What / When is considered loss of virginity for a gay man?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

I would say that a gay man has lost his virginity the first time he either feels elation or shame at the time of  a physical encounter with another man.  

According to this definition, then I lost my virginity at the age of 9 when I felt elated that an older man briefly rubbed my shoulder to comfort me.  I craved to be touched on the shoulder again each week when I saw him, but he never did it again 😢 

Edited 17 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Well said. 

I still passionately remember my first time for each of those events described, and a few more!   Each first feels like popping a cherry 🍒.

My virginity was lost in a different order:  lots of groping 1, getting blown 2, fucking ass 3, blowing others 4, kissing 5, getting fucked 6, three-way 7, double penetration 8, orgy 9, being filmed 10, sex in the ocean 11, sex on the public deck of a cruise ship 12, watersports 13, bukkake 14, taking a penis with a Prince Albert 15, taking foot-long 16, saying "I love you" during sex 17, sitting on a rim chair 18,  poppers 19, getting fucked by my first HUGE cock (length and girth) 20,  my second hole reached by someone's tongue 21, taking four fingers at once 22, sex on the roof of a NYC apartment building during the day 23, successfully deepthroating my first HUGE cock 24, getting fisted (still working up to that one 🥳)

Because my list is a work in progress, I'm still a virgin in many areas. 😇 

Your journey is an inspiration for us all 

[Wings246]

3 hours ago, purplekow said:

I would say that a gay man has lost his virginity the first time he either feels elation or shame at the time of  a physical encounter with another man.

Elation: YES YES YES      Shame: NO      Ejaculation: YES YES YES YES YES YES

[Wings246]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I still passionately remember my first time for each of those events described, and a few more!   Each first feels like popping a cherry 🍒.

My virginity was lost in a different order:  lots of groping 1, getting blown 2, fucking ass 3, blowing others 4, kissing 5, getting fucked 6, three-way 7, double penetration 8, orgy 9, being filmed 10, sex in the ocean 11, sex on the public deck of a cruise ship 12, watersports 13, bukkake 14, taking a penis with a Prince Albert 15, taking foot-long 16, saying "I love you" during sex 17, sitting on a rim chair 18,  poppers 19, getting fucked by my first HUGE cock (length and girth) 20,  my second hole reached by someone's tongue 21, taking four fingers at once 22, sex on the roof of a NYC apartment building during the day 23, successfully deepthroating my first HUGE cock 24, getting fisted (still working up to that one 🥳)

Because my list is a work in progress, I'm still a virgin in many areas.

Wow, this Odyssey needs to be made into a motion picture.  I can tell it's Oscar worthy material just by reading it.

[jeezifonly]

The first time he can recite word-for word a full scene from The Golden Girls. 

[keefer]

8 hours ago, Wings246 said:

Wow, this Odyssey needs to be made into a motion picture.  I can tell it's Oscar worthy material just by reading it.

[Warning :: NY Sardonic Humour 😁 ]

Unfortunately I've put some thought into this, and though I have some thoughts on the screenplay I'm struggling due to lack of crucial details...

Did those events happen over a lifetime or does that reflect a normal weekend in LA?  Would we need Bridgerton-like blushing virgins, or someone capable of handling the rigours of filming, and, virgins - it's not like there are many left...  And if this was just a weekend in LA,  are we able to find a director capable of filming the three hour sequence in a single take?  

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

On 8/4/2026 at 8:25 PM, marylander1940 said:

Penetration as a top or a bottom. 

By that standard, sides remain virgins.

my view, building on @Vegas_Millennial’s joke is that it means different things for different people depending on culture and upbringing. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

14 minutes ago, PhileasFogg said:

...building on @Vegas_Millennial’s joke is that it means different things for different people... 

I can't take sole credit.  He was the entire country's joke at the time. 😊 

[BaronArtz]

On 8/4/2026 at 9:24 PM, TonyDown said:

 

From old French, virgine meant

 pure, fresh, and untouched maiden.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In modern French, 'vierge' is the term for a virgin.

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I can't take sole credit.  He was the entire country's joke at the time. 😊 

And don’t we ALL long for the good old days when all we wanted to do was debate the meaning of the word “is” 🤣😉

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 8/4/2026 at 4:31 PM, Wings246 said:

But for gay men, when or after what action(s) would you define that virginity is lost? 

If one has to ask, then one isn't doing it right 😉