Include nipples in the massage time?

[JMatt]

Should this be an expectation, or is it OK to ask?  Not all masseurs may be aware of a client wanting this.  

[Mark_fl]

5 minutes ago, JMatt said:

Should this be an expectation, or is it OK to ask?  Not all masseurs may be aware of a client wanting this.  

Should absolutely ask for what you want. Mine are very ticklish and I don't want them touched until I'm ready to finish,  and then it will bring me over the edge. Even them I don't want them touched until I want to finish.

[+ poolboy48220]

Most masseurs I've seen don't include them, different from escorts - some have been very into giving and receiving nipple play. If a masseur did spend any time on them, I'd take it as a good sign that the massage is going to include extras. 

[PileDriver]

definitely a frustration of mine...along with lack of attention to my feet...for massage therapists and escorts...of course ears too...and on and on...

[Rod Hagen]

I think a lot of masseurs don't get massages in spas (cuz they are fucking expensive)  and so are unaware of the growing list of areas skipped routinely in Spa Massages.  A friend took me to Burke Williams regularly when I was young, so when I would do private massages before the escort session, or, grudgingly, stand-alone massages, I was sure to focus on feet, stomach and uncovered butt (maybe ears too), those areas the spas deem too intimate.  Particularly the stomach.

To your question, ask.  It's super frustrating to spend a massage thinking repeatedly, "is he going to do the _____?"

Edited March 24 by Rod Hagen

[+ JamesB]

2 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

I think a lot of masseurs don't get massages in spas (cuz they are fucking expensive)  and so are unaware of the growing list of areas skipped routinely in Spa Massages.  A friend took me to Burke Williams regularly when I was young, so when I would do private massages before the escort session, or, grudgingly, stand-alone massages, I was sure to focus on feet, stomach and uncovered butt (maybe ears too), those areas the spas deem too intimate.  Particularly the stomach.

To your question, ask.  It's super frustrating to spend a massage thinking repeatedly, "is he going to do the _____?"

Now that you mention the stomach, I’ve always found it a bit strange that at a Spa I visit regularly, they avoid touching it during a massage, yet when I get a body scrub, they will scrub the hell out of it. Go figure.

[jeezifonly]

If I differentiate between "massage time" and "play time" it would strike me that nipples themselves are not muscles, and the attention specifically paid to them as I understand it here, falls more under "play". 

 

[+ Jamie21]

For me there’s no delineation between ‘massage time’ and ‘play time’. The massage is play and play is massage: they ebb and flow between each other during the session. That’s a proper sensual massage.

No body part is off limits unless my client has specified it as so. That means nipples are touched, so are the ears, the fingers, toes, that part of your hand where your palm becomes your wrist…the back of your knee…your forehead. Basically every part gets included because I need to know what works and what doesn’t. Everyone is different. 

Regarding the stomach, it’s definitely a part that can feel great if done properly. I work Clockwise around the abdomen (never anticlockwise), and apply firm pressure, rhythmically with the breathing, at each quarter of the hour on a clock face. Spa masseurs wouldn’t do that. 
 

[Whippoorwill]

Some years back, before the internet and RentMasseur or RentMen, a number of friends and I all had a wonderful masseur in the Castro…advertising was by word of mouth. He spent as much time on the frontside as the back. He would very sensually massage the nipples, and then the stomach. This would inevitably give me a hard on. The first time he rather sheepishly and politely asked “Can I touch your cock?” “Mmmm, please do.” After a couple of massages it was “Can I get up on the table with you?” “Mmmm yea baby.” After he got me off he said would always cum. Unfortunately, he’s now out of the business. I am sorry more masseurs don’t appreciate what an erotic zone the stomach can be. 

[CheeseBoy]

I agree with the stomach massage… it can be a great part of a massage, but is usually avoided. I have very sensitive nipples. They feel very good when rubbed, or touched. So I sometimes ask for them not to be touched. More than once, I’ve required extra clean up from nipple rubbing alone.

[Wolfer]

I don't like my nipples touched too much, it gets uncomfortable quickly. So if it's an erotic massage I specify to skip my nipples at the start. In therapeutic and relaxing massages my nipples have never been touched.