Canceling due to sickness

[MikeBiDude]

maybe I should just cut my losses and move on.

This ?

[harlow]

This ?

You know he’s good in bed when you stress about him this much lol

[Guest Calix_K]

I don't understand how service providers in this industry throw a fit when they get a cancellation. I have never nor will I ever work and live "client-to client" in terms of making and keeping appointments and earning the associated income.

 

I do however keep detailed files on those who do cancel, should it become a repeat thing. But at no point should a reputable service provider lose their mind over a client informing you that they can't make an appointment due to illness. People get sick. If those people truly want to see you in the future, it's on the service provider to respect that and act professional.

 

Those clients who end up paying part of OR the entire hourly/daily, etc fee is a highly generous move that IMO perpetuates unreasonable entitlement on the service provider's part.

 

In short, people will cancel on you. Act professional, wish them a speedy recovery and move on. Because clients will remember your reactions and will act accordingly.

[+ Reisr30]

I kinda feel like I should try and meet him again just to give him a donation to see if that would make things right for him or maybe I should just cut my losses and move on.

I would cut my losses and move on

[Islesguy]

If any of my doctors ever called me up to bitch and moan about me cancelling an appointment with 24hrs notice, I'd be changing doctors that minute. For people in a service business, they seemingly have no understanding of customer service.

[KeepItReal]

If any of my doctors ever called me up to bitch and moan about me cancelling an appointment with 24hrs notice, I'd be changing doctors that minute. For people in a service business, they seemingly have no understanding of customer service.

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[BasketBaller]

The first escort I ever hired was John from Atlanta, formerly Smalltown John. We had communicated extensively about my lack of experience, etc, and made an appointment for an afternoon session when my kids would be in school. That morning, I got a call saying one of the boys had gotten sick and needed to go home. I nervously called John to explain, assuming he'd think I was flaking-- and he couldn't have been nicer. He said he completely understood and asked if I wanted to reschedule. We did, for two days later (a weekend so I had to hire a baby sitter) and it was completely awesome.

[harlow]

I like your perspective

I don't understand how service providers in this industry throw a fit when they get a cancellation. I have never nor will I ever work and live "client-to client" in terms of making and keeping appointments and earning the associated income.

 

I do however keep detailed files on those who do cancel, should it become a repeat thing. But at no point should a reputable service provider lose their mind over a client informing you that they can't make an appointment due to illness. People get sick. If those people truly want to see you in the future, it's on the service provider to respect that and act professional.

 

Those clients who end up paying part of OR the entire hourly/daily, etc fee is a highly generous move that IMO perpetuates unreasonable entitlement on the service provider's part.

 

In short, people will cancel on you. Act professional, wish them a speedy recovery and move on. Because clients will remember your reactions and will act accordingly.

[+ Axiom2001]

I am putting this out there because I would love advice and maybe educate me if I did something wrong. I set up an appointment last week with a visiting escort. It seemed to be a great match and I was looking forward to the meet. The day before our meeting I woke up with a nasty sore throat. He messaged me to talk on the phone to discuss the details (as I had to book a room since neither of us could host). I stalled replying to him hopefully to see if my throat would get better. After several hours I had to tell him that I had a bad sore throat and probably getting sick regretfully couldn’t keep our appointment for the next day.

 

He did not take my canceling very well. He went off on a tangent about people flaking on him and using choice words. He said that he “gets that I’m sick” but that he’s running a business and depends on people keeping their appointments. I do see where he’s coming from but would any escort expect a client to go through with a session if they are sick? It turned out the following day I had a full blown head cold and never would have been able to be intimate with anyone. I sent a text apologizing but it was a situation that was out of my hands. He didn’t respond. Unfortunately I really liked this guy but I guess it’s obvious a meeting with him will never take place if he sees me text him again.

 

Would love any feedback about this situation.

 

It's unfortunate that the escort subjected you to some unnecessary mishandling of the situation. I would have handled it in the manner in which you did and would have felt sorry that the experience did not occur and that the escort would be losing out financially, but you did not want him to become ill which would have further impeded his "bank account."

 

I had one of my favorite escorts contact me to inform that we could not meet because he'd cut himself while shaving around his "gorgeous cock." I was disappointed, for I'd looked forward to our meeting. But he did the right thing. I saw him when his cut had healed.

 

11/28/19

[+ JEC]

Canceling last minute (within 2 hours of appointment) is bad form, but canceling the day before should be fine. He shouldn't have responded rudely in this scenario.

Agree with this. This was in no way a “last minute” cancellation. There are lots of flakes and time wasters, sadly that’s part of the biz. I think you were perfectly appropriate and thoughtful in your behavior. The alternative - give him a sore throat and see how many days lost revenue that creates!

[+ othermanc]

Last fall I hired an escort I'd never met before in his home town of Boston. A few hours before he was scheduled to arrive at the hotel I got a bout of diarrhea.

When he arrived he texted and I told him I was sick with diarrhea but to wait in the lobby for me. I packed my underwear with a hotel hand towel and went down to meet him. I gave him his rate in an envelope. We hugged before I excused myself and headed back to my room.

 

Another time in New York, I got food poisoning about three hours before a new escort was to arrive at my hotel. I called and while I was explaining my situation he became irate, swore at me, hung up and blocked me.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

One of the most gracious escorts in this regard is @Benjamin_Nicholas. He been a fantasy of mine forever. Years ago I got up the courage make this dream a reality and set up an appointment a month or so in advance. Soon after making that appointment I was to undergo a minor melanoma procedure on my back. It was not my first. The procedure turned out to be more than minor and the recovery slower than before. When I called to cancel he could not have been more gracious. Unfortunately soon after the “SOB” moved from San Antonio to Dallas and the only time this Laredean gets to Dallas is to change planes and his frequent travels don’t seem include Laredo. Someday I’ll fulfill this fantasy. I promise.

 

I still plan on spanking you for canceling when we meet

[+ g56whiz]

I still plan on spanking you for canceling when we meet

In front of a crowd in one of your favorite Korean spas I hope.

[beachboy]

In front of a crowd in one of your favorite Korean spas I hope.

For that you could sell tickets!

[+ g56whiz]

For that you could sell tickets!

Step right up . . .

[+ Eric Hassan]

I remember you having a bad trip to Boston. Where they kind enough to at least cancel in a polite way?

 

nope - in fact, all 7 of the appointments i had confirmed with me within a few hours of their appointment and 6 of the 7 just didn't show up, didn't answer further communication. the 1 that did keep his appointment was in boston on business ... from NYC. i ended up going out to one of the few gay spaces left and it was nearly empty. on the hookup sites, everyone was high on meth. not the bostom i used to know and definitely not the boston i want to know now. it's kinda pathetic and i hope it turns around.

[marylander1940]

nope - in fact, all 7 of the appointments i had confirmed with me within a few hours of their appointment and 6 of the 7 just didn't show up, didn't answer further communication. the 1 that did keep his appointment was in boston on business ... from NYC. i ended up going out to one of the few gay spaces left and it was nearly empty. on the hookup sites, everyone was high on meth. not the bostom i used to know and definitely not the boston i want to know now. it's kinda pathetic and i hope it turns around.

 

got it, they didn't cancel, they simply didn't show up.

[mike carey]

nope - in fact, all 7 of the appointments i had confirmed with me within a few hours of their appointment and 6 of the 7 just didn't show up, didn't answer further communication. the 1 that did keep his appointment was in boston on business ... from NYC. i ended up going out to one of the few gay spaces left and it was nearly empty. on the hookup sites, everyone was high on meth. not the bostom i used to know and definitely not the boston i want to know now. it's kinda pathetic and i hope it turns around.

That's appalling and surprising, and in a perverse sort of way not surprising. There seems to be a fair proportion of the hiring population that is aware of who is in the market, what they are like, and treats them professionally, but also a proportion that has no idea and cares even less. The challenge for a provider is determining into which group a potential client falls. If people in this forum behave like the second group they deserve to be called out. Civility is often missing.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Prefer a cancelled visit to one where on or the other is sick! JUST BECAUSE my personal sex motto is: NEVER too sick, too tired or too often:) The too sick means I still function sexually:) NOT that I want to pass on or catch something.

Edited December 3, 2019 by HornyRetiree

[FilmGeek]

Ive had both experiences. I had one escort I cancelled the day before with when i realized i was catching a cold, and he freaked out. He called me relentlessly for several days telling me i still owed him. He may have tried longer, but i blocked his number.

 

On the flip side, just a few weeks ago i had to drive from pheonix to salt lake for work. After i hit the road, i thought i might as well make it a two day trip, and stop in Vegas. I checked out who was available, called, arranged what i was looking for, and booked a guy for a half night session for that night. He knew i was making a long drive, and told me to just give him a call when i got in, and he would come over. I stopped in kingman for food and fuel, which is pretty close to vegas, and shortly after was on the side of the road puking my guts out. I realized it was most likely food poisoning, and gave the escort a call. He suggested i get to the hotel, take a shower, and see if it was just a fluke, or more serious, and then update him. I did so, but was obviously in bad shape. I felt pretty bad about having to cancel with him when he was standing by, and was ready to offer to partially compensate him, but he wouldn't have it. He told me he was sorry my night in vegas was ruined, and he hoped i got feeling better before i had to hit the road again in the morning.

He was beyond gracious, as opposed to the other guy who was just an ass. I think any decent person will realize that life happens, and be willing to adapt rather than blame.

[Guest davebk]

I often have overnight stops where I am landing in a plane later at night (9pm or later) with a full day of work the next day and flight out next night. I'll occasionally touch base with escorts and ask about late night availability. But because I'm flying in, I always tell them "pencil me in but if you get another offer, please take it as I'm flying in and can't guarantee there won't be delays." It sometimes sucks when they do get another appointment and I am without a fun evening, but I would rather that than cause them to say no to another client and then have me no showing or showing up so late they wouldn't want to meet. On the occasions where they don't have another appointment and I'm on time - it works out well for me and for him.

[+ RJD]

Let’s talk about cancellations. I was in Boston on business for a few days last month and decided to see who was available. Found one who caught my eye, I mean really caught my eye, read his reviews on RM and Daddy, where they were mostly positive but a few who complained he was a “no show.” Like anything, you’re going to have people who just can’t be pleased.

 

I contacted him about a week before my trip, gave him the days I’d be in town (Monday through Wednesday, leaving Thursday), told him what time of night worked for me since I’d be having dinner with colleagues each night, and asked which night would work best for him. We agreed on meeting my last night in Boston (Wednesday) at 9PM at my hotel for two hours. He was extremely pleasant in his texts and in fact, initiated contact with me a few times leading up to my trip. The day I arrived in Boston he texted to say he was looking forward to meeting me. Things were looking good.

 

He texted me 6:40AM the morning of our meeting explicitly telling me what he planned on doing to me and that he was extremely horny. Needless to say, that was the longest day EVER!! I was planning on an early dinner with my colleagues, head back to the hotel, shower, and get ready for a mind blowing time. While at dinner (6:30PM) I get a text from him cancelling the appointment because he had to have dinner with his colleagues from work. I suggested we get together after his dinner (which was 7PM). He replied that he couldn’t promise anything and if he had a few drinks at dinner he wasn’t sure he’d be able to “perform.” Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t get drunk at business dinners and if I had a substantial amount of money waiting for me after dinner I’d be drinking water.

 

Needless to say, I was beyond disappointed and frustrated. He wanted to reschedule for early the next morning before I went to work. That wasn’t going to work. I don’t want my work schedule on my mind and be rushed while I’m trying to have this mind-blowing time. He promised to send me a couple videos he had of himself as an apology for cancelling, but then texted me that he had nothing “worthy” of sending.

 

Now, if this wasn’t enough, after I return home he texts me at 5:50AM Saturday morning offering a video chat where I can watch him pleasure himself, which he told me he does occasionally for a small fee. So I inquired how much and he said $100 for a 10 minute video chat. I actually laughed and asked him to do the math and calculate how much I’d have to pay for an hour of video chat, which was more than I was paying for two hours in person. That was the last communication I had with him.

 

Lesson learned: don’t get your hopes (or anything else) up until you‘re in the same room.

[+ Steve yabsley]

Sorry to hear. I can appreciate your disappointment.

 

I recently had a guy cancel on me with similar timing - in NYC so unlikely to be the same guy.....I had set something up a few days prior, and communication was great. We confirmed the day of around lunch time and we were all set for 9pm after I had dinner with colleagues. While I’m at dinner, he texts me that he pulled a muscle at the gym and needs to cancel. While unfortunate, these things happen (Easy to say now, but like you, I was pretty bummed at the time).

 

I too was disappointed- he has great reviews on line, but the joy of being in NYC - I was able to contact and see someone else - a little later than I was initially planning, but for me, not the same disappointment you had.

 

plan B worked for me (although I do need to say, I would still have preferred to see plan A!).

[+ Reisr30]

Sorry to hear. I can appreciate your disappointment.

 

I recently had a guy cancel on me with similar timing - in NYC so unlikely to be the same guy.....I had set something up a few days prior, and communication was great. We confirmed the day of around lunch time and we were all set for 9pm after I had dinner with colleagues. While I’m at dinner, he texts me that he pulled a muscle at the gym and needs to cancel. While unfortunate, these things happen (Easy to say now, but like you, I was pretty bummed at the time).

 

I too was disappointed- he has great reviews on line, but the joy of being in NYC - I was able to contact and see someone else - a little later than I was initially planning, but for me, not the same disappointment you had.

 

plan B worked for me (although I do need to say, I would still have preferred to see plan A!).

The same thing happened to me in LA. I flew out there to meet a well reviewed guy and the afternoon of the meeting he texted me he had pulled his back and cancelled. I didn’t have an alternate plan so I ate dinner at the hotel alone. It was a bummer...

[+ Steve yabsley]

Wow- this must be more common than I thought! We need to start a support group!!

 

ps - I would have rated your post, but the ? didn’t seem appropriate, and then I was going with a ?, the didn’t want you to think I didn’t like you post, but I was sharing your sadness......?‍♂️