What Is an ideal Perfect "Escort" Or Perfect "Client" Mean To You???

[whipped guy]

Well everything that has been mentioned above and someone who is not watching the clock. Plus in my case he should know how to wield a flogger or two.

 

Also, when you ask when you can set up another appointment and either you or the guy is not yet out the door it's always a good sign! That and what BVB said above about not even thinking about the money spent.

[Rudynate]

I would add a pleasant conversation as well so you get to know each other a little, but otherwise agree.

 

 

I don't really like to talk much at the beginning - I want to get to it. I like to get to know my partner, but I like it to happen organically over the course of the time we spend together. I like to set sort of an urgent mood to start with. I often tell the escort to imagine that we're good friends who are REALLY glad to see each other.

[calrichmond]

With an endowment like that, they should be paying you.

I've heard that before! Some escorts like it, but I've had trouble getting it in due to the thickness. If I had a choice, I would prefer a normal sized dick.

[geminibear]

I've heard that before! Some escorts like it, but I've had trouble getting it in due to the thickness. If I had a choice, I would prefer a normal sized dick.

 

calrichmond I will trade you straight across yours for mine.

 

Deal?

[+ glennnn]

calrichmond I will trade you straight across yours for mine.

 

Deal?

This connects back to my thread "How much cock is too much cock?, which see.

[JDXXX]

Awesome questions and observations JD! I love these kinds of posts because they're positive and constructive and you're one of the most positive, upbeat guys on the forum.

 

I agree with everything you've said and think the first two are key in delivering a Nordstrom customer experience versus a Walmart experience. It's all about sustaining a level of interest in understanding what the client is looking for and then focusing on delivering it for that hour/weekend.

I think part of it is innate - some people naturally have this ability to understand other's needs and wants and some don't. The "best" I've encountered have listened to what I've said (and not said) and tailored their approach accordingly.

The second piece seems like common sense but it's maintaining focus 100% on the client for the duration. Those who have excelled have made me feel like I was at the center of their attention for our time together.

My personal best-of-the-best wasn't runway-model hot, did not have an Adonis body nor the endurance of a bull - he figured out what experience I wanted and made sure I got it.

 

I'd have to add that no one can deliver this in a vacuum and it's incumbent upon the client to communicate effectively what they're looking for, as uncomfortable as that may be. Even the most insightful, dedicated professional can't provide what they don't know. Emotional empaths are rare and it's unreasonable to expect to have hired one.

 

Great post!

 

Glad my post has brought some pleasure to you, plus it'll give some of you an idea on what I bring to the table in delivering a fantastic BFE. There is more to it, but don't wanna give all my secrets away. LOL. Gotta leave some surprises when clients/members meet me in person. .

 

JD, so many good points, thank you. I am not really looking for the BFE, but that's just me.

 

I'm sure I will have the pleasure of exploring what your "talents" are, Sir William. .

 

I feel the same way.

 

It occurs to me that some companions may be reading this and thinking "You've got to be kidding me - you want me to be your analyst, partner, lover, admirer, mother and sexual concierge all within the span of 60 minutes. That's completely unrealistic and unreasonable. "

 

I understand that and agree - JD asked what "perfect" was and perfection is rarely attained but always worth pursuing. There's some damn fine companions here who have given allot of themselves in emotional investments and sheer effort and it's important to recognize and appreciate that.

 

It's all about enjoying your clients, and making them feel special. It's a extra bonus to me when a client writes an astonishing review expressing how my services has brought happiness and pleasure in so many way. They're review is a bigger tip in my eyes then cash anyday.

[jvanchicago]

For me, it has to do with appreciation. As the client, I like to show my appreciation in several ways. The most obvious are tipping (of course) and booking again. I enjoy my time with masseurs and escorts, and like to show that I appreciate it. So to me, what makes the perfect escort is him showing appreciation to me as well. Of course having a great time and giving me his full attention during the session are key, but the little thing that does it for me is a quick text thanking me. It may seem trite, but it makes me feel less like a "rent payment" as somebody described before, and more like someone who is appreciated. I have to admit, I'm quite new to all of this, and have only seen a few gentlemen, but the one that sent me that thank you text was booked for the very next week.

[RockyHardon]

With an endowment like that, they should be paying you.

 

It is surprising how many clients are as good looking and as well endowed as many escorts...especially many of the successful bisexual married guys...I have been amazed at some of the guys hiring my escort friends...I have said to myself...."he looks better than most of the guys at the club last night". However, although clients can get many guys, it is time, convenience, certainty, and quality that they are looking for, and many good looking successful guys with big tools don't have time to waste...and are willing to pay so they don't have waste time getting the experience they want.

[Jon Royce]

Agreeing with so many items listed above including accurate photos (that's a big one with me), timeliness, cleanliness, truthful advertising, attentive, feeling safe, etc. One thing I really hate are end of day fucks that can't perform or stay hard. Even if the guy is a fuck buddy, model or escort. I've recently learned how to bottom - something I couldn't do in my younger years. Now I enjoy it. A few years ago an incredibly good looking (25 y.o., white, muscle body) escort/porn superstar traveled to my city for an overnight photo shoot and fuck. One of the hottest guys in the business at the time, but he couldn't fuck or keep a hard on. Couldn't even cum. The photos were nice, but a huge waste of time in the sack. A year ago I was contacted by a nerdy looking black guy and while he is a smaller frame guy and doesn't have the superstar porn star body, the guy can stay hard and fuck. Basically, I'll take a smaller frame guy that can fuck over a big muscle guy who can't perform any day of the week, month or year.

[Mikegaite]

From the escort perspective, the perfect client is pretty similar to the perfect escort. We escorts are looking for the same connection as you clients are looking for. I like clients who have accurate photos, are openly communicative, have good hygeine, etc. I value clients who appreciate their time spent with me.

[unsure]

I also agree with what most everyone has said. JD and Wolfer's lists are great.

 

For me, it really is the feeling that I'm being made to feel that the escort actually values and enjoys the time with me, even if they're only there for the money to at least put on that show. I don't really think I can think of an escort who has truly been able to deliver in that one aspect which makes me feel used in the end. A negative feeling that detracts from wanting to continue to hire or give someone else a try.

[geminibear]

From the escort perspective, the perfect client is pretty similar to the perfect escort. We escorts are looking for the same connection as you clients are looking for. I like clients who have accurate photos, are openly communicative, have good hygeine, etc. I value clients who appreciate their time spent with me.

 

Who wouldn't value the time spent with you? The best time ever!

[goodbeingbad]

1. An escort who seems genuinely interested in how I feel. I had an experience with a guy who, as we were starting to explore each other's bodies, he grabbed my stomach (not huge, but not ripped, either - I guess you would call it a "dad-body") and said "do you mind if I grab onto this 'cause it really turns me on." He found something that I was self-conscious about and made it into something fun.

2. An escort who takes the time to find out what I want out of the experience. Yeah, sometimes I just want to get plowed, but most of the time I would like to know a little bit about the other person. If I wanted anonymous sex, there are plenty of places to get it.

3. An escort who turns off their phone. I understand that, if we are spending an extended time together, you may need to "check in." I know that, for your safety, it is good for someone to know where you are. If we are spending one or two hours together, "check in" when you arrive and then turn your phone off in front of me. That simple act makes me feel like the center of your world, if just for this little bit of time.

4. An escort who realizes that this experience goes both ways. I want you to have fun, too. Yes, I know it is about my experience, but if I ask you "What can I do for you?" or "What do you like?" I genuinely want to know. A canned response like "Whatever you like" or "Oh what you're doing is good" does not help me and makes me feel like you have checked out. Once, I was with an escort who was topping me and I asked "How is that?" He responded by saying, "I'm enjoying it, but lets try this..." and he led me through a series of relaxation and tensing exercises that got him off almost instantly and taught me some things sexually that I had never known/tried. It was a win for us both.

[Decatur Guy]

I've been lucky. I've had very good experiences most of the time (including with you, Mr. Daniels). It's hard to ID a common thread -- the escorts I've enjoyed meeting are often quite different from each other. That includes age, race, body type, personality, approach to the job, etc. Their common traits are pretty basic: honest, engaging, sensual.

[TruHart1]

Since hiring my very first escort almost 5 years ago, my experience with him has become the benchmark of who are the best escorts for me. I have been very lucky to have found many men who measure up (not a pun, either!) to that first incredible time! If I do find a wonderful escort, I am likely to hire him again and again (whenever our schedules and geography work out!)

 

Why did that first hire become my benchmark?

1. He and I somehow naturally connected and communicated on an emotional level from the first!

2. He put me completely at ease and I felt completely safe with him, able to express myself and listen openly to his thoughts and ideas.

3. He led my tentative newbie self through the connection processes both sexually and intellectually.

4. He was completely enthusiastic about demonstrating/furnishing specific sexual experiences I asked him about!

5. After our playtime, he cuddled with me and asked me how I felt. Additionally he did a number of small personal loving acts which made me feel so much more special than most any of my "hook-ups" ever had.

 

This is always the boyfriend experience I hope for when I hire a new escort. I am also very lucky that my very first escort has always remained available so as to remind me from whence I came!!! Of course, every escort is unique, but the best ones all give me this sort of emotional experience and do make it all about me and my satisfaction/fulfillment!

 

TruHart1

[geminibear]

It opportune that this question was posted this week.

 

I just experienced my ideal session this week with Mike Gaite. An individual I have heard great things about in this forum. All of it true.

Mike provided everything I desired and needed. He made me feel special, attractive, desired, fun, in control, interesting, and most of all wanted.

Often the feelings I'm missing from my life.

 

That is what the ideal escort means to me. When I have to pinch myself after our time together to remind myself that I wasn't dreaming. No man has done that for me. Thank you Mike Gaite for raising my standards.

 

For full disclosure a review of my amazing time with Mike Gaite is forthcoming. For those that have been so lucky to experience this you will know what I mean.

 

Gem~

[+ smara]

I really think that we are mostly talking about the SUCCESS of an escort rather than PERFECTION in one. Point number 6 of the original post is something that no one would question and must be true for both escort and client. However, we all know for sure that a perfect escort is one that PRETENDS the first five points. From an escort's perspective, most important considerations are (a) make sure that $ (for time or whatever) that was agreed upon has indeed been exchanged (b) is this client a potential repeat client? © Am I willing to see him again? No escort or client meets each other with the aim of finding a life partner. An escort does not meet a client just to have a phenomenal sex, if so he would just hook up with someone that he finds attractive and has a good mutual chemistry with him. Based on several posts here, I feel that the good qualities of a successful escort are: superb hygiene, well groomed, good personality, not being arrogant, truthful in communication (we know that all ads have some embellishments and so do all the reviews), good conversationalist (many of us care for that a lot, you know) pretend well to enjoy the company in the privacy of a room or socially, cell phone on mute, etc.........

 

I strongly believe that the most enjoyment (physical and mental) that a client can have is when some amount of mutual chemistry (whether perceived or real) is established during a session. A successful escort is one who can provide that mutual chemistry.

[humboldt]

I, too, have given this some thought over the years. For me, it probably boils down to two things.

 

1. I want the escort to look like his pics.

 

2. I want the escort to NOT be a clock-watcher.

 

I like to think that I am a well-intentioned client who is respectful of an escort’s time. And I am not out to “screw” an escort… at least when it comes to time and money. Sometimes things don’t go the full hour. No problem. Sometimes they run a few minutes over. When an escort makes that a problem, it can be a real mood killer.

 

About two years ago, I booked an escort for an hour session. He was really hot, just my type, and things were going quite well. In fact, I was already thinking about making him a regular.

 

Then, all of a sudden – about 45 minutes into our session – after I had pulled out and just as I was about to climax – the dude whispers to me: “Just letting you know, we’re about to run out of time.” Hand to God!

 

Needless to say, I never hired him again.

[Mikegaite]

I'm going to bump this thread and add to it bc I feel it deserves far more traction. Thank you, J.D., for creating it.

 

I grew up in an environment in which i was basically sent to the Internet or library in response to most questions. I basically thought the Internet could teach me anything I wanted to know. I always wanted to construct some sort of repository of information about escorting so that people new to the industry could learn about the business. For me, the forums provide a great outlet for contributing to such a database. And this thread, in particular, is an important component of that larger work.

 

Over time, I've tried to hone craft of escorting. I've read sections of books about escorting, and I've talked to other escorts about what they think makes them successful. I have tried to compile that list the OP started about what makes a good escort.

 

I began my escorting ventures very sheltered from the escorting world. When I started advertising, i did not know anyone who had ever dabbled in porn or escorting. Not a soul. But there were people elsewhere across the globe doing it, and I thought, why not me?

However, this naïveté led to some success on my part. I did what I thought I was supposed to do in escorting. I wasn't worried about adhering to some normative standard, because at the end of the day I had no other data points. I didn't know what other escorts were doing bc i really didn't know any other escorts. But I got rehired, so i knew I was doing something right.

 

And so in terms of what makes the perfect escort, I think the real trick is to just be yourself. You don't have to be beloved by all, just by some. I don't need ten clients inviting me to Dubrovnik, just one. I only need three new pairs of Prada shoes, and four hat boxes. And I know that 99.9 percent of clients won't think I'm all that, but the trick for me is to meet 1000 clients and find the one who puts me on a pedestal or on a plane to Abu Dhabi in Etihad apartment class. You already are the perfect escort to some people. You just have to keep looking until you find those people, and then hold fast to those people once you find them. To the world, you are just one person, but to one person, you are the world. As a nice client kept telling me, you should stop comparing yourself to other escorts. You aren't competing against anyone but yourself. Granted, he had to tell me this about five times before it sunk in, but it finally did.

 

You can be a good escort trying to be all things to all people, but it's tiring. I have a friend who I consider to be a good escort in part bc he formally studied acting for awhile, so he knows how to be someone he isn't. But for him, acting with clients is exhausting. Clients are happy with his performance, but he's left feeling burnt out and miserable. He can't build a successful escorting career bc as talented as he is, he isn't being true to himself, and he grows tired of pretending to be someone he isn't. Creating an invincible persona drains him. And he wants people to like him for him, not for a character he creates to showcase his best qualities. So he escorts far less than he could bc it just isn't enjoyable for him.

 

So my advice to escorts is to be yourself. It just makes the job so much easier. And if that doesn't work, your skill set undoubtedly lends itself well to some field other than escorting I'm which you will excel. Different strokes for different folks.

 

I hope this thread grows in content. I think people are wary of sharing on the forum bc they are slammed for their opinions or bc they don't want to give away their secrets and competitive edge. And there are escorts I know who don't want to contribute to the forums bc they believe that doing so will only serve to damage their reputations, to reveal some sort of character flaw or at lead to open them up to criticism. Some of my best clients told me to stay off the forums for this very reason. But i just don't buy that. As a client you want to spend time with escorts, and you want to learn more about the world of escorting, but you don't want other escorts posting on the forum, or at least consigned to their own sub-forum.

 

I can't get into the client mindset 100 percent, but I spend much of my day interacting with clients, living in the world of escorting. I devote much more time to the world of escorting than most clients do, so I might as well give my two cents. And if I can interact with clients in person, why can't i interact with them virtually?

Also, if you want to spend an hour with me, you won't want me to waste my tongue energy on talking, so better to get my thoughts from me when I'm off the clock.

 

And so I'm very glad this thread was started about both escorts and clients, for both escorts and clients to share their opinions in a single space. Collective information sharing improves everyone's experiences. It's a vast world out there, and there's plenty of love to go around. Hence, I'm resurrecting this thread in hopes that more people will come forward with ideas.

 

Also, in response to one of the above posters, as an escort, I definitely seek out and overtly solicit business from certain clients specifically just to have hot sex. I've done it shamelessly and successfully. More than once. Some clients on this forum seriously know what they are doing in bed

 

Mike Gaite

[mike carey]

Also, if you want to spend an hour with me, you won't want me to waste my tongue energy on talking, so better to get my thoughts from me when I'm off the clock.

Mike, I agree with your sentiment here that if you are talking about meeting for an hour, the physical aspects are likely to be the priority, but if the meeting is longer a bit of pillow talk about this or other subjects would not go astray. That said, not everyone here is going to hire you any time soon and you have much of value to say, so I very much appreciate your efforts to post your thoughts in here. You never know, posting in here may convince some forum members that you are the right man for them to meet!

[seaboy4hire]

I've heard that before! Some escorts like it, but I've had trouble getting it in due to the thickness. If I had a choice, I would prefer a normal sized dick.

 

No such thing as too thick. Well at least for me.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ nycman]

Be on time.

Look like your pics.

Be clean.

Be polite.

Be prepared to take a pounding.

Know when to leave.

[big-n-tall]

and if I'm bottoming have some patience entering my tight boyhole but once I'm all loosened up, ill be moaning and screaming DADDY all night

 

...sounds hot!!!! Sign me up.

[TruHart1]

From the escort perspective, the perfect client is pretty similar to the perfect escort. We escorts are looking for the same connection as you clients are looking for. I like clients who have accurate photos, are openly communicative, have good hygeine, etc. I value clients who appreciate their time spent with me.

Who wouldn't value the time spent with you? The best time ever!

+1000

 

TruHart1

[stop]

I am 9 inches or so, and thick. Either guys love it or back away.

 

Where can I sign up?