Finding a gay friendly Physician

[+ glennnn]

I find myself with a need for a personal and intimate gay, male physician's services as I tyy to come to grips with the gay sex use of my body. Any suggestions? I am sure that a straight doctor would want to help, but perhaps a real brother would be more empathetic and require fewer explanations. I live very near,Palm Springs and within easy reach of LA. Who do you see? Thank you for reading this, and any advice.

[+ purplekow]

In seeking out a physician to help you with this, you to find an compassionate physician gay or straight. Gay sex is not all that complicated, if there ia an anatomic opening, a man is going to put his dick in it. That being said, there is probably an equivalent to Gay Men's Health Crisis of NYC in Palm Springs. If there is not, perhaps I have found my semi-retirement years plan.

Of course, it may be that you do not need a physician, just a guide, mentor or counsellor to help you with the social and emotional issues and a caring physician to help with the nuts and bolts stuff. (Yes I said: "nuts". Stop the snickering)

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Check one of the gay mags that are community-focused, since docs and dentists will often advertise. Or call a gay realtor (as if there were any other kind) and see if they can give you a suggestion.

 

By the way, being gay doesn't make a doctor good for you. I have had two. The first was a terrible listener. My current doctor in DC is the exact opposite.

[edjames]

The best and most reliable recommendation for any physician is by talking to others and asking who they see and what their experiences are.

Gay/straight....don't you want a competent physician? A good personality and a great bedside manner are fine, but let's face it...this guy ain't gonna be your next BF.

You want experience, education, compassion and most importantly someone who who listens to your health complaints/issues and responds with intelligent answers and solutions.

Once you've narrowed your search, it's also wise to check out the various websites that post physician reviews from clients/patients. Look out for warning signs like "long wait times in the office," failure to timely respond to phone call of emails, check out the hospital affliation ( is is a highly rated hospital with access to other specialists and testing facilities?), and how is the office staff?

While local advertisements are fine, it's been my experience that these guys are in business for a few years and then up and move. It raises a few flags.

 

Good luck.

[LADoug1]

Any suggestions for Kaiser Los Angeles?

[+ Truereview]

I went thru this dilemma myself a few years ago. While I agree that the doctor's orientation should not matter when choosing the best doc, I honestly wanted the best doctor, and I wanted him to be gay so I could give him my business. Guess what? First, my doc is amazing; second, my doc is a lesbian (teaches me a lesson about gender roles and my unconscious bias ).

 

GLENNNN, I found her here: http://glma.org I hope the link helps.

[YooperMike]

I find myself with a need for a personal and intimate gay, male physician's services as I tyy to come to grips with the gay sex use of my body. Any suggestions? I am sure that a straight doctor would want to help, but perhaps a real brother would be more empathetic and require fewer explanations. I live very near,Palm Springs and within easy reach of LA. Who do you see? Thank you for reading this, and any advice.

In Palm Springs, v. Steven Moore. He is a PA who works with Dr Stansell at the Rimrock Eisenhower Medical Center 760 834-7950. PM me if you have trouble, his practice may be closed without a referral.

[YooperMike]

Any suggestions for Kaiser Los Angeles?

Dr Mark Katz. It's been several years since I've spoken with him, but I believe he is still with Kaiser in LA.

[Rudynate]

Gay/straight....don't you want a competent physician?

Good luck.

 

 

I had a gay doctor for years and the relationship was always uncomfortable, which, I ultimately realized, is because he and I, fundamentally, didn't like each other. But I stayed with him, mostly because he was gay.

 

A couple of years ago, I finally got tired of going to this doc that I really disliked, and switched to a doc who had covered my original doc's practice over a holiday one time. He is straight - and I believe he is the best PC doc I have ever had. Would never think of switching.

[+ Just Sayin]

I had a wonderful gay primary care physician who retired; the guy who took over his practice was straight but very gay-friendly; when he left private practice, I had a difficult time finding a gay doctor--there just weren't any openly gay guys who were PCPs; when I had my initial appointment with my current doctor, I just asked him if he was gay-friendly; he smiled and said "My son is gay and I totally accept him." I think the key is coming out to your doc and seeing if has any reservations about having a gay patient.

[+ glennnn]

In seeking out a physician to help you with this, you to find an compassionate physician gay or straight. Gay sex is not all that complicated, if there ia an anatomic opening, a man is going to put his dick in it. That being said, there is probably an equivalent to Gay Men's Health Crisis of NYC in Palm Springs. If there is not, perhaps I have found my semi-retirement years plan.

Of course, it may be that you do not need a physician, just a guide, mentor or counsellor to help you with the social and emotional issues and a caring physician to help with the nuts and bolts stuff. (Yes I said: "nuts". Stop the snickering)

 

 

Can't help it (snicker, snicker). . Don't you think it should be nuts and bolt singular when referring to male anatomy?.. sorry.

[+ glennnn]

I think I need a urologist to help me deal with the sexual dysfunction issues of BPH (Benign Prostate Hyperplasia). To put it plainly, I want some help comfortably and successfully stimulating my prostate via my rectum for sexual pleasure. I guess I'm afraid a straight doctor will just say, "if it hurts, stop it", because he wouldn't enjoy it himself. Of course, if he's a top who has never bottomed, he may not be sympathetic either (LOL) so.... I need a sympathetic, gay urologist who is a bottom in Palm Springs? Guess I'll just put an ad in the newspaper.

 

Ok . I get it. I just have to come out to my current guy. I was hopin' for a cure via a magic wand. Dumb!

I love you guys. It means so much to be accepted by you after 65 years of self hate.

[+ glennnn]

Do straight men stimulate their prostates when having sex? (Sounds like a National Science Foundation project )

[+ Truereview]

It means so much to be accepted by you after 65 years of self hate.

You got it, Glennnn...we embrace you...no time for self-hate, baby! Let's get that prostate back in shape and then get you laid right!

[+ Charlie]

Brad Wolfson in Palm Springs is my spouse's urologist, and he has been happy with him. I don't know his orientation--I believe he is not gay, but he has plenty of gay male patients (well, what doctor in Palm Springs doesn't?). He gets very mixed reviews from patients, but other doctors I respect think highly of his competence.

[+ purplekow]

Anonymous reviews posted on line without the ability of the reviewed person to comment are suspect and while some may opt to use that as part of a selection process for a doctor, escort, lawyer or plumber one needs to realize that negative reviews ofttimes are written with agenda.

[+ Gar1eth]

I think I need a urologist to help me deal with the sexual dysfunction issues of BPH (Benign Prostate Hyperplasia). To put it plainly, I want some help comfortably and successfully stimulating my prostate via my rectum for sexual pleasure. I guess I'm afraid a straight doctor will just say, "if it hurts, stop it", because he wouldn't enjoy it himself. Of course, if he's a top who has never bottomed, he may not be sympathetic either (LOL) so.... I need a sympathetic, gay urologist who is a bottom in Palm Springs? Guess I'll just put an ad in the newspaper.

 

Ok . I get it. I just have to come out to my current guy. I was hopin' for a cure via a magic wand. Dumb!

I love you guys. It means so much to be accepted by you after 65 years of self hate.

 

 

I know how you feel about wanting a gay practitioner. Now let me say that I wouldn't stay with a practitioner that I didn't think was good. If my choice was between a gay practitioner who I thought wasn't either knowledgeable and/or I didn't like his personality vs a straight practitioner whom I liked and I thought was knowledgeable, I'd choose the straight guy every time.

 

I live near Seattle, and there were one or two practices that specialized in gay patients in Seattle but not in my city near Seattle. I decided I did want a gay practitioner. So I decided I would use the gay physician in Seattle even though it wasn't convenient for me to get to. What I decided to do if I ever needed immediate care was that I'd go to an Urgent Care in my actual city-after all sometimes you can't get into your doctor on the spur of the moment either-so I'd still have to use Urgent Care. And now that most office doctors turn their patients over to hospital physicians once hospitalized, it wouldn't matter if I was hospitalized locally outside the city where my primary care guy practices as he wouldn't be taking care of me anyway. As I don't get sick that often, this has worked out fine for me.

 

My gay practitioner has been helpful in ways a straight practitioner who doesn't specialize in gay patients might not have been. He made sure I received both hepatitis A vaccine and HPV vaccines which a straight practice might not have (HPV Vaccine is technically not approved for older males-but he suggested it anyway under the theory of it most likely couldn't hurt). He's also diligent about checking for STDs every 6 months to a year which straight practices I've been to haven't been. I think I even told him-once when I first saw him about seeing escorts which I had had trouble talking about with straight practitioners.

 

As for finding a gay practitioner, the GLMA may help. As others have said, see who advertises in the local gay newspaper/magazine. If you have any gay friends, ask them. If you can find a gay primary care physician, they may be able to steer you to a gay or gay friendly urologist.

 

Gman

[+ glennnn]

I know how you feel about wanting a gay practitioner. Now let me say that I wouldn't stay with a practitioner that I didn't think was good. If my choice was between a gay practitioner who I thought wasn't either knowledgeable and/or I didn't like his personality vs a straight practitioner whom I liked and I thought was knowledgeable, I'd choose the straight guy every time.

 

I live near Seattle, and there were one or two practices that specialized in gay patients in Seattle but not in my city near Seattle. I decided I did want a gay practitioner. So I decided I would use the gay physician in Seattle even though it wasn't convenient for me to get to. What I decided to do if I ever needed immediate care was that I'd go to an Urgent Care in my actual city-after all sometimes you can't get into your doctor on the spur of the moment either-so I'd still have to use Urgent Care. And now that most office doctors turn their patients over to hospital physicians once hospitalized, it wouldn't matter if I was hospitalized locally outside the city where my primary care guy practices as he wouldn't be taking care of me anyway. As I don't get sick that often, this has worked out fine for me.

 

My gay practitioner has been helpful in ways a straight practitioner who doesn't specialize in gay patients might not have been. He made sure I received both hepatitis A vaccine and HPV vaccines which a straight practice might not have (HPV Vaccine is technically not approved for older males-but he suggested it anyway under the theory of it most likely couldn't hurt). He's also diligent about checking for STDs every 6 months to a year which straight practices I've been to haven't been. I think I even told him-once when I first saw him about seeing escorts which I had had trouble talking about with straight practitioners.

 

As for finding a gay practitioner, the GLMA may help. As others have said, see who advertises in the local gay newspaper/magazine. If you have any gay friends, ask them. If you can find a gay primary care physician, they may be able to steer you to a gay or gay friendly urologist.

 

Gman

 

 

So helpful and to the point. I don't know if this thread is a commonly renewed topic or not, but the response has been excellent. I see a path before me. Your guidance is so appreciated. I love my friends on Daddy's Forum.

[seaboy4hire]

Do straight men stimulate their prostates when having sex? (Sounds like a National Science Foundation project )

Of course they do.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[geminibear]

Dr. Bombay is the only physician I would even consider seeing.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g1WTUqfMPxc

[+ Charlie]

Anonymous reviews posted on line without the ability of the reviewed person to comment are suspect and while some may opt to use that as part of a selection process for a doctor, escort, lawyer or plumber one needs to realize that negative reviews ofttimes are written with agenda.

I fully agree with this warning. In this case, however, the range of online reviews is very similar to those comments I have personally heard from others, since my spouse is not the only one of his patients whom I know.

[+ Keith30309]

Dr. Bombay is the only physician I would even consider seeing.

 

I wanted to go see Dr Bombay but unfortunately he is Out of Network. I explained to the insurance customer service rep that someone had cast a Spell of Flacidity on me but she said I'd need "step treatments" which means seeing a carnival psychic and then aboriginal witch doctor first.

[+ glennnn]

I wanted to go see Dr Bombay but unfortunately he is Out of Network. I explained to the insurance customer service rep that someone had cast a Spell of Flacidity on me but she said I'd need "step treatments" which means seeing a carnival psychic and then aboriginal witch doctor first.

 

I'm neither a carnival psychic nor an aboriginal witch doctor, but I would love the chance to lift this spell from you with timely, and repeated applications of hands-on physical therapy. It's proven very effective in similar situations.

[gallahadesquire]

Here Beginneth the Rant:

 

I find it despicable that "gay medicine", by which I mean specific interests and concerns of gay patients, is a very much more mainstream interest to Family Practice and Internal Medicine. I shall have to go to my medical school's agenda and see what they are doing about it. If they want my money for a scholarship, they have to confess their sins.

 

I do have a scholarship pending: Male; Science, Math, or Technology [Engineering] degree required.

 

As an aside: I was in First Year medical school in 1975. We had a class on "Psychiatry". I very clearly remember the professor saying: "Gay Students? I assume our admission process has eliminated any of them"

The response, from another MIT graduate, was: "Well, I had a good friend. We hung around a lot. Then he told me he was gay. I was a little disturbed, but I realized that, although I liked him, I wasn't attracted to him,

and although I didn't like I that he was gay, I still liked him. So I decided that it wasn't an issue, and we stayed friends."

 

Single most intelligent argument until "The gay guy gave the straight guy his number at a wedding. The straight guy called him and said hey, I"m not gay, but you've got a lot of guts to do what you did, and I respect that."

 

In general, to this day, I find physicians still amazingly head-wedged about human sexuality. I'm still head-wedged a little, and I'm pretty liberal about it, even though I've retired.

 

We have a long way to go, fellas.

 

To answer the question about a gay doctor: Frankly, I'd rather have an empathetic doctor who understands why my weight loss is taking so long, but lauds me for my work at the gym, than to have some ass tell me: "Lose Weight! Get your blood pressure down!" and doesn't acknowledge the 15 pounds I've already lost.

 

I suppose I should be sympathetic to the modern Primary Care / Family Physician / Internest, but so many lack the Milk of Human Kindness.

 

It also doesn't help that I understand pharmacology and physiology of the Human Circulatory System better than he does.

 

Thus endeth the Rant.

[+ purplekow]

Here Beginneth the Rant:

 

 

 

I suppose I should be sympathetic to the modern Primary Care / Family Physician / Internest, but so many lack the Milk of Human Kindness.

 

It also doesn't help that I understand pharmacology and physiology of the Human Circulatory System better than he does.

 

Thus endeth the Rant.

I always appreciate a patient who is intelligent and well motivated. I believe I show respect and give more of my time than most. I do not appreciate patients, even if they are doctors, who are contemptuous and arrogant. This statement or yours is both. You should be seeking another physician if you think so little of your care provider. Gallahad, get down off the high horse and do yourself and your all your future potential doctors a favor, find one who can be a partner in your health care not the victim or your disdain. There is probably some doctor, somewhere who has as complete an understanding of medicine as you do. Let the rest of us toil in our relative ignorance.

After all, the person who graduates last in the medical school class is still called Doctor.