Sobriety

[bigvalboy]

I know it's not something that could realistically ever happen (for all kinds of reasons) but I gotta say, if there was a category for "sober" (other than "never" for drugs) in the escort ad template, I would likely aim to hire exclusively along those lines... It can really be a tricky thing to read for.

 

Powerful statement Ryan...two thumbs up!!

 

And Thanks Rik for these little doses of encouragement. You just never know who you are helping.

[AdamSmith]

if there was a category for "sober" (other than "never" for drugs) in the escort ad template, I would likely aim to hire exclusively along those lines...

 

Do you think escorts who are not sober would so indicate, if the ad template permitted?

[Irish69]

And Thanks Rik for these little doses of encouragement. You just never know who you are helping.

 

All I can do it try to encourage & hope that it does help those that are fighting for sobriety.

[AdamSmith]

Thread A: Sobriety

Thread B: Effect of the weed on sex

 

The incongruity had occurred to me, too. I've even commented on both threads!

I'll just leave it at that.

 

Thinnin' on it, there is not that much incongruity. Use of psychotropics is as old as civilization--beer brewed from grains, hallucinogenic plants. It is crucial, especially for an addict seeking recovery, to recognize and acknowledge the differences between use, abuse, and addiction. And that they are neither the same, nor an inevitable progression--except for an addict.

[marylander1940]

Good for him!

 

Hopefully he'll be one of the very few pornstars who retired with something in the bank and not just wishing they could turn back time and save money for the future.

[marylander1940]

In My Line Of Work, I See Actors With Many Addictions. From Sex Addiction, To Alcoholism, Steroids, All The Way To Hardcore Drugs. Seeing This Post Made Me Feel Good That Some Are Able To Fight For Themselves & Believe In Themselves Enough, To Want A Better, Cleaner & Healthier Life. I Wish Nick Much Continued Success On His Journey To Sobriety!

 

 

 

 

Irish69

RentMen Rick

 

Very touching!

 

I've met guys who worked with him and they all said he's one of the nicest in the business.

 

Thank you for posting!

[RyanDean]

Hard to say, AdamSmith, but -- IF there were a teetotalling category like "Sober/StraightEdge" (alongside the "Nevers" and "Occasionallys" and "Sociallys" and "YouCans") -- it would definitely catch my attention. Sure, it wouldn't be guaranteeably accurate. Nothing in the ads is. Still, might be a handy point of reference and perhaps conversation when setting something up.

[AdamSmith]

IF there were a teetotalling category like "Sober/StraightEdge"...might be a handy point of reference and perhaps conversation when setting something up.

 

Agreed--presented and used that way, it could be helpful.

[anotherjohnindupont]

A very touching post. Sobriety is a struggle for many and it is great to hear of a success story.

As an aside, great photo. Nipplicious.

 

It happened to me... a long fight!

[Rudynate]

Thinnin' on it, there is not that much incongruity. Use of psychotropics is as old as civilization--beer brewed from grains, hallucinogenic plants. It is crucial, especially for an addict seeking recovery, to recognize and acknowledge the differences between use, abuse, and addiction. And that they are neither the same, nor an inevitable progression--except for an addict.

 

There are different views as to what constitutes recovery. For some, recovery is rigidly-defined as nothing less than complete abstinence from all mood- and mind-altering substances. End of story. For those in the complete abstinence camp, there is no compromise. Any substance use, no matter what, means you are no longer sober. I was in that camp for years, but no longer. For me, now, recovery is complete abstinence from alcohol. Those in the complete abstinence camp will say that I am no longer in recovery and that I am in denial. I don't agree.

 

There are those whose primary problem is drug addiction, rather than alcohol addiction. It is not uncommon for recovering addicts to drink alcohol and to feel that they are completely compliant with their programs.

[Rudynate]

I know it's not something that could realistically ever happen (for all kinds of reasons) but I gotta say, if there was a category for "sober" (other than "never" for drugs) in the escort ad template, I would likely aim to hire exclusively along those lines... It can really be a tricky thing to read for.

 

 

Decades ago, when AA was a strange little semi-secret subculture, members often tried to design their lives so that they only dealt with other program members. Some members went to the extreme of only doing business with other program members. It sort of gave me the willies.

[RyanDean]

I'm with you, RudyNate. And, believe me, I'm not looking for sober buddies when I hire.

That said, one of the weirdest parts of being sober for a long time is how attuned I remain to even a hint of booze-breath (or glassy eyes or tweaky tics). I've also found that such can be a major turnoff during a session. So it is something I've found myself I trying to tune my spidey-sense (aka AA-dar) to when reading reviews & ads.

[Irish69]

[bigvalboy]

 

This is a good one Rik...Have a great weekend!!

[Irish69]

[Irish69]

[Irish69]

[bigvalboy]

 

Hope you have an amazing weekend Rik....All the best.

[Irish69]

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[bigvalboy]

"Now I have a much clearer sense of myself" ......Yes!!!

[wisconsinguy]

"What doesn't kill ya, makes ya stonger." From a recent Kelly Clarkson song.

[Guest ChrisW]

Becoming an escort was probably the most profound thing I have done in my life. I have met some of the most unique and wise people one could ever hope to have in your life as well as gaining life experiences that have allowed me to grow and become a better person. All of that being said this is a very dark industry to work in, the drugs are so rampant by clients and escorts that there are times where I have to take extended breaks to recoup. I have seen so many escorts and clients fall and hit rock bottom because they weren't able to get ahold of their addiction.

 

I had an overnight with a client last year, he called me up and said that he wanted to bring in a couple other escorts and that they would be "partying". I told him that the scene he had described sounded like a lot of fun but that I didn't feel comfortable being around guys that were using. I will never forget his words, "your the first escort thats ever asked me to have sober sex and I would like to give it a try". We ended up having an incredibly fun night but when we parted ways in the morning I was a little worried for him because in a decade this was the first time he had sober sex. I got an email from him a few months later from him and he said that I showed him that fulfilling sober sex was possible. After a decade of daily use he had gotten himself into rehab and kicked the habit. I have never been more honored and humbled to be an escort than when I got that email.

 

Learning to have sober sex again is very hard because you have been disconnected from your body and mind for so long its scary to be present. What will my partner think of me? What do I do if I fumble? What if I cum to fast? Am I still sexy? These are questions that you wrestle with when learning to have sober sex again. Getting sober is said to be the hardest thing you will ever do but its also the most rewarding.

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[bigvalboy]

Learning to have sober sex again is very hard because you have been disconnected from your body and mind for so long its scary to be present. What will my partner think of me? What do I do if I fumble? What if I cum to fast? Am I still sexy? These are questions that you wrestle with when learning to have sober sex again. Getting sober is said to be the hardest thing you will ever do but its also the most rewarding.

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Thanks for the open and honest post Chris, and yes, Sober sex can/is frightening at first. Unfortunately it remains a long process before sober sex can truly be enjoyed. Removing old preconceived ideas of behavior of living a life controlled by substance abuse, is far more difficult than most people can imagine. It is often a constant and seemingly never ending battle.

 

It's refreshing to hear someone talk about the "hope"....

[rvwnsd]

Very touching!

 

I've met guys who worked with him and they all said he's one of the nicest in the business.

 

Thank you for posting!

 

I hired Nick and can attest to the fact that he is one of the nicest men I have met. I saw him at a local Starbucks with his mother one day. Just by watching them stand in line I could see the love and warmth emanating from him.

[marylander1940]

 

Very inspirational, great thread about a wonderful guy and his triumph!