Have you found your ideal escort?

[Jax92]

I have now hired some 8 escorts over 2+ years, a relatively short period of time. I've enjoyed my time with most of them. However, I still haven't found that escort that checks off every box of what I'm looking for in terms of looks, personality, and performance. I'm wondering if others have found their ideal, or am I just being unrealistic.

[+ bigjoey]

Yes, I have found the perfect person for me. I first hired him about 20 years ago and over time the relationship developed int something special.

 

(actually several but some are not age appropriate for a long term relationship- too young or circumstances were not right)

 

There are some very good men out there; keep looking BUT do not throw someone away because they are not perfect. Do not let "perfect" be the enemy of the "good".

[Traveler North]

I have found three great guys who I see from time to time during the year. The sex with them is great but they are different in various ways. The one common denominator is their personality. Though their backgrounds are different, they are bright guys with different but interesting interests. Spending time with them in and out of bed is an enjoyable experience. Sharing my with their life experience has created a fine relationship.

[adriano46]

I started all this maybe 24 years ago and there are a small handful who are still around and who still light a fire in me.

 

The first "serious" guy came across my path in Amsterdam in the late 90's - and was my first experience with a Russian escort. To this day he remains my ideal and the standard-bearer. He is retired but we still exchange notes, phone calls and are in contact.

 

Next is an Hungarian I met when he was in his prime as a porn actor. He retired from that, and through help from me, found two new careers simultaneously and now is in university studies and has a fully-developed life and is also a semi-professional sports figure. He too is "retired" but we still get together and he is always most appreciative.... ;-)))

 

In recent years there have been a few divided among escorts and sensual masseurs -- OK Michael Bender is a really HOT guy and pushes every button (and then some) that I have and although he is soon to be re-locating from NYC to FL, I am sure we will keep in touch. He is a gem - not only hot and sexy but a truly enjoyable guy. Another all-time favorite is Antton Harri - he is ageless and classic and to use a phrase around these parts lately a true international callipygian! I have a few more in the back of my mind and a few on my bucket list, but these men have been ones who have brought great joy to me over and over, over quite a span of years.

[bigvalboy]

Four great guys, and like TN they are all very different, but have incredible personalities, and on several levels we bonded. Chemistry is a powerful component to any encounter. If only I were a little younger, who knows what might have been.

[rguer]

I have now hired some 8 escorts over 2+ years, a relatively short period of time. I've enjoyed my time with most of them. However, I still haven't found that escort that checks off every box of what I'm looking for in terms of looks, personality, and performance. I'm wondering if others have found their ideal, or am I just being unrealistic.

 

I've hired only 4 times in 4 years (if I'm remembering correctly), but the first was the best, and the closest to checking all the boxes. But no one who was ideal. There are a few escorts who post here who might work, but they are either too expensive or nowhere near me, so I haven't tried them.

[Jax92]

Thanks for the responses. I am definitely not giving up! I actually have another escort scheduled soon that I am hopeful is my ideal. He so far checks off all of my boxes and then some. We've actually been in daily contact by text.

[Diverdan]

I wish you luck.... I think it is very difficult to find anyone who is perfect in every way. I have been with guys, non-escorts, who have been very much an ideal match, but for various reasons we have drifted apart, primarily because of distance. However, there is one guy that although he is now married to another man, I still see several times a year, and his partner is fine with our playing together. I knew this guy when he was quite young and before he met the guy he is now married to. I have two escorts that fit the "almost idea" category, but both have retired from the business, and have gone on to have other very successful careers. I still see one of them on occasion and we have dinner together. So keep trying and who knows what the future may hold. If you don't concentrate on finding the ideal, you may be surprised at how ideal that person may become over time.

[wisconsinguy]

Good question, but very individual. Since I choose to only see one person. I will give you what I found.

1) Above all, someone that I "connected with."

2) Someone who was honest, sincere, and cared about people in general.

3) A person that I was physically attracted to.

3) Had a great sense of humor, brighter then myself, and curious about the world around him.

4) Had a great smile.

5) Could tolerate me for extended sessions.

[+ purplekow]

No, nor is that my goal. I do not need someone who does everything for me, because I am evolving and changing and my needs and desires for one encounter are different for the next. I have had several men who have stirred me physically and mentally and spirityually and I have seen each of them many times, but no one man if perfect for me for every occasion or every desire.

I believe that there is a man out there who is someone I can love and with whom I will enjoy sharing my life but, that man will not be perfect for me, but we will be perfect together.

[Steven_Draker]

Why are you looking for a perfect match? ... and exclusivity?

 

This ain't marriage ...

[Jax92]

I didn't say I was looking for perfection, but rather my ideal. Maybe those terms are pretty similar, but in my mind there's a difference. Imperfections and idiosyncrasies can be part of someone's ideal, and those often are what make a relationship meaningful and stronger. But I'm talking about an escort experience. I hire them to satisfy some fantasy in me. And because I get to pick and choose, I feel like I should be aiming for my ideal. So again I ask, is this unrealistic?

[BaronArtz]

In fact, this time, yes I think I have. I couldn't be happier. We are even thinking about getting married. Sometimes, just sometimes, Fate shines on us. I am grateful that I was able to see it, and that I had the courage to act on it.

[BaronArtz]

Yes, I have found the perfect person for me. I first hired him about 20 years ago and over time the relationship developed int something special.

 

(actually several but some are not age appropriate for a long term relationship- too young or circumstances were not right)

 

There are some very good men out there; keep looking BUT do not throw someone away because they are not perfect. Do not let "perfect" be the enemy of the "good".

 

bigjoey, I don't have the pleasure of knowing you, but I LOVE what you wrote here. There really are some really good men out here. I truly wish you and your beau all the best!

[down_to_business]

No I haven't and I don't think I would want to. If I did, then I would likely stop the pursuit of real relationships and just live in a fantasy world that would only exist in my own mind.

[jawjateck]

Nope, and never tried to find him. I'm a happy single guy and far too flawed to pursue him.

[+ bigjoey]

Dear BaronArtz,

Thank you.

 

Dear down-to-business,

May I suggest to you that "real relationships" often contain a large amount of fantasy as well. I know several couples (both gay and straight) whose marriage did not last because one or both parties had unrealistic expectations that were fantasy and existed only in the mind; one such couple (straight) got an annulment within a few months of getting married when the fantasy turned int reality. Entering into any relationship requires both parties to have a sense of reality and to have both eyes open.

 

I know a few couples where one party was an escort and the other a former client and the relationships have worked for a long time (over a decade). Do not dismiss a man on the sole grounds he is/was an escort; just look at him as a man and make the judgement from his other attributes. "Older" escorts especially with years of experience often have very good people skills and worldly experience that can actually make them a better person to have as a partner than someone without those skills and experience. Some "older" and well experienced escorts have done well financially and could even be the one in the relationship with more wealth than the other partner (I know of one such case).

 

Yes, I realize that an escort relationship usually includes a lot of fantasy on the part of the client BUT sometimes the chemistry does work. My point is just do not discount a man from being your "ideal' just because he is an escort; go with the flow and if the chemistry works and both parties are realistic and not in fantasy mode then maybe you found your "ideal" man. Over the years, I have met some amazing men who escorted that would make wonderful husbands; were they perfect in every sense, no, but they were as good a person as I found anywhere.

[tom1980]

My ideal escort changes depending on my mood on a given day. Sometimes I like to bottom, and other times I prefer to top. I also like variety in the guys I hire, both in appearance and demeanor. Sometimes I want a tall, muscular dominant guy, and others I want a smaller, lean twink. I guess I'd say I've had several ideal escort experiences, by which I mean appointments that have been everything I hoped they would be.

[+ poolboy48220]

I found close to the ideal guy years ago; physically exactly what I was looking for, friendly, versatile but mostly top. He moved away and we've lost touch. I didn't have any illusions about a long term relationship, in part because he was escorting on the side and had a boyfriend. I still often think back on the nights we spent together.

[Kenny]

I've been seeing one escort monthly for more than 13 years. Being fucked more than 150 times by the same man and still wanting it again suggests that the erotic chemistry is quite right.

[armadillo]

I have used the same erotic massage therapist for nearly 20 years. Guess there is chemistry there.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

Reese Rothmeier.... retired (unfortunately) He remains unequaled however the search goes on.

[big-n-tall]

I see different guys regularly (or almost regularly) with the occasional new guy, who pops up on my radar. Each of the guys I try to see regularly... there is something special each brings to the table. Each of them i enjoy on many levels.

 

The one guy who was the closest thing to perfectly ideal retired shortly after escorting. I still speak to him occasionally, but I haven't been with him sexually in years.

 

I don't think any one guy will be absolutely ideal for anyone (as been suggested by others). Its best to find someone (or a number of guys) you're happy with and go from there.

[wisconsinguy]

I see different guys regularly (or almost regularly) with the occasional new guy, who pops up on my radar. Each of the guys I try to see regularly... there is something special each brings to the table. Each of them i enjoy on many levels.

 

The one guy who was the closest thing to perfectly ideal retired shortly after escorting. I still speak to him occasionally, but I haven't been with him sexually in years.

 

I don't think any one guy will be absolutely ideal for anyone (as been suggested by others). Its best to find someone (or a number of guys) you're happy with and go from there.

Of course, I goodheartedly disagree with the idea that guys will not find someone, "someone ideal." I have. I love "looking around," but have no desire to seriously look'

[Guest countryboywny]

To answer the question directly.. YES, I have found two escorts, who are to me, ideal.