Provider Cancels on Weekend Getaway at the Last Minute

[d.anders]

On 2/26/2025 at 10:22 AM, maninsoma said:

He only had 36 hours to "decompress."  Poor guy.

Remembering my days in corporate, where I occasionally had to fly overnight to Europe on a Sunday, do business on a Monday morning, fly out by 4 pm, and return to the office on Tuesday morning. I did enjoy the frequent flyer miles, but that's about it. As I got older, those turnovers became more and more painful. I couldn't do it today. I now need a week to recover from a trip overseas.

Given the amount of communication that went on here, I'd be too disappointed to recover.

[marylander1940]

19 hours ago, Archangel said:

I’m of the mind that in most cases, people can make most anything work if they really want. It’s about priorities. Not always. Things happen, but if you’re good at reading a situation, you know if you’re being sold a bill of goods. Sorry this happened to you.

Agreed, "if there's a will there's a way" and we're talking a lot of money and not only for this trips but potentially other trips in the future with the same client. 

[MikeBiDude]

OK, don’t gang up on me but am I the only one thinking maybe the provider had something better pop up? Easier client, more regular client, more generous client, no travel?

[+ ApexNomad]

59 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

OK, don’t gang up on me but am I the only one thinking maybe the provider had something better pop up? Easier client, more regular client, more generous client, no travel?

It’s certainly possible, sure. But even if that were the case, it doesn’t change the fact that he committed to plans, knowing the schedule in advance, and then backed out at the last minute. With a regular client no less. Regardless of the reason, professionalism matters. If he had a change of heart, he should have communicated that well in advance.

[Archangel]

3 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

OK, don’t gang up on me but am I the only one thinking maybe the provider had something better pop up? Easier client, more regular client, more generous client, no travel?

See. That might be the case. But I’m of the mind that a commitment made is something you honor out of respect and courtesy for the person you committed to. Regardless if it’s escorting or plans with friends or whatever. It’s also annoying to me when people won’t commit to plans with me with “I’ll have to see” because it’s right there at the forefront of my mind that they’re holding out for something better and don’t want to have to cancel on me if said something better in fact presents itself. (No need to point out the myriad other reasons they might say that; I’m already aware. I’m speaking of what’s my immediate guttural response to said noncommittal.)

Your commentary reminds me of a line from “The Cremation of Sam McGee”—“Now a promise made is a debt unpaid…”

Edited March 2 by Archangel

[Archangel]

2 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

If he had a change of heart, he should have communicated that well in advance.

People are by and large irresponsible. Blame someone else. Find fault. Ignore. Whatever the case, many people are too lazy, immature, and cowardly to face the confrontational discomfort of breaking a commitment because they recognize it’s not cool. 

[marylander1940]

3 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

OK, don’t gang up on me but am I the only one thinking maybe the provider had something better pop up? Easier client, more regular client, more generous client, no travel?

Makes sense but what are the odds?

[FaustOust]

On 2/26/2025 at 7:32 PM, Oakman said:

I would never hire this person again and I would write a review criticizing them and warning others not to book weekends or fancy dates with them. 

I do plan to stop hiring him, but as far as a critical review, in my relatively short time on this forum I have had backlash for writing a less than stellar report for an escort. That review  was consistent with other reviews posted about this person, even though it was not a terrible review. That provider responded to the posting, messaged me privately, and asked me to remove it. I did do so, just for the sake of peace. I don’t want to do that again publicly, especially as this person might be better known.

[FaustOust]

3 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

OK, don’t gang up on me but am I the only one thinking maybe the provider had something better pop up? Easier client, more regular client, more generous client, no travel?

I think all of that is possible.  By most people’s standards, this would have been a great getaway and we’ve seemed to get along in other encounters, but  I believe he certainly could have bigger fish to fry (or perhaps never really appreciated the potential of the fish he had).  There is always someone richer, better, or more desirable in some way, and perhaps I was just one of his steps up the escorting food chain.

[+ DrownedBoy]

13 hours ago, FaustOust said:

I do plan to stop hiring him, but as far as a critical review, in my relatively short time on this forum I have had backlash for writing a less than stellar report for an escort. That review  was consistent with other reviews posted about this person, even though it was not a terrible review. That provider responded to the posting, messaged me privately, and asked me to remove it. I did do so, just for the sake of peace. I don’t want to do that again publicly, especially as this person might be better known.

And why did you remove it?

In fact, why did you even accept contact with the dumb kid after he pulled that stunt. You should have blocked him immediately.

Most people are irresponsible, yes. So you have to use discipline. Letting the brat off like this just enables bad behavior.

[massagefan320]

I wouldn't hire him again for the simple fact of you will always have this incident in the back of your mind if you hired him again.  I have hired and been ghosted or fed bs excuses before right before the appointment, so I know the feeling.

[Archangel]

Once the provider sours, there’s no coming back. I learned that with my first regular way back. A provider is also likely to cut off a client he deems incompatible; there’s no obligation a client carry on either if he’s displeased. 

[+ purplekow]

The OP was disappointed in the escort being disrespectful of his time and expense.  This did not need to be the case. 

I think the escort in question handled the situation badly.  If his concern was that the the client would not be getting a full and quality experience, then he could have started with telling him so which he did,  So a good start.   He needed to follow that up.  

So,  he could have proceeded to ask, "knowing this, would you want me to come anyway or would you like to reschedule with some compensation, say a weekend for a nightly rate or an overnight for an hourly rate, or simply a regular encounter with dinner on him."   This does not absolve the escort but it ameliorates the situation.   

If the OP still wanted him to keep the appointment, which is his choice, then he is doing so knowing that the escort may not be up for everything he wants to do. 

If he accepts the counter offer, he may be disappointed still, but he had input into trying to salvage the situation.  

 

Edited March 4 by purplekow

[Archangel]

9 minutes ago, purplekow said:

This does not absolve the escort but it ameliorates the situation.

That’s an interesting take. I wonder if there might be resentment, from both sides, for different reasons. Has anyone ever had such an agreement and it worked? 

[DC Guy 92]

I would’ve been PISSED! Not hiring him again is the least you could do.  Unprofessional is an understatement, this was just cruel, and preventable if he had prioritized you as a client. “Hookers” don’t do multi day trips with concert tickets, they hang out on street corners and talk to passing cars through the window.  Please post his profile so I can block and avoid.

[marylander1940]

On 3/1/2025 at 4:18 PM, d.anders said:

Remembering my days in corporate, where I occasionally had to fly overnight to Europe on a Sunday, do business on a Monday morning, fly out by 4 pm, and return to the office on Tuesday morning. I did enjoy the frequent flyer miles, but that's about it. As I got older, those turnovers became more and more painful. I couldn't do it today. I now need a week to recover from a trip overseas.

Given the amount of communication that went on here, I'd be too disappointed to recover.

And while working with your brains and not just taking Viagra and working with your ass/dick like him!

Poor guy if he thinks 36 hours "decompression" at home watching TV is too short for him to go back to "work". I hope he's saving his money!

On 3/2/2025 at 11:59 AM, DrownedBoy said:

And why did you remove it?

In fact, why did you even accept contact with the dumb kid after he pulled that stunt. You should have blocked him immediately.

Most people are irresponsible, yes. So you have to use discipline. Letting the brat off like this just enables bad behavior.

 I couldn't agree with you more!

I would only say "most people HIS AGE are irresponsible" and this job unfortunately entitles them to behave like this.