dealing with questions from clients about how many other clients you see?

[Mikegaite]

I always find these tricky to field, as I'm not sure of the best way to answer them. such as, "am I your first or second appointment today?" questions. I'm not sure the best way to be honest without making the client or me feel uncomfortable.

[Brian Kevin]

Answer a question with a question.

 

I fallow up with "I'm excited to see you, Are you excited to see me?"

 

Frankly, its none of their business. As long as you're clean, showered and ready to perform.... Does it matter? This is a double standard I'm sure, this would be the equivilent of us asking them "Am I your first escort today?" or something along those lines. I just feel like that by its self is a disrespectful question. I wouldn't give a yes or no response and leave the question alone for him to understand his mistake without having to point it out.

[mike carey]

Mike, I'm sort of reluctant to reply because I know you were asking your fellow escorts, not clients. That said, I agree with Brian, it's none of their business, and from my perspective if an escort plays nicely and plays well, it matters naught to me whether he had done so earlier with someone else. And if he's no good why should I be interested in whether that was because he'd been with other guys, all I care about is that the session didn't work for me. Your business is your business.

 

I know I'm not everyone, but I'm not interested in what his history and projected activity that day is. What I am interested in is how an escort approaches his trade in general, so I would probably include that in the discussion I had a 'cuddling and chatting' part of the session. If he said, 'Let's just talk about you and me, and let me stretch your arse again', I would take the hint. I'll be interested to hear what your colleagues say.

 

I don't know whether you were asking this to clarify issues in your own mind or to get other escorts to weigh in so that we clients would know what you guys think of the issue. Whether you intended the latter or not, clients should pay attention!

[Brian Kevin]

Come over here boy, let me stretch that pretty lil ass out.

 

Sorry i just had too. (I just imagine cow boy boots and a hat)

[AdamSmith]

Answer a question with a question:

 

Am I your first or second escort today?

[big-n-tall]

I think if a client asks this, it's either from curiosity, insecurity, control issues, or a combination of the three. I personally never asked a working guy this question. Although I've been told what number I am in general conversation. It doesn't bother me. I understand it's a business and they need to see people, sometimes many in a day, to make a living.

 

I have asked to be the first person seen (scheduling permitting and only if it's a long term hire). I have asked this of only one working guy (a member of the forum). He knows who he is, if he reads this post.

 

I guess ultimately, if it's someone asking you've never met, I wouldn't tell. It's not their business. However, if it's someone you know and trust on some level... someone you know who won't be hurt or bothered by the info in anyway, tell them directly.

[+ Keith30309]

I understand responding to the question with a question, but that feels a little passive aggressive. I do agree that it's no one's business and have never asked that question - frankly, I don't want to know that I'm number 3 out of 5 for the day. The important thing is that the person I'm with is 100% focused on me and not responding to texts, taking calls, rushing me out the door, etc.

Something like "I prefer to be as discreet as I can and respect the privacy of everyone I meet. Now - let's talk about you." should satisfy anyone.

[+ Truereview]

I'm sure other companions and clients in the Forum will have great tips and personal perspectives. I simply offer you the lesson I learned as a client a while back . At the risk of making myself vulnerable in this Forum, I used to ask this question (and variations thereof) in my early journey with companions, until I met a particularly wise companion.

 

I asked him this question, he hugged me tighter, kissed me, stayed quiet for a second, looked me in the eye and said: to me it doesn't matter what # you are, it also doesn't matter what # I am to you. What matters to me is what we make of this moment. Do you still really want to know?

I gasped a little bit in self frustration as I had just being coached by someone half my age but his skill/wisdom on this topic was 3x mine. You probably know this already, Mike, but I will err on the side of the obvious: you will need to use your own wisdom and compass to gauge the situation and what your client may need to hear based on the question...sometimes they will just want to hear the # bc that turns them on....sometimes, there is a lot more baggage behind the question. To me, there may be a standard question, but there is no standard answer.

 

Blowing you a kiss for your wisdom in seeking answers, -TR

[bigvalboy]

I would never ask...it's none of my business how many have come before, or how many will follow. As long as the escort performs, and makes me happy, that is the only thing of concern to me. If you feel that it might be an issue for you, book multiple hours or book an overnight.

[marylander1940]

My answer would be:

 

[RussJohnson]

I naturally want everyone to believe that they are my first and only client of the day, I walk into the room like they are. I normally say something along the lines of - "You know what, it doesn't even matter because I'm very good at what I do." Then I proceed to show them (the neck is a good place to start to help people forget what they were talking about). That works for most but not all situations if someone is persistent I just tell the truth. I work to create a fantasy and if someone wants to break that down I wont fight it, I think they are already going to make it uncomfortable so there is not much lost...

[Rudynate]

 

Frankly, its none of their business.

 

I agree. On its face, I don't think it's a fair question to ask an escort. They're sex workers - it is highly likely that at least some times, they have more than one partner in a day. It's part of the territory. If a client wants to be an escort'ss first partner for the day, or the only partner, he can book an entire day, or pay a premium, or schedule early in the day and stipulate that he wants to be the escort's first partner of the day. I usually schedule play with an escort in the early afternoon. That's mostly because I really like afternoon sex. But a side benefit is that it is more likely that I am the escort's first for the day.

[RadioRob]

I'm not an escort, but my answer would simply be "Not so many as to keep us from having a fantastic time."

[geminibear]

fishstix

[BaronArtz]

I agree it is none of my business, as a client. I just don't want to confronted with other clients either before or after an appointment. I had an escort get on the phone with someone at the 55th minute of a one hour appointment and ask the next client to wait on the street. Or I have crossed gentlemen of a certain age in the hallway before an appointment. I found that to be a mood killer. It IS none of my business, but be a bit discreet about it when you are scheduling back to back. You are selling an illusion, after all.

[RussJohnson]

I agree it is none of my business, as a client. I just don't want to confronted with other clients either before or after an appointment. I had an escort get on the phone with someone at the 55th minute of a one hour appointment and ask the next client to wait on the street. Or I have crossed gentlemen of a certain age in the hallway before an appointment. I found that to be a mood killer. It IS none of my business, but be a bit discreet about it when you are scheduling back to back. You are selling an illusion, after all.

 

This quote has never been more appropriate...

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

Thanks, guys, for explaining that this question could come across as intrusive or rude. The fact is that I often do ask, because I'm turned on by the idea of sharing... On the other hand, with all due respect for the sexual athleticism of the pros, I've definitely noticed a difference in energy level between nooners and night-time sessions. I don't want to be number seven.

[corndog]

These questions are definitely inappropriate, and I hope that I would never ask them. However, I think it is important for an escort to consider that the client may not be intending to pry, but simply making smalltalk. Many clients, myself included, are fascinated by the escorting profession, and the lives of their companions. Questions like these might spill out of a client's mouth without any thought. Change the subject, or answer jokingly (i.e. "Counting goats and sheep, or only humans?"), but try not to be put off by a naive question that may have been asked without bad intent.

[rvwnsd]

A couple of thoughts:

 

1. I agree it is none of my business how many clients the escort has seen or is planning to see that day. Asking that question would never even cross my mind.
   
2. Regarding running into the previous or next client: That's a function of scheduling (and the next client's arrival time), not your position in line.
   

3. ... On the other hand, with all due respect for the sexual athleticism of the pros, I've definitely noticed a difference in energy level between nooners and night-time sessions. I don't want to be number seven.

The difference in energy level could be attributed to other factors, such as the notion that most people's energy levels dip in the evening as they move closer to bedtime.

[Brian Kevin]

fishstix

The cheap kind or the expensive kind?

[Rudynate]

These questions are definitely inappropriate, and I hope that I would never ask them. However, I think it is important for an escort to consider that the client may not be intending to pry, but simply making smalltalk. Many clients, myself included, are fascinated by the escorting profession, and the lives of their companions. Questions like these might spill out of a client's mouth without any thought. Change the subject, or answer jokingly (i.e. "Counting goats and sheep, or only humans?"), but try not to be put off by a naive question that may have been asked without bad intent.

 

 

That's true. I don't see any reason to treat the encounter as anything other than what it is. In fact, for me, it's sexy to expressly recognize it for what it is. So, since we're not pretending, lots of things related to escorting come up in conversation. I enjoy talking matter-0f-factly about it with my companion. I could imagine, if I knew a guy well enough, asking him how many clients he typically saw in a day/week/month, but I never have.

[Brian Kevin]

Also, lovely men of the thread, I hope i didn't come off aggressive or rude about this subject. I am smiling reading all of your wonderful responses. Since i was 19, I can say, I've only herd this question 6 times. Only twice was it in a disrespectful manner. The other times the guys wanted details, they got off on sharing. I answer alot of wuestions, but this one is very low on the totempole

[jimboivyo]

anyone who would even ask that of an escort is questionable to me. it's a silly thing to ask

[seaboy4hire]

I've been asked a couple times how many guys I see a day. It honestly doesn't bother me. Generally I schedule one person a day. I don't like scheduling back to back 3 or 4 guys a day. Not that I couldn't do it but it just doesn't fit my business model. Plus I prefer longer sessions 2-3 plus hrs. I want to be sure I can give someone 110% of me with no oopsies.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[gallahadesquire]

I had a certain, on-forum Astrologer tell me what I didn't know: I have to get to know someone before I can become intimate. Casual sex just doesn't work.

 

So I've always needed a longer appointment. My two longest daliences were with one fellow who flew in from out of town, always for weekends; and

another fellow who came out for the night.

 

So I'm usually the only of the day, and prefer that, I guess.

 

Next weekend will be an overnight with someone I've never met. I assume it will be wonderful; if not, it's a suite, so one of us can go sleep on the couch.