Appropriate to send video as part of request for massage

[TectonicThrust]

In another thread called Hottest Massage Video Ever, I saw a few examples of how I’d like some massages to play out. Would it be appropriate to send a link to a provider when booking an appointment? Would it take the session out of the massage category into escort services? For example, how would a provider respond to getting this link when a client inquired about services for a massage:

https://www.gaymenring.com/kyle-quinn-massaged-1794401.html

[TectonicThrust]

Of course, this would be for a request for erotic massage. I have had some erotic massages lead to sex, but that was never the arrangement ahead of time (at least not for the first encounter) — and the video sample I sent didn’t lead to sex or even removal of the masseur’s shorts.  I understand that not knowing what to expect is part of the fun in this activity, but I think this might help providers know what will make their client happy or know that they are the wrong masseur for a client. 

[+ Jamie21]

I’d have no problem with that. I like to know what clients would like to be included although I think it’s important to keep an element of the unknown; if the massage is too choreographed it’s less exciting.

Before the massage starts I always ask if there’s any part of my client I should avoid, some people say what they don’t want touched (if there is anywhere it’s usually either their head, feet or their bum hole). If they say nothing is off limits then I feel internal massage is ok. Usually if you just apply a bit of pressure with your finger there they’ll open up for you if they want it inside 🙂

If you specifically want to have your prostate massaged as in that example video it’s important to ask. Some clients are quite embarrassed or coy about describing what they want so I’d say it’s a good idea to send a video and say “something like that please”. Most masseurs who do sensual or erotic massage will welcome this. 
 

 

 

[+ poolboy48220]

I've considered that in the past, but I'd only bring it up after I'd been chatting with the provider and had some feel of how our session was going to go.  I'd never start out with that.  I have, occasionally, asked a provider if they've seen a particular video and would be interested to do a session along those lines; I don't remember actually sending the video. 

[MscleLovr]

5 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Most masseurs who do sensual or erotic massage will welcome this. 

Wouldn’t that depend heavily on where the OP and the masseur are based?
It seems to me that such a video would be rather compelling evidence if law enforcement became involved…

[+ Jamie21]

37 minutes ago, MscleLovr said:

Wouldn’t that depend heavily on where the OP and the masseur are based?
It seems to me that such a video would be rather compelling evidence if law enforcement became involved…

Ah yes in my rather innocent way I’m assuming they’re both based in a country with an up to date attitude to sex work…. 😊, one in Europe. 

[TectonicThrust]

I guess I’m being innocent too.

15 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Ah yes in my rather innocent way I’m assuming they’re both based in a country with an up to date attitude to sex work…. 😊, one in Europe. 

This would be in LA. So if any masseurs in LA provide massages similar to that in the video above, you know you’ll have a satisfied client here. DM me 😉

(Too bad I’m not in London, @Jamie21)

[Thelatin]

When I’m getting a massage - I just mention that “I’m clean down there”.

[TectonicThrust]

Thank you @Simon Suraci for your reply. Wow. I’m so appreciative of the time and thought that you and others take to answer our questions. I realize that I need to get beyond my comfort zone and better articulate in person what I like. I see now that sending a video could actually send the wrong messages as I didn’t even think that the masseur would conclude that this was all I wanted. I really meant that these are the erotic elements I would like incorporated in addition to the therapeutic massage. I also wouldn’t want the masseur to think I only wanted a 30 min when I booked 60 or 90. Communication is key as in any relationship. I also take to heart your other tips and opinions. 

[jeezifonly]

You’re seeking an escort service… with educated massage role play. This is easier than waiting until the will we/won’t we moment on the table. 

There are quite a few escorts in LA who also are really good masseurs. In the escort ad, see if they have sports massage or BODYWORK available. If they also have a masseur ad, look for some indication of training, and at least 5yr experience. They’re often open to a session that combines both bodywork and play, but you will pay the escort rate (based on what takes place in the video) Ask if they have a table if there isn’t one in photos. Good luck! 

[+ Jamie21]

4 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

 you’re welcome! It sounds like you are simply trying to convey in images what might be difficult to put into words to request directly of your provider. It seems like you’re wanting to express the elements you want included rather than reenact the video frame by frame. 

I agree with all the points you make @Simon Suraci, about that video, the use of baby oil (a total no no) the table wrong height etc. Although I don’t necessarily agree about the escort part. But I read @TectonicThrust post as being indicative of what he wanted rather than ‘recreate exactly this video’. For me a video showing something the client likes is useful and I can include it at an appropriate point in my routine. I can pace the session appropriately, read my client’s body and include the things he wants naturally in the massage. 

I don’t draw such a distinction between escort work and erotic massage work. You’ll obviously get a range of massage skills depending on the training the guy has had, and you’ll get a variety of sexual activity that he’s prepared and willing to include. He will be somewhere on the spectrum from purely therapeutic masseur to full service escort.

What rate he charges for that is up to him. The important thing is that the client’s requirements and expectations match with what the escort/masseur is prepared to and skilled to provide. If those match and the rate is right then the ingredients for a great session are in place. What facilities that? Good communication from both sides.