Escort I hired is a Lawyer

[boredboy96]

I hired very attractive and fit escort last night. We had such a great time. He's young, hot, smart, funny, and a great listener.

I am involved in a legal issues and was looking at law firm websites this morning. His picture came up as a lawyer at a firm. I plan on hiring him again and again, but I don't know how it will be with me knowing about his "real life." 

Advice? 

[Guest]

Pick someone else. 

[boredboy96]

3 minutes ago, Unicorn said:

Pick someone else. 

To hire for fun? 

[Guest]

6 minutes ago, boredboy96 said:

To hire for fun? 

As your lawyer.

[boredboy96]

16 minutes ago, Unicorn said:

As your lawyer.

I'm not lol

[+ DynamicUno]

I'm not sure why his "day job" should be an issue, unless you were already using his firm or they were representing someone you were litigating against.  

[+ DERRIK]

Throw the book at him

[boredboy96]

7 minutes ago, DynamicUno said:

I'm not sure why his "day job" should be an issue, unless you were already using his firm or they were representing someone you were litigating against.  

That's the thing. I have a meeting with a partner at their firm tomorrow morning. 

[boredboy96]

5 minutes ago, DERRIK said:

Throw the book at him

why?? 

[+ The Big Guy]

1 hour ago, Unicorn said:

Pick someone else. 

I agree.  I also would find a different firm.  I would be shocked if he agreed to represent you.  He may even provide a referral.   Not what you want to hear but I would say keep him as a provider and find a different lawyer. 

[BtmBearDad]

21 minutes ago, boredboy96 said:

That's the thing. I have a meeting with a partner at their firm tomorrow morning. 

I think you need to choose either his firm for your legal representation or him for this hobby. Mixing business with pleasure -no matter the circumstances- rarely ends well. There are all sorts of flashing red warning signs, plenty of potential conflicts, and you’d be putting yourself, and the provider in an awkward if not entirely comprising positions. 

Think with your big head, not your little head, and choose wisely. 
 

BBD 

[boredboy96]

2 minutes ago, BtmBearDad said:

I think you need to choose either his firm for your legal representation or him for this hobby. Mixing business with pleasure -no matter the circumstances- rarely ends well. There are all sorts of flashing red warning signs, plenty of potential conflicts, and you’d be putting yourself, and the provider in an awkward if not entirely comprising positions. 

Think with your big head, not your little head, and choose wisely. 
 

BBD 

I know. He is not the partner I'm meeting with (he's not a partner), but it is a fairly small firm. I can't cancel when our meeting is at 9 am. I will say I'm just shopping around. 

I am definitely not going to get rid of him, he's almost perfect. 

7 minutes ago, The Big Guy said:

I agree.  I also would find a different firm.  I would be shocked if he agreed to represent you.  He may even provide a referral.   Not what you want to hear but I would say keep him as a provider and find a different lawyer. 

I am meeting a few other lawyers too. 

[+ WestGuy]

Personally speaking (and as a lawyer myself) I would say do not go to the meeting and find a different law firm to represent you. Not sure where you live, but I live in the NYC area and there are LOTS of lawyers to choose from. You might also consider the effect you may have on your companion. He has only met you once and doesn't know what kind of a person you are. If you eventually establish a relationship with him and you are comfortable with each other, he might disclose his "day job" to you. Since he is not aware that you know about his "day" job, seeing you in the office would likely engender a bad reaction in him.  He might be concerned that his sex work would become known to his firm, which could result in his dismissal  and possibly sanctioning by the state bar. I think you will do both of you a big favor by foregoing the appointment with his law firm and not mentioning it to him at your next meet up.

[Colton]

I think WestGuy makes some good points but I would consider texting the provider to give him a heads up that you found out this info.  Seems like you found out in an innocent way and not being stalker-ish.  Also tell him while you can’t cancel the meeting due to the timing, you made a decision and that is …. .

You did nothing wrong here so no reason to not be upfront. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I'm disappointed no one's gone for the obvious 'Well, he can fuck you and then REALLY fuck you' lawyer punchline. 

[former lurker]

First, either cancel the meeting or ask to do a telecon.  If it's a small firm, chances are likely enough that you run into one another.  Second, you can't control who a partner brings into a meeting.  Usually it's one or more associates. Third, even if you don't hire his firm, your opponent might.

You should consider reaching out to him to ask what would make him most comfortable.  Keep in mind, however, that an attorney is obligated to zealously represent his/her client.  The more he knows about you, the better the chance he could be in a conflicted position should his firm represent your opponent.

 

[Deadlift1]

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'm disappointed no one's gone for the obvious 'Well, he can fuck you and then REALLY fuck you' lawyer punchline. 

Such a smart guy

[wsc]

Do NOT keep the appointment and DO find another lawyer/firm to represent you. Even if your escort-at-law is not involved in your case, his firm is, and that creates an intolerable conflict of interest for the firm, at least in the sense of the appearance of impropriety.

Also, although you and he have every right to carry on a relationship, consider two things and the effect either could have on his legal career. First, a law firm is generally circumspect, so having an associate in a same-sex relationship, especially with a client of the firm, may not be an image the partners would like to see presented to the public, and might have them re-think his employment status. Secondly, having an associate involved in an activity that constitutes a violation of the criminal code would, even if undiscovered by the authorities, be an even greater threat to his employment, not just at his current firm, but possibly any other one, ever.

I am mystified that an attorney would engage in what I see as such reckless behavior, and if he is brought down by his own choices, it is his own doing. The army has a phrase for it: you done shit in your mess kit. But I would not want to be a willing participant in such a demise. If he's agreeable to a non-financial fling or friendship, have a go at it. If not, Walk away. Quickly.

Edited August 8, 2022 by wsc

[+ Lucky]

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'm disappointed no one's gone for the obvious 'Well, he can fuck you and then REALLY fuck you' lawyer punchline. 

Because it's so lame?

[+ Lucky]

3 hours ago, Colton said:

I think WestGuy makes some good points but I would consider texting the provider to give him a heads up that you found out this info.  Seems like you found out in an innocent way and not being stalker-ish.  Also tell him while you can’t cancel the meeting due to the timing, you made a decision and that is …. .

You did nothing wrong here so no reason to not be upfront. 

Why tell him? Just don't hire him again. The lawyer is taking a huge risk and I wouldn't want to be around when it backfires.

(He can cancel the meeting...and should.)

[nate_sf]

I agree with the others, do not pursue the firm for your legal needs. Cancel the appointment... it doesn't matter if it's 9 am tomorrow, just call at 8 and say you need to cancel because you have become aware of a conflict. You do not need to elaborate, and can decline to explain if asked. But then you are no longer wasting your time or their time. Most likely they're busy and will be grateful that they will be able to use the time productively for something else.

I had a potential job interview a few weeks ago. All through the day leading up to the interview I began having second thoughts, and ultimately came to the conclusion that I didn't want the job. So I canceled the interview two hours before it was scheduled. Short notice, yes, but better than wasting everyone's time.

As for whether to let on to your provider that you know about his day job, I'd keep it to yourself if I were you. This hobby involves discretion, which can involve not disclosing everything we may know, whether we are providers or clients. Allow him to take the lead on disclosing anything personal about himself.

Edited August 8, 2022 by nate_sf

[Guest MikeThomas]

I gotta say… this site is good for laughs sometimes.  People make up the weirdest shit.

[Rudynate]

6 hours ago, boredboy96 said:

That's the thing. I have a meeting with a partner at their firm tomorrow morning. 

Big problem for him and his firm but not for you. If you want to continue seeing him, get another lawyer, pronto.

 

[Lazarus]

Please post a link to his ad. 

[Kevin Slater]

1 minute ago, Lazarus said:

Please post a link to his ad. 

Please do not.  Identifying a provider's day job would likely violate the no personal info rule.

Kevin Slater (qua moderator)