Getting more and more difficult to deal with this

[N13]

This is a very difficult issue for me to write about. Somehow I made it through many many years of my life without it becoming as strong a difficulty as it is now. Our society seems to put a great deal of importance on having a big dick. For some reason it has become a big deal that I do not have one. Each time I pee now I am reminded of how small I actually am. It has become distressing. It seems that everywhere I look I am reminded of this fact. From the on line photos, porno, jokes on tv and even tv commercials for late night tv hosts I am bombarded with the idea that size does matter.

 

For a long time I was able to put it into the dark regions of my mind and forget about it. Would I rather be smart or a hunk with a big dick? The answer has changed. I used to think being smart was the wiser choice.

 

I am tempted to never look at a dick pic again or expose myself to sexual situations. I know that looking at porn, escort and masseur photos is not a true representation of the size of men's dicks, but that does not stop me from feeling inferior in that department. It's as if the older I get the more important this becomes in my mind.

 

How many of you can honestly say that a small dick doesn't put you off? Be honest!

[+ keroscenefire]

Sorry that you are feeling down on yourself. However, the reality is that in terms of sexual satisfaction, there is plenty that you can do regardless of your penis size. Personally, I have had a great time with many men who have smaller penises. Be confident in yourself and your own attractiveness and realize that with that attitude others will feel the same.

[+ Reisr30]

@N13 I have not always been very comfortable with my body l. When I was younger I was too skinny. Then I thought I was too hairy. Then I thought I had a small penis because I was comparing myself to porn stars (6.5 inches here). I think we all have our insecurities with our bodies and it takes time to accept ourselves and try not to compare to others ( for me it’s a work in progress) so I think I know where you’re coming from. I would say try not what other people think should be the norm or ideal impact how you feel about yourself; I know it’s hard because I work on doing that every day.

 

To your question, I admire a hot body with a large cock and sometimes meet with companions because they meet those requirements. However, I can honestly say the guy that broke my heart and who was my only serious relationship had a smaller than average dick (5.5 inches) and he was an awesome top and I still miss him...

[Trick]

I get what you’re going through. With age, the average-sized dick of my youth has shrunk to a small stub sticking out of my pubic area when flaccid. My ED situation couldn’t get it out of there lol. When escorts can’t get their dick up, I tend to blame myself for it. But I’ve been so lucky to meet escorts that treat me like I’m the hottest sex partner they’ve ever had.

[+ HornyRetiree]

This is a very difficult issue for me to write about. Somehow I made it through many many years of my life without it becoming as strong a difficulty as it is now. Our society seems to put a great deal of importance on having a big dick. For some reason it has become a big deal that I do not have one. Each time I pee now I am reminded of how small I actually am. It has become distressing. It seems that everywhere I look I am reminded of this fact. From the on line photos, porno, jokes on tv and even tv commercials for late night tv hosts I am bombarded with the idea that size does matter.

 

For a long time I was able to put it into the dark regions of my mind and forget about it. Would I rather be smart or a hunk with a big dick? The answer has changed. I used to think being smart was the wiser choice.

 

I am tempted to never look at a dick pic again or expose myself to sexual situations. I know that looking at porn, escort and masseur photos is not a true representation of the size of men's dicks, but that does not stop me from feeling inferior in that department. It's as if the older I get the more important this becomes in my mind.

 

How many of you can honestly say that a small dick doesn't put you off? Be honest!

 

First of all, what most call small is actually very average!

 

Second, camera angles used by many to make look bigger.

 

Third, most guys exaggerate! I have hooked up w/ guys claiming 8” and reality proved they had less than I do! I am very average.

 

PLUS ! Some of the hottest sex I ever had was with a fuck buddy who when hard was 3” and very slender.

 

Be happy with what you have and enjoy it! Over 50 very active years, I have seen tenS of thousands of hard cocks! THREE stand out as enormous - fun but wouldn’t want them all the time - one guy was literally the size of a soda can - when I saw that, I knew why I was fucking his partner several times a week!

 

Three times, I was rejected by size queens - their loss!

 

You are going to think as you decide to think - I hope you can reframe your “self talk” and return to enjoying the cock you have!

Edited February 16, 2019 by HornyRetiree

[+ tassojunior]

Tops don't care if that helps.

 

Go to Thailand to build your ego. Everything's relative.

[+ Travis69]

I am not going to ever say a bad thing about my penis. It has entertained me too much. As long as it works I don't care how small it is.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I have several interesting encounters with smaller endowments.

 

One was with a very cute guy, in a bathhouse, he was reluctant to remove his towel, I went down on him, yep very small cock, understood his reluctance but boom I was gagging , he was about 8 hard so a real grower not a shower. I thought that he would have been bigger than most of the guys in the bathhouse who were rejecting him.

 

Theothermwas when visiting NYC went tothe west side club, met a nice guy, very small but and awesome lover , spent some memorable hours with him.

 

It's all about your attitude so work on that ...

[MikeBiDude]

I get it though....not well hung here, in my sixth decade of life, but I’m confident in my look, and confident I’m a good sexual partner.

 

Ironic I saw this post just 24 hours after getting ridiculed on Grindr....hot guy asked for my pics, we exchanged face and nudes...all of a sudden he goes off on “what is that like 2”? you must be really embarrassed” and the like. I just replied “sorry we aren’t a match...take care”, he didn’t take the hint and continued insults...”next!” Etc. I replied “good luck to you friend” and blocked him.

 

Life’s too short for that nonsense

[Guest Lonlyboy]

I have dealt with this my whole life. For most of my teen and 20s it didn't seem to matter. Then I started sleeping with guys a lot but it was still early where for 80% we didn't exchange pics. Just size etc.

I'm 5" and when I was skinny this did not seem that bad. When I gained weight my cock started to dissapear ha. Then came Grindr and the never ending slog of being told I was too old, fat, small cock, Flatt ass etc.

I would say 90% I push off and move on but 10% hurts especially if I am already feeling down.

 

You just have to keep moving on and not let it be your focus I have had guys tell me I was a fantastic bttm, top and a great kisser. So I know for the right guys I'm a catch it is just harder now to find the right guys.

 

I also started going to nude Korean spa and this helped a lot. I have seen Asian guys with 10" down to 3" I have seen a variety of while guys the same. It really helped boost my confidence.

 

Overall just focus on the positive

[marylander1940]

I get it though....not well hung here, in my sixth decade of life, but I’m confident in my look, and confident I’m a good sexual partner.

 

Ironic I saw this post just 24 hours after getting ridiculed on Grindr....hot guy asked for my pics, we exchanged face and nudes...all of a sudden he goes off on “what is that like 2”? you must be really embarrassed” and the like. I just replied “sorry we aren’t a match...take care”, he didn’t take the hint and continued insults...”next!” Etc. I replied “good luck to you friend” and blocked him.

 

Life’s too short for that nonsense

 

Karma will get to him!

[TruthBTold]

This may make you feel better or worse but it has a lot of useful information. (https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/271647.php)

If and when I bottom I for one am not all that keen on big penises. They hurt and I just don't get that tingly, on-the-spot orgasm. So I was not all that worried about other guys' cocks except to make sure they were not too big. The main thing was whether he tried to please me in some way and I, of course, went out of my way to please him. Hopefully he worked. So, unless it is scientifically too small (and then it appears there are aids for that) look for guys that want to please you as a human and not as a penis.

[MassageDrew]

I think you need to build a bit of some self-confidence. Feeling and being perceived as “hot” is all about how you carry yourself. It might be intimidating to be a top if you’re on the smaller side, yes. But speaking as a bottom I can tell you that I’ve had some fun times being with average guys than hung ones.

[Guy Fawkes]

My tongue has remained the same size which is helpful for what I like to do. IMHO God put the same number of nerves in the penis; The smaller ones seem to enjoy it more.

 

This is a very difficult issue for me to write about. Somehow I made it through many many years of my life without it becoming as strong a difficulty as it is now. Our society seems to put a great deal of importance on having a big dick. For some reason it has become a big deal that I do not have one. Each time I pee now I am reminded of how small I actually am. It has become distressing. It seems that everywhere I look I am reminded of this fact. From the on line photos, porno, jokes on tv and even tv commercials for late night tv hosts I am bombarded with the idea that size does matter.

 

For a long time I was able to put it into the dark regions of my mind and forget about it. Would I rather be smart or a hunk with a big dick? The answer has changed. I used to think being smart was the wiser choice.

 

I am tempted to never look at a dick pic again or expose myself to sexual situations. I know that looking at porn, escort and masseur photos is not a true representation of the size of men's dicks, but that does not stop me from feeling inferior in that department. It's as if the older I get the more important this becomes in my mind.

 

How many of you can honestly say that a small dick doesn't put you off? Be honest!

[JayCeeKy]

Anything more than a mouthful is superfluous.

[Rudynate]

I have a small dick and I'm completely forthcoming when dick size comes up. I dont have any problems snagging men. I hardly think about it. Not sure when this transformation took place, but at some point in my life, I began to notice that my self esteem and self confidence were steadily getting better and better. And all of those things we think we have to conceal and apologize for mattered less and less. I wish I could tell you how I did it, but I cant.

[Walker1]

I have a small dick and I'm completely forthcoming when dick size comes up. I dont have any problems snagging men. I hardly think about it. Not sure when this transformation took place, but at some point in my life, I began to notice that my self esteem and self confidence were steadily getting better and better. And all of those things we think we have to conceal and apologize for mattered less and less. I wish I could tell you how I did it, but I cant.

 

Strange as you get older you just stop caring. Take it or leave it-plenty more fish in the sea. Plus if I like or don't like someone it is not personal, just what I am/not attracted to. I expect others to feel the same about me. if someone does not like me or my ok dick -his preference. Why should I be ashamed?

[Guest]

How many of you can honestly say that a small dick doesn't put you off? Be honest!

 

I may be in the minority, but I genuinely prefer a small dick myself. There are plenty of us out there. My preference for small penises probably stems from the fact that I like to suck men off, and I find it much more pleasurable and comfortable with a cock that will actually fit in my mouth. When a man has a big dick, all I can do is put the head in, and I don't enjoy that as much. Although penis size is way down in terms of what I consider important in a man, all things being equal I would really prefer a man with as small a cock as possible, just about. The only people who I would think would prefer larger penises would be men who are strictly bottoms. Otherwise, a larger size would seem to be a handicap. When I was hiring escorts, if I found two men equally desirable, I would pick the one with the smaller cock. In fact, one of my best escort hires with with a transsexual man who hadn't had bottom surgery.

[Rudynate]

I had an FB with a small dick. I really enjoyed giving him oral.

[Nvr2Thick]

[Zapped]

I, too, prefer a guy with a smaller dick for giving oral (which I love to do).