Companionship hire

[FigureSkater]

Hello there, 

I came to inquire what someone would typically charge per hour for a few hours of companionship? I don’t feel comfortable charging my original rate since the client explicitly requests non sexual activity. 

[Archangel]

This is an interesting question. Sometimes I hire with little-to-no expectation of sex. That said, we hire for time. So if we pay a different amount when sex isn’t involved, are we in fact paying for sex.

I’m going to follow this topic.

[maninsoma]

While I think your inclination to offer a lower rate for just hanging out is admirable, I have to wonder if it wouldn't end up backfiring on you.  You losing other income generating opportunities.  The client demanding more of your time at a reduced rate than is comfortable for you. 

 

[MCR]

I'm such a lonely person with no one in my life. I've once paid someone $100/wk to text every day. Someone I wouldn't normally get to talk to me.  

[KeepItReal]

I think a different rate sounds appropriate and clearly would make you more comfortable @figureskater. A corporate consultant may make $50 per hour behind his desk during the week, but makes $15 per hour when he drives an Uber over the weekend. It is not unusual for time to be valued differently by Mr Market. If driving that Uber means the consultant misses out on a consulting gig, that would be a different consideration. 

[Simon Suraci]

For non-sexual companionship services, I charge something more than my massage rates but less than my full service rates. Not by much, but a bit less. I do so because it takes effort and focused attention, but in a different way. Arguably it’s much more engaging and challenging than the small talk I have with a typical client at the beginning of a massage. The client wants my intellect and wants me to look good, perhaps touch me, and for me to engage them in every way but sex. That takes a high level of effort and personal connection. 

The companionship client typically wants more than an hour of my time, so it makes sense to do it. For full service, I charge $300/hr or $500/two hours. I charge $225/hr for à la carte companionship services. If the client wants two hours of companionship, that’s $450. Not much less than if they hired me for full service for two hours ($500). The companionship client may be less common than the full service client, but they are not paying that much differently.

More commonly clients are interested in an escort session and/or boyfriend experience, depending on the terms you prefer. These typically include time in the bedroom, and time outside the bedroom. See recent thread on “BFE”. I charge $1000 for up to (5) hours of escort service. The sexual part is typically up to couple hours and the rest is up to the client to decide what non-sexual activities they most enjoy while spending time with me. My long escort sessions work out to $200/hr, which is a pretty good deal for clients interested in both the sex AND the rest of the experience…which could look very much like the non-sexual companionship service I normally charge $225 for.

I suppose it all depends on the client’s sensibilities, budget, and priorities, but the longer the session, the easier it is for me to justify a lower rate. Example: I can do (1) five hr session for $1k, or (3) one hour full service sessions for $900. Realistically I probably can’t deliver on three clients a day for the latter, so the former makes a lot more business sense, even though the per-hour pay rate is lower.

Another consideration is that the typical client who books a five hour escort session is far more likely to cancel, and more often than not in less than 24 hrs of their start time. That’s frustrating. On paper it makes business sense, but in reality it’s all a total crapshoot.

My approach is I’m getting paid decently no matter what service I’m providing, so it matters a lot less exactly what I’m doing. Even some massage clients regularly spend $300 or more. The difference there is that I’m spending more time with the massage clients for the same money as I would make providing the other services over a shorter time. It’s easier for me to take multiple massage clients a day. It’s much more difficult for me to have multiple escort and/or sex work clients per day.
 

[Jamie21]

6 hours ago, FigureSkater said:

Hello there, 

I came to inquire what someone would typically charge per hour for a few hours of companionship? I don’t feel comfortable charging my original rate since the client explicitly requests non sexual activity. 

Charge your normal rate. Because although he has said now that he doesn’t want any sexual activity that is highly likely to change, either at the first session or subsequent ones. In that situation, if you have discounted, it’s not easy to then charge the normal rate again. His expectations are set and if sexual activity did occur he’d possibly think it was because you were happy to do that outside of any transactional service. That all becomes very difficult. 

If he books you at the normal rate and expects to pay it, and nothing sexual happens then you do have the option of giving him say 20% back after he’s paid you if you want to. Then you’re in control of the rate. 
 

[CalTec]

On 7/9/2023 at 12:35 AM, MCR said:

I'm such a lonely person with no one in my life. I've once paid someone $100/wk to text every day. Someone I wouldn't normally get to talk to me.  

Have you considered many of the emerging AI tools to give you some back and forth conversation?  Something as simple as chatGPT can hold conversations with zero fees and is always available. You can essentially train the AI to be whomever you want them to be.

[Archangel]

I’ve found the AI chat frustrating. And I feel like I know it’s not a real person so it would annoy me more if I were seeking companionship from that. It would be like a fleshjack or doll for sex…I would know it’s not real.

That said, I don’t think sexting would work for me either.