Is It Worth It To Go Back

[wayout]

I've been feeling a bit nostalgic lately for some reason, and part of that is thinking about some of the great escorts I've hired over the last 15+ years. There are a couple in particular that really were amazing and after about 10 years they are still in the biz which speaks volumes about their abilities I think, or maybe just the state of the economy . Anyway, back in those years I was hiring early 20s so they are now in their early 30s. Yes they are different looking now, mostly bulked up somewhat and not twinkish any more, but still exceptionally good looking and very attractive (to me at least).

 

The reason I did not hire them again after the first time was because of their location, my travels, living overseas, etc....life in general got in the way. I also like variety and unless there is a practical convenience I usually don't hire guys more than once or twice. So many guys out there and so little time (and money). But lately I've noticed less and less of the type of guys I like being reviewed and am starting to think maybe it is time to change my hiring habits.

 

So my questions are, after not seeing these guys for about 10 years, would it be a mistake to hire them now to try to relive/recapture that amazing first experience with each of them? Is that even possible or am I setting myself up for a huge letdown? Is risking the great memory of an experience worth the desire to go back and see these guys again? Do you think we idealize and perhaps enhance in our minds some very good escort experiences to the point where it really wasn't like that? Has anyone here gone back after an extended period of time (maybe 5+ years) to see an escort that you had an amazing time with the first time and how did it turn out?

 

It would be interesting to see if they've become jaded or still have that enthusiasm for their client they showed so many years ago. Btw, they still get good reviews.

[down_to_business]

Not an easy question to answer. I think my answer should be, it depends. For some people this would be appropriate or a resounding yes. Reading your description and question, I would say, no. You obviously like to try different things. You seem to prefer the younger and twinkier guys as opposed to an older and more mature guy. You also have been carrying good memories of an experience for 10+ years. How on earth could reality or being with someone again surpass that. Crap, I'd be lucky if I could remeber an experience 10 months ago, let alone 10 years.

 

Pros:

You may get a new experience that would give you another 10+ years of good memories.

 

Cons:

Reality not likely to live up to the idolized experience you remember and have been playing over in your head.

You may not be as into their current physical appearance as you originally were.

You may remember them but they may not remember you at all.

 

Whatever you chose to do, good luck. Why not (possibly consider) hiring someone else highly reviewed on this website that has the physical characteristics that really turn you on, that you find attractive, and that won't cause you to risk your good memories of the past?

[+ Charlie]

I have had mixed experiences. One escort I hired ten years later and another nine years later, and although they had changed physically (one I didn't even recognize), the things that made the first time memorable were still there and effective. However, there were two others I can remember offhand (seven and six year intervals), who were big disappointments in the later meetings, either because they had changed or my expectations were too high.

[maxwellissmart]

It would be interesting to see if they've become jaded or still have that enthusiasm for their client they showed so many years ago. Btw, they still get good reviews.

 

I was just thinking about this the other day, actually. There may be a freshness or newness that's no longer there that you will miss. Or maybe not. In all honesty, I think I've gotten better at sex since I've escorted because I've been exposed to lots of different approaches to the same basic set of acts. Hopefully it's the same for your guys. But reading DTB's post: I concur that if you like a particular type and these guys are no longer that, you probably won't enjoy it as much as you might think.

[+ Shoreboy]

Sometimes the memory is better than the reality

[Bosguy]

From what I've read in reviews and discussions on the Forum, it seems as if the chronological age of both the working guy and the hiring guy has increased over the last few years resulting in mainly excellent experiences. I think as long as BOTH realize this maturing process, a repeat acquaintance should be fun and enjoyable.

 

Boston Guy

[jgoo]

My best advice is to enjoy the memories and not try to relive days of past glory as it is not likely to be a success for any number of valid reasons. You've got little to gain and too much to lose.

 

Reminds me kinda like the fond memories of the first time I came when I was a kid many years ago. Never had that same amazing feeling since....and believe me I have tried, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day :-) While its fun trying, nothing recaptures that "first time" experience, or at least the memories we've created about it.

[instudiocity]

Sometimes the memory is better than the reality

Absinthe makes the heart grow fonder? LOL!

 

Reminds me kinda like the fond memories of the first time I came when I was a kid many years ago. Never had that same amazing feeling since....and believe me I have tried, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day :-) While its fun trying, nothing recaptures that "first time" experience, or at least the memories we've created about it.

Yes, but taking a 3-4 week vacation from orgasm, can give one a strong reminder, powerfully so, like up to the chin.

[Phil_musc]

I think you should do it - what is there to lose? You've already said that you realize they won't look the same, but that the ones you have seen pictures of are still very attractive to you. Neither of you is who you were ten years ago - why not just go into it with that knowledge and take the new experience on its own terms and with its own merits. Memories are nice, god knows, and I have plenty of my own. But if I had the opportunity to cross paths again with someone who rocked my world ten or fifteen years ago (and he still was hot to me) I'd do it in a heartbeat. The memory of the first encounter will still be there regardless - it's not the same experience because neither of you are the same. But very possibly it will be a new great experience in its own right. Go for it.

[foxy]

For me what's interesting is escorts who have transitioned into "real" jobs that I have kept in touch with and are doing well. Those are the ones that used the money and the experience as a stepping stone and have gone on to other successful careers. I'm sure there are quite a few out there and I'm happy for them.

[+ purplekow]

Put me in the do it column. Just do not do comparisons, or at least try not to do them. No doubt the sex I had 10 years ago is, on the whole, better than the sex I am having now. My stamina, my desire and my abilities have all nudged slightly downward. On the other hand, even not great sex is great. So, go in with an open mind and no preconceived notions and fuck your brains out.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Put me in the do it column. Just do not do comparisons, or at least try not to do them. No doubt the sex I had 10 years ago is, on the whole, better than the sex I am having now. My stamina, my desire and my abilities have all nudged slightly downward. On the other hand, even not great sex is great. So, go in with an open mind and no preconceived notions and fuck your brains out.

 

PK is right - "just do not do comparisons. Even when being with someone (hired or not) on a regular basis, rarely is the thrill the same high every time. Sometime good, sometimes great, and every once in a while mind blowing.

[Phil_musc]

That's pretty much what I said in my post - do it, but accept it as a different (although similar) experience. It is it's own event - comparison is not necessary.

[Okliehomo]

Out of the Past.....

 

Of late, I have seriously have had that same thought/fantasy. Go back and end on the same guy that you started with. Closure. Full fucking circle... or would that be better phrased as .. full rimming circle? And isn't that kind of redundant in itself? I mean, it is a circle.... but I completely digress.

 

Ridge. After all these years... still have thoughts about working him into the rotation. God knows, he had (has) the perfect body and face, and a straight arrow dick. Getting him on film.... well, that would seal the deal.

 

And I have had some luck with revisiting the past.... I really loved seeing Marco Rochelle (now Stefano) again, and Kristian and Arpad have been sexual revelations ..... and I met them both 7-8 years ago... and they are better than ever now... and the same with Marco Feretti.... he was right after Ridge... summer of 2002..... and I met him again in 2006 and then in 2010 and 2011.... and the man is aging like fine wine... same movie star face and killer muscle ass....

 

Have to also admit that there are some others from the past that I would jump at the chance to see again.... Jim Slade, Kent Larsen, Jason Branch, Tony Cummings...

 

And there are the guys that I hope to always stay in touch with... Ty, Mark/Chicago, Juan, Kevin, Justice, Chris Daniels and of course, the resurgent one, the instigator, the unexpected... David.

 

Hard to let go of the past... especially when it was all such a fucking blast.

 

What a swell party it was.

 

Okie

[GoodFella69]

I agree with the guys who say "go for it." The first escort I ever hired years ago was a muscle-stud bottom named Jim Slade. He's no longer in the business, but I've so often thought how great it would be to re-connect with Jim. I was closeted, married and living in Dallas, TX, at the time I started hiring Jim. He taught me so much about the gay community, man-on-man sex, and hiring escorts. If he was still in the escort biz, I would fly wherever he was today and hire him again in a heartbeat!

 

Wayout--I hope you keep us posted on your decision and wish you the best if you do go for it!

 

~Goodfella

[Michael Wayne]

think about it this way: the age difference is still the same. If you were 45 and he was 25 now you are 55 and he is 35. If he was hot to you in his 20's then he may actually be much hotter in his 30s or even his 40's . The list of late 30 somethings and 40 somethings in Hollywood is astouding: Leo Dicaprio, Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Mark Wahlberg, Brad Pitt, Ryan Phillippe, George Clooney, Matt damon, Ben Affleck and we could go on and on. Same is true for escorts. Maybe the hair is a little thinner or the twink is now a hunk or mr smooth now has chest hair but in essence the stud is still the stud and you are still just as much older than he is now as you were then.

[jjkrkwood]

I am of the school of leaving the Past in the Past, and just basking in the memories.

 

However, if fate prevails and paths happen to cross again in the present, then I would take it as a sign and act on it. But I would pursue an OLD memory and try to re-create it.

 

I prefer to make NEW memories, with guys I find Hot and intriguing now. But thats just ME....

[gallahadesquire]

I am of the school of leaving the Past in the Past, and just basking in the memories.

 

However, if fate prevails and paths happen to cross again in the present, then I would take it as a sign and act on it. But I would pursue an OLD memory and try to re-create it.

 

I prefer to make NEW memories, with guys I find Hot and intriguing now. But thats just ME....

 

New memories keep the mind active, and lack of them is part of the diagnosis of Alzheimer's!

[wayout]

Thanks to everyone who posted and gave their views. I do believe my taste in guys have evolved over time so I should be fine with how they have matured. And as one poster mentioned, the age difference is still the same. One thing is clear is that the outcome is unclear as some have had some successful followup meetings after many years while other encounters haven't been as great. I am more and more curious to see how it would turn out and it is worth the risk so I've decided to meet one of the two guys to give it a try and see what happens. If it goes badly, then at least I'll have the memory of the other guy to fall back on. I have contacted him already and we are planning to get together in March when I am passing through his home base. The general consensus from the posts here, that I will do my best to follow, is to have this meeting happen on its own merits and not to set up too high of expectations....just have fun with it.

 

I haven't told him that we met many years ago and I am not sure if I will tell him before, after or even at all. If before, and if he says he remembers me, I'll be surprised and likely I would not believe him anyway as after 10 years he must have met hundreds, maybe even a thousand, guys and while I am good in the sack, I'm not sure I would boast that I am that good If I don't say anything, it will be interesting to see if there is any spark of recognition on his part. To make things a little bit more interesting for me, I'm going to book the same resort where we got together last time. If I could remember the room I would try to get that just for fun.

 

Right now I'm leaning towards not saying anything until the very end and then "oh by the way...do you remember when....." I'll let everyone know how it went afterwards. Wish me luck.