Who do you talk to about your hiring experiences?

[Wolfer]

Like the question says in the thread topic: who do you talk to (if you do) about your hiring experiences?

 

Lately I've been feeling the need more and more to decompress about my experiences. And while this forum helps somewhat, it's not always enough.

 

I do talk about some of my experiences with my best friend, but since he's never hired himself and can't imagine ever wanting to, there is a... Well, a certain divide that's difficult to overcome. Many times talking about my experiences to him makes me feel less good.

 

I used to have a friend who hired also and it really helped to connect with someone in real life about these experiences but we've fallen out of touch (for various reasons without a possibility to reconnect).

 

I also talk to my therapist of course, but, like with my best friend, I feel that while she offers understanding and empathy, there's an inability to truly connect on the topic.

 

It's built in to us humans to desire to feel understood and share our experiences, but at the moment it feels like I have no one to talk to about these things in a way that can soothe my heart somewhat.

[+ poolboy48220]

One buddy of mine that I see at the stripper bar. We both know the other hires. He's not a close friend, but the only one who knows I hire. We mostly share notes, and we have different tastes in guys, so rarely find someone we'd BOTH hire.

 

I am friends with another couple I could probably discuss it with; one has said he's paid for and has been paid for sex. I've never brought it up with them, though.

 

I don't feel much of a need to discuss this part of my life, though.

[bnm73]

I'm afraid I can't really relate to that. I'm too private a person about certain aspects of my life to care to discuss things like that with people I know. When I was an escort, I'd answer questions if someone asked, but I didn't feel the need to vent about my work. Since then, I've never felt the ned to talk to someone about anyone I hired or my experiences about it.

 

I can sympathize, but it's not something that I've personally ever dealt with.

[Chad Constantine]

Besides posting on here I don’t really have a need/want to talk about it. Why don’t you just talk to people about it like you just hooked up with someone. If you want to talk about how much you spent then you could always say that was the price of the date: meal, car service, flowers, etc... There are always ways to talk around a subject just look at most of our politicians:D:D:D:D.

[liubit]

Besides the escorts, I only talk about my hiring with my boyfriend.

[Lookin]

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Guess who I just spent the night with. . . . . Pretty boy!

[+ WilliamM]

I talk occasionally to male and female friends about guys I really liked as escorts and as people.

Example: Tristan Waters.

[BabyBoomer]

http://headhearthand.org/uploads/2012/04/parrot.jpg

Guess who I just spent the night with. . . . . Pretty boy!

 

My guess would be @stevenkesslar.

 

~Boomer~

[TruHart1]

I have met two men here on the forum who have become very good friends, one because of our non-escort interests being alike and the other because he private messaged me inquiring about one of my favorites, my very first escort, AresApollo, in NYC, whom I still hire whenever I have the chance! He hired @AresEscortNYC himself (twice!) on my recommendation! I do share my good experiences with both and we continue to become much closer friends as time goes by. I feel comfortable sharing intimate details about the escorts I hire with both of them.

 

I have developed a great affection for the second man, who is much younger than I and who is a true sweet CUTIE! Still, it is wonderful to have guys with which to share my escorting thoughts and experiences on a regular basis! There were times I did share this or that escort experience as a "hook-up" with some of my gay friends but I feel so much more free talking with my two friends from here about all the intimate details!

 

TruHart1

[+ José Soplanucas]

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Guess who I just spent the night with. . . . . Pretty boy!

 

 

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[Rudynate]

I have met a couple of members on the forum here and of course we've talked about the guys we hire. I have a very old friend who lives in the area and hires and we talk very frankly about it. He doesnt have the budget to hire pros. I'd like to hire a pro for him as a gift.

[MartyB]

Every one in awhile I get the urge but it lasts about 5 seconds. Lol. The hiring of escorts has become my private affair. I actually relish in the secrecy of it. Recently for the first time I'm attending public gatherings where I can have sex openly with guys and enjoy it immensely great turn on. However I don't discuss any aspects of this other than with escorts or on this forum

[Rudynate]

Every one in awhile I get the urge but it lasts about 5 seconds. Lol. The hiring of escorts has become my private affair. I actually relish in the secrecy of it. Recently for the first time I'm attending public gatherings where I can have sex openly with guys and enjoy it immensely great turn on. However I don't discuss any aspects of this other than with escorts or on this forum

 

The only time I feel like talking about it is when I've had a particularly nice time with an escort and I'm in the head space of "Why doesn't everybody do this?"

[+ bashful]

Not sure to whom of my friends I would confide my hiring. We've all know each other for a long time. Not to sell them short, but I think they would be judgmental. Even my few gay friends, one of whom I've thought about telling, but have decided not to. As @MartyB says, I honestly enjoy my secret life at the moment.

Edited September 9, 2018 by bashful

[Rudynate]

I'm almost ready to tell my partner about it. There's a particular star were both crazy about and I said recently that he's available for hire. He's interested. Our sex life is beginning to open up in ways I never would have imagined.

[MartyB]

The only time I feel like talking about it is when I've had a particularly nice time with an escort and I'm in the head space of "Why doesn't everybody do this?"

On Friday I had a truly great experience with an escort. I told him over breakfast after our fun who extraordinary it was eng with him and how great I felt and he gave me that. It was a nice connection and he appreciated it. Outside of those on this forum who would really understand it or get it? Especially my family and straight friends.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I have a couple of guys I've from the Forum that I've met at either the January DC event or in Palm Springs the last couple of years. I have also discussed my experiences with a couple of escorts

 

Outside of the Forum, the only person I've shared my experiences in this hobby is my personal trainer. The started with me commenting about getting a great massage, and he was looking for a someone new as his massage provider had moved and was no longer convenient to see. I decided that that I should show him the masseur's ad on Craigslist (yes, this was in the days that those ads were permitted) and that caused him to ask what was an erotic massage. Although he never went to see that masseur, (he's straight and married, so the erotic component didn't interest him) any time I mentioned that I had a massage, he wanted the details. Over a few months got to the point that anything in our lives was open for discussion.

[Wolfer]

Why don’t you just talk to people about it like you just hooked up with someone.

That's what I used to do, but it doesn't give the same feeling of having decompressed about the experience, really. For me anyway.

 

Still, it is wonderful to have guys with which to share my escorting thoughts and experiences on a regular basis! There were times I did share this or that escort experience as a "hook-up" with some of my gay friends but I feel so much more free talking with my two friends from here about all the intimate details!

Yeah, I guess it's the feeling free part and also like... You're connecting on some shared hobby and experience. I'm finding it hard to put into words. It's like trying to nerd out over the newest Marvel movie with someone who isn't interested in that at all. Whereas nerding out with a fellow nerd just is so much more fun and relaxing. If that analogy makes sense...

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Like the question says in the thread topic: who do you talk to (if you do) about your hiring experiences?

 

Lately I've been feeling the need more and more to decompress about my experiences. And while this forum helps somewhat, it's not always enough.

 

I do talk about some of my experiences with my best friend, but since he's never hired himself and can't imagine ever wanting to, there is a... Well, a certain divide that's difficult to overcome. Many times talking about my experiences to him makes me feel less good.

 

I used to have a friend who hired also and it really helped to connect with someone in real life about these experiences but we've fallen out of touch (for various reasons without a possibility to reconnect).

 

I also talk to my therapist of course, but, like with my best friend, I feel that while she offers understanding and empathy, there's an inability to truly connect on the topic.

 

It's built in to us humans to desire to feel understood and share our experiences, but at the moment it feels like I have no one to talk to about these things in a way that can soothe my heart somewhat.

I look for forum members who are contributing constructively.

Then I arrange to meet them, for lunch for example.

 

Maybe you should make it known right here which city you are able to meet and ask on the forum for members to PM you, if they are in the same city, and want to talk.

[Chad Constantine]

That's what I used to do, but it doesn't give the same feeling of having decompressed about the experience, really. For me anyway.

 

Yeah, I guess it's the feeling free part and also like... You're connecting on some shared hobby and experience. I'm finding it hard to put into words. It's like trying to nerd out over the newest Marvel movie with someone who isn't interested in that at all. Whereas nerding out with a fellow nerd just is so much more fun and relaxing. If that analogy makes sense...

 

Ahh I totally understand what you mean. So far discussing in PM in here has been enough for myself. Though I don’t know if I am ready to meet non-escort members. I am pretty sure I would have a mini panic attack because I already had one when meeting 1 of the escort members.

[+ José Soplanucas]

One of my brothers. My sister. Two of my cousins. About 6 friends back in Argentina. About 4 friends in DC, one of them is a co-worker. I may be forgetting someone.

[BaronArtz]

`I didn't think it would ever happen, but last year I was asked by 2 members of this board to meet them for coffee and to 'talk shop'. Hiring is something that I was a bit embarrassed about and never discussed with anyone. I expected clients to be real pervs or lecherous old geezers. When I met the gentlemen, I was pleasantly surprised. They are both professionals, on top of their game. I enjoyed meeting with them. Of course we compared notes on specific escorts. While we didn't become close friends, I am glad we met. We do keep in touch and still meet occasionally.

 

It has been a very valuable experience for me.

Edited September 9, 2018 by BaronArtz

[+ Pensant]

I used to speak regularly with a fellow hobbyist, although we never met in person. He ran into some serious trouble years ago; however we still speak several times a year. That was during the heyday.

[+ tassojunior]

Why I'm here.

[MartyB]

`I didn't think it would ever happen, but last year I was asked by 2 members of this board to meet them for coffee and to 'talk shop'. Hiring is something that I was a bit embarrassed about and never discussed with anyone. I expected clients to be real pervs or lecherous old geezers. When I met the gentlemen, I was pleasantly surprised. They are both professionals, on top of their game. I enjoyed meeting with them. Of course we compared notes on specific escorts. While we didn't become close friends, I am glad we met. We do keep in touch and still meet occasionally.

 

It has been a very valuable experience for me.

I too did meet up recently with a fellow board member and it was a very nice experience. I have expressed interest in meeting others but only when one can tell it would be fun and a nice meet.