Masseur is making booty-calls to me

[Wolfer]

4 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

I would quit bringing up to him anything about the time shortage and decide if you're in the mood next time he reaches out and just treat it for what it is. No money exchanged. He doesn't care about the time. 
 

When you're good and clear headed, you might send him a message preemptively and just let him know up front you will no longer be paying for time should he reach out again in the future. Maybe he goes away...or maybe he hits you up again for a piece and that's already out there. If you take him up on it, I'd leave my $ at home. 
 

If he never reaches out again, so be it. 
 

You're getting advice to drop this guy. That's probably not bad advice, either. 
 

I'm still a little jealous. 😜🤣

I love your write-ups. They are so concise and excellently recap the advice! Thanks! Yeah looks like he's over me after me mentioning the time hahaha. We'll see! 

But yes, I hope I won't cave next time he comes knocking. Why would I? Part of me still wants to delude myself apparently. It's... Well. Ugh. 

Anyway, why be jealous? All I'm left with is genuine disappointment and I also had a bit of a cry over it. (not just over this alone, but things have been piling up and he was an excellent stress release 😔 one of the very very few I have) 

1 hour ago, Tristatedude said:

@WolferWhen are you going to post a link to his ad so we can help you out by seeing if it's just you or if he does the same with others.  😁

Hahaha you'd have to come to Brussels. I think on first sessions he's amazing and for clients who stay purely massage clients probably also. I just think, given he's very new to the business and was never an escort, he got me mixed up with treating me as a hookup instead of as a client. 

Anyway, I'm going to put on sunglasses and a big scarf and wail on a bench in the park. Mourning over losing this hot piece of ass. Well, dick, cause he fucked my hot ass. 

[+ aeikaryoko]

7 minutes ago, Wolfer said:

I love your write-ups. They are so concise and excellently recap the advice! Thanks! Yeah looks like he's over me after me mentioning the time hahaha. We'll see! 

But yes, I hope I won't cave next time he comes knocking. Why would I? Part of me still wants to delude myself apparently. It's... Well. Ugh. 

Anyway, why be jealous? All I'm left with is genuine disappointment and I also had a bit of a cry over it. (not just over this alone, but things have been piling up and he was an excellent stress release 😔 one of the very very few I have) 

Hahaha you'd have to come to Brussels. I think on first sessions he's amazing and for clients who stay purely massage clients probably also. I just think, given he's very new to the business and was never an escort, he got me mixed up with treating me as a hookup instead of as a client. 

Anyway, I'm going to put on sunglasses and a big scarf and wail on a bench in the park. Mourning over losing this hot piece of ass. Well, dick, cause he fucked my hot ass. 

It’s unfortunate to lose one, but there will always be another to replace him. Hot ass you mention?  Can I see?  😜

[Phil_musc]

Yes, yes, I thought photos had been promised a while back here.

[HotWhiteThirties]

2 hours ago, Wolfer said:

I love your write-ups. They are so concise and excellently recap the advice! Thanks! Yeah looks like he's over me after me mentioning the time hahaha. We'll see! 

That's nice feedback. You're welcome. Not sure how helpful it actually is, but this has been an interesting story to follow and I share whatever thoughts I have. And he definitely doesn't care about you flashing the phone or admonishing him on the time.."with proof." Let that go. 
 

2 hours ago, Wolfer said:

Anyway, why be jealous? All I'm left with is genuine disappointment and I also had a bit of a cry over it. (not just over this alone, but things have been piling up and he was an excellent stress release 😔 one of the very very few I have) 

That's very sad that it has impacted you emotionally. Understandable to have differing expectations. You mentioned being in Brussels...is there a language or cultural barrier at play perhaps? 
 

And I'm a bit jealous cause this: 

2 hours ago, Wolfer said:

Mourning over losing this hot piece of ass. Well, dick, cause he fucked my hot ass. 

Especially if it is as hot as it sounds. 😁

Edited June 22, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties

[HotWhiteThirties]

2 hours ago, aeikaryoko said:

 Hot ass you mention?  Can I see?  😜

This!😜😁🤣

Edited June 22, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties

[Wolfer]

6 hours ago, aeikaryoko said:

It’s unfortunate to lose one, but there will always be another to replace him.

In all the years I've hired I've always found either a good masseur who wouldn't escort or an escort who wasn't a good (or even trained) masseur. This guy has both, is good at sex and is physically completely my type. So not too sure I'll find one like him again quickly.

4 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

That's nice feedback. You're welcome. Not sure how helpful it actually is, but this has been an interesting story to follow and I share whatever thoughts I have. And he definitely doesn't care about you flashing the phone or admonishing him on the time.."with proof." Let that go. 

It has been very helpful! It's like you crystillazed it down to its essentials. So thanks again! Oh and definitely about the timer thing. I'm letting that go. Just so disappointing.

 

4 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

That's very sad that it has impacted you emotionally. Understandable to have differing expectations. You mentioned being in Brussels...is there a language or cultural barrier at play perhaps? 

Yeah, I've been absolutely frazzled with stress lately because of life and after the date I could feel all that stress had been emptied out of my body so to then realize I would have to stop seeing him and lose such a stress release... Ooph.

He's from France and speaks perfect English and has Brazilian roots and an artist (paint and wood) so we had quite a few connecting points. I just think he got stars in his eyes when he realized he could get paid to fuck a guy he was actually physically attracted to and forgot there was a person at the other end of his penis. He's very very new to the business and has only offered massage services. So I think he just sort of started treating me as a hookup because he lacked previous experience as a provider with clients.

4 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

Especially if it is as hot as it sounds. 😁

It was... He is really good at sex. Which just makes it even more disappointing, hahaha.

7 hours ago, aeikaryoko said:

Can I see?  😜

 

5 hours ago, Phil_musc said:

Yes, yes, I thought photos had been promised a while back here.

 

4 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

This!😜😁🤣

Ugh fffffiiiiiiiiinnnneee 🤣🤣🤣

 

[HotWhiteThirties]

20 minutes ago, Wolfer said:

Ugh fffffiiiiiiiiinnnneee 🤣🤣🤣

 

Well, there we have it fellas. The literal "bottom" of the matter ! 😜😂😜😂 
 

Thanks, @Wolfer! Very nice. 👏🏻 No wonder the conflict. 😁

 

Hope you find peace in the situation, in spite of my lightheartedness. I don't mean to diminish your concern. 

Edited June 23, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties

[Phil_musc]

WooHoo! Al last we see what a fine piece of ass is at the bottom of this story. Nothing wrong with your masseur's eyes! 😘

Still I agree with the above - not making light of your very real feelings here.

[Wolfer]

15 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

Thanks, @Wolfer! Very nice. 👏🏻 No wonder the conflict. 😁

 

Hahaha, thanks for the compliment! 😁😁

15 hours ago, HotWhiteThirties said:

Hope you find peace in the situation, in spite of my lightheartedness. I don't mean to diminish your concern. 

Oh no, I don't feel like you do that at all. I appreciate the lightheartedness and the empathy shown! It has actually helped.

3 hours ago, Phil_musc said:

WooHoo! Al last we see what a fine piece of ass is at the bottom of this story. Nothing wrong with your masseur's eyes! 😘

Still I agree with the above - not making light of your very real feelings here.

Hahaha, aaw, thanks! 😘 And thank you for your empathy, it's comforting to hear.

Edited June 23, 2021 by Wolfer

[topunderachiever]

" after the date I could feel all that stress had been emptied out of my body"

You're a fool to let this guy go. Keep your guard up but enjoy the wild ride.  YOLO applies here.  

Edited June 23, 2021 by topunderachiever

[Wolfer]

8 hours ago, topunderachiever said:

" after the date I could feel all that stress had been emptied out of my body"

You're a fool to let this guy go. Keep your guard up but enjoy the wild ride.  YOLO applies here.  

That's the question, isn't it? Is the stress release and good sex worth the disrespect, disregard and feeling used by him? 

Sometimes I swing one way, sometimes the other.

[+ sniper]

I mean if you know what it is going in, then is his respect an issue? The problem is that you caught feelings and aren't over that. 

[Wolfer]

3 hours ago, sniper said:

I mean if you know what it is going in, then is his respect an issue? The problem is that you caught feelings and aren't over that. 

To me apparently it is. As for feelings, I don't think so. There was four months between this session and the previous one. I said yes to this one cause I needed a stress release. 

In any case, the cutting short of sessions does seem to bother me enough to feel like it is an issue. I know there's men who don't mind getting kicked out after sex but I do, especially when I'm paying and there's still ample time left on the clock.