Reqs for a first timer in NYC?

[ExploringFirst]

I’m looking for a provider who would be good with first timers, I’ve been wanting to experiment with men for a while now but I get very nervous on the apps about my inexperience given my age 31.

looking for someone who is experienced, and has a warm, calming, confident demeanor. EQ and physical attraction probably my priorities. I would love if they could… teach me? Primarily looking to give oral/be a bottom but verse would be a plus.

Not sure if I should be nervous about size either... how big is too big?? But hoping to create a positive memory to help me in the future.

can anyone recommend who would be a good fit (and maybe some expectations around rate…)

appreciate any advice!

[56harrisond]

Some providers mentioned in this thread might be what you're looking for 

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

5 hours ago, ExploringFirst said:

I’m looking for a provider who would be good with first timers, I’ve been wanting to experiment with men for a while now but I get very nervous on the apps about my inexperience given my age 31.

looking for someone who is experienced, and has a warm, calming, confident demeanor. EQ and physical attraction probably my priorities. I would love if they could… teach me? Primarily looking to give oral/be a bottom but verse would be a plus.

Not sure if I should be nervous about size either... how big is too big?? But hoping to create a positive memory to help me in the future.

can anyone recommend who would be a good fit (and maybe some expectations around rate…)

appreciate any advice!

 

welcome to the forum!

[+ azdr0710]

read thru all these threads.....good advice for newbies......

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

be to-the-point, brief, professional in communication......no gushy daily texts!......smile, have fun, talk slowly, ask him what he likes, no money talk, look him in the eye, firm handshake....... no deposit!!

[DMonDude]

If you haven't been with men yet and plan to bottom, in addition to what others have recommended for you. I also recommend you look up some youtube videos on how to "clean out" or douche. So bottoming will be a clean experience for you and the provider you hire. And in my personal opinion and in my personal experience (everyone is different though). Size/"too big" is more about if the guy knows how to use his dick and if he knows how to do foreplay and "open up" a bottom more than it is about the specific length or girth. So i think the most important thing to do is, who ever you pick, tell him you are a new bottom and need to be opened up. If he's experienced, he'll know what that means and know how to handle you and you'll be able to handle most dicks fine.

As far as recommendations go. I personally love recommending this NY guy: https://rent.men/BenjaminMilliano (unfortunately the only NY rec i have cause i'm not based there, he just visits my city sometimes).

He can range from handling first timers gently and with care to being super dominant/aggressive and abuse your throat/hole with people who can handle that and request that from him, and everything in between. He was one of the first big dicks i had and i explained i hadn't had one that big before and i needed him to guide me through it and make sure i could handle his size first before he turned up the heat. And he did that expertly and took me from 0-100, from one finger inserted to balls deep pounding me through the mattress 😆.

He's definitely confident and knows what he's capable of giving, has a very manly calmly commanding presence (really nice if you like to be told what to do), but he's also very chill. Can also be very sweet and flirty. One of the recent reviews on his profile says "he makes you feel like his bitch and his princess at the same time" and i would second that. He doesn't rush the session/clock watch and is very generous with his time in my experiences with him. He is exclusively and strictly a top though, he will not be verse/bottom for you and he does not give oral or kiss.

So that's something to consider. For some clients, no kissing is an absolute deal breaker when they are hiring providers because they need the intimacy aspect. For others, sometimes maybe they want an experience where they just get their holes used by another man or to engage in specific fetishes. This guy is a bit more the latter type of experience. If any of that is what you mean be "EQ and physical attraction".

Pricing wise, NY/big city guys will probably charge you 300-400 per hour depending on what you ask for. The guy i recommended is more expensive than the normal range, first time i met him was 500 first hour, 400 second hour. But every time I've seen him he spends a lot of extra time with me after the session to hang out, i got enough extra rounds of action and extra time with him that even the 900 for 2 hours we initially agreed to felt like a deal. So i personally really feel he's worth the higher fee.

Edited yesterday at 03:59 AM by DMonDude

[Becket]

Indeed,  don't worry too much about size. Much more important is that the fellow who is the top knows what he's doing.

[ExploringFirst]

A lot of great advice and a few DMs. Appreciate the responses. 

[DznNYC]

Not to respond to this post with an advertisement, but… 😏 

I recommend myself!  

In all seriousness though, posting here is a great move.  There’s a lot of us out there who lead with empathy and really do know how to create a private safe space to explore.  And the firsthand experience of guys with similar experiences is a great way to start getting recommendations.

I’d also say… when you start talking to providers, be upfront about your situation and what you’re looking for.  And pay close attention to how they respond.  Many providers out there have this specific interest and have actual experience in this department.  Being someone’s first is a responsibility and a privilege.  So take note when talking to a provider that they show signs of  understanding that.  

I’d caution against a results oriented mindset, especially if you’re looking to bottom.  Don’t go in with a plan for how much dick you expect to take and how hard you want to take it.  Trust that your first time out will be whatever it’s meant to be.   Let the chemistry guide you.   That in mind, don’t go cock shopping, and don't get hung up on the size of your provider.  It’s counter intuitive, but sometimes larger ones can be easier in their own way.   Smaller ones have their challenges too.  Sensible to avoid the 9"+ club, I get that.  But otherwise, providers on the larger side have been forced to acquire some skills in that department, and have had to learn to use their cocks with a certain care in order to make it happen.  

And the post above...  Yes, don't forget to take some time to learn your body and how to prep.    I know it’s a hurdle for a lot of new bottoms, but we all had to learn it at some point.  It's the most basic act of respect for your provider, an actual necessity.  But it's not just for your provider.   You'll be able to enjoy the experience so much more without having to worry about that aspect.

Good luck!  You've got so many amazing discoveries ahead of you!

[BananaBagel]

You’re getting some great advice here. 
 

I’d  that Matt (MattHngNYC) would be a great first time especially if you need a guy who can host. 
 

https://rentmen.eu/MattHngNYC