Anxious Client

[Ilookaround]

As the provider - what do you do/say to your client who are obviously anxious and can't perform/enjoy the time together?

[TallMuscl37]

If that happens, I try to slow things down. Some may get nervous if things get right into f**king, so maybe instead start with some massaging, a little wine, chat, background videos, etc. Sometimes just taking 10-15 minutes to pretend you’re meeting like regular interaction can help smooth things out. 

[+ Jamie21]

That’s the job, making people feel comfortable, good about themselves, relaxed. Everyone wants to be approved of. 

[jtwalker]

I'm sometimes nervous.  Kissing and massage are what work best to calm my nerves.  As backwards as it seems, I am usually most comfortable with the guys who are most forward and basically dive right in.  You really can't talk me out of nerves when that pops up.  Also, for me, nerves is a compliment as I usually only get nervous when someone is way out of my league.

[KrisParr]

On 11/17/2022 at 3:31 PM, jtwalker said:

I'm sometimes nervous.  Kissing and massage are what work best to calm my nerves.  As backwards as it seems, I am usually most comfortable with the guys who are most forward and basically dive right in.  You really can't talk me out of nerves when that pops up.  Also, for me, nerves is a compliment as I usually only get nervous when someone is way out of my league.

And I thought I was the only one. A few years ago, for a special occasion, I hired perhaps the hottest escort ever. To my surprise, after we began our encounter, nervousness and anxiety appeared out of nowhere. Part of me was experiencing an incredible amount of being “turned on” and another part was looking for the door. The astute, handsome man picked up on it, and slowed things way down and got me to relax and breathe. The “party” eventually resumed and it was a memorable experience, for sure. But ever since then, for whatever reason, I still have to power through some jitters.

[+ Pensant]

Oddly, sometimes younger providers new in the business are a little more anxious than I ever am. I’m good at putting them at ease. I always offer them a drink and we sit on the sofa and have a nice little chat before I suggest “shall we go upstairs?”. That’s generally the optimal approach for me. I think they appreciate my self-confidence and, I must say, affability.

[TorontoDrew]

I'm anxious if I'm meeting someone for the first time.  One kiss though and it disappears.

[+ StLouisOct]

7 hours ago, TorontoDrew said:

I'm anxious if I'm meeting someone for the first time.  One kiss though and it disappears.

Pretty much the same with me. I remember when I first started hiring guys I mentioned that I was a little nervous. He gave me a good hug, looked in my eyes with a lovely smile and said, “Oh Mike, you don’t need to be nervous with me.” We had a gentle kiss and moved on from there to a memorable and often-repeated two hours together. 

[jeezifonly]

The nuance of touch.

It was often part of meeting at a bar, with a handshake that sent and received clues about the man. It never told you how big his dick was, whether he was top or bottom or vers or like to be choked…

Touch. If a provider is unable to use it well for simple reassurance, as a kind of fraternal connection before the eroticism… I would recommend he find other work.  

 

[dbar123]

When I walk in the door if a new provider and he starts with a friendly hug and huge kiss it’s just the best kind of greeting

[jtwalker]

On 11/20/2022 at 3:49 PM, dbar123 said:

When I walk in the door if a new provider and he starts with a friendly hug and huge kiss it’s just the best kind of greeting

Nothing worse than a provider that can't make eye contact and stays 5 feet away upon arrival while asking for money up front.

[PetetKsfo]

My job for the time that we are together is to simply focus all of my attention and energy on my client, and to do my best to be in tune with him.    When I see that a client is timid or shy or uncertain, I reassure him that I won't do anything that he doesn't want, and ask him to let me know what works and what does not.    Communication and consent are key.      I neither want to do soemthing that makes a client uncomfortable, nor do I want a client to leave wishing that I had done more.