Falling in love with a woman, has it happened to any of you too?

[Merboy]

Hi. Merboy here.  I just wanted to say that I've been having a very hard time lately, and then something also happened-  there was a girl that I knew briefly but she's all I could think about once she left.  I was clearly very attracted to her and yes I would like to go on a date with her.  So, the issue is I've never ever been attracted to a woman before - I've always had an intense sexual attraction to men, so what's going on here?  Can someone help me?  Thanks

[caramelsub]

Is the attraction sexual or romantic or both to the woman? What about your attraction to men? I have been learning to separate these two types of components of love. Romanticism vs sexuality.  For me I have never fallen in love with a man or woman which is why I think I’m aromantic( not to be confused with asexual). I obviously have sexual urges for men. I think that is why I hire for sex, and am satisfied with that alone, without wanting the romantic companionship like kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands, saying I love you, that sort of thing.

Edited December 18, 2021 by caramelsub

[+ FreshFluff]

I think there are very few Kinsey 0.0s out there. 

This is a girl you just met? Did you detect signs of interest from her? If so, why not just ask her out?

Edited December 18, 2021 by FreshFluff

[pubic_assistance]

17 hours ago, Merboy said:

I've never ever been attracted to a woman before

The habit of making people declare little boxes to check on their personality is toxic.

You're attracted to a PERSON.

Ignore the sexual bits and pieces for now and focus on your feelings about this human being.

Love is love.

 

 

[Guest]

17 hours ago, Merboy said:

Hi. Merboy here.  I just wanted to say that I've been having a very hard time lately, and then something also happened-  there was a girl that I knew briefly but she's all I could think about once she left.  I was clearly very attracted to her and yes I would like to go on a date with her.  So, the issue is I've never ever been attracted to a woman before - I've always had an intense sexual attraction to men, so what's going on here?  Can someone help me?  Thanks

I'm curious as to whether she's very pretty as a woman, or has a more masculine/handsome look. It's rare for me to find a woman even the least bit attractive, but sometimes I can appreciate the beauty in a more masculine-appearing woman. But breasts are a huge turn-off for me, so I can't imagine ever being able to be turned on by a woman. If this woman really turns you on, no need to hold back...

 

Scarlett Johansson:

Edited December 19, 2021 by Unicorn

[nate_sf]

When I was younger and not yet out, I'd become attracted to or develop crushes on women from time to time. However I recognize some of the attraction was the idea of wanting a beautiful girlfriend and all that comes with it. I imagined us as a nice couple, that parents would approve of, and maybe even have some wonderful children. But was I sexually attracted to them? Yes to a degree, but not with the same intensity as I am attracted to men.

More recently, even after having been out for many years, I will occasionally develop a crush or feel sparks with a woman. It might be that we've "clicked" in some way, and I enjoy her company.

Interestingly, I went to a high school reunion recently and saw a woman who I had had a big crush on when we were kids. She looked fantastic and greeted me with a big smile, and I was taken aback a bit. I wanted to tell someone I had had such a big crush on her back in the day, but thought better of it. But also there was a guy there who I'd also had a crush on... he had not aged quite as well as my gal crush, but was still sexy as hell. Lots of mixed emotions there!

[+ Tygerscent]

19 hours ago, Merboy said:

Hi. Merboy here.  I just wanted to say that I've been having a very hard time lately, and then something also happened-  there was a girl that I knew briefly but she's all I could think about once she left.  I was clearly very attracted to her and yes I would like to go on a date with her.  So, the issue is I've never ever been attracted to a woman before - I've always had an intense sexual attraction to men, so what's going on here?  Can someone help me?  Thanks

Honestly… my experience is that people are sexually fluid~ Society driven by politics and religion have self serving motives that dictate otherwise~ 

 Why limit who you love and how~?

Edited December 19, 2021 by Tygerscent

[Merboy]

16 hours ago, caramelsub said:

Is the attraction sexual or romantic or both to the woman? What about your attraction to men? I have been learning to separate these two types of components of love. Romanticism vs sexuality.  For me I have never fallen in love with a man or woman which is why I think I’m aromantic( not to be confused with asexual). I obviously have sexual urges for men. I think that is why I hire for sex, and am satisfied with that alone, without wanting the romantic companionship like kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands, saying I love you, that sort of thing.

Okay so I'm very sexually attracted still to men, such as this guy:

But this girl is so beautiful and I would love to be in a relationship with her:

(actually i want to scrub the makeup off her face and then kiss her passionately)

so maybe I'm bisexual.

The attraction to men has been fading, while the attraction to women has been growing.

[Merboy]

8 hours ago, FreshFluff said:

I think there are very few Kinsey 0.0s out there. 

This is a girl you just met? Did you detect signs of interest from her? If so, why not just ask her out?

She worked at a place that I go to for a little while.  She's also much younger than I am, but i'm probably her age developmentally.  So I have no experience in dating or really true intimacy for that matter (aside from the very brief visits  with the male escorts I hired) whereas she probably does.

Edited December 19, 2021 by Merboy
just clarifying

[Merboy]

4 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

The habit of making people declare little boxes to check on their personality is toxic.

You're attracted to a PERSON.

Ignore the sexual bits and pieces for now and focus on your feelings about this human being.

Love is love.

 

 

I totally love this.  Love is love, human to human yes

[+ StLouisOct]

There are plenty of examples of people who have fallen in love with members of the opposite sex and later fallen in love with members of their sex. The key is to take it slow and see what happens. Infatuation can seem like love - even inspire songs and poems - but be short-lived. A friendship could blossom into something else, maybe friends with benefits or more, but maybe not. It’s worth pursuing and enjoying the experience of what life has to offer. 

[+ E.T.Bass]

No.

[Guest]

3 hours ago, Merboy said:

Okay so I'm very sexually attracted still to men, such as this guy:

 

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3 hours ago, Merboy said:

 

 

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[maninsoma]

I'm definitely a 6 (or at least 5.9) on the Kinsey scale.  I've never been into women sexually even though I was much more comfortable with girls/women than boys/men in my teens.  But I've never felt a yearning to be with a woman sexually.  I can recognize a beautiful woman, but I am not sexually aroused by her.  I see a handsome man and I want to put my legs behind my head.  😁  I occasionally like to watch straight porn and am never turned on by the women, even the beautiful ones.  In fact, if the scene focuses too much on the woman (and, naturally, a lot of straight porn does) and I don't get to see enough of the man's face and body I will lose interest.  I'm watching it for the men after all.

I do think that most people are between a Kinsey 0 and Kinsey 6, though.  In other words, most people are probably bisexual but it just isn't discussed much because of societal pressure.  It doesn't really matter, though, what most people are.  If you are attracted to someone, explore it.

Edited December 19, 2021 by maninsoma

[+ sniper]

I've sometimes thought what I should have done when I was younger was find a woman who either was a lesbian or had little-to-no-interest in sex for a companionate marriage.  I think having a partner can/does make some people 'up their game" generally.  I think I would have progressed farther in my career, maintained myself physically better, just generally had my shit more together were I sharing my life with someone.  At this stage of my life that horse is out of the barn but I do have a few unmarried female friends who I joke with about us Golden Girlsing it up in our retirement years.