How to talk to a medical resident at a hospital?

[Phil_musc]

I can't believe I've made it through to the end of this breathlessly silly thread. Good advice (and some not-so-good advice, IMHO) has been offered. I'm willing to order the pizza and sit back and wait for the show to begin. My only prayer- well maybe not ONLY prayer - is that the OP will keep us posted on how things turn out. I haven't been able to keep up with Looking, but heck, this might actually be a better story after all. Anyone else in for a slice?

[cany10011]

When I was a 20 something resident, my anesthesiology attending asked me out. I declined at first since he was a way older man (40s) and i was not really interested. He asked me out 3 times until i relented. It was a lot of fun and both of us were fairly discreet. It was a nice diversion having someone to dote and take care of me

 

Anyhow, i wouldn't mind going out with this hot medical student/resident....

 

http://www.latina.com/entertainment/buzz/manuel-rico-hottest-gynecologist-ever#axzz2u03ItOnH

 

 

 

 

I can't believe I've made it through to the end of this breathlessly silly thread. Good advice (and some not-so-good advice, IMHO) has been offered. I'm willing to order the pizza and sit back and wait for the show to begin. My only prayer- well maybe not ONLY prayer - is that the OP will keep us posted on how things turn out. I haven't been able to keep up with Looking, but heck, this might actually be a better story after all. Anyone else in for a slice?

[Guest]

 

http://www.latina.com/entertainment/buzz/manuel-rico-hottest-gynecologist-ever#axzz2u03ItOnH

 

 

But it does get creepy when a female patient keeps asking "When can you give me another pap smear, doctor?"

[wisconsinguy]

This scenario can be played out in any workplace situation. If it were me, stick to the verbal interchanges and skip any note writing. Rand

[+ FreshFluff]

But it does get creepy when a female patient keeps asking "When can you give me another pap smear, doctor?"

 

Gross. Who looks forward to a pap smear, no matter who is giving it?

 

When I was a 20 something resident, my anesthesiology attending asked me out. I declined at first since he was a way older man (40s) and i was not really interested. He asked me out 3 times until i relented. It was a lot of fun and both of us were fairly discreet. It was a nice diversion having someone to dote and take care of me http://www.companyofmen.org/images/smilies/smile.png

 

Ooh, that story is turning me on. Power differentials are so hot. What was he like?

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Chronically Horny

 

I recently got a new job at the hospital. I started back in December and was on orientation for about one week, rotating in the different sections of the ER to get a feel for each pod. When I was orienting with the supervising doctor, there was a resident that was super attractive, and well, smart. I was sitting on the chair, waiting for my supervising doctor to finish with a patient, when the resident introduced himself to me. "Btw, my name is Alex." Likewise, I introduced myself to him. But we didn't say much afterwards.

 

Fast forward to this week - that resident was with the supervising doctor and came to my section of the ER to retrieve some supplies. While I was stuffing my face with food, he made a general comment to my advising doctor that "something smelled good" -- which was clearly my food. I wanted to respond back to him but at the time, was too busy catching up with my charts and trying to eat as I don't get a lunch break. We didn't really speak to each other at this time.

 

I was randomly on OKCUPID when I saw a picture of a guy that looked very familiar. I clicked on the picture and it was the RESIDENT! I was a bit shocked because I never thought he would have been gay. I would have messaged him on okcupid....except he hasn't logged in since November.

 

Now that it is established that he's gay - and after reading his profile - I really would like to get to know him more, even if it's just being friends. The problem is that...it's the hospital. It's the ER. And it's very busy. While I'd LOVE to go up to him and make small talk with him, "Hey, how's this section of the ER going? Seen any cool cases" it's difficult to strike that conversation up especially when he's busy with patients.

 

Any suggestions on how I could chat it up with him WITHOUT being awkward (or have other people around?)

 

I thought about 2/3 ideas:

 

1. I drop a note in his mailbox. I could say something like, "Hey man. I think you're a pretty cool guy. We should hang out sometime." And leave my number (instead of my name) on the note.

 

2. I could e-mail him and say: "Hey, I saw you last week in my part of the ER. I wanted to ask you something but didn't get a chance to since I was catching up on charting. I'm interested in working on the MAIN side of the ER, and was wondering since you were the only resident I worked with during my orientation shift, if I could work with you on a part of few shifts so that I could get a hang of mainside ER before I start working there in a few months. Blah blah blah."

 

3. The residents have lectures every Tuesday at 7am which I am allowed to attend to as well.

 

While 3 is probably more ideal and personable, 2 definitely falls into my comfort zone. If he says No to me following him, then that's that. But if he says yes, then it would allow me to get to know him during work. But then at that point, is it just a work-established relationship at that point?

 

Any advice would be helpful! Thanks!

 

Residents are chronically simultaneously - Tired-Horny-Hungry they work unreal hours and rarely "date". Catch him between traumas - pull him some place quiet - Tell him you saw his profile on _____________ and that you think he is HOT -- And let it go from there

[+ nycman]

....Catch him between traumas - pull him some place quiet - Tell him you saw his profile on _____________ and that you think he is HOT -- And let it go from there

 

LMAO

 

And be prepared for an extremely unpleasant response.

 

Being "caught" between traumas when you're tired, hungry, and over worked???

 

Seriously, would you be open to a sexual advance in that scenario??

 

Home is where I fuck....work is where I work.

 

Why is that equation so hard to understand?

[Phil_musc]

LMAO

 

Home is where I fuck....work is where I work.

 

Why is that equation so hard to understand?

 

Exactly. Some people here must be watching too much porn and can no longer distinguish between reality and fantasy.

 

On the other hand, however, a college friend told me that people who were in hospitals are notoriously horny and perpetually sneaking off to have

sex in broom closets and other such venues. So maybe who knows? It could make for some interesting situations.

[gallahadesquire]

When I was a 20 something resident, my anesthesiology attending asked me out. I declined at first since he was a way older man (40s) and i was not really interested. He asked me out 3 times until i relented. It was a lot of fun and both of us were fairly discreet. It was a nice diversion having someone to dote and take care of me

 

Anyhow, i wouldn't mind going out with this hot medical student/resident....

 

http://www.latina.com/entertainment/buzz/manuel-rico-hottest-gynecologist-ever#axzz2u03ItOnH

 

Good Lord! Is there a plethora [or surfeit] of Anesthesiologists on this Forum?

[LookingAround]

Approach him in person. Everyone loves to be told they're hot. He will take it as a compliment.

[traveler1954]

No one mentioned the fact that as a surgical resident in the "old days", we had to work 36hrs on /12hrs off, for 6 years. so we had to spend the "on" night in our "on call" rooms located somewhere on the premises. That's where things got very interesting with other staff members, nurses, secretaries, lab technicians, male or female, who came by for some fucking late at night.

[wisconsinguy]

No one mentioned the fact that as a surgical resident in the "old days", we had to work 36hrs on /12hrs off, for 6 years. so we had to spend the "on" night in our "on call" rooms located somewhere on the premises. That's where things got very interesting with other staff members, nurses, secretaries, lab technicians, male or female, who came by for some fucking late at night.

A few decades ago I was finishing a horrific weekend in a trauma unit working as a nurse. Finishing up his last year was a hunky, hunky senior surgical resident. As stated, these residents were on premises often days/weekends at a time. Anywhoo, he was making his last rounds, I was facing away from the door, leaning over my chemically sedated patient when he came in. He walked in unbeknownst to me, not only pinched my butt, when I had one, but groped it. I turned, and he said, "breakfast?" Since this was before I was gay, (hahahahaha) I made some comment about stuff I had to do, then went into the BR and puked. There are all sorts of opportunities and scenarios in any workplace. Some are a matter of timing, choice, and where a person is at the time. Damn, he was cute.

[+ purplekow]

A few decades ago I was finishing a horrific weekend in a trauma unit working as a nurse. Finishing up his last year was a hunky, hunky senior surgical resident. As stated, these residents were on premises often days/weekends at a time. Anywhoo, he was making his last rounds, I was facing away from the door, leaning over my chemically sedated patient when he came in. He walked in unbeknownst to me, not only pinched my butt, when I had one, but groped it. I turned, and he said, "breakfast?" Since this was before I was gay, (hahahahaha) I made some comment about stuff I had to do, then went into the BR and puked. There are all sorts of opportunities and scenarios in any workplace. Some are a matter of timing, choice, and where a person is at the time. Damn, he was cute.

And he gets cuter with each telling, that is the thing about life, it is much more beautiful in retrospect. Not to say he wasnt cute but you can more fully appreciate just how cute only later.

[wisconsinguy]

And he gets cuter with each telling, that is the thing about life, it is much more beautiful in retrospect. Not to say he wasnt cute but you can more fully appreciate just how cute only later.

Few points I disagree with. Things for me are not always more beautiful in retrospect. In this case, I have only shared this a story a few times. As a therapy recommendation, I really try live in the moment. He has hot gotten cuter in my replication of the story. However, the one thing that has gotten stronger is my regret for not seizing the moment. Since catching the gay virus, that will never happen again!!!

[+ purplekow]

Well you are have gone from puking to lusting, seems pretty clear that at least the attraction has gotten more beautiful in retrospect. i just think in general, when we recall our life, the positives become more positive and fortunately, the negatives, though still negative, are more likely to be kind of humourous or wistful or neutral. Even the memories that bring a tear usually are not quite so harsh. At least that is how my memories work and i am glad for it.

[wisconsinguy]

Well you are have gone from puking to lusting, seems pretty clear that at least the attraction has gotten more beautiful in retrospect. i just think in general, when we recall our life, the positives become more positive and fortunately, the negatives, though still negative, are more likely to be kind of humourous or wistful or neutral. Even the memories that bring a tear usually are not quite so harsh. At least that is how my memories work and i am glad for it.

Made me laugh, and very well put as usual. Thank God, the puking days I think are behind me. Haha.

[BgMstr4u]

Perhaps this has already resolved itself. If so, I hope all is well.

 

To the OP: The thing that struck me was that the resident made the first contact, and while the second contact was indirect, it also seemed positive toward you. The question you are asking seems to be how to move this forward, if that is appropriate. While the legalities don't seem to block moving forward, there are considerations of prudence in any work environment.

 

Maybe what follows is hopelessly old fashioned, but here goes: What I don't see in this is the necessity to move from returning a smile and saying hello and having a cup of coffee to jumping into bed. The guy obviously likes you or he wouldn't have been nice twice. If I were you I wouldn't write anything down, and I wouldn't risk seeming to stalk him by showing up at something you might not otherwise be doing. But certainly a smile, a friendly response is appropriate if the opportunity arises. Why not move that gently in the direction of a conversation or coffee -- something simple -- and see if a friendship starts to develop. If it does, and then something closer grows out of it, that's great. If not, nothing has been lost and much may have been gained -- perhaps a new friend.

[wisconsinguy]

Perhaps this has already resolved itself. If so, I hope all is well.

 

To the OP: The thing that struck me was that the resident made the first contact, and while the second contact was indirect, it also seemed positive toward you. The question you are asking seems to be how to move this forward, if that is appropriate. While the legalities don't seem to block moving forward, there are considerations of prudence in any work environment.

 

Maybe what follows is hopelessly old fashioned, but here goes: What I don't see in this is the necessity to move from returning a smile and saying hello and having a cup of coffee to jumping into bed. The guy obviously likes you or he wouldn't have been nice twice. If I were you I wouldn't write anything down, and I wouldn't risk seeming to stalk him by showing up at something you might not otherwise be doing. But certainly a smile, a friendly response is appropriate if the opportunity arises. Why not move that gently in the direction of a conversation or coffee -- something simple -- and see if a friendship starts to develop. If it does, and then something closer grows out of it, that's great. If not, nothing has been lost and much may have been gained -- perhaps a new friend.

How very wise and yet simple advise!

[Phil_musc]

A few decades ago I was finishing a horrific weekend in a trauma unit working as a nurse. Finishing up his last year was a hunky, hunky senior surgical resident. As stated, these residents were on premises often days/weekends at a time. Anywhoo, he was making his last rounds, I was facing away from the door, leaning over my chemically sedated patient when he came in. He walked in unbeknownst to me, not only pinched my butt, when I had one, but groped it. I turned, and he said, "breakfast?" Since this was before I was gay, (hahahahaha) I made some comment about stuff I had to do, then went into the BR and puked. There are all sorts of opportunities and scenarios in any workplace. Some are a matter of timing, choice, and where a person is at the time. Damn, he was cute.

 

Ah, the romantic in me hoped that after the pinch the guy would have pulled down your hospital clothes, hunkered down behind you and moved in for some heavy duty tongue work in preparation for a wild hot f--k with you bent over the bed of your sedated patient. (Maybe I'VE been watching too much porn. . . )

[wisconsinguy]

Ah, the romantic in me hoped that after the pinch the guy would have pulled down your hospital clothes, hunkered down behind you and moved in for some heavy duty tongue work in preparation for a wild hot f--k with you bent over the bed of your sedated patient. (Maybe I'VE been watching too much porn. . . )

If he did, maybe it wouldn't have taken me so long to get where I am today! Thinking about it, it would make a great porn.

[+ Funguy]

If he did, maybe it wouldn't have taken me so long to get where I am today! Thinking about it, it would make a great porn.

 

I await your dream…….!

 

Funguy

[+ FreshFluff]

Ah, the romantic in me hoped that after the pinch the guy would have pulled down your hospital clothes, hunkered down behind you and moved in for some heavy duty tongue work in preparation for a wild hot f--k with you bent over the bed of your sedated patient. (Maybe I'VE been watching too much porn. . . )

 

Is Wisconsinguy's testimony during the resulting lawsuit by the patient part of the fantasy?

[wisconsinguy]

Is Wisconsinguy's testimony during the resulting lawsuit by the patient part of the fantasy?

"Butt Your Honor, what was he thinking? I wasn't even gay then! What was he going to do with me? (Blush, blush, blush).

[TruHart1]

A few decades ago I was finishing a horrific weekend in a trauma unit working as a nurse. Finishing up his last year was a hunky, hunky senior surgical resident. As stated, these residents were on premises often days/weekends at a time. Anywhoo, he was making his last rounds, I was facing away from the door, leaning over my chemically sedated patient when he came in. He walked in unbeknownst to me, not only pinched my butt, when I had one, but groped it. I turned, and he said, "breakfast?" Since this was before I was gay, (hahahahaha) I made some comment about stuff I had to do, then went into the BR and puked. There are all sorts of opportunities and scenarios in any workplace. Some are a matter of timing, choice, and where a person is at the time. Damn, he was cute.

 

"Butt Your Honor, what was he thinking? I wasn't even gay then! What was he going to do with me? (Blush, blush, blush).

 

Don’t try to over analyze it wisconsinguy. In college I was very closeted and fearful of being “found out.” One afternoon I went into the often deserted student union restroom (where I sometimes tried to sneak a peek at the urinals if a hot guy was pissing) and there was only one older black man at the urinals who, when I came through the door, turned toward me, stroking his engorged (and impressive) member. I turned tail and ran out of there as if I’d seen a ghost! Later on, that scene in my memory went on to become a jack-off fantasy for a number of months. I’ve never been into "tea room" sex but it was a pretty exciting scenario my mind created after the fact!

 

TruHart1

[Phil_musc]

Is Wisconsinguy's testimony during the resulting lawsuit by the patient part of the fantasy?

 

You, on the other hand, Fluffy my dear, are clearly NOT watching enough porn.

 

But what would the patient be suing for? Alienation of affections? Disturbing the peace? Not getting any action from the hunky resident?

 

Damn, wisconsinguy, if I were you, I'd be kicking myself for lost opportunities like this (these things are always wasted on the young) and singing "The man that got away."