A (I'm Presuming) Former Escort Contacted Me ...

[+ Gar1eth]

Thru A Hook-Up App!!!

How do I know the guy was (?is) an escort?  I hired him at least twice -possibly three or 4 times-around 20 years ago. One 'meeting' was either an overnight or a weekend. 
 

On one hand, I'm vaguely miffed that he doesn't remember. On the other hand, I realize it was around 20 years ago-not too mention that I'm sure he met a lot of people back then. Plus maybe my profile called out to him because something seemed vaguely familiar. 
 

(I remember being miffed at around age 16 when eating out one day with a bunch of high school acquaintances, and the dentist I had gone to since I was 6 years old walked into the restaurant. He said hello to one of my dining companions who was the daughter of a dentist. I went home that day, and told my Mother I couldn't believe he didn't say anything to me. My Mother explained to me that people look different out of the office. Is this not so, @purplekow? So with this in mind, I'll keep charitable thoughts for  the (? former/present) escort. )
 

One thing that does make me feel better-apparently he's into us "full-figured" guys. At least he is now. And hopefully that was true 20 years ago. Back then I was obese -but not too far away from just being classified as 'overweight'. These days I'd be classified most likely as morbidly obese. 
 

He's aged too in the intervening years. But he still looks great-if more mature. 
 

I'd really like to see him. But I doubt I will. He lives about an hour too far away from me-esp as my car is a junker. Also I can't host at all-and he said he could only host sometimes. Even if another star arose in the East, and we did manage to meet. I doubt I'd tell him about our prior relationship-at least not at first. 
 

Still even if it was only a 'drive-by' remark on a profile that momentarily caught his eye, it was a definite shot in the arm for my self-esteem. And it did bring back pleasant memories. I had always wondered what had happened to him. 

Edited Monday at 07:15 AM by Gar1eth

[+ purplekow]

I think running into acquaintances at unexpected locations can be challenging.  You have the vague notion that you know the person, or you are sure you know them but are not sure from where.  I would often run into patients in the grocery store or at the movies or at a restaurant and I was sure they were a patient but could not place their name.  Oddly, I would often remember many details about them, either their medical conditions or their relatives without being able to recall the name.  

Yet, if they did come to the office, I would immediately recall who they were just by the name and in those situations, I could remember just about all of their medical issues and most of their history.  

Memory is a very complex function but once triggered, other connected memories are easily accessed.  

Just the other day, I went to the gym in the morning.  I am usually an afternoon guy.  A very attractive man said hello to me and when I seemed perplexed, he asked if I remember him.  Well, for the life of me, I could not recall his name, but I did recall our conversation details and was able to tell him, sure I do, you and your partner moved here about a month after I did and we struck up a conversation when I remarked about your Nebraska sweat shirt.  You were quite cordial and we were having a nice conversation but your partner was not happy about something and he insisted that you needed to leave.  He said, he was surprised I remembered all thar from our single visit.  He was leaving the locker room when I was entering and he waved goodbye and said it was nice to see me again.  I still do not know his name, nor can I recall his face but I am sure I would recall all this if I met him again.   His name, nope still do not recall.  

[+ purplekow]

Marilu Henner of Taxi fame and also Evening Shade with Burt Reynolds, is one of a small number of people who are able to recall every detail of their life in vivid detail down to the date, what the other people were wearing and what was said.  Now I first learned of this when she was on a talk show and she told the interviewer this.  The interviewer picked out a random date and she was embarrassed and then related that was the date she lost her virginity.  The would be a memorable date for most and in this case more so as the date was July 20 1969.  I have very vivid memories of that date as it was the date of the first moon landing (for those who believe that we did actually land on the moon).  So I was not particularly impressed.  Several years later, she was interviewed on 60 minutes and related that from that interview, she was contacted by about 5 people who had the same ability and together they were being studied at a major university.   

It is clear known that the strength of a memory is related somewhat to adrenalin and dopamine and that is why particularly emotional events are remembered very vividly.  Most of us of a certain age can recall where we were on 9/11 or, if you are of a certain age,  on November 23 1963 and many of the details surrounding it.   Yet few can recall what we did on 9/10 or November 19, 1963.  

[+ FrankR]

3 hours ago, Gar1eth said:

Thru A Hook-Up App!!!

How do I know the guy was (?is) an escort?  I hired him at least twice -possibly three or 4 times-around 20 years ago. One 'meeting' was either an overnight or a weekend. 
 

On one hand, I'm vaguely miffed that he doesn't remember. On the other hand, I realize it was around 20 years ago-not too mention that I'm sure he met a lot of people back then. Plus maybe my profile called out to him because something seemed vaguely familiar. 
 

(I remember being miffed at around age 16 when eating out one day with a bunch of high school acquaintances, and the dentist I had gone to since I was 6 years old walked into the restaurant. He said hello to one of my dining companions who was the daughter of a dentist. I went home that day, and told my Mother I couldn't believe he didn't say anything to me. My Mother explained to me that people look different out of the office. Is this not so, @purplekow? So with this in mind, I'll keep charitable thoughts for  the (? former/present) escort. )
 

One thing that does make me feel better-apparently he's into us "full-figured" guys. At least he is now. And hopefully that was true 20 years ago. Back then I was obese -but not too far away from just being classified as 'overweight'. These days I'd be classified most likely as morbidly obese. 
 

He's aged too in the intervening years. But he still looks great-if more mature. 
 

I'd really like to see him. But I doubt I will. He lives about an hour too far away from me-esp as my car is a junker. Also I can't host at all-and he said he could only host sometimes. Even if another star arose in the East, and we did manage to meet. I doubt I'd tell him about our prior relationship-at least not at first. 
 

Still even if it was only a 'drive-by' remark on a profile that momentarily caught his eye, it was a definite shot in the arm for my self-esteem. And it did bring back pleasant memories. I had always wondered what had happened to him. 

I am terrible with faces and names. Every time I go back to my home town I run into people who recognize me but I have no idea who they are. It can be awkward as hell.  And sometimes it leads to a pleasant memory! 

[ShortCutie7]

I am HORRENDOUS at recognizing people out of context- I have had full conversations with people while having no idea who they were… usually I can at least figure out how/where I know someone from after a few minutes, but I usually never figure out their name. And they ALWAYS look familiar but I can’t place them.

In Gareth’s situation, just think of how many men this escort must have been with in the last 20 years. I haven’t been with even a fraction of the amount of guys he has but don’t think I’d be able to pick every guy I’ve hooked up with out of a lineup.

[Luv2play]

On 3/30/2026 at 6:37 AM, purplekow said:

Marilu Henner of Taxi fame and also Evening Shade with Burt Reynolds, is one of a small number of people who are able to recall every detail of their life in vivid detail down to the date, what the other people were wearing and what was said.  Now I first learned of this when she was on a talk show and she told the interviewer this.  The interviewer picked out a random date and she was embarrassed and then related that was the date she lost her virginity.  The would be a memorable date for most and in this case more so as the date was July 20 1969.  I have very vivid memories of that date as it was the date of the first moon landing (for those who believe that we did actually land on the moon).  So I was not particularly impressed.  Several years later, she was interviewed on 60 minutes and related that from that interview, she was contacted by about 5 people who had the same ability and together they were being studied at a major university.   

It is clear known that the strength of a memory is related somewhat to adrenalin and dopamine and that is why particularly emotional events are remembered very vividly.  Most of us of a certain age can recall where we were on 9/11 or, if you are of a certain age,  on November 23 1963 and many of the details surrounding it.   Yet few can recall what we did on 9/10 or November 19, 1963.  

It was November 22, not 23. I remember exactly where I was that afternoon of the 22nd. I don’t recall the next day except everyone was glued to their television. 

[+ Charlie]

I used to be known for my memory of people and names. I used to be a college professor, and my colleagues marveled that after the first day of class I could remember every new student by name. Now I meet neighbors I've known for years on the street, and I can't remember their names. I find my loss of memory of names--people, places, products, etc.--extremely unnerving. I'm wondering if it's time to consult my partner's Alzheimer's doctor--if I can remember his name🤔.

[Nue2thegame]

Some of us of a certain age here do notice changes in our recall but it’s usually just part of normal ageing. Alzheimer’s and other dementias differ in that they’re typically associated with more profound memory lapses, especially short-term memory. Also, disorientation, e,g. getting lost in a previously familiar neighborhoods, losing things in strange places (car keys left in the refrigerator), volatile mood swings (anger and depression) and instances of bad judgment. Most of us who actually worry about this are not at high risk but it is quite prevalent. 

[CuriousByNature]

30 minutes ago, Charlie said:

I used to be known for my memory of people and names. I used to be a college professor, and my colleagues marveled that after the first day of class I could remember every new student by name. Now I meet neighbors I've known for years on the street, and I can't remember their names. I find my loss of memory of names--people, places, products, etc.--extremely unnerving. I'm wondering if it's time to consult my partner's Alzheimer's doctor--if I can remember his name🤔.

Maybe some blood work that checks all of your vitamin levels and thyroid production might be a place to start.  Hopefully this is just a transient issue.  I've heard it's also not uncommon for our recall to diminish when we retire.  It's like a part of our brain that was hyper-focused on details decides to go on a vacation.

[+ Charlie]

2 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Maybe some blood work that checks all of your vitamin levels and thyroid production might be a place to start.  Hopefully this is just a transient issue.  I've heard it's also not uncommon for our recall to diminish when we retire.  It's like a part of our brain that was hyper-focused on details decides to go on a vacation.

I realize that you are trying to be reassuring, but in fact I retired more than two decades ago, so I don't think my obvious memory lapses are a minor transient issue for me. I also spent several years caring for a spouse who had Alzheimer's, so I am pretty familiar with the disease's effects.

[+ purplekow]

7 hours ago, Luv2play said:

It was November 22, not 23. I remember exactly where I was that afternoon of the 22nd. I don’t recall the next day except everyone was glued to their television. 

Typo or not a very intense memory?