How much personal real-life information do you share?

[Veryshyone]

For me, it depends on the situation. A regular provider would receive more information about me versus a one and done or traveling provider. I wouldn't provide my address as I always do outcall but do provide my real first name or nickname in all interactions. Always pay cash as well so my full name is not exposed. 

[Delter]

I never share details unless I’m hosting. I use a fake first name, and I also use a second phone for hires.

 

I’ve gotten close with one or two guys in Miami and NYC, and they know my first name. 
 

You don’t want to give a provider any sense that they can try to blackmail you with something. Especially not a provider you’ve just met and who doesn’t have excellent reviews.

[Keenan]

21 hours ago, Wings246 said:

How much personal real-life information do you share with your providers/clients?  And when?

I know anonymity and discretion are the cornerstones of this hobby.  Perhaps I’m too new to all these, too naïve, too foolish, and too trusting too quickly, but I tend to tell my providers everything about myself truthfully the very first time I meet with them.

Most of them know my real name, where I live/work, my real phone number (I don’t have a burner number), and many other personal details of my life.

So far, they all seem to be very decent, upright people.  That's why I’m not too worried about sharing my info with them.  I’m a nobody, small potatoes, your run-of-the-mill peasant.  I keep wondering, “What do I have to lose even if they know my personal info?”  I guess I’m lucky in that I still haven’t been burned…… yet.

Maybe I’m just too careless (or reckless even?)…… should I be more discreet?

I’m interested in learning from your perspectives and experiences.

As a provider I always avoid sharing personal details, especially my real name.  I'm providing a fantasy for my clients as Keenan and when I put on my work outfit and head to a client I am Keenan providing a fantasy for my client.

[Whippoorwill]

When I am at home base, I do a lot of research before meeting. My usuals are in their 30s, foreign born, popular, and personally recommended by others on this board, by other providers I know, and well-reviewed. I figure they have a lot more to lose than I do. I always use my real name, phone number, etc. In a first meeting, I try and model genuineness, honesty, and interest in them as a person. I find they usually respond in kind, and more so, as we have multiple meetings. I have been pleasantly surprised at the personal sharing...name, family, jobs or schools, immigration status, love-life, etc. which increases the level of intimacy for me. It also has given me the opportunity to provide real assistance and advice as an older, experienced, connected person just as they provide youth, energy, currency, and sexual energy to me. When I am traveling and it's going to be a one and done, I still do the research and am genuine, but without the thought of developing a real relationship. 

[+ JamesB]

Information once shared cannot be unshared. Shared information cannot be retrieved, only regretted. Choose wisely.