Live on Long Island. Do I need to head into the City to hire?

[Chummily]

I’m hoping to get a little perspective from someone who also doesn’t live in the city.

 

I’ve attempted to hire a few times, but each time I’ve been ghosted a few times after asking to meet someplace that’s close to me. The only specific I got was one escort telling me that it was far (like an hour by train) so he didn’t really want to meet.

 

I really would rather not go into the city as it’s a big hassle, but just wondering if any other Long Islanders have had these issues trying to hire. Or are there any suggestions on guys that have no problem taking outcalls outside of the city?

[Islesguy]

As a Long Islander, I have only hired people for incalls in the city. I'm in walking distance to an LIRR station so I find it easier. Plus, I find the commute relaxing so I'm usually in a good mood when I meet them.

 

I can barely get my city-based friends to travel out to me by train or car, so I doubt I want to go through the trouble to get a hire to come out.

[+ LIguy]

I'm in western Nassau and it's difficult. A few guys I talked to were willing to come out but they insisted on a Uber and on a Sat night it's a ridiculous amount of money. I would rather hire the escort for 2 or 3 hours plus give him 50 bucks for the LIRR as I'm only a 35-40 min ride from Penn. So i've come to realize that it's better to get a hotel room in NYC and hire from there.

[alexslaveboy]

You can certainly search RM for Nassau and Suffolk counties

 

https://rent.men/gay-escorts/nassau-ny/

 

 

https://rent.men/gay-escorts/suffolkcounty-ny/

 

 

Not sure what type of guy you are looking for......

[Kevin Slater]

Yes.

 

Kevin Slater

Edited August 25, 2020 by Kevin Slater

[+ azdr0710]

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[Lazarus]

I actually had a guy that used to come into Manhattan from LI. He would take the train to Penn & then the subway uptown. Never once did he ask me to be reimbursed for his travel expenses or travel time. . I refuse to hire these guys in the city who want you to pay for their Uber. That’s one reason why I don’t like dealing with local guys who do not have a place.

[orville]

each time I’ve been ghosted a few times after asking to meet someplace that’s close to me.

one escort telling me that it was far (like an hour by train) so he didn’t really want to meet.

It seems you've already got your answers before asking here.

[+ JEC]

I’m hoping to get a little perspective from someone who also doesn’t live in the city.

 

I’ve attempted to hire a few times, but each time I’ve been ghosted a few times after asking to meet someplace that’s close to me. The only specific I got was one escort telling me that it was far (like an hour by train) so he didn’t really want to meet.

 

I really would rather not go into the city as it’s a big hassle, but just wondering if any other Long Islanders have had these issues trying to hire. Or are there any suggestions on guys that have no problem taking outcalls outside of the city?

Sounds like the perfect excuse for an overnight in the Big Apple. Hotels are dirt cheap right now (b/c COVID), you can score a decent hotel for $79 on Hotwire. Have a nice dinner, get epic-ly laid, what could be better?

[Lazarus]

Sounds like the perfect excuse for an overnight in the Big Apple. Hotels are dirt cheap right now (b/c COVID), you can score a decent hotel for $79 on Hotwire. Have a nice dinner, get epic-ly laid, what could be better?

Just make sure the hotel you are staying at isn’t also being used for homeless people.

[cany10011]

Even to visit friends in LI is a chore. The LIRR isn’t really that bad, and the ride is only 50 minutes or so but seems psychologically far as the trains only return every hour during late evenings. And then, from the LIRR I have to get a car or wait for my friend to pick me up and drive another 15 minutes to their house.

[Islesguy]

Even to visit friends in LI is a chore. The LIRR isn’t really that bad, and the ride is only 50 minutes or so but seems psychologically far as the trains only return every hour during late evenings. And then, from the LIRR I have to get a car or wait for my friend to pick me up and drive another 15 minutes to their house.

The problem with this viewpoint is no one living in the city cares that it exactly the same for us Long Islanders with exception of getting in your car and driving home from the train. Apparently, we are supposed to suck it up and deal with the inconvenience for your sake.

[cany10011]

The problem with this viewpoint is no one living in the city cares that it exactly the same for us Long Islanders with exception of getting in your car and driving home from the train. Apparently, we are supposed to suck it up and deal with the inconvenience for your sake.

 

Respectfully, i didn’t chose to live on LI. Everyone has a choice to where they want to live. My friends who live in LI also have a spare condo on the UWS so they stay there when it is a late night. I’m sure one can find willing escorts to travel to LI, provided the compensation is there.

[Geriatric Otter]

I’m hoping to get a little perspective from someone who also doesn’t live in the city.

 

I’ve attempted to hire a few times, but each time I’ve been ghosted a few times after asking to meet someplace that’s close to me. The only specific I got was one escort telling me that it was far (like an hour by train) so he didn’t really want to meet.

 

I really would rather not go into the city as it’s a big hassle, but just wondering if any other Long Islanders have had these issues trying to hire. Or are there any suggestions on guys that have no problem taking outcalls outside of the city?

Try Cord. He's listed now in NYC, but also has a house in Suffolk.

[Islesguy]

Respectfully, i didn’t chose to live on LI. Everyone has a choice to where they want to live. My friends who live in LI also have a spare condo on the UWS so they stay there when it is a late night. I’m sure one can find willing escorts to travel to LI, provided the compensation is there.

Respectfully, not everyone is wealthy enough to afford two homes to which they can transfer back and forth. The fact that your friends have two abodes isn't a counterargument to my point that too many people who live in the city think it's ok to make their friends spend their time and money to drag themselves to the city but do not have the decency to reciprocate every so often without whining about it. Friendship should be a two way street. And honestly, my point was more a general thing than specific to escorts.

 

As much as I love the city, the high and mighty city dwellers that look down upon Long Islanders and Long Island really only confirms the stereotype people who live outside of the area think about NY.

[RuffLeatherPig]

Taking a break due to COVID, but open to future appointments and will gladly travel to LI

[+ Coolwave35]

There are a fair amount of Long Island boys that don’t advertise. Talk to buff daddy. He knows them all. I’m all the way out in southampton and unless I throw in an overnight and beach day trip it’s really hard to lure the city boys out, even with wads of cash.

[Rod Hagen]

I wonder if it's an east coast thing. While I'd never drive to Palm Springs or Santa Barbara for less than a 4 hour appointment, I've certainly driven to, say, Upland or OC for a two hour appointment. I presume the drive to orange county is about as long as the LIR to you.

[wklukas]

I wonder if it's an east coast thing. While I'd never drive to Palm Springs or Santa Barbara for less than a 4 hour appointment, I've certainly driven to, say, Upland or OC for a two hour appointment. I presume the drive to orange county is about as long as the LIR to you.

 

Brock Hart once drove in from San Diego to meet me at La Quinta Resort....(my casita on that visit was really one of their best / nice memory)....

anyway, 2 hours together....500 total stuffed inside his jockstrap, errrr back pocket....

an afternoon date he was more than happy to accommodate.....

To say that you would not commit to PS for less than 4 hours strikes me as kind of jaded....no real hard-core offense intended, just a simple reaction to words written by a guy who i thought approached this work with several considerations in the mix & not solely monetary.

& Santa Barbara.....as the crow flies, not that much farther / longer than driving to Upland.

[former lurker]

Brock Hart once drove in from San Diego to meet me at La Quinta Resort....(my casita on that visit was really one of their best / nice memory)....

anyway, 2 hours together....500 total stuffed inside his jockstrap, errrr back pocket....

an afternoon date he was more than happy to accommodate.....

To say that you would not commit to PS for less than 4 hours strikes me as kind of jaded....no real hard-core offense intended, just a simple reaction to words written by a guy who i thought approached this work with several considerations in the mix & not solely monetary.

& Santa Barbara.....as the crow flies, not that much farther / longer than driving to Upland.

 

It's not just the distance, it's also the route. Driving to a less densely populated area can be relaxing, and more predictable as it's less dependent on potential rush hour traffic, potential accidents, roadwork, etc. The Northeast is different -- except for NYC which is so densely populated and compact, especially Manhattan, the rest of the region is not overly packed but also much less spread out than other parts of the country (although I'm not really factoring in the northernmost parts of NYS, Maine, etc). It's also relatively easy to get to/from Boston, DC and NYC/Manhattan without driving (hourly shuttles by plane, high speed rail, modestly priced bus trips, etc). Having a car in Manhattan is not a necessity and, for most, a complication and expense that's better avoided. That makes travelling from Manhattan more of a project -- you either have to rent a car, pay a big uber charge, work around train or transit schedules, or some combination. Now that I'm back living in New England, I wouldn't forgo having a car and it's a simple matter of hopping in, opening a gps app, and hitting the road.

[Rod Hagen]

Brock Hart once drove in from San Diego to meet me at La Quinta Resort....(my casita on that visit was really one of their best / nice memory)....

anyway, 2 hours together....500 total stuffed inside his jockstrap, errrr back pocket....

an afternoon date he was more than happy to accommodate.....

To say that you would not commit to PS for less than 4 hours strikes me as kind of jaded....no real hard-core offense intended, just a simple reaction to words written by a guy who i thought approached this work with several considerations in the mix & not solely monetary.

& Santa Barbara.....as the crow flies, not that much farther / longer than driving to Upland.

 

Well....you can't like me THAT much if you live in or frequent SoCal and haven't hired me in 21 years. I am very glad you had such a great time with Brock. I heard great things

 

If it was $250/hour then Brock's hourly rate is higher than mine, so it makes sense his 2-hour circle might have been larger. Additionally, driving from SD to PS is much less prone to multiple-hour traffic jams than LA to PS.

 

I'm reasonably comfortable driving my car to OC or Upland. But I don't trust my car to Palm Springs or Bakersfield or Santa Barbara or Big Bear or Barstow, so in those instances I have to rent a (small) car which, with all the coverage, is costly, particularly at the last minute.

 

Considering how much of a Mensch I've proven myself to be over the last couple decades, you shouldn't call me jaded. It's neither deserved nor fair.

Edited September 1, 2020 by Rod Hagen

[wklukas]

Well....you can't like me THAT much if you live in or frequent SoCal and haven't hired me in 21 years. I am very glad you had such a great time with Brock. I heard great things

 

If it was $250/hour then Brock's hourly rate is higher than mine, so it makes sense his 2-hour circle might have been larger. Additionally, driving from SD to PS is much less prone to multiple-hour traffic jams than LA to PS.

 

I'm reasonably comfortable driving my car to OC or Upland. But I don't trust my car to Palm Springs or Bakersfield or Santa Barbara or Big Bear or Barstow, so in those instances I have to rent a (small) car which, with all the coverage, is costly, particularly at the last minute.

 

Considering how much of a Mensch I've proven myself to be over the last couple decades, you shouldn't call me jaded. It's neither deserved nor fair.

 

I did say that I had a nice memory of the casita that I was given on that trip into the LQ resort.....I never indicated or mentioned a great time with Brock....if forced to I would say he was a nice guy but as a hire he was average at best.....maybe not even. For 1 thing, I was expecting a tall drink of water in the mojave desert....he advertised as 6’5”....I’m 5’10”-ish....brock was a bit taller than me but not 6-7 inches taller.....

anyway, extending apologies here....I did not intend for my words to be interpreted so harshly by you....

as far as never having hired you.....there are lots of hot men who are simply not my type as hires.

[Rod Hagen]

I did say that I had a nice memory of the casita that I was given on that trip into the LQ resort.....I never indicated or mentioned a great time with Brock....if forced to I would say he was a nice guy but as a hire he was average at best.....maybe not even. For 1 thing, I was expecting a tall drink of water in the mojave desert....he advertised as 6’5”....I’m 5’10”-ish....brock was a bit taller than me but not 6-7 inches taller.....

anyway, extending apologies here....I did not intend for my words to be interpreted so harshly by you....

as far as never having hired you.....there are lots of hot men who are simply not my type as hires.

 

Sorry to hear that, that's too bad. I remember Brock having good reviews. I might be wrong.

 

To the original subject, I think maybe some of the stubbornness on the part of we (us?) escorts to agree to leave our urban bubbles might be anchored in an assumption that the client will eventually pass through our town and THEN we can make arrangements. In other words, if a client lives in Long Island and the escort lives in Manhattan, the escort can assume reasonably that at some time in the near future the client will be in or pass through Manhattan, and so at that time an affordable hour appointment can be made.

 

Same goes for LA/Palm Springs or LA/San Diego. If an escort lives in LA and a client in Palm Springs reaches out to him, it's safe for the escort to assume that the client will most likely be in LA in the near future.

 

Manhattan and LA have a gravitational pull.

 

These are explanations, not excuses, and they may be on the subconscious level.

[MscleLovr]

if a client lives in Long Island and the escort lives in Manhattan, the escort can assume reasonably that at some time in the near future the client will be in or pass through Manhattan…

Same goes for LA/Palm Springs or LA/San Diego. If an escort lives in LA and a client in Palm Springs reaches out…it's safe for the escort to assume that the client will most likely be in LA in the near future.

 

I feel you may be very right @Rod Hagen

 

When I lived in Manhattan, I never thought of a guy’s travel time. I expected any difficulty in his travel to be reflected in his rate. I never owned a car in the City and I used the Jitney or a car service to go to the Hamptons. I had guys join me there and depending on their rates, I’d offer the Jitney or the car service. Similarly, in San Diego I had a car but I wouldn’t drive to LA (too unpredictably long a trip) but I’ve invited guys from LA to join me in La Jolla for an afternoon date of several hours and dinner. I can only recall my last date there 6-7 years ago when a gorgeous young Australian agreed to drive down one Saturday afternoon. We had good fun together and he asked to stay over with me - all for $1000, meals and his overnight parking.

 

I guess the key for @Chummily will be to offer an extended date (possibly with dinner) at an unbusy time. Also I’d suggest the OP work out in advance the best way for a guy to travel to him in a relaxed and easy fashion - if that’s Uber, so be it.

[wklukas]

Same goes for LA/Palm Springs or LA/San Diego. If an escort lives in LA and a client in Palm Springs reaches out to him, it's safe for the escort to assume that the client will most likely be in LA in the near future.

Manhattan and LA have a gravitational pull.

These are explanations, not excuses, and they may be on the subconscious level.

 

The last time I can remember crying about something connected to LA was when Delmonico’s Seafood Grille on Pico closed....it had been among my favorites for the city.....

If this rentmen advertiser Joe DiCarlo is for real, I’ll be crying again for sure.....tears of joy however.....I would consider walking from SF to LA....but would probably fly down to be able to hook up with him faster

 

https://rent.men/JoeDicarlo