I've Had (I'm Assuming) More Sex Partners Than My Brother

[+ Gar1eth]

Or my sister for that matter. It's such a strange concept to me when I think about the fact that i've only been having sex for 24 years.  
 

What prompted this?  This reel just popped up on Instagram. 
 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUjMA97kW_e/?igsh=MWQ2NjNsZHMxbmU2Yg==

[MaybeMaybeNot]

I come from a very conservative background. Most people don't even know I am gay. If they knew how many sexual partners I've had, they would be 🤯. I am pretty conservative compared to many gay guys (and probably compared to everyone here), but I would still surprise them.

Edited Monday at 05:50 AM by MaybeMaybeNot

[+ ApexNomad]

3 hours ago, MaybeMaybeNot said:

I come from a very conservative background. Most people don't even know I am gay. If they knew how many sexual partners I've had, they would be 🤯. I am pretty conservative compared to many gay guys (and probably compared to everyone here), but I would still surprise them.

I can’t tell from your comment whether you mean you’ve had a lot of partners or just a few, but either way, it doesn’t matter. Like most things in life, it’s just a number. I have gay (and straight) friends whose partner count fits on one hand, and others you’d need a spreadsheet. 

[Nightowl]

Until a few years ago, my scoresheet was pretty dismal.  Once I discovered the joys of my fellow men, my numbers have increased significantly.  If I knew then what I know now, I probably would have become a provider.

[+ Just Chuck]

On 4/20/2026 at 2:41 AM, ApexNomad said:

I can’t tell from your comment whether you mean you’ve had a lot of partners or just a few, but either way, it doesn’t matter. Like most things in life, it’s just a number. I have gay (and straight) friends whose partner count fits on one hand, and others you’d need a spreadsheet. 

I literally do have a spreadsheet!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 4/19/2026 at 10:48 PM, MaybeMaybeNot said:

I come from a very conservative background.

Being a tight ass has its benefits! 😈 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

My brother and I are very close in age to one another. 

He's allegedly had zero sexual partners. 

I proudly admit I've had a few thousand.  I'm doing my part to boost the family average since his number is so low (We all make sacrifices to help our family 😉)

[+ ApexNomad]

3 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

My brother and I are very close in age to one another. 

He's allegedly had zero sexual partners. 

I proudly admit I've had a few thousand.  I'm doing my part to boost the family average since his number is so low (We all make sacrifices to help our family 😉)

Does your brother ever ask for advice? Is sex not of interest to him?

[mike carey]

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I'm doing my part to boost the family average since his number is so low (We all make sacrifices to help our family 😉)

Family helps family™!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

2 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

Does your brother ever ask for advice? Is sex not of interest to him?

My brother is a very closeted man. He claims he's asexual, and that gays are going to hell.  We haven't spoken in 13 years.

Recently, one of his co- workers and I hooked up at a gay men's camping trip.  After we hooked up, the co-worker then looked at my name tag and saw my last name, then asked "Are you related to [my brother's name]?". I replied, "Yes".  His co-worker's response was "When is that boy ever going to come out of the closet?!"

[Peter Eater]

On 4/21/2026 at 3:55 AM, Just Chuck said:

I literally do have a spreadsheet!

My spreadsheet is classic percale.

[+ Gar1eth]

On 4/21/2026 at 5:36 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

Recently, one of his co- workers and I hooked up at a gay men's camping trip.  After we hooked up, the co-worker then looked at my name tag and saw my last name, then asked "Are you related to [my brother's name]?". I replied, "Yes".  His co-worker's response was "When is that boy ever going to come out of the closet?!"

Apparently he is out to some people whether he wants to be or not. 
 

In the spirit of full disclosure since I started this thread,  I probably ought to reveal the number of partners I've had over the last two months or so. 
 

As I recall there have been 3. Let's call them A, B, and C. 
 

A is an 'fbud'. I met him from a 'meet-up/hook-up' website last October.  We've been seeing each other on a semi-routine basis over the last several months. It's been nice. I've only ever had one other fbud relationship. And that was 8 years ago. I wasn't sure I was ever going to be lucky enough to have another one.

 We don't just have sex. We watch TV together and have been out to eat several times. Last night we watched TV,  held hands, and kissed a bit. 
 

B is a 'suckbuddy' that I met off of Growlr about 2 years ago. We finally met about a year ago. We've only met for 'Clintonian' sex. In this scenario (in case anyone is curious), I'm acting the part of Clinton, and he's Ms. Lewinski but in a totally masculine way (hoping that's not TMI).
 

With him, while I wouldn't mind seeing him outside the bedroom, it hasn't happened. We were seeing each other fairly regularly (once a week) for about 6 to 9 months. But due to his schedule/life we've probably only seen each other once or twice over the last three months. The last time I saw him was the last part of March. 
 

C is a one night-possibly a two-night stand (one night now and one long ago). It happened last week as I was leaving a friend's house after having dinner with him and his partner. He lives about 30 miles from me. After I left his house, I started checking the apps because occasionally I've had good luck with the guys in his area. Well, I ended up checking the apps for about two hours. I was finally getting ready to shut them down and go home when this guy texts me on Scruff. 
 

He was kind of cute. So I decided I'd meet him. I get there. Things proceed as they do.  He asked me if we had met before. I told him I didn't think so, but on the other hand, I had met someone in the area most likely before Covid for a one time meeting.  While I didn't remember what that guy looked like, it's possible it was him. But if it was, it was a very unsatisfactory meeting back then. He basically got off and didn't do a lot for helping me. I left "unfulfilled"

And if it was him, history repeated itself. We started  with a Clintonian scenario-again I'm Clinton. He then proceeds to tell me he was drinking all evening before I arrived. Basically he was all 'eff-ed' up. He was developing 'the spins.' As things hadn't really progressed that far,  I put on my clothes and left with neither of us 'fulfilled.'
 

If this was the same guy I met years ago-and just because of circumstances I'm going to assume it is-he now has two strikes against him. I don't plan on giving him an opportunity for a third strike. 
 

And that's my current "like-life."
 

 

Edited Wednesday at 11:17 PM by Gar1eth

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

4 hours ago, Gar1eth said:

A is an 'fbud'...

 We don't just have sex. We watch TV together and have been out to eat several times. Last night we watched TV,  held hands, and kissed a bit. 

That's sounds like more than a fbud.  That's at least a FWB (friend with benefits) 😊 

Edited 20 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[+ Gar1eth]

5 hours ago, Gar1eth said:

A is an 'fbud'. I met him from a 'meet-up/hook-up' website last October.  We've been seeing each other on a semi-routine basis over the last several months. It's been nice. I've only ever had one other fbud relationship. And that was 8 years ago. I wasn't sure I was ever going to be lucky enough to have another one.

 

 

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

That's sounds like more than a fbud.  That's at least FWB (friends with benefits) 😊

You are definitely correct. I misspoke... errr mis-wrote. We are. We've even met each other's mothers. And I, somewhat inadvertently, last Saturday (including his mother) met about 10 people of his extended family.
 

His mother came in to town last week. And he invited me to meet her and go out to eat with them.  Well unbeknownst to either A or myself, it was a surprise party for his birthday at the restaurant. What happened was- he let his mother and me out before parking the car. His mother says-we're having a surprise party for A-and walls into the restaurant to look for their party. I wait outside for A. I tell him his mother went inside to get a table. We walk in, and he sees his family. It was a bit awkward-just because I wasn't expecting a family party. But I managed to behave myself. 
 

I'll even say more about this. First background-my immediate family (Mom, sibs and sibs's significant others.) are accepting although I've never had a boyfriend before. I don't know if that would cause any stress (I have a very conservative niece-in-law who is a lovely person. But I'm not sure if I ever had a boyfriend if he'd be welcome at my nephew and niece's house). I have no idea what my nieces and nephew or my cousins know about me. 
 

His mother knows he's gay. But she's from a smaller town. And has lived in small towns most of her life. She would rather not think about the fact that A is gay. 
 

A and his mother had a contentious phone call weeks ago about him being gay. And my name came up -and the fact that we were 'making the beast with two backs.'  (My euphemism not his). 
 

So his less accepting mother knows about us. But  I didnt tell my more accepting mother about us although  Mom is pretty bright. I'm sure she suspects.
 

But *this is the first time I've ever introduced anyone I was having sex with to my family. So a big milestone for me at 65 when it probably happens for most people somewhere between 16 and their early 20's. 

* Eight years ago I had something probably between an fbud and friend with benefits. It actually was more of a friend with benefits now that I think about it. I would have gladly introduced him to my family, but this was when I was in Washington state. And none of my family was around. I definitely wouldn't have been able to introduce him as more than a friend as he was married (to a man). But they were open (I had seen his husband's profile on a hook-up app-so I know they were).  In fact I'm not sure if they were much more than roommates at that point as they ended up getting a divorce after I moved back to Texas. 

Edited 20 hours ago by Gar1eth

[LookingAround]

On 4/20/2026 at 1:48 AM, MaybeMaybeNot said:

I come from a very conservative background. Most people don't even know I am gay. If they knew how many sexual partners I've had, they would be 🤯. I am pretty conservative compared to many gay guys (and probably compared to everyone here), but I would still surprise them.

Maybe if you knew how many sexual partners your friends/colleagues have had you'd be even more shocked. 

[Peter Eater]

9 hours ago, Gar1eth said:

We've even met each other's mothers.

If you’ve met his mother and family, you are dating. 👏

[+ Gar1eth]

15 hours ago, Gar1eth said:

We've even met each other's mothers

 

6 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

If you’ve met his mother and family, you are dating. 👏

I wouldn't call it dating quite yet. 

[theplayerking]

“Nobody knows anybody. Not that well.” 

Miller’s Crossing

[Nightowl]

56 minutes ago, theplayerking said:

“Nobody knows anybody. Not that well.” 

Miller’s Crossing

Ain’t it the truth.  We could start a whole new thread here on CoM asking guys to post about things they’ve done (or want to do) that would surprise/horrify/arouse/enrage people if they ever found out….

[CuriousByNature]

@Gar1eth just don't ever forget to type that first 'n' in 'Clintonian' - otherwise you'll be referencing a completely different sexual experience.

[mike carey]

34 minutes ago, CuriousByNature said:

@Gar1eth just don't ever forget to type that first 'n' in 'Clintonian' - otherwise you'll be referencing a completely different sexual experience.

I could be wrong, but perhaps not one typically well-regarded in these parts.

[CuriousByNature]

5 minutes ago, mike carey said:

I could be wrong, but perhaps not one typically well-regarded in these parts.

Even though there are so many posts about beavers in the 'Cute Critters' thread.

 

[mike carey]

I'm sure there would also be some reference to an ennobled Canadian press magnate.

[BigDMike]

1 hour ago, Nightowl said:

Ain’t it the truth.  We could start a whole new thread here on CoM asking guys to post about things they’ve done (or want to do) that would surprise/horrify/arouse/enrage people if they ever found out….

Oh there you go....I've racked up a few stories...