To douche or not to douche

[KYrus]

So, I'm thinking of finally taking the plunge with an escort in the coming weeks/months and I'm looking to be topped.

 

I'm just wondering if I should douche before the date or if I'll be fine if I just make sure to go to the bathroom a few hours before the date.

 

And if douching is recommended, is there a good brand to use or should I just use soapy water?

 

Thank you for your help, gents!

[Trick]

I just use plain warm water with an emptied Fleet enema bottle.

[marylander1940]

So, I'm thinking of finally taking the plunge with an escort in the coming weeks/months and I'm looking to be topped.

 

I'm just wondering if I should douche before the date or if I'll be fine if I just make sure to go to the bathroom a few hours before the date.

 

And if douching is recommended, is there a good brand to use or should I just use soapy water?

 

Thank you for your help, gents!

 

Of course unless you want to have an accident.

 

 

 

[KYrus]

Of course unless you want to have an accident.

 

 

 

 

Thanks! Not sure if I want to invest in something like this since this is going to be a one-time, cross it off my bucket list kind of thing.

[marylander1940]

Thanks! Not sure if I want to invest in something like this since this is going to be a one-time, cross it off my bucket list kind of thing.

 

You can but one for less than two dollars on a Rite Aid or CVS but one like this will last for years.

 

Do you expect to bottom ever again?

[KYrus]

You can but one for less than two dollars on a Rite Aid or CVS but one like this will last for years.

 

Do you expect to bottom ever again?

 

Again, this is likely going to be a one-time thing for me but if I decide to see the escort I'm planning to book a date with again, it might be handy to have.

[marylander1940]

Again, this is likely going to be a one-time thing for me but if I decide to see the escort I'm planning to book a date with again, it might be handy to have.

 

I know.... I read it the first time you posted.

 

Again, whether you'll bottom again or you'll never do it in your life. You must douche!

 

Maybe you can just ask him to use his douche if you want to save $2 or $18.

Edited February 18, 2019 by marylander1940

[Trick]

The Walmart brand is 98 cents ?

[hypothetically]

So, I'm thinking of finally taking the plunge with an escort in the coming weeks/months and I'm looking to be topped.

 

I'm just wondering if I should douche before the date or if I'll be fine if I just make sure to go to the bathroom a few hours before the date.

 

And if douching is recommended, is there a good brand to use or should I just use soapy water?

 

Thank you for your help, gents!

 

Please douche. It’s an inexpensive and simple process. Not douching (purposely) when you know the process exist is rude and nasty. Also, please don’t run soapy fingers up your ass if you cherish your beloved anal lining. It’ll possibly make your experience bottoming a painful one.

[KYrus]

I know.... I read it the first time you posted.

 

Are you gay?

 

Have you ever bottomed before?

 

Will you bottom after your first time hiring an escort to top you with someone else who is not an escort?

 

Maybe you can just ask him to use his douche. The important thing for you is to douche before and not whether to spend $2 or $18.

 

No, just curious about having sex with a man. I've become a lot more adventurous in recent years and being with a man is something I've wanted to try since I was a teenager.

 

I made a few attempts through Craigslist but they either fell through or I lost my nerve. I had the chance to have a threesome with a gay couple, something I still kick myself for not hooking up.

 

I live in the Toronto area and after Bruce Mcarthur, a serial killer who preyed on gay men he met online, was arrested and the details of the case came out, I decided that a male escort would be a lot safer than someone I met through CL or Grindr. And CL also shut down their Casual Encounters section.

 

I've never bottomed before. I've engaged in anal play; rimjobs, prostate massages, had toys used on me a couple times, with women.

 

Again, I'm going to see what happens after I go to see the escort. If I enjoy myself, I may go to see him again so having an anal douche would come in handy.

[+ VictorPowers]

I know.... I read it the first time you posted.

 

Again, whether you'll bottom again or you'll never do it in your life. You must douche!

 

Maybe you can just ask him to use his douche if you want to save $2 or $18.

I don’t know if I’d share my equipment. TSA already touches it all the time anyway.

[+ Axiom2001]

marylander1940 said:

Of course unless you want to have an accident.

 

 

 

marylander1940 said:

I know.... I read it the first time you posted.

 

Again, whether you'll bottom again or you'll never do it in your life. You must douche!

 

Maybe you can just ask him to use his douche if you want to save $2 or $18.

hypothetically said:

Please douche. It’s an inexpensive and simple process. Not douching (purposely) when you know the process exist is rude and nasty. Also, please don’t run soapy fingers up your ass if you cherish your beloved anal lining. It’ll possibly make your experience bottoming a painful one.

 

By all means- "DOUCHE" prior to having anal sex! I like to bottom when with a hot escort and one who knows how to please the guy who's occupying the "bottom bunk." If you don't douche and have an accident, neither of you will have enjoyed the play session!

 

If the top really desires to "plow the field" deeply-- he wants to do this w/o encountering any unnecessary and undesirable "weeds" !!

Edited July 19, 2021 by Axiom2001

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

By all means, if you're wanting to get fucked for any amount of time please prepare properly.

 

Case-in-point...

 

I had two guys over the past month both want to bottom, each spoke highly of their skill in taking dick like they were auditioning for the lead role in a Kevin Spacey docuseries, but whaddya know: Only one of them- the one who took the time to douche-out- was clean enough to eat a French Laundry tasting menu out of. The other became an unfun situation real, REAL fast.

 

I always try to make it clear that if certain kinds of play are expected, I have my own expectations for the prep work. It's no different than asking someone for a round of piss-play and they show up not having consumed one drop of water in the past few hours.

[Beancounter]

https://www.pureformen.com/

 

I know several men who use (and are satisfied) with this product.

 

And as has been mentioned by so many posters before me in this thread.....please douche completely before you bottom. Otherwise you’ll come across as a complete douchebag (pun intended).

[+ Snbrd]

If you are that ambivalent about douching KYrus you really have to think about whether you are ready to play bottom. You also cannot say you don't want to use lube!

[+ Keith30309]

If you DON'T then it's quite likely that you will have an unpleasant experience and ruin the fun (not to mention alienate your companion) and therefore make it less likely you will want try a second time.

 

Consider the price of an emptied enema bottle to be a tiny insurance policy on the large purchase of time you are going to make.

 

Prepared + fun = repeat

[+ ArVaGuy]

The bottom line here is you should douche if you’re going to engage in anal sex. You should plan to “clean out” a couple hours before the appointment. This allows for the water to fully absorb and prevents a runny residue situation.

 

Buy an over the counter enema product, pour out the saline and refill with plain warm water. To do this properly is not a one and done process. You may have to repeat this a few times to get a “clean” result.

 

I’m a top (stop laughing) in most of my encounters and I still douche before an appointment. I love getting rimmed and it’s just common curtesy to offer a partner a fresh and clean playing field for a guy to burry his face.

 

I’d advise the provider that you’re a novice bottom so he’s able to adapt his approach so to speak. Also, don’t hire someone who’s exceptionally endowed if you’re not a well adapted bottom. The last thing you need is to have pain and discomfort in this situation.

[KYrus]

If you are that ambivalent about douching KYrus you really have to think about whether you are ready to play bottom. You also cannot say you don't want to use lube!

 

I genuinely want to know if I should douche before the date as a courtesy to the gentleman I'm planning to see as well as for my comfort.

 

And when I initially contacted him, I did advise him that this would be my first time being penetrated by something larger than the small vibrator one woman used on me, ArVaGuy.

[Trick]

I don’t know if I’d share my equipment. TSA already touches it all the time anyway.

 

This is why I prefer the disposable Fleet bottles. ?

[+ Funguy]

By all means, if you're wanting to get fucked for any amount of time please prepare properly.

 

Case-in-point...

 

I had two guys over the past month both want to bottom, each spoke highly of their skill in taking dick like they were auditioning for the lead role in a Kevin Spacey docuseries, but whaddya know: Only one of them- the one who took the time to douche-out- was clean enough to eat a French Laundry tasting menu out of. The other became an unfun situation real, REAL fast.

 

I always try to make it clear that if certain kinds of play are expected, I have my own expectations for the prep work. It's no different than asking someone for a round of piss-play and they show up not having consumed one drop of water in the past few hours.

 

Or asperagus!

[MassageDrew]

Just use water. It’s as natural as you can get since you drink it every day. Do it multiple times til the water that comes out runs clear and no smell. Soap will do more damage to your body in the long run. I normally use the enema bulb when traveling. I have the shower attachments at home which makes it easier. As a first timer be sure to lube up.

[KeepItReal]

The bottom line here is you should douche if you’re going to engage in anal sex. You should plan to “clean out” a couple hours before the appointment. This allows for the water to fully absorb and prevents a runny residue situation.

 

I’m a top (stop laughing) in most of my encounters and I still douche before an appointment. I love getting rimmed and it’s just common curtesy to offer a partner a fresh and clean playing field for a guy to burry his face.

I follow the same approach, always prepare for play even though I take the top bunk. Use plain tap water, room temperature and make sure you use lube to ease the passage of the tube through the sphincter.

[DMICS]

If you have money to pay for an escort, you have money to invest in an enema bottle which is cheap anyways (even if you're only going to use it once).

[TruthBTold]

Thanks! Not sure if I want to invest in something like this since this is going to be a one-time, cross it off my bucket list kind of thing.

 

I would also suggest in reading the various posts here regarding the proper way to clean out or there are several elsewhere on line. Sometimes there are suggestions on how to do it properly that are enlightening and make things easier. They often ease the tension.

[BaronArtz]

I just use plain warm water with an emptied Fleet enema bottle.

 

What is wrong with the actual Fleet enema? Is it too harsh? Sorry to be so naïve ...