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sync Grand Master

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It takes two to tango. He's not innocent, nor is he naive, and knows exactly what he's doing. I'm just putting my experience out there for advice. Thanks for your insight....remember escorts also come at a cost and risk as well...yet we take a risk of being labelled a predator, jail time, and possible STI's for some physical intimacy.

The tone of this posting strongly suggests you have made your decision.

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Maybe I'm making more of this than there is....and he's just my grown man crush.

 

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This!

 

It is entirely possible that you misinterpreted his workplace friendliness for something that is what you would like it to be.

 

Don't cause a possible scandal that could be the end of your working career at that firm.

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Monarchy79 Grand Master

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I used to have a workplace infatuation with a guy...

I had absolutely no intent on taking any action on it.

 

However, my fantasies all went down the drain in the men’s room.

 

My office had somewhat of a small men’s room.

I go in to wash my hands and I hear and smell the most explosive, foul, flatulence ever known to man!!!???.. it smelled like whomever was on that commode, had the diet of a possum!!!????

 

Then out of the stall, proudly walking out, after relieving himself of 10+ lbs of putrid waste was the “fantasy” dude!!!!???

 

 

My dreams were now a dream deferred.... ???

 

 

Hopefully your dreams will somehow get “deferred” too.

 

Then you’ll be able to focus and keep yourself out of trouble.

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Monarchy79 Grand Master

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@Monarchy79 we all poop, don't we?

 

C'mon! Unless you agree with @friendofsheila that males models don't poop...

 

https://m4m-forum.org/search/970238/?q=models&c[title_only]=1&c[users]=friendofsheila&o=date

????

 

You’re right!!!

 

And I’ll admit that I’m a bit childish when it comes to the “bathroom”, situations....

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Reisr30 Grand Master

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I think there is a connection but I've been forward with people before and it's blown up in my face. He's in a position of authority so being forward might cost me more than I'm willing to pay for just a curiosity. I will say this, a couple months ago we stood in the parking lot and chatted for a little while. I kept asking him so many questions and he finally got a point where he said "Is this a personal question?" Which kinda threw me because I thought we were just being friendly. He had told me earlier he's pretty guarded with people he works with and even shared some personal stuff that he asked me not to repeat. I think he was wanting to ask me some personal questions but I told him I was curious about his thinking and why he thinks the way he does.

 

Another manager passed us in the parking lot and said "you gotta be careful with the conversations in the parking lot, before you know it an hour will pass..." and with that the conversation ended.

 

We haven't really talked like that since....but the stares and smiles continue. Sometimes he'll call me out during a meeting just to mess with me.

 

Maybe I'm making more of this than there is....and he's just my grown man crush.

Having been through harassment prevention training by HR I would not hook up with another coworker and definitely someone at a lower or higher level. Even if there is no issue between you and him; if someone else got wind of it, it could lead to issues...

 

And I would not hook up with a married guy (gay or straight); I wouldn’t want someone hooking up with my husband and that would end my marriage if that happened...

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When you are having a casual conversation, say you've enjoyed his company and ask if you can connect on Facebook or Instagram or something. Mention you should have lunch or dinner together before he leaves to just hang out. Let him pick up on the opportunity or not. You can decide then or not.

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I agree with those who have said it. Don't shit where you eat. Full disclosure, I'm a married guy here, and the last thing I would want was a guy at work, especially at a lower level, making an advance, even if there had been some flirting. that may sound hypocritical, but i would be completely paranoid afterwards. and if he declines, you'll be in a bad spot. maybe it's slightly different if he makes a move, but it could get messy for him and you, either way. I know it's tough...i've had to restrain myself in a few work situations where my radar was pinging, one just this year on the road, but it's so easy for these things to go south.

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marylander1940 Grand Master

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There are straight guys who simply like the attention. It's an ego stroke for them. You should consider that possibility.

 

It takes two to tango. He's not innocent, nor is he naive, and knows exactly what he's doing. I'm just putting my experience out there for advice. Thanks for your insight....remember escorts also come at a cost and risk as well...yet we take a risk of being labelled a predator, jail time, and possible STI's for some physical intimacy.

 

it takes two to flirt

 

behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.

"it amused him to flirt with him"

 

 

Dude, don’t. Just don’t. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I was in a very similar situation a number of years ago; my one-eyed brain got the best of me and it was a disaster. It’s spelled “infatuation”.

 

@rustyrex I'm not sure if you said it on here or anywhere else but where are you located? How "out" are you in the office?

 

Personal questions but is up to you to answer.

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Lchnsf Community Regular

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Scenario is nice in fantasy/ porn but in real life tread carefully. You have to work with this guy and He could be just a nice guy. As some one else said, don’t shit where you eat! I doubt today anyone would be spiteful but you never know.

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Another manager passed us in the parking lot and said "you gotta be careful with the conversations in the parking lot, before you know it an hour will pass..." and with that the conversation ended.

 

I find this piece especially troubling. I don’t think it was an innocent exchange, it was a warning. You may already be on people’s radar and neither of you need that kind of gossip.

 

Flirting is fun, exhilarating and gives you those butterflies but sometimes it’s best to leave it there. Enjoy the thrill but I agree with the others, don’t push it any further.

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