Envy rots the boner...

[KeepItReal]

My regular massage buddy told me he is now doing porn. Encouraged me to follow him on Twitter. He was so proud of the fact that he got signed by a professional porn studio. I wanted to be happy for him and celebrate the achievement, but I am not really "enjoying" the experience of seeing him naked on Twitter with random guys in explicit images. I've never really been into porn. That may be at the root of my conflicted feelings over this. The scenes don't seem to be particularly tasteful and he appears to have a wild side I did not know about. Not sure if I am envious about the guys he play with, he also has far less availability at the moment, or perhaps yours truly is just surprised to find how different it is to go from seeing him in person, to seeing him have rather wild sex on screen. I may just mute the channel and go back to "out of sight, out of mind". 🤷‍♂️

 

Have you ever been envious of a partner in this manner...how did you handle.

 

[+ azdr0710]

It's just Hollywood. (or the San Fernando Valley). 

[+ FrankR]

2 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

It's just Hollywood. (or the San Fernando Valley). 

Not sure I am following your comment. 
 

@KeepItReal have you considered that it isn’t envy, but maybe you feel a little intimidated by his sexual olympics?  I am not surprised that seeing him in this context changed your perception of him. There is such a thing as “too much information” - I rarely ask my partners about their previous relationships or conquests…to me that is TMI.

[56harrisond]

I'd be happy for your buddy to have this opportunity. One would assume he has been hooking up irl, not on camera - so now he'll just get paid for it, good deal. And if you're still able to see him, then you'll at the very least get some good stories.

[+ azdr0710]

8 minutes ago, FrankR said:

Not sure I am following your comment. 

 

I was just saying don't take the porn so seriously.....it's all Hollywood magic......I added the valley because it's famous (or was) for porn productiion

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Be happy when good things happen for people you like.

It's just that simple 👍

Perhaps you should stop following him in his on-camera life. 

Edited December 12, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas

[+ purplekow]

9 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Be happy when good things happen for people you like.

It's just that simple 👍

Perhaps you should stop following him in his on-camera life. 

Paraphrasing someone.  It is not enough to succeed, your friends must fail.  

Edited December 12, 2022 by purplekow

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 minute ago, purplekow said:

Paraphrasing someone.  It is not enough to succeed, your friends must fail.  

[Luv2play]

I don't see escorts for only a massage and only rarely is that included in the service I seek. So the fact some of my guys do porn, I actually like to see them in action with someone else. It shows me what they are capable of and they better deliver the same experience to me! Lol.

[MscleLovr]

15 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

I am not really "enjoying" the experience of seeing him naked on Twitter with random guys in explicit images. I've never really been into porn.

The remedy is simple. Stop watching.

 

15 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

My regular massage buddy told me he is now doing porn…That may be at the root of my conflicted feelings over this.

If he talks about porn during your next massage, just close the subject politely by saying “Porn bores me. I’m so glad I see you in real life.”

 

6 hours ago, purplekow said:

Paraphrasing someone.  It is not enough to succeed, your friends must fail.  

That ‘someone’ was Oscar Wilde.

[rhh33]

19 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

My regular massage buddy told me he is now doing porn. Encouraged me to follow him on Twitter. He was so proud of the fact that he got signed by a professional porn studio. I wanted to be happy for him and celebrate the achievement, but I am not really "enjoying" the experience of seeing him naked on Twitter with random guys in explicit images. I've never really been into porn. That may be at the root of my conflicted feelings over this. The scenes don't seem to be particularly tasteful and he appears to have a wild side I did not know about. Not sure if I am envious about the guys he play with, he also has far less availability at the moment, or perhaps yours truly is just surprised to find how different it is to go from seeing him in person, to seeing him have rather wild sex on screen. I may just mute the channel and go back to "out of sight, out of mind". 🤷‍♂️

 

Have you ever been envious of a partner in this manner...how did you handle.

 

Be happy for him if that is what he wants.

[+ purplekow]

4 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

 

 

That ‘someone’ was Oscar Wilde.

Similar comments have been attributed to many different people, some of whom pre date Mr. Wilde, though he was a tremendously witty man, not sue he gets credit for this quip.  I have seen attentions of credit for this starting at Gengis Khan and running up to Gore Vidal.  

Edited December 12, 2022 by purplekow

[dbar123]

Just because your massage guy is being directed to do unusual stuff…doesn’t mean that he likes, wants or enjoys doing it. He is getting paid to do a job.

Doing things that broaden one’s experience is not always a bad thing. It might result in a better massage.

Ive seen a few escorts that have also done some wild porn. In reality they were all pretty vanilla. Everyone wants a good hug.

[+ StLouisOct]

One of my favorites once remarked that I’d be amazed to know what his sexual exploits entail. I already knew some of it through watching his porn, all with guys I don’t find a bit attractive. And now he’s gone crazy with far too many tattoos (IMHO 😉) But through it all he’s the same, interesting and interested, intelligent guy who knows how to give me a romantic, satisfying experience. Oh yeah, and happy to report that through it all he still has the same lovely cock and ass. 😋

[Marc in Calif]

23 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

My regular massage buddy told me he is now doing porn.... 

Have you ever been envious of a partner in this manner...

So did you see him regularly as a massage client? Or was he a friend that you exchanged massages with? 

[KeepItReal]

5 hours ago, Marc in Calif said:

So did you see him regularly as a massage client? Or was he a friend that you exchanged massages with? 

Yes, I have seen him for massages for a few years now - he's been a valued, paid companion.