Masseur is making booty-calls to me

[+ FrankR]

Name names, he’s probably doing it to more than just you.

We see you trying to steal @Wolfer 's boyfriend. Not allowed - I call a foul! ?

[supersweetlover]

Can't wait to see it be made into a movie and shall we call it "Pretty Man"? ??

[Wolfer]

Hahaha, thanks you guys!

 

I'd like to commend the OP, @Wolfer, for following through with an update on his situation. I know these sorts of threads are begun asking for input and after 10 pages of replies from forum members its "crickets," from the OP. It's like watching a movie with no end! ?

 

In this case the ending was neat, tidy, and hot! I'm a bit envious. ? Now we just need @Wolfer to return with detailed entries of his FWB exploits! ???

So as an update... It kinda breaks my heart doing this after all the cheers. But it looks like I've been ghosted. Messages from me to him are being read but remain unanswered. Oh well, I'm still glad I had the experience.

 

So no Hallmark romcom! (yet, hehe)

 

Yes I'm a little sad, even if I know that's sometimes how life goes.

[Phil_musc]

So sorry to read this now. We were all rooting for you, or at least pulling for you. . . (there's a double entendre or two there I think).

 

Now about those pictures . . . ?

[+ sniper]

He'll be back when he's horny. He probably decided spending the night was too close to a relationship and he's spooked.

[+ nycman]

But it looks like I've been ghosted.

Wow, this storyline sure did a 360 fast.

Sorry to here it.

I agree though, give it time.

Some times boys just get spooked.

Some times they come back

Some times they don’t.

 

Too many fish....

[Redwine56]

Wow, this storyline sure did a 360 fast.

Sorry to here it.

I agree though, give it time.

Some times boys just get spooked.

Some times they come back

Some times they don’t.

 

Too many fish....

But @Wolfer is not just any fish. He is prime bait! He proved me wrong in my initial reaction that the masseur was in a permanent relationship when he said that he spent the night at the masseur's place.

[Phil_musc]

A 34 year old man is no boy and it is a mistake to consider him as such (my $.02). Time to grow up?

[Wolfer]

So sorry to read this now. We were all rooting for you, or at least pulling for you. . . (there's a double entendre or two there I think).

 

Now about those pictures . . . ?

Hahaha, keep asking and I might just upload them ?

He'll be back when he's horny. He probably decided spending the night was too close to a relationship and he's spooked.

Yeah, guys getting spooked seems to be common enough (I'm talking regular dates, not service providers) . Not the first time it's happened to me and I hear plenty of others complain about it too.

 

Anyways, he responded to my message yesterday. Looks like our relationship will be strictly professional going forward. I respect that but I'm a little sad and for now don't have any interest in hiring at all, not even other masseurs.

[dcguy20]

@Wolfer may I ask what he said?

[HotWhiteThirties]

@Wolfer, I definitely would not be "hiring" this guy anymore. If he wants anything to happen, if it were me, it would be an old fashioned hook up and only if I'm in the mood at this point. Just my two cents. Have fun! ? Keep us posted on any future hot encounters. ?

[+ sync]

Hahaha, keep asking and I might just upload them ?

 

Yeah, guys getting spooked seems to be common enough (I'm talking regular dates, not service providers) . Not the first time it's happened to me and I hear plenty of others complain about it too.

 

Anyways, he responded to my message yesterday. Looks like our relationship will be strictly professional going forward. I respect that but I'm a little sad and for now don't have any interest in hiring at all, not even other masseurs.

Your disappointment is understandable, but it is also possible that it's not a you/him thing, perhaps the provider just could not sustain the loss of time and revenue from his business that a personal relationship would entail, which might not have been an issue pre-Covid.

[+ sniper]

How many unanswered texts did you send him and in what timeframe? i.e. did you perhaps come off as clingy?

[Kyle_paul11]

We see you trying to steal @Wolfer 's boyfriend. Not allowed - I call a foul! ?

Aint no foul y’all all hoes ?

[Wolfer]

So I thought I'd give an update. 

Over the past few months we occasionally exchanged texts but no meeting materialized. Then this morning he texted me, asking if we could meet. Since I've been really stressed and could use a massage I thought why not. I ask him if he's available tonight. He says he's not, he's meeting a friend but he can reschedule. I reply that's not necessary and we can meet another time but he keeps... Being enthusiastic? So I let him reschedule his friend and we schedule a meet later that night.  (I was halfway between feeling flattered and wondering if he needed money, hahaha) 

 

So anyway, session is really short, about 30 minutes. He goes straight to fucking me, no massage at all. (his sessions are normally 70 minute massages for the rate I pay). 

So when we're cuddling I ask if he could still give me a back and neck massage to which he says "if we still have time" (we absolutely still had half an hour left) and at that moment I was over it, hahaha. He did give me a massage but then put on his clothes and made it VERY clear I was expected to leave. 

The whole thing took way less than the 70 minutes his rate normally gets someone. 

 

I'm over this guy, hahaha. This is the second time he's shorted a session. I was willing to accept a shorter session because previously he did give a massage and the sex was good. But today it just felt like he was horny and I was just there for him to get off and give him money. 

 

He lost this customer for sure, hahaha.

 

Having said all that I am happy I went because my body is more relaxed and I've topped up on feel-good hormones. But honey, treat me like a fleshlight and an ATM and I am out, hahaha. 

Edited June 20, 2021 by Wolfer

[Wolfer]

On 3/31/2021 at 11:50 PM, HotWhiteThirties said:

@Wolfer, I definitely would not be "hiring" this guy anymore. If he wants anything to happen, if it were me, it would be an old fashioned hook up and only if I'm in the mood at this point. Just my two cents. Have fun! ? Keep us posted on any future hot encounters. ?

Gave an update in the previous post!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

2 hours ago, Wolfer said:

But honey, treat me like a fleshlight and an ATM and I am out. 

What a great line!

[HotWhiteThirties]

4 hours ago, Wolfer said:

So I thought I'd give an update. 

Over the past few months we occasionally exchanged texts but no meeting materialized. Then this morning he texted me, asking if we could meet. Since I've been really stressed and could use a massage I thought why not. I ask him if he's available tonight. He says he's not, he's meeting a friend but he can reschedule. I reply that's not necessary and we can meet another time but he keeps... Being enthusiastic? So I let him reschedule his friend and we schedule a meet later that night.  (I was halfway between feeling flattered and wondering if he needed money, hahaha) 

 

So anyway, session is really short, about 30 minutes. He goes straight to fucking me, no massage at all. (his sessions are normally 70 minute massages for the rate I pay). 

So when we're cuddling I ask if he could still give me a back and neck massage to which he says "if we still have time" (we absolutely still had half an hour left) and at that moment I was over it, hahaha. He did give me a massage but then put on his clothes and made it VERY clear I was expected to leave. 

The whole thing took way less than the 70 minutes his rate normally gets someone. 

 

I'm over this guy, hahaha. This is the second time he's shorted a session. I was willing to accept a shorter session because previously he did give a massage and the sex was good. But today it just felt like he was horny and I was just there for him to get off and give him money. 

 

He lost this customer for sure, hahaha.

 

Having said all that I am happy I went because my body is more relaxed and I've topped up on feel-good hormones. But honey, treat me like a fleshlight and an ATM and I am out, hahaha. 

So you paid this guy? 🤔

Those were not your instructions. 😜🤣🤣🤣

[Wolfer]

11 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

So you paid this guy? 🤔

Those were not your instructions. 😜🤣🤣🤣

I knoooooow, hahahaha. I hadn't been touched in months and was seriously touch starved so I was open to meeting. 

But yeah, I have no interest anymore. Even though I'm really happy I went because I again learned a lot about myself and some parts were really hot. 

[Wolfer]

16 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

So you paid this guy? 🤔

Those were not your instructions. 😜🤣🤣🤣

Omg talk me off the ledge, please, hahaha. I started wondering what I was complaining about since I realized he's basically giving me full escort services at massage rates. 

But I can't get over the fact he's scheduling me and cutting our sessions short. Maybe if he'd be more generous with post-sex interaction (which he was when we first met) I'd still consider it. 

Uuuuugh. 

Hahaha. 

🤪🥴

Time to put on my big boy pants

Edited June 21, 2021 by Wolfer

[HotWhiteThirties]

14 hours ago, Wolfer said:

Omg talk me off the ledge, please, hahaha. I started wondering what I was complaining about since I realized he's basically giving me full escort services at massage rates. 

But I can't get over the fact he's scheduling me and cutting our sessions short. Maybe if he'd be more generous with post-sex interaction (which he was when we first met) I'd still consider it. 

Uuuuugh. 

Hahaha. 

🤪🥴

Time to put on my big boy pants

You have yourself quite a conundrum it seems. 
 

A leopard doesn't change his spots. You are not going to change this guy. Clearly it's on his terms, but you like the sex. The benefit as you're figuring is full service at massage rates.

I'd still be willing to wait until he asks again and when he does just tell him if you come over at his request it will be as a booty call and you won't be bringing any money with you. See if he still wants you to come over. 

I believe in a provider's right to earn for quality service, but that's not what this is. He's wanting ass on demand and to also be paid.

Wanna really throw him for a loop? Quote him a price for your next visit. Sounds like there's gonna be one of some sort. 😜 Am I right? 😜🤣

[Redwine56]

21 hours ago, Wolfer said:

I knoooooow, hahahaha. I hadn't been touched in months and was seriously touch starved so I was open to meeting. 

But yeah, I have no interest anymore. Even though I'm really happy I went because I again learned a lot about myself and some parts were really hot. 

@Wolferif you had any doubts about the kind of person he is, this meet-up should have clarified that for you.  You went to see him with the intention of getting a massage ÷ the expected sex to follow as in past hook-ups.  This time there was no massage at all.  He got right down to business and then had the audacity to take your $$$ for the booty call.  You hadn't seen him in 2 months and it didn't sound as if you were in touch during that time.  He should have truly welcomed you if he had any feelings for you even as s friend for past times spent together.  Instead he got what he wanted straight away, wouldn't even comply with your simple request of a neck and back massage and then was rushing you out.  You deserve better than that.  

[Wolfer]

8 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

You have yourself quite a conundrum it seems. 
 

A leopard doesn't change his spots. You are not going to change this guy. Clearly it's on his terms, but you like the sex. The benefit as you're figuring is full service at massage rates.

I'd still be willing to wait until he asks again and when he does just tell him if you come over at his request it will be as a booty call and you won't be bringing any money with you. See if he still wants you to come over. 

I believe in a provider's right to earn for quality service, but that's not what this is. He's wanting ass on demand and to also be paid.

Wanna really throw him for a loop? Quote him a price for your next visit. Sounds like there's gonna be one of some sort. 😜 Am I right? 😜🤣

This is such a good and insightful response, thank you! 

"but that's not what this is. He's wanting ass on demand and to also be paid." 

Absolutely, you took the words right out of my mouth. And yeah, I'm still sort of open to meeting him... The sex and massage (if he gives one) are incredibly good. 

I texted him to let him know I was disappointed he cut our sessions short. His answer? Telling me he gives me way more than 70 minutes each time. 😂

The timer on my phone disagrees 😂😂😂 (I ran a timer last time to make sure I wasn't making a mistake with the time) 

6 hours ago, Redwine56 said:

@Wolferif you had any doubts about the kind of person he is, this meet-up should have clarified that for you.  You went to see him with the intention of getting a massage ÷ the expected sex to follow as in past hook-ups.  This time there was no massage at all.  He got right down to business and then had the audacity to take your $$$ for the booty call.  You hadn't seen him in 2 months and it didn't sound as if you were in touch during that time.  He should have truly welcomed you if he had any feelings for you even as s friend for past times spent together.  Instead he got what he wanted straight away, wouldn't even comply with your simple request of a neck and back massage and then was rushing you out.  You deserve better than that.  

Yes, I feel like he didn't even appreciate my business as a client, just there to get my money. I told him about him cutting sessions short and he denies it. 🙄 Even though I had a timer running on my phone to make sure I wasn't imagining things... 

Edited June 22, 2021 by Wolfer

[HotWhiteThirties]

4 hours ago, Wolfer said:

This is such a good and insightful response, thank you! 

"but that's not what this is. He's wanting ass on demand and to also be paid." 

Absolutely, you took the words right out of my mouth. And yeah, I'm still sort of open to meeting him... The sex and massage (if he gives one) are incredibly good. 

I texted him to let him know I was disappointed he cut our sessions short. His answer? Telling me he gives me way more than 70 minutes each time. 😂

The timer on my phone disagrees 😂😂😂 (I ran a timer last time to make sure I wasn't making a mistake with the time) 

Yes, I feel like he didn't even appreciate my business as a client, just there to get my money. I told him about him cutting sessions short and he denies it. 🙄 Even though I had a timer running on my phone to make sure I wasn't imagining things... 

I would quit bringing up to him anything about the time shortage and decide if you're in the mood next time he reaches out and just treat it for what it is. No money exchanged. He doesn't care about the time. 
 

When you're good and clear headed, you might send him a message preemptively and just let him know up front you will no longer be paying for time should he reach out again in the future. Maybe he goes away...or maybe he hits you up again for a piece and that's already out there. If you take him up on it, I'd leave my $ at home. 
 

If he never reaches out again, so be it. 
 

You're getting advice to drop this guy. That's probably not bad advice, either. 
 

I'm still a little jealous. 😜🤣

[Tristatedude]

@WolferWhen are you going to post a link to his ad so we can help you out by seeing if it's just you or if he does the same with others.  😁