A provider says "You have 3 reports."

[Ami9uito]

This is what someone told me when I had to cancel an appointment due to a last-minute fire to put out at work I gave 2 hours notice. I can't control my work. Has anyone heard of this "i see you have 3 reports?"  Obviously, I will look elsewhere when I'm off again. Thanks.

[Kevin Slater]

It's hard to parse what your post is trying to say, but it sounds like you have multiple instances of cancelling with short notice.  So why even book in advance, rather than waiting til you know you're actually free?  If you want to reply "because my time is limited and I want to be sure that he'll be available when I might be" I'd ask why the provider isn't afforded the same consideration.

Kevin Slater

[Boink]

7 hours ago, Ami9uito said:

 "i see you have 3 reports?"

Reports to who ??

[+ Coolwave35]

I read it as all the people you’re jerking around have left you bad reviews on the telephone number you use to waste their time. 

[+ azdr0710]

where are these "reports" posted?........does RM have a client review section?.........does that oft-discussed secret provider-run website about bad clients really exist??!!

[+ glutes]

Just a hunch, but I think "Mr. Number"  or some subscription app is  where 'providers' check out the number that texted them. One gent showed me the history of comments made  associated with my phone number, it was sorta funny. "He didn't tip" (yup), "He departed after saying my pictures in my ad weren't  me" (yup)...

https://mrnumber.app.link/fast

Edited December 1, 2022 by glutes

[Frankcal]

That’s a pretty generic app and doesn’t lend itself to comments in my experience. 

[+ glutes]

6 minutes ago, Frankcal said:

That’s a pretty generic app and doesn’t lend itself to comments in my experience. 

or some subscription app

[Daniel84]

If a client has 3 or more bad comments they have to pay a deposit to book. I won't waste my time on flakes and no shows. 

The app has protected me from some crazy clients so I always check numbers just in case 

[+ keroscenefire]

I checked Mr. Number once and didn't have any comments. Phew. 

[Ami9uito]

Thanks for all your comments. I appreciate the collective wisdom and humour. Lesson learned: check out the burner app number before making appointments in case there are "interesting" comments associated with it. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Blacklists still exist with a lot of pertinent info out there on those who are serial cancelers, bullshitters, etc.

Mr Number seems to be the new, faster way to report.

To me, private blacklists are still the clearinghouse, as they usually have personal info about the client that make it more difficult for them to just switch to another burner number and continue the behavior.

[+ glutes]

[+ 7829V]

You can also get info and real names of providers. 
 

 

[+ bashful]

As if I wasn't nervous enough hiring someone new, now I have to wonder if I pass their screening process. 

So long as it makes them feel safer, part of what hopefully will be a worthwhile meeting.  

[+ Coolwave35]

6 hours ago, 7829V said:

You can also get info and real names of providers. 
 

 

What app are these comments from? 

[+ 7829V]

16 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

What app are these comments from? 

 

[+ Coolwave35]

Thank you!  I have a premium subscription to that app but have never seen a comment attached to one. 

[+ glutes]

On 11/30/2022 at 9:22 PM, azdr0710 said:

where are these "reports" posted?........does RM have a client review section?.........does that oft-discussed secret provider-run website about bad clients really exist??!!

The secret blacklists... 😏

[maninsoma]

I think most people are able to make commitments and keep them most of the time.  Being a bit late due to traffic?  Sure, though better prepared people would simply leave earlier if they know they are traveling when there is likely to be heavy traffic, so unless that traffic is worse than usual it's still more about the person's poor planning.  I know some people are just generally late.  I don't like it because I'm generally on time or a little early, but if I like someone I can adjust expectations.  The escort I hired most often was always late.  Having to cancel plans at the last minute is a different thing.  I really don't think most people have jobs where emergencies come up at the last minute that they cannot say no to, at least not very often.  So, again, it gets back to planning.  Why not just schedule a meeting with an escort at a time you know you will be available?  And if that really isn't possible for someone because he's an on-call doctor or someone else who frequently has last-minute work interruptions of his personal life, then why not just do what Kevin Slater suggested and just book in the moment instead of in advance.

[Guest]

16 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

... Lateness cannot be helped... absolute punctuality isn't human and lfie isn't that rigid. 

The OP has already cancelled 3 times, and should have definitely known better than to schedule when he knows he may be vulnerable at work. Lateness can definitely be helped, and it's always the same people who are chronically late for everything--people who are disrespectful of others' time. I'm 60 years old. Do you know how often I've been late for (or cancelled at the last minute) an escort appointment? Never. I've probably had 100 doctors' appointments in my life. Do you know how often I've cancelled at the last minute or no-showed? One cancellation due to a relative in the ER, and one 8-minute late arrival when there was a major injury collision on the freeway which closed off 3 of the 4 lanes on the freeway, and the doctor's office was 25 miles away. How often have I missed a plane or train? Never. And I travel a lot.

During my over 3 decades as a physician, patients were rarely late, but when they were, it was always the same patients. Although I generally made exceptions for those patients who drove exceptional distances to see me (for example), if a patient arrived over 15 minutes late, I gave them the option (once) to wait until the end of the clinic until the on-time patients were seen, and we could see the person during my lunchtime or after 5, depending on whether it was the AM or PM clinic. At the conclusion of the visit, barring unusual circumstances (long-time patient who'd never been late before, story of unreliable friend who stood the wheelchair-bound patient up, etc.), I would inform the patient that late arrivals put a burden on myself and my staff, and other patients if I were to see them in the order of their appointments rather than at the end of the clinic. I would also let them know that my offer to stay past the end of the clinic to accommodate their rudeness (I'd say this politely, of course) was a one-time offer. (There would, of course be exceptions for patients with tons of on-time appointments or other truly extenuating circumstances). My mother was a patient at Kaiser and told me that she saw a 90 year-old patient in a walker had her appointment cancelled due to being 15 minutes late (apparently no prior warnings--the patient was in front of her in line). 

I don't know who taught you manners, but last-minute cancellations and arrivals for appointments in most cases demonstrate rudeness. Certainly a three-time offender has a problem he needs to work on. 

[+ WilliamM]

1 hour ago, arnemgreeves said:

You and others are suggesting that lateness is always some grand sin, when it's not. Life is chaotic. Shit happens. You yourself have alluded to emergencies that can fuck things up. So you've invalidated your own point. And your English comprehension is also pretty weak, since you're essentially agreeing with me. You're also infusing points in the OP's comments, which don't exist. tbh, i can forgive lateness in given circumstances. Maybe a person has ADHD. Maybe shit happens that makes a person late. Maybe their kid threw up. Maybe their train or bus broke down en route. I generally don't give a shit about your fastidiousness or your medical career. I read the OP charitably, since I had no reason not to. If a provider thinks that merely being late in any regard is "bad" then so be it, he's a dick. As for reports, well what reports? I wouldn't personally consider last-minute cancellations rude. Though it depends on the reason. Life is chaotic, after all. 

As for manners, it's you who besmirch mental health related queries, when favouring your white buddies loool. MANNERS and DECENCY indeed. You're probably lying that you're a doctor, since I shudder to think this is how you treated your patients. I only responded since I mentally blanked you for being an ass, but then the fastidious facets of your personality you project onto all others made me genuinely chuckle. And that it's good to engage with inhumane people, just for kicks.

 

I believe he is probably a doctor

[LookingAround]

3 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

I believe he is probably a doctor

I’m discovering why the ignore feature was created. 

[maninsoma]

Let's not confuse being a tiny bit late (say 15 minutes) with a last-minute cancellation.  I'm guessing most people won't get too irritated with someone running a little late, with the exception of people who do have appointments scheduled back-to-back like physicians.  I think most escorts don't have clients scheduled back-to-back, though I do know that some poor providers do so.  But in the case of the OP, he wasn't trying to simply move the start time back a little.  He was outright canceling with little notice.  Doing that repeatedly indicates he doesn't respect other people's time.  Hopefully he offers to send payment to the people he's canceling appointments with at minimal notice.

[+ WilliamM]

7 hours ago, Unicorn said:

The OP has already cancelled 3 times, and should have definitely known better than to schedule when he knows he may be vulnerable at work. Lateness can definitely be helped, and it's always the same people who are chronically late for everything--people who are disrespectful of others' time. I'm 60 years old. Do you know how often I've been late for (or cancelled at the last minute) an escort appointment? Never. I've probably had 100 doctors' appointments in my life. Do you know how often I've cancelled at the last minute or no-showed? One cancellation due to a relative in the ER, and one 8-minute late arrival when there was a major injury collision on the freeway which closed off 3 of the 4 lanes on the freeway, and the doctor's office was 25 miles away. How often have I missed a plane or train? Never. And I travel a lot.

During my over 3 decades as a physician, patients were rarely late, but when they were, it was always the same patients. Although I generally made exceptions for those patients who drove exceptional distances to see me (for example), if a patient arrived over 15 minutes late, I gave them the option (once) to wait until the end of the clinic until the on-time patients were seen, and we could see the person during my lunchtime or after 5, depending on whether it was the AM or PM clinic. At the conclusion of the visit, barring unusual circumstances (long-time patient who'd never been late before, story of unreliable friend who stood the wheelchair-bound patient up, etc.), I would inform the patient that late arrivals put a burden on myself and my staff, and other patients if I were to see them in the order of their appointments rather than at the end of the clinic. I would also let them know that my offer to stay past the end of the clinic to accommodate their rudeness (I'd say this politely, of course) was a one-time offer. (There would, of course be exceptions for patients with tons of on-time appointments or other truly extenuating circumstances). My mother was a patient at Kaiser and told me that she saw a 90 year-old patient in a walker had her appointment cancelled due to being 15 minutes late (apparently no prior warnings--the patient was in front of her in line). 

I don't know who taught you manners, but last-minute cancellations and arrivals for appointments in most cases demonstrate rudeness. Certainly a three-time offender has a problem he needs to work on. 

Respectfully, there are dozens of reasons why someone may miss an appointment. Flat tires, family emergencies, weather on and on and on and on and on.

Edited December 3, 2022 by WilliamM