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I was a long term nexium user and recently stopped and at the same time quit using alcohol.  The results have been great.   I don’t have the reflux and have seen other positive health benefits.   I miss the wine but I think this works best for me.  

I have paid up front on two occasions when I was not told ahead of time of their expectation.  I paid anyway and while I can’t say the provider didn’t try but for me it totally killed the mood.  

I think for your peace of mind I suggest you move on to someone else.   Even if he says he fell and cut himself, you may still have doubts.  It should be a fun hobby so do what you are comfortable with.  Good luck. 

10 hours ago, muscmtl said:

Where the hell do you find handler?  There ain't no www.handlersforgayescorts.com

Lol.  I did Google it to make sure! 

Thank you for reporting this to the group.   I enjoy this site and it’s most valuable when this type of info is shared.  

I know this is a delicate area but how do you find a “service”?

On 7/28/2023 at 3:13 PM, ThroatCummer said:

Awesome thread.  

As far as reading the room and knowing who to approach, that comes with age and experience. I hate to say it but that is no substitute. By my age (I am 46) you still have enough youth and energy and looks to execute and the wisdom and experience to know who to approach and how to do it in a non-threatening way, that I will be honest... my rate is better than 1 in 10. Maybe 1 in 8 or even 1 in 7. But there are so many factors there. My father also had two girlfriends on the side during the time he was married to my mother. That "game" or "charm" is in my genetics. That can even be a factor, who knows? 

For the example about small conversation about the cheese, I approached a guy last night on the beach. He had his motorcycle parked on the street directly in front of him and was sitting on the seawall, alone, looking at the sky, not on the phone, just staring into the night.  It was a warm mid-summer evening and nobody else was around. 

I opened with "nice bike man" 

HIM: "Thanks. I love it" 

ME: "What is it?"

HIM [don't remember his reply, that wasn't what I was after]

ME: "That's awesome. How come you're sitting here alone? Just soaking up the day and night?"

HIM "yea. I just had an argument" [no gender or reference given] "and needed to get out of the house for a while. You?"

ME: "I hear you. I was just hungry and came from the place down the street and I am walking home now. I live right over there" [points] "alone and will be doing the same as you tonight"

... at this point he starts talking about random stuff. It was clear he didn't get my hint or suggestion, and I wanted to get home, so I but my losses. 

Did I strike out? Was this a win or loss?

I don't count it really, because I didn't invest the time to seeing it through to the end of the conversation.  The opening and conversation was there and it flowed. If I had of invested the time to see it through, I would have gotten him to reveal his sexuality at some point and/or proposed an offer he come hang out at my place on the balcony and watch the ocean and night from there and/or that I was gay and had an ex-BF, a current FB, a partner, single, whatever. My point is, I would have changed my responses to mirror his situation in an effort to make him more comfortable in that moment to get what I want out of him. 

His reaction dictates where the "count" above comes from. I hope this all makes sense and ya'll can learn from my random rambling, lol. 

 

This thread is educational on both sides of the coin.  I look back to when I was young and recall many times being “hit on” and had no clue at the time what was going on.   I wish I knew then what I know now! 

If he is really 8”, I need to get my eye prescription updated.  

1 hour ago, 56harrisond said:

 

I have not seen him in a long time. I think he only does massage. I agree - he is a nice guy.  We had a great conversation about investing. 

2 hours ago, Emir said:

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On 7/11/2023 at 6:15 PM, DrownedBoy said:

I guess I had it easy. I managed to get my baccalaureate with some help from an older boyfriend.

It's the stupid things I regret. I had a tech internship at a good company in college, and they had an internship-to-hire program. I blew one of my managers. I never did get that internship-to-hire offer. He said he pushed my name, but I don't think so.

In todays world, it is more likely the manager pushed against you out of a future fear he could lose his job over the incident. 

Once you find one you like, it helps to find a way to do some extras like dinner, gifts, or travel.   But really if the chemistry is good, I think once you start, just be consistent so that he can depend on the income at a regular interval.  

On several occasions when meeting up at their place, my only option for the late provider was to wait in the car or stand outside.   Not a great option in a Houston summer.  That’s why I always check in before I leave the house and reinforce I will be on time.  It’s usually at least a 30 minute drive.  If they are then non responsive or more than 15 minutes late I feel ok about leaving.  

On 7/6/2023 at 8:52 PM, CuriousByNature said:

They guy at the deli made me a ham sandwich earlier today... does that count?

I never heard it called a ham sandwich before.  

2 hours ago, Chancealot said:

Looks like a cutie 

anyone know of him ?  Been with him ?

 

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I wish.  He look very attractive. 

On 6/18/2023 at 4:53 PM, Pensant said:

The one on the right, please!

All of the above🤭

Best advice learned is to use the points quickly before my partner does!

4 minutes ago, big-n-tall said:

I have never met him but @Ziya seems to fit the bill. He's a member of the forum and seems rather delightful with his interactions here.

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Looks like a very attractive man.  

I would probably pay that for the right person. Most likely it would be to feed my own ego by doing it with a well known person, but that’s ok.  I am pretty reserved so I would also want to tell close friends about the date.  🤷

Yes find an experienced top, and remember you must communicate as to what feels good and what hurts.   Sometimes it’s just a matter of finding the right position, so a patient top will work with you until you get things in the right spot.  Hope you enjoy. 

Probably not an arrangement I would pay for but if I am understanding the post, he is at least up front with the client that he will come and you will not.  I have to wonder the mindset of the masseur.  Sounds like he is straight but I have to wonder if he just enjoys making a gay client horny just to leave him unsatisfied.   Seems a little off to me.  If I were just looking for therapeutic massage, I might stick with him but ask him to leave out the sensual elements that are designed only to leave him satisfied.  

1 hour ago, Whitman said:

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I wish I could do that! 

I could lose 40 lbs by cutting off my leg if that would work but I may be missing the point.  

6 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

I hardly ever recommend buying individual stocks - even preferred stocks.  I suspect you are talking about BAC.PRL (L series). 

Would recommend you consider a fund that holds preferred securities instead, like the iShares Preferred ETF or PFF. That is what I would do - sorry Suze!

 

This is the approach I have taken.   I would only add that one needs to be willing to dollar cost average getting in as interest rates have been so volatile.  I did not start out doing this and my investments in the preferred’s is under water but I am slowly catching up by now adding to the position monthly.  

I love New Mexico.  I lived in the northwest part of the state and while I would not retire there, I definitely would in Albuquerque or Santa Fe.   Both cities have a large gay community.