Falling in love with a scort

[thetruth]

So why start yet another one?

 

Obviously after making them I realized I was giving that impression you mention. I told the mod right after but he never responded by deleting the threads.

[sexymonk]

this is so true. I have accepted and ok with hiring is transactional and a lustful hobby. I’ve hired my share of plentiful guys over the years but only fell hard for one. I was with him three times but I’m so glad he disappeared otherwise it would have been a bad situation. I even told him I was falling for him.

I still haven’t hired since pandemic and I’m ok with that because it’s all just lust. If I was looking for love with an escort, I would be damn near suicidal at this point. Lol.

I understand we are social animal and look for that love or emotional connection that nature gave for survival of species! To be honest I came to realization that occasional meeting is fine. What best we can do is focus our energy on ourselves. We will be more happy to do so. One day everyone will leave us and only ourselves will be there for each one of us unless we loose our mental faculty!

[sydneyboy]

It would be like falling “in love” with rent boys in countries like Thailand, Phillipines, Brazil etc. A recipe for disaster.

[jtwalker]

Honestly, if I start liking an escort too much, it's time to move on. Nothing good can come from that.

[+ Cash4Trash]

I found myself getting way too attached to an escort and resolved to never see him twice in a row. Always had to see someone else before I saw him again.

[jcmiami1]

Best to walk away and stop all communications - aka block - you might have with the escort. Remember when you are in that state of mind you interpret all acts of kindness by the escort as “ maybe he really loves me” which is delusional thinking. If you ignore/block him he’ll just move to another client. As someone told me - escorts are salesman. Some are really good at sales and will do or say anything to keep the >money< rolling in. Bottom line it’s a business plain and simple.

[Seaworld]

It can be really bad, embarrassing and messy. Trust me, been there. lol. With that said, having feelings for someone can be a really beautiful thing too. It's all about controlling your feelings and having the right expectation of where things are going. If you are good at controlling your feelings and are on the same page with your guy regarding where this is heading, love away, it's fun. I have learned that the more you fall in love, the better you get for controlling your feelings.

[MaxMuscle9x6]

I am surprised at all the comments in this thread about how impossible or improbable it would be to have a relationship with an escort. Well, I met my husband when I hired him, and after our 4th "meeting," he left the envelope of money on the dining room table and left. When I called him later to say he forgot to take the envelope, he said: "I didn't forget, but I can't take your money any longer because I think I am having more fun than you". I assure you he wasn't because I was having the time of my life. That was 22 yrs ago, and we are still happily together.

 

So it can happen.

[+ sniper]

I am surprised at all the comments in this thread about how impossible or improbable it would be to have a relationship with an escort. Well, I met my husband when I hired him, and after our 4th "meeting," he left the envelope of money on the dining room table and left. When I called him later to say he forgot to take the envelope, he said: "I didn't forget, but I can't take your money any longer because I think I am having more fun than you". I assure you he wasn't because I was having the time of my life. That was 22 yrs ago, and we are still happily together.

 

So it can happen.

n your case if was the escort who decided to take it to a different level. Also, if your username is actually descriptive of you, you are....better equipped than the average client to attract a mate, let's be honest here. You're an outlier.

[MaxMuscle9x6]

n your case, it was the escort who decided to take it to a different level. If your username is actually descriptive of you, you are....better equipped than the average client to attract a mate; let's be honest here. You're an outlier.

 

I am not sure how to respond to that...... Yes, he is the one that wanted it to be more, and I was 100% onboard with it. Yes, my username is descriptive of me, and the avatar is actually me.

[Astorplace]

I am not sure how to respond to that...... Yes, he is the one that wanted it to be more, and I was 100% onboard with it. Yes, my username is descriptive of me, and the avatar is actually me.

 

Definite outlier.

 

are / were you also a masseur yourself?

[Rudynate]

I don't know that I agree with all of the advice to avoid falling in love with an escort. It all seems based on an assumption that client and escort are burdened with deficits that make them incapable of having a healthy relationship. I don't think that's necessarily true. Certainly, someone who wants to have a LTR with an escort needs to understand that he's going to be sharing his man with a lot of others, and if he can' t handle that then he ought to think twice before proceeding. And certainly, there are escorts and clients who just aren't relationship material for one reason or another. But I know of at least two escorts who have relationships of long standing. And with the exception of the escort's line of work, they seem to be designed a lot like other loving relationships between gay men.

[thetruth]

I am surprised at all the comments in this thread about how impossible or improbable it would be to have a relationship with an escort. Well, I met my husband when I hired him, and after our 4th "meeting," he left the envelope of money on the dining room table and left. When I called him later to say he forgot to take the envelope, he said: "I didn't forget, but I can't take your money any longer because I think I am having more fun than you". I assure you he wasn't because I was having the time of my life. That was 22 yrs ago, and we are still happily together.

 

So it can happen.

 

What a beautiful love story.

[thetruth]

I am surprised at all the comments in this thread about how impossible or improbable it would be to have a relationship with an escort. Well, I met my husband when I hired him, and after our 4th "meeting," he left the envelope of money on the dining room table and left. When I called him later to say he forgot to take the envelope, he said: "I didn't forget, but I can't take your money any longer because I think I am having more fun than you". I assure you he wasn't because I was having the time of my life. That was 22 yrs ago, and we are still happily together.

 

So it can happen.

 

What a beautiful love story.

[cany10011]

Agree with others about the use of the word "scort"... is it common terminology? Is that word used to skirt censorship??? I mean we are talking about compensated companionship on this message board aren't we?

 

Hasn't everyone seen Pretty Woman? That turned out well didn't it??? lol.

Edited December 12, 2020 by cany10011

[Rudynate]

Go to 4:22 on the youtube video link below. Tim from Adonis Lounge tells why falling in love is a no-no

 

 

 

 

He didn't say not to fall in love with an escort. He even said that he knew lots of guys in relationships with dancers.

[sutherland]

He didn't say not to fall in love with an escort. He even said that he knew lots of guys in relationships with dancers.

It's the same lesson .... dancers or escorts. He says that entertainment is being provided by guys who are doing a job and don't think there's more to the relationship than that.

[Luv2play]

He didn't say not to fall in love with an escort. He even said that he knew lots of guys in relationships with dancers.

For quite a few years around the turn of the century, I lived in close proximity to the gay dancer bars in Montreal, at least for part of the year, the rest being in South Florida where I also went to the bars in Miami and Ft. Lauderdale. I got to know quite a few dancers and had sex with many of them. Some I took home. One I fell for and we were together a lot of the time for over 4 years. With the latter our interests were broader than the bedroom as he was quite a good artist and I helped promote his work.

 

In the end it didn’t work out as he developed an addiction problem which he couldn’t overcome and which made it impossible to live with him. The last I heard he was living in his mother’s basement. I still live his art, as I have a half dozen or so, two of which are major pieces, one in my living room and one in my bedroom. I watched him painting both pieces and they mean a lot to me.

[Rudynate]

It's the same lesson .... dancers or escorts. He says that entertainment is being provided by guys who are doing a job and don't think there's more to the relationship than that.

 

 

 

And there generally isn't that's true. But there's no reason why it can't happen. I have talked to escorts who are certain that they don't want a relationship. Someone like that would be a poor candidate to fall in love with. And one doesn't fall in love right away. I think one can experience an immediate infatuation, but falling in love generally takes time and repeated exposure.

[+ sniper]

It's not that it CAN'T happen, it's that the odds of it ending VERY BADLY are higher than the odds of it working out.

[Luv2play]

It's not that it CAN'T happen, it's that the odds of it ending VERY BADLY are higher than the odds of it working out.

IMO, there’s something between ending “VERY BADLY” and working out. Sometimes things just end, and while the moment it happens and you realize it’s over, is not a happy one for sure, quite soon you realize life goes on and you pick up the pieces and move forward.

 

I actually can’t think of cases I know where things ended so badly that a person’s life was ruined. Obviously I’ve read of cases where someone committed suicide but that’s only something I’ve read about in novels or the classics like Romeo and Juliet.

[Quincy_7]

Oh believe me, it's most likely nothing more than infatuation. I met an incredible brazilian the last time I was in London and I legit thought I was in love. Took me a while after I got back to calm down and realize that it was just an infatuation.

[Luv2play]

Oh believe me, it's most likely nothing more than infatuation. I met an incredible brazilian the last time I was in London and I legit thought I was in love. Took me a while after I got back to calm down and realize that it was just an infatuation.

It must have been a lovely moment though.

[Quincy_7]

It must have been a lovely moment though.

 

Yes, I still think about him and hope to see him again sometime.

[beachboy]

The thing is when we hire we naturally choose guys we're attracted to & who are offering what we're looking for.

Best scenario is when we meet up we find he's just as hot as we thought & as friendly as we want. So we end up butt naked having hot sex with a guy who pushes all our buttons.

 

The danger is that as sentient beings our feelings can so easily go overboard & we can read all sorts of meanings into a situation that are not real as we're indulging in intimate

acts with the type of guy we would choose as a partner in a different situation.

 

My solution has been to allow myself to be 'in love' with the guy during the session but after my customary 'thank you' text the next day to remind myself that he has a whole life which does not include me, to respect him by contacting him only when I want to make another booking & enjoy his services again.

 

One exception was a guy I really liked. We had life interests in common & he gave me his real name, his private phone no. & was quite happy to have occasional text chats between meets & revealed many details of his life. This was a guy I could easily have gone overboard for but my sensible head made sure I kept things friendly but not too friendly and so things never got awkward & meets with him we're always spectacular.