Men are not becoming more queer. But women are.

[Charlington]

https://theconversation.com/young-women-are-identifying-as-less-straight-young-men-not-so-much-283936?utm_medium=article_clipboard_share&utm_source=theconversation.com
 

It makes sense since many young female celebs who come out as bi, pan, or queer, still end up dating and marrying men. While with men it seems we’re pretty much hardwired one way or the other, gay or straight. Not to discredit or say bisexuality/pansexuality doesn’t exist with men. But bi/pansexual labels are definitely more common with women.

[marylander1940]

[Lotus-eater]

Their study relies on a biased sample. It "examined 15 years of responses from more than 10,000 public university undergraduates in New York state between 2011 and 2026." College students in New York is not a good sample of NY let alone the U.S. Also, the hotbed of gender/queer studies is academia and females are more susceptible to social contagion, so it's not surprising that females (less hardwired and more susceptible to social contagion) are more likely to label themselves that way than males. 

[+ sniper]

Judging by the number of married-to-women men playing in damn near every steamroom I have ever been in, I just don't believe there are more actually  bisexual  women. Just more are coming out because it's less of a hindrance in finding an opposite sex life partner. Reproductive reality is a big thumb on the scale of the sex you choose for a spouse if you want kids. And it's a bigger thumb on the scale for men because when the missing ingredient is  a teaspoon of semen,  that's a whole lot easier to get than an egg, a uterus and nine months from the woman that uterus belongs to.

[BSR]

10 hours ago, Lotus-eater said:

Their study relies on a biased sample. It "examined 15 years of responses from more than 10,000 public university undergraduates in New York state between 2011 and 2026." College students in New York is not a good sample of NY let alone the U.S. Also, the hotbed of gender/queer studies is academia and females are more susceptible to social contagion, so it's not surprising that females (less hardwired and more susceptible to social contagion) are more likely to label themselves that way than males. 

A friend of mine went to Mt. Holyoke, said there were a sh!t-ton of 4-year lesbians.  Plenty had girlfriends during undergrad but never looked back after graduation.

[Luv2play]

On 7/10/2026 at 8:04 AM, BSR said:

A friend of mine went to Mt. Holyoke, said there were a sh!t-ton of 4-year lesbians.  Plenty had girlfriends during undergrad but never looked back after graduation.

That recalls the expression “when I’m not near the one I love, I love the one I’m near”.

[Peter Eater]

On 7/9/2026 at 6:34 PM, Lotus-eater said:

females are more susceptible to social contagion

And men are more susceptible to misogyny, I guess.

Maybe that also explains why “women are becoming more queer.”

[EZEtoGRU]

Women crave emotional intimacy and that is easier to find with other women than with men. 
 

Also, lesbian sex just seems really boring. Years ago when I lived in Miami, I had a lesbian acquaintance and we were talking about sex. She said she was a committed lesbian (and she looked very butch) but that she needed to be fucked by a man every once in a while.   She didn’t seek a romantic relationship with a man…just a good powerful fucking  

It seems many women are in a tug of war between the need for emotional connection they can achieve with another women versus the sexual power they get with men. That is my theory of why more women than men claim to be bisexual. 

[Nue2thegame]

11 hours ago, EZEtoGRU said:

Women crave emotional intimacy and that is easier to find with other women than with men. 
 

Also, lesbian sex just seems really boring. Years ago when I lived in Miami, I had a lesbian acquaintance and we were talking about sex. She said she was a committed lesbian (and she looked very butch) but that she needed to be fucked by a man every once in a while.   She didn’t seek a romantic relationship with a man…just a good powerful fucking  

It seems many women are in a tug of war between the need for emotional connection they can achieve with another women versus the sexual power they get with men. That is my theory of why more women than men claim to be bisexual. 

Not likely to be a well received admission here but I’ve served as a human dildo for some at an earlier age. Wasn’t a bad gig at the time.