Client Etiquette - Do’s & Don’ts on Booking / Meeting

[lonely_john]

I recently had an escort stop answering my messages after we were chatting over a week (not phone but website). I surely did or said something he deemed inappropriate but it’s the first time this happens to me and wouldn’t like it to happen again. Is there anything like a Client Etiquette or shortlist of items that Escorts and masseurs stick to (this could also include red flags) to qualify clients during first contact and sessions, that we should also be aware of?

Edited February 22, 2020 by lonely_john

[+ José Soplanucas]

You are lucky if he chatted with you for a week. If I was an escort, I would block anyone who does not make an appointment after a few messages.

Edited February 21, 2020 by latbear4blk

[+ OliverSaks]

Don’t ask for things that are illegal, sex or specific sex acts for money. Quickest way to shut a conversation down.

[lonely_john]

You are lucky if he chatted with you for a week. If I was an escort, I would block anyone who does not make an appointment after a few messages.

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[BluDay]

I'm not an escort, but have hired several. The wise move is for the client to be as brief as possible. If the escort gets chatty, that's great, go with it. One of the "costs of doing business" for an escort is guys contacting them just to chat and never make an appointment. If you have not been with the escort, there is always a chance you will not show up for an appointment, so the time the escort is taking is essentially cost. He wants to know he'll be earning. My understanding is clients who chat a lot (text, RM messages, etc.) are less likely to appear for the appointment.

 

Not knowing what happened in this conversation, we can't tell. If you had settled business (time, rate, activities) and he kept messaging you, all is well. If you kept going he might have become convinced you are a time waster.

[Smurof]

If you really still want to see him, start over and use a different e-mail address, and different first name. This is from experience, although I never divulged to the guy I am a reformed reject of his.

 

P.S. follow the other advice given to you. Keep it direct, non-explicit, and as question free as possible. Enjoy!

[lonely_john]

Thank you for the support. This has been revealing. I definitely need to reform and be less chatty.

[lonely_john]

You're welcome. Looking forward to seeing your updated name as happy John instead of lonely John, as Farmer John is taken - that guy was great around wieners.

Haha! Thank you, you are very sweet. I’ve had some though ? I just didn’t know the things that I’ve been doing wrong all this time. Thanks for your concerns ? hopefully I will be fine.

[wklukas]

If you really still want to see him, start over and use a different e-mail address, and different first name. This is from experience, although I never divulged to the guy I am a reformed reject of his. !

 

 

At least telling “lonely john” to contact the escort again with a new or different identity is better advice & more palatable than your other habit - searching for ancient ads that might still be online from guys that get your interest & hoping that they will agree to accepting a published rate from xx# of years ago.....for a few reasons, that just seemed a bit weird as well as being a time-waster on your part.....you admitted to having just 1 single success with this approach after what seemed like a lot of effort & research by yourself

[cany10011]

I usually book within the first 2 correspondences (email/text). For me, if I had an escort that stopped responding, I“d probably wouldn‘t contact him from a different email address as i usually give all my info upfront (including name and phone number)... unless your phone number is different.

[MscleLovr]

reform and be less chatty.

 

That’s a good rule @lonely_john.

 

When I hired, I sent a polite email with all my info to enquire about availability. With the 2nd email, I checked that we were compatible (if it had not been clear in his first reply) and booked....and I always asked how and when he wanted me to confirm as I usually booked in advance.

 

Being prolix or sending several vague messages makes it seem as if you are not serious about meeting.

 

That said, I hired a lovely guy in LA who asked me to phone him from Europe just so we could “get to know each other“. I did so and called him 2x more in the 3 weeks before I visited LA. The date went very well indeed.

[+ VictorPowers]

I have always liked interactions that are informative yet to the point. Maybe a first message explains the duration, availability, what they are into, and their name/stats Ex.

“Hello I’m Dave in Toronto. I enjoy rimming, kissing, and being a top. Do you have time for an hour next Tuesday the 3rd at 6 pm? Also what is your rate and location?”

 

An opening message like this shows us a lot. From the surface it’s respectful and well constructed. We receive dozens of first time messages that say “Available?” “Rate?”. Talking to us like that doesn’t really go anywhere.

[+ peterhung85]

Don’t ask for things that are illegal, sex or specific sex acts for money. Quickest way to shut a conversation down.

INDEED! Highly agree... besides that one never knows what triggers the escort to stop responding. This is something that is up to each individual. Unless you ask the guy and he responds, you probably will never know.

[Jonostark]

Just remember, if you have experience hiring escorts, you probably have found that booking in advance is much better than last minute and especially ESPECIALLY if you follow through. The Provider will be more into the experience if they weren’t stressed about whether or not you were gonna follow through. This evening alone, not to mention the whole weekend, I have been flaked on 3 times, including guys who booked in advance. This weekend as a whole, I’ve had multiple people say they’ve arrived at my hotel, but when I give my room number no one shows up and get no messages or calls. Follow through because you never know if you’re the first guy to flake or the 5th...

[CuriousByNature]

Just remember, if you have experience hiring escorts, you probably have found that booking in advance is much better than last minute and especially ESPECIALLY if you follow through. The Provider will be more into the experience if they weren’t stressed about whether or not you were gonna follow through. This evening alone, not to mention the whole weekend, I have been flaked on 3 times, including guys who booked in advance. This weekend as a whole, I’ve had multiple people say they’ve arrived at my hotel, but when I give my room number no one shows up and get no messages or calls. Follow through because you never know if you’re the first guy to flake or the 5th...

 

In case it isnt clear, my ?is in response to the advice you're providing, not the fact you were flaked on. As for being flaked on, I offer ?

[BluDay]

To mention acceptable longer chats. Sometimes it works if you have not met yet, sometimes. But follow the escorts lead. A couple years ago I arranged to meet @VictorPowers in Cleveland. I'd mentioned I was on here, and after business was arranged, that there were some things to see. He picked up and we exchanged a few messages of suggestions. It was just a few, but it shows that some "extracurricular" chats can happen.

 

He picked up a thread that if he had left it would not have been rude to do so. When he didn't respond a bit later, I didn't pester him. It was pleasant for me to have some extra 'time', and since I was generally responding to his, he was not obligated to continue. He was most polite.

 

And I did meet him, a reason I can say no one would go wrong with an appointment.

[+ VictorPowers]

To mention acceptable longer chats. Sometimes it works if you have not met yet, sometimes. But follow the escorts lead. A couple years ago I arranged to meet @VictorPowers in Cleveland. I'd mentioned I was on here, and after business was arranged, that there were some things to see. He picked up and we exchanged a few messages of suggestions. It was just a few, but it shows that some "extracurricular" chats can happen.

 

He picked up a thread that if he had left it would not have been rude to do so. When he didn't respond a bit later, I didn't pester him. It was pleasant for me to have some extra 'time', and since I was generally responding to his, he was not obligated to continue. He was most polite.

 

And I did meet him, a reason I can say no one would go wrong with an appointment.

Long story short, I never returned to Cleveland ever again! ? Unfortunately just not a primary market for me! ?

[+ JEC]

In escort terms there is a "thing" called a time waster. Don't be one. Time is money, save your use of time for when you are paying for it. Keep it #ShortSweetComplete.

[MrMattBig]

I have always liked interactions that are informative yet to the point. Maybe a first message explains the duration, availability, what they are into, and their name/stats Ex.

“Hello I’m Dave in Toronto. I enjoy rimming, kissing, and being a top. Do you have time for an hour next Tuesday the 3rd at 6 pm? Also what is your rate and location?”

 

An opening message like this shows us a lot. From the surface it’s respectful and well constructed. We receive dozens of first time messages that say “Available?” “Rate?”. Talking to us like that doesn’t really go anywhere.

This 100 percent.

Also, transparency if you need to cancel or lost interest for whatever reason.

And talk to an escort like a human being, same as you would a friend or family member, not like how one may think one should communicate with an escort, and not like a 'glorified prostitute'.

Today I got a message stating " I want to fuck you", I retorted that he was overly explicit and not to expect an escort take a first message like that seriously, and then he went on to debate with me in full, thoughtful, intelligent even if ignorant, sentences the merits of the emotional and mental positives that can come from meeting an escort and insisting I am a glorified prostitute who just fucks to earn a living.

Just baffling how some think they should talk to someone and treat them as something less than themselves just because they are a sex worker.

[rjk2429]

So here's a twist: Booked a session on Monday of this week for today (Friday). Had a solid conversation on expectations, rates, exchanged pics. All seemed fine. Texted yesterday - thought I might have a work conflict come up - I let them know and then sent a note back saying all was still good. Received a response that things were still a go on their end and to touch base in the morning. Texted this morning to reconfirm - only to have them reply that something happened, they are a bit freaked out (my words/not theirs) and that they have cancelled all of their pending appointments. They had two ads on RentMen and both came down right away. But one of them has just popped up. So, from an escort perspective, was I just toyed with?

[+ poolboy48220]

So here's a twist: Booked a session on Monday of this week for today (Friday). Had a solid conversation on expectations, rates, exchanged pics. All seemed fine. Texted yesterday - thought I might have a work conflict come up - I let them know and then sent a note back saying all was still good. Received a response that things were still a go on their end and to touch base in the morning. Texted this morning to reconfirm - only to have them reply that something happened, they are a bit freaked out (my words/not theirs) and that they have cancelled all of their pending appointments. They had two ads on RentMen and both came down right away. But one of them has just popped up. So, from an escort perspective, was I just toyed with?

If the ads came down for just a bit, I'd assume something happened that did indeed freak them out, they panicked and cancelled appts and removed their ads, and once the panic lifted they're starting to put their ads up.

 

My approach would be, if I were still interested, to contact them & ask if all is okay now, and if they still want to meet up.

[+ FrankR]

So here's a twist: Booked a session on Monday of this week for today (Friday). Had a solid conversation on expectations, rates, exchanged pics. All seemed fine. Texted yesterday - thought I might have a work conflict come up - I let them know and then sent a note back saying all was still good. Received a response that things were still a go on their end and to touch base in the morning. Texted this morning to reconfirm - only to have them reply that something happened, they are a bit freaked out (my words/not theirs) and that they have cancelled all of their pending appointments. They had two ads on RentMen and both came down right away. But one of them has just popped up. So, from an escort perspective, was I just toyed with?

My advice would be to share a human moment: text him and ask him if he is okay. No mention of appointments, just an act of kindness. See how he responds and take it from there... ?

[rjk2429]

I was able to connect with the escorts. They appear to have had an incredibly creepy/scary encounter with a client the evening before and, according to them, he continued to stalk them using different devices & aliases. They have taken their ad down. We texted yesterday a few times (genuinely concerned for their wellbeing). They were kind and then politely signed off.

[jawjateck]

I am occasionally ghosted. There are many reasons why that happens which have nothing to do with the respectful approach I use to reel them in.

 

I brush it off and move along.

[Chad Constantine]

If a guy says to text him day of to confirm how early show the text be sent prior to the scheduled time of meeting?