What do I do

[down_to_business]

I made a weekend appointment with a well reviewed and highly recommended escort from this website. This included booking non-refundable air, hotel etc for both me and the escort. About 2 weeks ago, I sent a polite confirmation email and didn't hear anything. 1 week ago I sent another confirmation email and didn't hear anything. Today I called and his number has been disconnected.

 

What do I do at this point? Am I screwed (without being kissed here)? Do I fly up there anyway just to spend my vacation weekend that I really needed so bad all alone? This wonderful relaxing vacation is turning into a stressful nightmare

 

Who the escort is is NOT important as rules state we don't talk about no-shows in the forum. To prevent any speculation or damage to anyones reputation, the escort in question is NOT one I have asked public forum questions about or commented in any threads about.

 

Thanks

[Diverdan]

If you can't put the name here on the message Forum, you could certainly do a "no-show" review. I think all the readers of this Forum would like to know the particulars and who this was, especially since you state the escort in question is well reviewed and highly recommended. There can be extenuating circumstances, and it would be well to attempt to make contact via email, etc. But if you have non-refundable air fare, and other prepaid expenses, I would say "go for it" and maybe you can find someone else at that location or bring someone else so you can have a great vacation in spite of this setback. Good luck!

[12is12]

Of course you should to on your vacation, and find someone else to brighten it up!

 

I for one am unfamiliar with the "rule" of not talking about no-shows, and must confess I fail to understand the logic in it. It's VERY important to know about such things, especially after you've tried again and again to contact him.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hi Down_to,

 

Sorry to hear about your situation. In this case it would seem you did everything you could: you did your research and engaged with a well reviewed escort. While it would have seemed that nothing could have gone badly it did, so may I suggest you to focus in what is important? (You and your holiday.) Whether you tell us who he is or not, whether in time it is resolved, are you still in time to call some other well reviewed escorts and enquire if any -by some freaky chance- may be available to meet with you for your whole vacation or even part of it?

 

I know it is often that clients think well reviewed escorts are impossible to book a session with but sometimes last minute bookings happen and work perfectly well. I have done them and I know that some of my escort friends have also.

 

Whatever you do, I sincerely hope that your vacation will be fun, relaxed and filled with excitement.

[+ purplekow]

Go on vacation. Try and get someone to go with you. Enjoy. There is no use sitting alone in your room. Try contacting Juan he put the Juan in Juanderful and I believe he is very happy to put the full Juan in about anything you would like.

[+ deej]

There is no use sitting alone in your room.

 

Put down your knitting, your book and your broom,

it's time for a holiday!

Life is a cabaret old chum,

Come to the cabaret.

 

(Twice in one day we've had Kander & Ebb references! A good day!)

[nate_sf]

Agree, you should go on vacation. This is one of those "make lemonade" moments where you should think about creative ways to reinvent the situation rather than wallow in regret over how things didn't go according to initial plans.

 

Although you said the plane tickets and hotel are non-refundable, sometimes nonrefundable can be exchanged for credit instead. So one thought would be to cash in the tickets and hotel for credits to another place you might want to go.

 

If they're really not nonrefundable, like others have said you should go anyway and reinvent the trip. Go with another escort, or (depending where it is) make an appointment with a local. Maybe plan to see a show or something that you might not have wanted to go with with your original escort but might want to go by yourself or with someone else.

 

Years ago when I was in college for a year abroad I embarked on a Eurail trip with a classmate who I did not know very well. We had an itinerary to go from London to Paris, south of France, Venice, and then beyond but I can't remember where we were supposed to go next. We got as far as Venice and it was clear we were not wanting to travel together anymore. Not a fight, just a mutual understanding. He took a train out of town on Christmas Eve, and there I was in Venice walking around in the freezing cold feeling sorry for myself. Well, I did that for about two hours, then came back to the hostel. I'd noticed the people in the room next door seemed to be a fun group (a few Australian girls and an American guy) so I knocked on their door and told them what happened. They promptly took me into their fold and I ended up joining them in their travels for the next week. A completely different itinerary than what had been originally planned, instead concentrating only on Northern Italy in depth rather than jumping from country to country. And it turned out way more fun than I was having with my original classmate. I had a blast and by the end was glad the original plans fell through.

 

So I'd suggest the same for you. Chances are if the escort has disconnected his phone and isn't replying to emails something has gone wrong and he would not be a suitable companion because of whatever is going on in his life. Hopefully he's OK. But as for you, I'd suggest scrapping the original plan and reinventing the weekend into something that will likely end up being more fun than the original plan.

[down_to_business]

Thanks for the comments. I understand the just make the best of it approach, and I will try, but it sucks. If I was just given some notice I might have been able to re-schedule my trip or make other arrangements-- I think that's the most frustrating part. I really do NOT want to go on this trip alone and would never have scheduled it. I have had so much bad crap going on in my life (problems at work, a close relative having a massive stroke, etc.-- this vacation was so important to me and my sanity-- and now I just dread it). As an introvert, its unlikely I could 'pull off' what Nate suggested let alone even get myself to talk to a 'stranger'. I might try and schedule some time with a local, but technically, the appointment is still a couple of days away and maybe the escort will show up and maybe he won't. I guess I have to wait at the airport just in case he does-- and not try to make any alternate arrangements until I see that he doesn't get off the plane.

 

I hope you all wind up having better experiences then I did. Yes, I probably would have been disappointed to get a cancellation email or phone call, but it sure would have beaten this!

[gcursor]

I think somebody will be able to help

 

Down to business:

I'm really sorry that things didn't work out well for you.

 

There are many escorts that read the board and I'm sure a few of them would be more than happy to step up to the plate and fill in. I'm sure that it's very hard to warm up to somebody new (I'm like that as well) but try to keep your options open. I'm sure we could find you somebody to help you through this particularly trying time.

 

wouldn't the escorts on the board agree?

gcursor

 

Thanks for the comments. I understand the just make the best of it approach, and I will try, but it sucks. If I was just given some notice I might have been able to re-schedule my trip or make other arrangements-- I think that's the most frustrating part. I really do NOT want to go on this trip alone and would never have scheduled it. I have had so much bad crap going on in my life (problems at work, a close relative having a massive stroke, etc.-- this vacation was so important to me and my sanity-- and now I just dread it). As an introvert, its unlikely I could 'pull off' what Nate suggested let alone even get myself to talk to a 'stranger'. I might try and schedule some time with a local, but technically, the appointment is still a couple of days away and maybe the escort will show up and maybe he won't. I guess I have to wait at the airport just in case he does-- and not try to make any alternate arrangements until I see that he doesn't get off the plane.

 

I hope you all wind up having better experiences then I did. Yes, I probably would have been disappointed to get a cancellation email or phone call, but it sure would have beaten this!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I made a weekend appointment with a well reviewed and highly recommended escort from this website. This included booking non-refundable air, hotel etc for both me and the escort. About 2 weeks ago, I sent a polite confirmation email and didn't hear anything. 1 week ago I sent another confirmation email and didn't hear anything. Today I called and his number has been disconnected.

 

Although I'm probably sounding a little Pollyanna-like, if he is a well-reviewed escort; there may be good chances he reads the forum even if he doesn't post. In case he does, check your PM as he might recognize your message and drop you a line, even if it is an apology about a no show.

[jackboy48]

Put down your knitting, your book and your broom,

it's time for a holiday!

Life is a cabaret old chum,

Come to the cabaret.

 

Dear down_to_business,

I think deej, purplekow, and the others have the right idea. I'd just chalk this up as another life lesson and go on my trip alone. I find it very refreshing just to be out of town, and I find most hotel dining rooms to be very accommodating. I've even gone to a neighboring hotel if it was more upscale, and you can get a very nice glass of wine these days without being responsible for a whole bottle. I have no idea where you're headed, but there's always shopping, everywhere! And, you'll have so much more spending money! On the other hand, just recently I had a sudden change of heart just as I was packing for a weekend getaway. The airline charged me a fee and gave me a credit for the balance, the hotel chain was not so understanding, but suggested I call the hotel directly, and they forgave all my charges with no difficulties. I would definitely not go to the airport looking for him. If he shows up, he can call you. Besides, would you really be comfortable with someone you can't trust? We all loose our cell phones, and our computers get sick, but there is always a way to connect. You'd think that this is his business, and he should have been reaching out to you for a confirmation, no matter what his current problems might be.

Take care, Jack

[Poolboy21409]

This really sucks for you. Being stood up for an in town date is bad enough but this is top notch crap.

1. After the scheduled event, if he doesn't show, I urge you to do an official review or a no-show review (whatever that is). To many review are all love and kisses here and if he is reviewed before he needs to be reviewed again and EXPOSED. I think too many of us don't do reviews of so-so experiences because we may feel that it reflects on us not being good "client partners".

2. Go on the trip but don't try to replicate the escort experience unless the location provides you with a good selection.

3. If you do hire at the trip location, don't let your new hire know about the no-show and how you fell. Don't be on the rebound. This new hire may be ten times better than the no-show.

4. We all get stood up from time to time. Financially this sucks but don't blame yourself.

 

Good luck and by all means expose the asshole unless there is a really good reason for his disappearance - like death or severe illness or incarceration.

 

PB

[ChiTown]

dtb . . . There is some very good advice here. I hope that your situation will somehow be resolved and has a happy ending for you, best of luck!

[down_to_business]

IMPORTANT UPDATE

 

Firstly, thanks to all for the advice and support and encouragement and suggestions. A special thanks to Tyger for his amazing kindness.

 

The escort in question finally contacted me today and we had a good private conversation. The highlight is, he assured me he was going to arrive as scheduled. While I admit the suspense of 'not knowing' what the hell was going on was driving me absolutely nuts-- I have put aside the whole negative aspect and I am going to do nothing but enjoy my vacation and my time with this man.

 

Once again, thank you all.

[gcursor]

Yay!

 

ALL RIGHT! Another happy person in the world! This is SO cool!

Gcursor

 

IMPORTANT UPDATE

 

Firstly, thanks to all for the advice and support and encouragement and suggestions. A special thanks to Tyger for his amazing kindness.

 

The escort in question finally contacted me today and we had a good private conversation. The highlight is, he assured me he was going to arrive as scheduled. While I admit the suspense of 'not knowing' what the hell was going on was driving me absolutely nuts-- I have put aside the whole negative aspect and I am going to do nothing but enjoy my vacation and my time with this man.

 

Once again, thank you all.

[seeker630]

IMPORTANT UPDATE

 

Firstly, thanks to all for the advice and support and encouragement and suggestions. A special thanks to Tyger for his amazing kindness.

 

The escort in question finally contacted me today and we had a good private conversation. The highlight is, he assured me he was going to arrive as scheduled. While I admit the suspense of 'not knowing' what the hell was going on was driving me absolutely nuts-- I have put aside the whole negative aspect and I am going to do nothing but enjoy my vacation and my time with this man.

 

Once again, thank you all.

 

That's great news, and I hope you have a fantastic vacation!

[ChiTown]

dtb . . . That's great news! I'm glad to hear that all is working out as planned for you. I really hope that the two of you have an amazing trip together!

[NYTomcat]

I have been watching with baited breathe hoping he might just be on a long hire and unable to get free to contact you... Congrats DTE and have a wonderful time

[Diverdan]

I hope it all works out and that you have a wonderful time! Let us know how it goes after the trip.

[joeyboy107]

So sad to hear about your predicament!

I agree with some of the comments already made; go and enjoy your vacation! Maybe try and find another escort last minute? I'm sure many would be willing if you could find the right one for you!

[down_to_business]

Final Update

 

Escort showed up and at least met expectations. He was not a rip-off, but I only had an average experience. Learned lesson, moved on!

 

Once again thanks for the advice and support.

[cany10011]

Looking forward to the blow by blow details!

 

 

Final Update

 

Escort showed up and at least met expectations. He was not a rip-off, but I only had an average experience. Learned lesson, moved on!

 

Once again thanks for the advice and support.

[joeyboy107]

Glad to hear it worked out alright in the end!

[Diverdan]

Glad to know that it worked out, even if it was not a mind blowing experience. I do hope that you will write a review after all you have been through.

[+ Gar1eth]

In the old days--if possible--I tried to book escorts on Southwest Airlines because unlike the legacy airlines the buyer could cancel the ticket--and even if unable to get the money back--the credit would be under your name and not the escorts. I know that sometime over the last year Southwest changed it's policies--so that a canceled ticket could only be re-issued in the name of the person on the original ticket. But has anyone bought the class of ticket on Southwest that enables a refund since the new rule went into effect? If you cancel the ticket--does the refund go to the person whose name is on the ticket or the buyer?

 

Gman