Definition of versatile/ bottom or versatile/top?

[+ JEC]

On 3/11/2026 at 7:25 PM, big-n-tall said:

I will also add that sometimes a provider listing as versatile/top may say versatile, but they don’t necessarily mean that they will bottom. You have to talk with them to be sure. Because some will do something typically associated with versatility, like mutual kissing, or mutual oral or mutual rimming, but won’t bottom.

Otherwise, I’m in total agreement with what @DMonDude posted.

You have to talk to them.......I agree.  Many guys on RM will include verse in their profile b/c it catches more clients (shows up in searches).  I've chatted with many "verse/top" who will not bottom.

[nate_sf]

I'm truly versatile, in that I enjoy both topping and bottoming equally. I really love flip-fucking. So for years, I'd listed Versatile in my RM profile, and made a point of mentioning that I'm truly vers and love both.

However, the vast majority of clients want me to top (no complaints there!), so a year or so ago I switched to Vers/Top on my profile. This has more to do with client expectations and desires than what my real preference is, and from what I'm reading here it sounds like other guys have done similar. Comes down to finding a niche and giving the customer what they want.

[Venite]

On 3/11/2026 at 6:57 PM, Veryshyone said:

Does this type of description mean the provider is truly versatile and showing their preference? I know it's all about communication but when searching should a client expect versatile meaning they could experience topping or bottoming?  For me, it's about the initial search of what the provider will provide. It's clear when the provider lists top/bottom/versatile, when combined, it's less clear to me. Just trying to learn here and understand communication of desires is needed, simply ask, and express  what you're looking for. Simply looking for constructive comments or experiences. Really appreciate this forum for insights.

 

I have been surprised by a provider who I assumed was a strict top. His ass is amazing and well, let’s just say I was able to monetarily encourage him to go clean up so I could, as the kids say today, “clap those cheeks”.

 

I never assume providers stated positional preferences are 100% true.

[Brock O]

On 3/12/2026 at 11:18 PM, DznNYC said:

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom.  

The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy.   I love both.  I do both as much as I can.   Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping.  But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. 

The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job.  A very full week for me is four bookings.  So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily.  And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session.  Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that.  Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too.  I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always!  But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys.

Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top.  Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile.

Long story short,  I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is.  And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming.  

Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think.  Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation.  The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!

This thoughtful response is fantastic.  I think this escort may have just won me over as a future client. 

[big-n-tall]

16 hours ago, Brock O said:

This thoughtful response is fantastic.  I think this escort may have just won me over as a future client. 

You can't go wrong with @DznNYC. Really good guy all around.