Outcall to Home - Any Advice?

[+ m_writer]

I am planning an outcall with a escort I have met before in the past to my condo.

 

At our first meeting, he's been king, attentive, polite and I looked forward to hearing from him again after our session. He did everything I wanted and I left with a smile on my face from the hotel.

 

Now he's in town again, and we agreed to try an outcall at my home.

 

The thing is, I would like any advice from escorts or clients on what I can do to make this enjoyable and safe for both of us.

 

1.) We've meet once and talked multiple times in the past. Is it considered jumping the gun to invite him for a session at my home where it would be more private than a hotel?

 

2.) To any escorts who can answer this, what can I do to offer to the guy once he comes over to make him feel welcome and not nervous? What would you prefer to be greeted and treated like once you enter a stranger's home? Besides offering him water and a shower and my bathroom, what can I do to make him enjoy the session? How would you want to be treated when invited to a stranger's home?

 

3.) Should I be concerned with leaving any valuables or my wallet out? I'll have a safety contact before the session, but I feel this escort would never do anything bad (if anything, he's probably a bit more worried about me). But at the same time, meeting him once doesn't mean I know him well enough.

 

Any thoughts or advice? I welcome any insights or assurances that I'm just being too paranoid or overly concerned. Or perhaps I should just do another incall at his hotel.

 

Thank you.

[BgMstr4u]

Maybe I'm over-reading your post, but I sense something more than just good sex is going on here with you. If not, then just ignore this.

 

Why do you so strongly desire to have him in your home? It might be helpful to sort that out a bit before you get together in your space. Are you looking for a relationship? Are you perhaps a little bit masochistic, half hoping that something might go wrong? If that's the case, then keep it in the realm of harmless kink and do it somewhere neutral and safe. My advice, for what it's worth, is to see him in his space until you know him better and have your own motivations sorted out.

[Mikegaite]

You should invite him into your home only if you're comfortable doing so. If you're nervous about it, a hotel is a better option.

Some clients have given me keys to their houses, and other clients, whom I have seen dozens of times, have yet to tell me where they live. I don't read into it either way: people have different comfort levels.

 

I've heard of watches or other sundry jewelry items being stolen. Never experienced it myself, and I think it's uncommon.

 

People come in and out of my house all the time, including people I have never met before, and I don't bat an eye. Never once had a problem with my incalls. Have had numerous first meetings in clients' homes, mostly without a hitch. One overnight client didn't have hot water in his home. One client brought a loaded gun over without telling me beforehand. One drugged me. And one had Fox News playing in the background when I entered his living room. The last one was the most traumatizing for sure. But it's otherwise been pretty smooth sailing.

 

As far as what to have in your hosting space, I would recommend just being yourself. You can make the space slightly more inviting with a few additional touches, but that's completely not necessary.

 

OP, thanks for adding tags to your post btw :-).

[Bearofdistinction]

I am planning an outcall with a escort I have met before in the past to my condo.

 

At our first meeting, he's been king, attentive, polite and I looked forward to hearing from him again after our session. He did everything I wanted and I left with a smile on my face from the hotel.

 

Now he's in town again, and we agreed to try an outcall at my home.

 

The thing is, I would like any advice from escorts or clients on what I can do to make this enjoyable and safe for both of us.

 

1.) We've meet once and talked multiple times in the past. Is it considered jumping the gun to invite him for a session at my home where it would be more private than a hotel?

 

2.) To any escorts who can answer this, what can I do to offer to the guy once he comes over to make him feel welcome and not nervous? What would you prefer to be greeted and treated like once you enter a stranger's home? Besides offering him water and a shower and my bathroom, what can I do to make him enjoy the session? How would you want to be treated when invited to a stranger's home?

 

3.) Should I be concerned with leaving any valuables or my wallet out? I'll have a safety contact before the session, but I feel this escort would never do anything bad (if anything, he's probably a bit more worried about me). But at the same time, meeting him once doesn't mean I know him well enough.

 

Any thoughts or advice? I welcome any insights or assurances that I'm just being too paranoid or overly concerned. Or perhaps I should just do another incall at his hotel.

 

Thank you.

 

If you do not trust a gentleman with the safety of your body - then you should not invite him to your home '

 

I do put things away but, I don't keep much here worth stealing === But If I let you DOM me then I trust you and have never been surprised or hurt with missing money, diamond tiara's, emerald butt plugs, etc. I have only invited well reviewed gentleman callers to my home and have never been disappointed!

 

There is a comfort to being a host providing your gentleman with a private space and shared play space -- after all -- all gods chillins gotta fart!!

 

One Gentleman caller was looking for extra work and having just came out of the hospital I needed someone to clean my house and help me with medical errands --- He performed wonderfully with no interference to our other play -- and is a wonderful "professional friend"

 

We both benefitted and I loved how he cleaned in a specialty jock I bought him for fun

 

A couple lesbian friends were shocked - but laughed after he appeared in a jock with a Swiffer extension rod up his hole as we had beers!

[+ Truereview]

Welcome to the forum, @m_writer. My guess is that you will get a variety of perspectives on your questions bc we all have different boundaries. That's the beauty of this place: wisdom of crowds on a niche topic. Anyway, to your questions:

 

1. Jumping the gun? Personally I would never invite someone to my home after a first meeting. First meetings are unique in nature. I would wait to have met the guy a few times in different settings. For me, my home is my refuge and I consider it a big gesture to open the doors to new people.

 

2. I'm with Gaite on the question of making the escort feel comfy. Try to be as relaxed as possible, think of it as inviting just another guest - with benefits. Treating him with courtesy & hospitality is the simple answer. Again, themore calm you are, the more he will feel at home.

 

3. Put valuables away? I must admit that I'm not a trusting person. I always put away temptations at my home whenever someone newish to me comes over. I don't trust automatically, people have to earn my trust. If that makes me less desirable or likeable, so be it.

 

Wishing you a great time hosting & please report back! -TR

[whipped guy]

I have only invited one escort to my home. It was someone in whom I obviously had a certain amount if trust.mm Furthermore I had been invited to his home the first time we met. I actually had reserved a hotel room, but the escort said that it would be easier for both of us if I simply wanted to come to his place.

 

When the tables were turned I decided to return the favor. It all worked out well and depending on the situation I have been to his place and he has been to mine.

 

I doubt that any other escorts wold fit the bill, but this has proven to work well. As for stealing anything.... Well, when the escort left my place that first time he forgot to take an almost empty bottle of lube with him. When I told him about it he jokingly accused me of stealing from him! At the time another escort had recently posted in this forum that he had done the same thing with an almost full bottle of lube and was mad that the client did not inform him of the fact. Of course that had occurred at a hotel and if it had rolled under the bed the client might have not had any clue. Consequently I jokingly posted about my lube incident here. The escort has been punishing me for my grand theft larceny to my delight ever since!

 

Bottom line: if you feel comfortable go for it if not... Get a hotel room! It depends!!!!!

[AdamSmith]

I've hosted dozens of escorts in my home, including many on a first meeting, with never a problem. It was one or two ill-chosen bar pickups, not escorts, who turned out to have sticky fingers.

 

OTOH they were fun in the sack, and the Garmin and digital camera that went missing were worth about what I would have paid for equivalent escort sessions, so it all evens out!

[Rod Hagen]

[quote name="AdamSmith' date=' post: 1102788, member: 4279"the Garmin and digital camera that went missing were worth about what I would have paid for equivalent escort sessions, so it all evens out! [/quote]

 

Maybe he needed the Garmin to find his way back to you for more fun? :-)

[AdamSmith]

Maybe he needed the Garmin to find his way back to you for more fun?

In fact the opposite, as I never ran into him again. Avoiding the scene of the crime, evidently.

[rvwnsd]

I have hosted many escorts in my home, including those I had not met before, and have never encountered a problem. I treat escorts like I do any other guest by offering a beverage, snack, or what have you. They usually offer me the what have you and off we go.

 

That said, regardless my comfort level or others', you have to do what makes YOU feel comfortable. if you are not 100% comfortable hosting, then don't host this tie. Wait until the next time or the time after that.

[+ m_writer]

Maybe I'm over-reading your post, but I sense something more than just good sex is going on here with you. If not, then just ignore this.

 

Why do you so strongly desire to have him in your home? It might be helpful to sort that out a bit before you get together in your space. Are you looking for a relationship? Are you perhaps a little bit masochistic, half hoping that something might go wrong? If that's the case, then keep it in the realm of harmless kink and do it somewhere neutral and safe. My advice, for what it's worth, is to see him in his space until you know him better and have your own motivations sorted out.

 

The reason I'm nervous a little is because this is the first time I've ever invited an escort to my home. And the thing is, this may sound weird, but I'm actually less comfortable in going to hotel rooms. I live an hour away from the city, and trying to find parking and being discreet to go to their hotel room is a little difficult. One time, the escort was in a hotel where the elevator needed a key, but he wasn't willing to go down to meet me in the lobby, so I had to wait until the elevator came down so that I could go up (got a weird look from the hotel desk worker on that one). And one time I went to another guy's home, he was friendly and wonderful but i ended up getting the flu a few days later because he turned the air conditioner full blast in his room.

 

Hence why I feel this time, I want to do an outcall because I think it'll be less stressful (but I want to treat the guy right and make him feel welcome). And he's visiting my city, so he doesn't live close by.

 

And kinky I can be sometimes, but if you're thinking I'm going to re-enact Stephen King's Misery, Kathy Bates nails the role better than I ever could.

[+ m_writer]

You should invite him into your home only if you're comfortable doing so. If you're nervous about it, a hotel is a better option.

Some clients have given me keys to their houses, and other clients, whom I have seen dozens of times, have yet to tell me where they live. I don't read into it either way: people have different comfort levels.

 

People come in and out of my house all the time, including people I have never met before, and I don't bat an eye. Never once had a problem with my incalls. Have had numerous first meetings in clients' homes, mostly without a hitch. One overnight client didn't have hot water in his home. One client brought a loaded gun over without telling me beforehand. One drugged me. And one had Fox News playing in the background when I entered his living room. The last one was the most traumatizing for sure. But it's otherwise been pretty smooth sailing.

 

Thank you for the advice!

 

And...I'm actually more horrified that you were actually drugged than the Fox News bit. Sorry to hear that.

 

At least with Fox News, you learn to eventually tune it out after going to 24 Hour Fitness gyms to have at least three monitors playing that channel.

[BgMstr4u]

LOL. Well put. Still, I would not have him to your place till you are sure of him.

[+ m_writer]

If you do not trust a gentleman with the safety of your body - then you should not invite him to your home '

 

I do put things away but, I don't keep much here worth stealing === But If I let you DOM me then I trust you and have never been surprised or hurt with missing money, diamond tiara's, emerald butt plugs, etc. I have only invited well reviewed gentleman callers to my home and have never been disappointed!

 

There is a comfort to being a host providing your gentleman with a private space and shared play space -- after all -- all gods chillins gotta fart!!

 

One Gentleman caller was looking for extra work and having just came out of the hospital I needed someone to clean my house and help me with medical errands --- He performed wonderfully with no interference to our other play -- and is a wonderful "professional friend"

 

We both benefitted and I loved how he cleaned in a specialty jock I bought him for fun

 

A couple lesbian friends were shocked - but laughed after he appeared in a jock with a Swiffer extension rod up his hole as we had beers!

 

Actually, thank you. You helped me realize that the only valuable things I have are my PS3 and my four-year old Dell computer. So now I feel better and silly that I was a bit concerned in the first place.

 

Actually, good news. I told the guy (who is quite well liked here in the forums ) that I'll treat him for dinner at a restaurant nearby (since the session ends around dinnertime) and he accepted, saying he appreciated it. So I think I'm doing the right thing. But thanks for making me realize that I was being silly.

[+ m_writer]

I have only invited one escort to my home. It was someone in whom I obviously had a certain amount if trust.mm Furthermore I had been invited to his home the first time we met. I actually had reserved a hotel room, but the escort said that it would be easier for both of us if I simply wanted to come to his place.

 

When the tables were turned I decided to return the favor. It all worked out well and depending on the situation I have been to his place and he has been to mine.

 

I doubt that any other escorts wold fit the bill, but this has proven to work well. As for stealing anything.... Well, when the escort left my place that first time he forgot to take an almost empty bottle of lube with him. When I told him about it he jokingly accused me of stealing from him! At the time another escort had recently posted in this forum that he had done the same thing with an almost full bottle of lube and was mad that the client did not inform him of the fact. Of course that had occurred at a hotel and if it had rolled under the bed the client might have not had any clue. Consequently I jokingly posted about my lube incident here. The escort has been punishing me for my grand theft larceny to my delight ever since!

 

Bottom line: if you feel comfortable go for it if not... Get a hotel room! It depends!!!!!

 

I actually feel more comfortable now after reading this thread, and the guy I hired is well-liked here in the forums so I'm going to go for the outcall and plus, I've had a good time with him before and he was the nicest one I've had. I appreciate the new point-of-view you gave me, so thank you.

[+ m_writer]

I want to give a thank you to everyone who offered advice.

 

So now I am definitely going to do the outcall since I feel it'll be less stressful than an incall, and I'll greet him with a welcome, a bottle of water, and afterwards, I'm taking him out to dinner since it'll be past dinnertime when we're done as a favor (which he accepted graciously). I now feel a lot more at ease and should have realized that most escorts usually have more reasons to be uncomfortable than I should.

[MikeyGMin]

And the thing is, this may sound weird, but I'm actually less comfortable in going to hotel rooms.

 

Actually, not weird at all. I hate hotel in or out calls. Will only do them if it is a traveling escort that I really want to meet and there is no alternative.

 

Over the years I have had more guys than I care to count come into my home and have never had a single problem. I treat them like I would any other guest that I do not know well. I offer them a drink and a comfortable place to sit while we get to know each other. About the only difference, and it's a small one, is that I make sure I have several different types of unopened drinks to offer. Just to put them at ease about the whole drugging thing which I know would be my fear in their situation.

 

I know that many clients have issues about guys coming into their home, but for me there is no greater luxury than falling into a routine with a regular who comes to my house. It becomes easy, comfortable and familiar for us both. Good stuff!

[BabyBoomer]

for me there is no greater luxury than falling into a routine with a regular who comes to my house. It becomes easy, comfortable and familiar for us both. Good stuff!

 

Does he have his own key yet?

 

~ Boomer ~

[whipped guy]

I actually feel more comfortable now after reading this thread, and the guy I hired is well-liked here in the forums so I'm going to go for the outcall and plus, I've had a good time with him before and he was the nicest one I've had. I appreciate the new point-of-view you gave me, so thank you.

I want to give a thank you to everyone who offered advice.

 

So now I am definitely going to do the outcall since I feel it'll be less stressful than an incall, and I'll greet him with a welcome, a bottle of water, and afterwards, I'm taking him out to dinner since it'll be past dinnertime when we're done as a favor (which he accepted graciously). I now feel a lot more at ease and should have realized that most escorts usually have more reasons to be uncomfortable than I should.

The dinner is a nice thought, it is always fun to discuss things off the clock in a relaxied atmosphere. Plus, it helps establish a bit more of a connection and that's always a nice thing.

 

We all have a different comfort level for these things and it depends on the escort as well. You have found yours for this particular situation. I'm sure all will go well. Do enjoy!

[MikeyGMin]

Does he have his own key yet?

 

~ Boomer ~

 

I know you are just being cheeky, but if there was a need, I wouldn't hesitate for a minute. Dude does quite well for himself. He has no need of my shit! Besides, it might come in handy if I fall down and break a hip.

[LADoug1]

You should invite him into your home only if you're comfortable doing so. If you're nervous about it, a hotel is a better option.

Some clients have given me keys to their houses, and other clients, whom I have seen dozens of times, have yet to tell me where they live. I don't read into it either way: people have different comfort levels.

 

I've heard of watches or other sundry jewelry items being stolen. Never experienced it myself, and I think it's uncommon.

 

People come in and out of my house all the time, including people I have never met before, and I don't bat an eye. Never once had a problem with my incalls. Have had numerous first meetings in clients' homes, mostly without a hitch. One overnight client didn't have hot water in his home. One client brought a loaded gun over without telling me beforehand. One drugged me. And one had Fox News playing in the background when I entered his living room. The last one was the most traumatizing for sure. But it's otherwise been pretty smooth sailing.

 

As far as what to have in your hosting space, I would recommend just being yourself. You can make the space slightly more inviting with a few additional touches, but that's completely not necessary.

 

OP, thanks for adding tags to your post btw .

 

Fox News? Biggest buzz-kill imaginable!

[TruthBTold]

I have only had people to my house, mostly because I am lazy. Of course I made sure my home was clean. I have never felt unsafe because I tended to hire very vetted gentlemen and many times I have talked to people that have used him by IM. I usually have some kind of appetizer-ish thing out and try to ask beforehand what he is going to like to drink. I generally hire for multi-hour sessions so it can be as comfortable as possible. Nevertheless, as others have recommended, I will make myself comfortable and put valuable things away and payment in a plain white envelope on a table. Of course, there is always the nervousness of meeting a new person but at least I know it is going to end in sex.

[+ poolboy48220]

More than me. I'll ask them if they'd like something to drink, most usually just want water but a few have taken me up on something stronger. I never have food out.

[+ DERRIK]

Not invited an escort to my home BUT

 

Several years ago a newbie escort sneak off at 4 am during an overnight - guess I should be grateful I had nothing stolen

 

While I should have written a review then - I did not

 

He's more active now - and it appears he's changed his way

[alexslaveboy]

I can only host in my home and I like the other posters make sure to offer water or coffee, have the house clean and inviting

 

I have the sessions in my basement which is finished so my personal bedroom is always locked. And the escorts are all welcome to use the bathroom and shower as well!

99.9% have been gracious guests