Asking a provider to make change.

[Vin Marco]

1 minute ago, ApexNomad said:

“Don’t treat them like a commodity, and don’t treat me like an ATM.”  It’s a reminder to me to always maintain respect and dignity in this transaction, emphasizing that both parties should be valued beyond just the exchange of money.

You're on an endangered species list 🫂🙌🏽🙏🏽 Thank you for saying that and thank you for your positive contributions to this board. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

2 hours ago, Cretus said:

This scenario, where it is cumbersome to come up with very specific and atypical donation amounts, is exactly why I advise providers to stick to some round, even numbered rate (for many, it’s $300 an hour). 
 

A super-specific number like $440 is not just more money for the client to pay in a raw sense, but it may be a less convenient sum of money for them to immediately come up with on hand (they may only have hundred dollar bills).

A client may be likelier to say yes to your rate of $400 instead of $440, not just because it is cheaper, but because they happen to only have hundred dollar bills on hand. 

 

Then there's the provider who advertises $99.95 for a massage, just to keep his rates low in order to be listed first.  I don't want to seem tacky and ask for change, so I am sure to have plenty of nickles on hand when I pay him 😊 

Edited December 18, 2024 by Vegas_Millennial

[cany10011]

I’m lucky the bank near me dispenses $100 bills- so it’s pretty easy to pay my guys.l without asking for change. 

[Whippoorwill]

I either leave the cash, folded, on a table, or slip it in the provider's hand as part of saying goodbye and thanking each other. I have never had anyone count it while I am present. 

Of course, exact change. 

I recently had to ask my hair cutter for change...and then he miscounted the change, and I had to ask for more. I felt very cheap afterwards, I should have just given it to him as an extra tip. It caused me to later give him an even more generous end-of-year financial gift.

I am redoubling my efforts to keep a stack of bills in every denomination at home so this never happens again. Yes these are services. Yes this is business. But they are intimate services that do not need to be tarnished by money changers in the temple. 

[MikeBiDude]

For a first time meet, I always have the allowance on display in the open. Only one or two times has the providers taken it at the beginning.

Then there was the time I was meeting a guy for a second time. We had an amazing first visit, allowance visible, the visit completely exceeded his expectations. He was excited for a second meet. This was a causal Grindr “gen’ meet.

This second visit I excused myself to go to the bathroom, and when I came out he was gone and so was the cash!!! A one off experience, lessons learned!!

[marylander1940]

I think it's tacky...

[Archangel]

I put the exact amount in an envelope. I try to find out his favorite color and use that color envelope. And write his name in my best attempt at “fancy” script. The financial part is vulgar enough already; I try to make it less so. I do not think putting the money in an envelope is a problem though.

I’ve had a provider count money in front of me. Twice. Both were overall poor experiences. Both also are no longer providing.