask your client to wait outside the elevators or at some specific place in the lobby or the entrance. Ask what he is wearing, tell him what you are wearing. If you have a good reputation and a couple good reviews that show you are a real professional, nobody should have trouble doing this.

 

Good luck in everything!

[jawjateck]

For an unvetted escort, I have no problem walking up to his door. I have the option to apologize for knocking on the "wrong door" and walking away if someone else opens the door. If he is doing an outcall to me, NO unvetted escort is ever allowed to knock on my door. We meet in a public location where I have the option to walk away. If you open the door and someone else (or undesirable) steps in, you've got trouble. It's unnecessary and avoidable.

[+ DickyF]

My absolute preference is to meet at the room. There is no place for shenanigans there. I make a point of always staying in hotels that do not need a key in the elevator so my clients can come up directly.

 

If I am visiting someone who is staying at a hotel that needs a key, then I will make sure to confirm that he is at the room he said by calling directly to the room through the hotel number. I do this when I confirm the session. Once it is established that my client is in fact checked in and in the room he told me I have no problem meeting him outside the elevators, outside the hotel or ask at the front desk to be left in. It's entirely up to him.

 

If I stayed in a hotel where people would need a key I would absolutely not like anyone going directly to the from desk and ask about my room. People, even well intentioned ones tend to not care as much for your privacy as you do. I know of escorts whose kind, nice, sweet clients asked the hotel staff to be let into the elevator because their hot escort friend was waiting for them. Absolutely not letting that happen in a hotel I am staying.

 

If you must stay in a hotel that needs a key, you can ask your client to wait outside the elevators or at some specific place in the lobby or the entrance. Ask what he is wearing, tell him what you are wearing. If you have a good reputation and a couple good reviews that show you are a real professional, nobody should have trouble doing this.

 

Good luck in everything!

 

Juan

Thanks! I feel similar- I don't want escorts asking about my room at the desk!

Your response brings up a question to you or anyone else - has hotel staff ever questioned your business at the hotel, or why you get these visitors? If so what can be done to avoid that?

Is it a bigger risk at smaller cities? Or maybe they are less suspicious than NYC? But in the latter maybe they don't care as long as it is not obvious to other hotel guests.

[Riley Wynters]

I don't have a problem meeting clients at the door to their rooms. Its less complicated sometimes. However, if it is a hotel that requires key card access for the front door or the elevator then I will ask the client to meet me in the lobby.

[Juan Vancouver]

has hotel staff ever questioned your business at the hotel, or why you get these visitors? If so what can be done to avoid that?

 

It has never happened to me.

 

I always tip the maids every day and they are always happy to leave more towels, clean the room on my schedule, not theirs and not ask questions. They are always delighted when I am back. As long as the front desk staff, I am always kind, friendly and polite. as long as I am not doing anything illegal in the room or causing a loud disruption, there's no reason for which they would ask anything.

 

For an unvetted escort, I have no problem walking up to his door. I have the option to apologize for knocking on the "wrong door" and walking away if someone else opens the door. If he is doing an outcall to me, NO unvetted escort is ever allowed to knock on my door. We meet in a public location where I have the option to walk away. If you open the door and someone else (or undesirable) steps in, you've got trouble. It's unnecessary and avoidable.

 

I would never agree to meeting you in a public place, precisely because people who want to meet in a public place are doing it not for safety but because they want to be able to bail out without consequences. Friends of mine complain often about clients who take forever to book, then agree to a public place meeting and then of course stand them up. Some, sadly complain about having been set up for harassment by meeting the "client" in the street.

 

I always offer that if the minute you see me you are not thrilled, I would go away without you having to explain anything. No questions asked. If my reviews and this assurance are not enough to calm your nerves and invite me to your room, then I rather take a pass.

 

For me, safety first. Anything else second.

[jawjateck]

I would never agree to meeting you in a public place..........

For me, safety first. Anything else second.

 

I did say "unvetted", but I won't haggle over details. We have much in common, so let's just roll with it. Your safety is paramount to you. My safety is paramount to me. We will never meet. Oh well.......

 

You continue to have a robust business with quality clients who agree to your terms. I continue to have sensual meetings with quality companions who agree to my terms. Life is good.

[mattr]

I always offer that if the minute you see me you are not thrilled, I would go away without you having to explain anything. No questions asked.

 

Has anyone actually ever said they were not thrilled???????

[+ Truereview]

New guys to me, I only meet for lunch or kawfee. I pay for 1 hour of their time for us to see if we have mutual chemistry. if things go well, the next time I see them it's at my doorstep.

[Juan Vancouver]

Has anyone actually ever said they were not thrilled???????

 

Not yet, but I know quite well that nobody can be liked by everyone, so I know it's bound to happen.

 

The closest I was ever to thinking I was being sent away was when the door opened and it was a very important someone with whom I had worked before. He became translucent white, his face adopted what I thought was a look of horror and his jaw dropped to the floor and while I started saying something like "this is odd, I am sorry, don't worry we don't have to go through with this and nobody needs to know" he literally pulled me into the room and said something like yeah, I never imagined it would be you... let's do this.

 

And we did.

[mattr]

Not yet, but I know quite well that nobody can be liked by everyone, so I know it's bound to happen.

 

The closest I was ever to thinking I was being sent away was when the door opened and it was a very important someone with whom I had worked before. He became translucent white, his face adopted what I thought was a look of horror and his jaw dropped to the floor and while I started saying something like "this is odd, I am sorry, don't worry we don't have to go through with this and nobody needs to know" he literally pulled me into the room and said something like yeah, I never imagined it would be you... let's do this.

 

And we did.

 

My fantasy is that one day the door will open and you will be there so we can do this!

[josh282282]

I would never agree to meeting you in a public place

 

For me, safety first. Anything else second.

 

For the very reasons Juan says he would never agree to meet in a public place are the very reasons a client should NEVER agree to NOT meet an escort in a hotel lobby first (yeah, I know, too many double negatives- I mean to say a client should ALWAYS meet in public first).

 

Clients just need to be a semi regular reader of this website to know there is (unfortunately) potential danger in this hobby, for both client and escort. This a dangerous world.

 

That Juan suggests to clients to forgo reasonable & logical safety protocols sets a dangerous precedent and, frankly, is too self serving.

If you are new to hiring, stay safe and meet him first in the lobby. Your safety demands it. Do not risk becoming a statistic.

An escort who will refuse to book a client who requests to first meet in public is an escort that won't have my business.

Neither should he have yours.

Yes, yes, "..safety first...".

 

To all readers of this forum, both client and escort, may 2016 be a profitable, wonderful, and safe year.

[Juan Vancouver]

For the very reasons Juan says he would never agree to meet in a public place are the very reasons a client should NEVER agree to NOT meet an escort in a hotel lobby first (yeah, I know, too many double negatives- I mean to say a client should ALWAYS meet in public first).

 

Clients just need to be a semi regular reader of this website to know there is (unfortunately) potential danger in this hobby, for both client and escort. This a dangerous world.

 

That Juan suggests to clients to forgo reasonable & logical safety protocols sets a dangerous precedent and, frankly, is too self serving.

If you are new to hiring, stay safe and meet him first in the lobby. Your safety demands it. Do not risk becoming a statistic.

An escort who will refuse to book a client who requests to first meet in public is an escort that won't have my business.

Neither should he have yours.

Yes, yes, "..safety first...".

 

Hey Josh,

 

There is no reason for which you should have read my previous numerous posts on this subject in which I have repeatedly urged clients to -before anything else- focus on their safety. Well, a cursory search will provide endless examples. I would advise people to go without an escort before incurring into necessary risks.

 

That being said, if you did that search you would also realize that I recommend people never take a chance on dodgy looking characters and unvetted escorts regardless of how hot they seem to be or how incredibly cheap they are. Consistently positive reviews will not ensure you will have a hot, fantastic time but will exponentially better your chances that you will meet someone who is a professional and won't put you at physical risk. Again, to me, a safer session trumps the hottest sex in the world.

 

I have been accruing consistently positive reviews for ten years. The only asset I own and rely upon is my reputation and the opinion of people who actually have met me. Even in this board when past ghouls threw serious (and totally unfounded accusations) at me, when people deliberately twisted my words to advance their own agendas, when people had nervous breakdowns right and left, I always was polite and civil. The worst I have been might have been somewhat terse.

 

Because of my reviews, someone hiring me might not be sure if they will find me attractive, they might not be sure if they will like my face, they might not even know whether they will like me as a person, but they are certain of one thing: I will be respectful, professional and will never endanger or threaten them in any way.

 

If you do not realize the hard work that building such a reputation entails, if you don't value the calming assurance it brings, if you don't think that I have earned your trust and your respect, and if you don't think I have won the right to have my safety taken in consideration, allowing me to take the necessary precautions like calling your hotel to confirm you are there and letting me meet you at your room, then we might not be a good match.

 

That is no problem at all. There is something for everybody. For some, hiring any escort and meeting him at corner cafe might make them feel safe. For others, engaging a professional with a proven record of safety will let them know they will be taken care of and their experience will be safe and dealt with professionally.

 

The secret in life, I believe, is to know how to find people that are a perfect match for us. There is something for everyone!

 

Just please don't say that I am suggesting people to be careless and put themselves at risk. That would be a lie.

 

Hoping you will have as many safe encounters as you may want!

[+ saminseattle]

I agree with Juan that the most important and reliable way for a client to assure his own safety is by first investigating his companion’s reputation. But this isn’t always possible—after all, no one could acquire a reputation in the first place if at least some people didn’t take chances at least some of the time. So, if there is no reputation to speak of, how do the parties navigate the risks of a first meeting at the client’s hotel?

 

One side is concerned that the person who shows up at the door won’t be the person they’re expecting, and that during the momentary confusion that follows, the person will step inside the room, creating a physically risky situation. Meeting first in the lobby solves this problem. But the other side is concerned that if they are supposed to meet first in the lobby, the “client” could be a prankster, or might change his mind and cancel without ever showing up, and there would be no accountability for lost time. The best solution to this is not so much about meeting at the lobby or at the door; it’s about verifying by phone that the person is actually checked in at the hotel in the room he claims before leaving for the hotel.

 

But neither approach is foolproof. The person who you meet in the lobby could in fact be the person you expect from his pictures, and yet he could still turn out to be crazy and/or violent. The person who is checked in at the given room number could still change his mind and decide to step out for several hours to avoid you. There is some risk inherent in the situation, so both parties will just have to decide for themselves the level of risk they’re willing to accept.

[jgoo]

For what it is worth, an escort I recently hired indicated that he appreciated my suggestion to meet him in the lobby of the hotel. His reason, as he related it to me as we talked a bit afterwards, was that he felt it was less likely to be a police sting in that case. He didn't go into the details as to why he felt that way but upon reflection I can see some logic to that. I don't think it totally eliminates the risk but it seems that it would be a bit more "safe" for the escort in that one particular aspect.

[wayout]

My absolute preference is to meet at the room. There is no place for shenanigans there. I make a point of always staying in hotels that do not need a key in the elevator so my clients can come up directly.

 

If I am visiting someone who is staying at a hotel that needs a key, then I will make sure to confirm that he is at the room he said by calling directly to the room through the hotel number. I do this when I confirm the session. Once it is established that my client is in fact checked in and in the room he told me I have no problem meeting him outside the elevators, outside the hotel or ask at the front desk to be left in. It's entirely up to him.

 

Juan, not to go too far afield, but I don't recall an escort ever calling me at my hotel room to confirm the room. It is my understanding that in many hotels calls will only be put through if the caller gives the name of the person in the room. I may be wrong, that has changed or it is only for certain hotels, but that is my understanding. For various reasons I don't feel comfortable giving out my real name to an escort and as such I have never done so. Just curious if you have come across that obstacle when calling or if you require the real name of the client for meeting at his hotel? Thanks

[jawjateck]

What samseattle said. Someone has to vet 'em for the rest of yall.

[jawjateck]

Juan, not to go too far afield, but I don't recall an escort ever calling me at my hotel room to confirm the room. It is my understanding that in many hotels calls will only be put through if the caller gives the name of the person in the room. I may be wrong, that has changed or it is only for certain hotels, but that is my understanding. For various reasons I don't feel comfortable giving out my real name to an escort and as such I have never done so. Just curious if you have come across that obstacle when calling or if you require the real name of the client for meeting at his hotel? Thanks

 

After 16 years and lawd knows how many hires, I have never been called on my hotel phone to verify I am in the room. It is a safety practice, but not a common one.

[mike carey]

My fantasy is that one day the door will open and you will be there so we can do this!

Unfortunately I can't think of a circumstance where Juan would turn up at my hotel door without my specific involvement in making it happen. That somewhat reduces the potential for the element of surprise!

For the very reasons Juan says he would never agree to meet in a public place are the very reasons a client should NEVER agree to NOT meet an escort in a hotel lobby first (yeah, I know, too many double negatives- I mean to say a client should ALWAYS meet in public first).

Mutually exclusive MOs on the face of it. A widely reviewed escorts who also contributes to the forum makes it far easier for clients to feel comfortable with the escort's preferred method of meeting. No matter how prolific a client is in commenting in here, that can never give an escort a similar level of confidence in that person as a client for him. There is an escort in NYC (I think) who in almost every review is noted as insisting on meeting at a Starbucks near his apartment. I suspect that the 'this is what he always does and it always seems to work' would be enough for me to accept that way of meeting.

Because of my reviews, someone hiring me might not be sure if they will find me attractive, they might not be sure if they will like my face, they might not even know whether they will like me as a person, but they are certain of one thing: I will be respectful, professional and will never endanger or threaten them in any way.

Quite so, Juan, this is all about safety, and that is a series of objective judgments, both parties can know what works for them. The like/dislike/chemistry part is subjective, and the best of preparation cannot ensure that will work.

 

Meeting is all about minimising risks, and that involves assessing those risks and taking whatever steps are needed to mitigate them. Different people on both sides of the equation have their own risk thresholds. I get that. This forum provides quite a bit of information on which clients can assess the risks involved in meeting the escort of their choice, but not much for an escort to make similar assessments. I have read enough here to make me confident to meet quite a few excorts if I were so inclined. I have now met a few escorts at the forum lunch, and that also gave me information that would help me to make decisions.

[Juan Vancouver]

It is my understanding that in many hotels calls will only be put through if the caller gives the name of the person in the room. I may be wrong, that has changed or it is only for certain hotels, but that is my understanding. For various reasons I don't feel comfortable giving out my real name to an escort and as such I have never done so. Just curious if you have come across that obstacle when calling or if you require the real name of the client for meeting at his hotel? Thanks

 

You are correct. Perhaps 80% of hotels will ask for the last name under which the room is registered.

 

I couldn't care less about your last name or any other private information. I have absolutely no use for that. If you want to register as Marilyn Monroe, as long as I can call the hotel room and make sure you are in the room you said you are, I am good to go. This is about safety, not about having leverage for blackmail.

 

I have been escorting ten years and maybe 1 out of every 30 prospective clients have declined providing this necessary information. Some might have been reticent at first, but a simple, polite, professional explanation on the phone made them understand how this is important for my basic safety. To this day, nobody, not even people of high notoriety who have hired me, have regretted sharing their information with me. Strangely enough, it is the hugely famous ones who volunteered the information easily.

 

A professional escort is like a reverse savant for names and private information; we have an incredible talent to forget we ever saw you, forget we know your name, forget you might be famous, forget everything about you... Of course you are John! We won't talk or think about you until the next time we see you, remember what floats your boat, remember what feels good, remember who you are when curtains are closed and clothes shed.

 

I am not suggesting you to disclose all your information to all escorts. I can't speak on behalf of anybody else. If you want to meet me, however, since I have worked so hard to make sure that I have a sustained reputation for safety and professionalism, I will only meet you at your hotel if I can call you to your room to confirm you are there.

[Keenan]

I prefer the client to meet me in the hotel lobby or out if front of the hotel. This provides an extra layer of security at first and also if there is someone at the front desk that may question they are less likely if you are with someone who is checked in. Just my thoughts.

 

Keenan

[+ nycman]

I often stay in hotels where security cards...and occasionally security guards...make it impossible for the

escort to meet me at my door. I've never had a problem. I usually know upfront that it's going to be an

issue and I make the escort aware that I will be meeting them in the lobby in the first 2 to 3 texts.

When there are security guards persent I make sure to tell them 20-30 minutes ahead of time that

a friend is coming over and I will be meeting them in the lobby.

 

The day of the meeting I send a polite text telling them the room number and touching base with

them to make sure we're still on. That's usually more than enough to reassure them.

 

Last time I was in Vegas, I did have a minor problem when I was staying at the Wynn Tower Suites

and the out of town and fairly young escort went to the Encore Towers elevator by mistake. It took a

while to figure it out and I could tell he was getting nervous despite my repeated reassurances via cell

that I would come find him. He REALLY sucked at describing things around him. It's a fucking Casino

in Vegas. Every Bar, Cafe, Restaurant and Shop has a name in HUGE LETTERS over it...just read ONE

of them to me and then STAND there...he had a hard time doing that...lmao. Anyways, once we found

each other it was all good and we had a great time, so there is a happy ending....grin

[keithhardy]

I would much rather meet at the room or have a client come to my room, I always feel a bit awkward hanging in the lobby of a hotel waiting to meet someone, particularly if its the first time meeting them and you have no idea who you are looking for. I will however say recently in Philadelphia there has been someone contacting escorts and having them go to hotels, giving room numbers to rooms that aren't theirs and never hearing from them again.....its happen to me and one other escort that I know of.....so their are still risks in even knocking on the door. I now text and tell them I am at the door, if it is a new client, which has worked well.

[MikeyGMin]

I now text and tell them I am at the door, if it is a new client, which has worked well.

 

This seems like a really smart approach. The last time a new guy came to my house he did the same thing. I was able to greet him at the front door without him ringing the bell. There was no doubt that he was expected and I was the person he had been communicating with.