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So I've used this particular provider twice in the last 3 months, last time early November. I was under the impression that I was the one to initiate contact, but I've been messaged by him at least once a week since our last session. How do I go about gently telling him to stop texting me and I'll reach out when I'm ready without potentially losing him as a provider? Thanks!

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44 minutes ago, kingart828 said:

So I've used this particular provider twice in the last 3 months, last time early November. I was under the impression that I was the one to initiate contact, but I've been messaged by him at least once a week since our last session. How do I go about gently telling him to stop texting me and I'll reach out when I'm ready without potentially losing him as a provider? Thanks!


Just gently telling him to stop texting you and you’ll reach out when you’re ready lmao. 
 

But seriously you’re running into a problem a lot of us have had at least once. I had one guy that hit me up all the time and it got annoying. Honestly I think I was the one being used for sex but I was the one paying. I had to just tell him I wasn’t interested anymore. Try just telling him you’d rather be the one reaching out. Some providers I’ve seen may send me a text every now and then just to say hello or tell me their travel plans just so they’re on my radar which is ok with me.  Remember this is a business for them and It’s another way they advertise and keep you interested. However you have to do what’s comfortable for you. If you prefer to do the contacting let him know.

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I think this is fairly common especially with maybe escorts that are still kinda getting their careers together or maybe are just in a bit of a slump. We have to remember, we are their income and if they're not making what they need, of course they are going to reach out to us if we've been a regular source of income before.

I think it does warrant a bit of tact especially if you are wanting to meet with him again. I've often said that I am saving up to hire again in the future and I'll reach out when I'm able to meet. Or that I've just gotten back from a big trip and don't have anything currently left to hire. Gives the impression that you're still interested but also that there really isn't any reason to be pushy since you honestly cannot afford to hire. 

Obviously  if he is being aggressively pushy it can come to the point where you don't want to hire him again and then I would just say so. But if it's just in the slightly annoying range, being tactful is the best bet in my opinion. 

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18 hours ago, kingart828 said:

So I've used this particular provider twice in the last 3 months, last time early November. I was under the impression that I was the one to initiate contact, but I've been messaged by him at least once a week since our last session. How do I go about gently telling him to stop texting me and I'll reach out when I'm ready without potentially losing him as a provider? Thanks!

Here is my standard reply: "Thank you for your message - work keeps me busy so I hardly ever respond to texts. I do enjoy hanging out with you so be assured I will reach out when next I can meet. 🙂 "  Then I just ignore all text until I am good and ready to meet. 

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I have one who generally will text with “I miss you, Babe”, every few months. He’s a hottie and we’ve spent 4 overnights together but he’s not kinky enough for me, although I do enjoy chatting with him and his rate is quite fair. I’m not sure I want to see him again, but feel compelled to answer his texts. When he was in NYC, he was very busy, but now I think it’s more hit and miss. Generally, I prefer to be the one reaching out.a

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As a provider I get where he’s coming from. If he’s a regular at this point, I think communication is always key to getting things across. Try letting him know you enjoy seeing him and you’ll contact him when you’re ready to meet. It’s no harm, cause you’re not rejecting him you’re simply letting him know you’ll be in touch. 

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15 hours ago, SteveAgain said:

If a provider reached out to me, I'd hope they offer a discount, or longer session for same rate, or something. But they should make such offer, I'd feel awkward asking for it ... but I would if they kept reaching out

I just did this today: a recall a hot client I met with over Labor Day. I reached out but he said he was low on funds. I offered a promotion if he books in the next couple weeks (and not because he’s hot, but because he’s nearby and biz has been slow all week)…but with the holidays looming, idk if it’ll happen.

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This isn’t exactly like this post, but I have a client who I enjoyed meeting with once and he’s fucking hot 🔥. But he’s also (straight) married. 
 

He’s annoyed me a couple of times hitting me up when I’m in his city. Or we’ve tried to plan. But then he’s not able to meet for whatever reason. I’ve noticed on a couple occasions he’s blocked MY number (iMessages go from blue to green) and then seen me in town and maybe unblocked me and reached out to me. But it’ll still just be to fantasize and see about me versus booking.
 

 

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5 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

This isn’t exactly like this post, but I have a client who I enjoyed meeting with once and he’s fucking hot 🔥. But he’s also (straight) married. 
 

He’s annoyed me a couple of times hitting me up when I’m in his city. Or we’ve tried to plan. But then he’s not able to meet for whatever reason. I’ve noticed on a couple occasions he’s blocked MY number (iMessages go from blue to green) and then seen me in town and maybe unblocked me and reached out to me. But it’ll still just be to fantasize and see about me versus booking.
 

 

Sounds like a dry well to me. Which is a damn shame - but at least you know that.

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13 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

This isn’t exactly like this post, but I have a client who I enjoyed meeting with once and he’s fucking hot 🔥. But he’s also (straight) married. 
 

He’s annoyed me a couple of times hitting me up when I’m in his city. Or we’ve tried to plan. But then he’s not able to meet for whatever reason. I’ve noticed on a couple occasions he’s blocked MY number (iMessages go from blue to green) and then seen me in town and maybe unblocked me and reached out to me. But it’ll still just be to fantasize and see about me versus booking.
 

 

I don't think the correct conclusion to draw from an iMessage that gets delivered as a text (i.e. that goes from blue to green) is that your number was blocked.

iMessages are just text messages that are routed through Apple's servers rather than over the carriers'.  The color just shows what route it took.

I'm on a thread with two college friends, two of us use iPhones and the other uses an Android for his cell service but also uses an iPad.  Messages that he sends from his iPad are delivered as iMessages and appear blue, the ones from his cell aren't and appear green.

More below:

https://www.ianswerguy.com/imessage-sent-as-sms-text-message/

https://osxdaily.com/2019/04/07/howto-check-someone-blocked-your-number-iphone/

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On 12/12/2021 at 9:59 AM, Hlparx said:

I don't think the correct conclusion to draw from an iMessage that gets delivered as a text (i.e. that goes from blue to green) is that your number was blocked.

iMessages are just text messages that are routed through Apple's servers rather than over the carriers'.  The color just shows what route it took.

I'm on a thread with two college friends, two of us use iPhones and the other uses an Android for his cell service but also uses an iPad.  Messages that he sends from his iPad are delivered as iMessages and appear blue, the ones from his cell aren't and appear green.

More below:

https://www.ianswerguy.com/imessage-sent-as-sms-text-message/

https://osxdaily.com/2019/04/07/howto-check-someone-blocked-your-number-iphone/

Idk man…it sounds optimistic but I still lean towards the other end. Seems clients get off on blocking escorts. Like sir, you contacted me 1st. They should block themselves. 

There’s some “clients” out here who have come to me, BSing around like they normally do: and then I’ll notice the messages go from Blue to Green during a chat, especially when I go about explaining how to schedule things without showing inconsideration in the process.  
 

That’s why I am rushing to finalize this new breakthru plan I have been working on. I’m not dealing with the games and BS anymore going into 2022. I even invested my first $50 in Euro I earned from dancing, into it. 
 

I just wish I would have done it sooner.

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