KensingtonHomo

He’s right. I guess I’m one of the ‘older’ guys in the business - in the daddy category. There’s no shortage of younger guys wanting a daddy experience, and prepared to hire for it. There’s also plenty of older guys looking for things that older providers can provide that younger guys can’t or won’t do, such as intimacy, being empathetic and actually turning up on time not being hung over or high and treating their client as a person rather than just another punter (apologies to those younger guys in the business who are professional- I don’t mean to stereotype, younger reliable guys do exist but are not easy to find in the crowd!)
That’s the other thing. There’s loads of younger guys doing sex work, with a wide range of quality. There’s far fewer older guys, and those who are doing it have stuck around at it because they’re good. People hire for all sorts of reasons and age is not necessarily a factor that matters for many of those reasons. 
 

THIS! And one cannot be averse to or even just not attracted to someone their own age without some degree of self-hatred. That said, I don’t think this is a personal flaw. We are besieged by endless messages that only men who are super fit,  under 30, and mostly white or white adjacent are attractive. This shows up in most if not all of us. We can try to be more open, rather than naturalize it.
I’m middle aged and I generally find men around 35 to 65-70 attractive. Of course, it depends on the man and a lot of other variables but I’d generally prefer a 60 year old to a 25 year old. 

My position is that people can like and dislike based on age as much as they prefer. My only problem is that some seem to just have their preferences; they also attack those who differ in their preferences. That's where I intervene to either educate or set boundaries. One thing is what you like, another one is attacking others who don't share the same preference.
When it comes to me, my saying is "I find both beauty and ugliness in all ages, shapes, races, ethnicities and types". Those things are not necessarily the most dominant factors for me to decide hooking up or hiring.
I respect, so I can demand respect.

Because men are shallow, youth obsessed hypocrites. 
 

I'm 6'4" and always amazed when I meet up with guys that say they are 6' or over.  If the top of your head only comes up to my chin you aren't 6 feet tall.

In addition to dick size, a lot of guys are bullshitting their height.
5'8" is the new 6'

He's not remotely my type. 

Some of us like both. 

Great advice. I have been thinking about the same thing. There's a mutual interest in traveling with me and one of my masseurs. I've been wanting to reach out to him to share information about one destination that we both are interested in, of course, I'm not interested in traveling with him. I think what you posted is a good idea. Thanks.

I have been with gay men (providers and not) who were mechanical in bed and bi guys who were great in bed and vice versa. 

I really appreciate @Simon Suraci thoughtful and honest post. We have had two providers who alerted us following a session that they tested positive for an STI. In both cases, our response was similar to Simon's client. We're Gen X and used to testing for HIV and having the sharing of that information be urgent. 
So we are always grateful for providers being honest. We keep it to ourselves of course. And we've never actually had an STI from a provider. 

I don’t know much about you, but the providers we see are open about their STI history. 
I have friends that speak openly about STI scares. We’ve had a couple of scares but haven’t had one yet. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

I agree. And I've been with many true bi or even pansexuals. But I think some providers who are Kinsey 1 or 2s advertise themselves as "bi" and then don't want to go "whole hog." That then makes some guys feel like "bi guys are phonies." 

Well…. I’ll dig deeper and say that more men need to learn how to be “full-spectrum” (beyond looks) attractive and keep traits that can attract and keep a partner, consistent. So in a good scenario, I’d like to date a man who bathes daily, has proper, consistent oral hygiene, and whose home is clean, fresh and well appointed. 
 

 

I'd check his ID. Still looks like jail bait. 

agree - the question was to providers because the job depends on being healthy.  my assumption was providers would be more likely to engage in safer practices & mitigation than the average city person on the apps.

I have regular checks (every month or 2, depends of how often I have unprotected sex)plus my body always have symptoms if something is wrong.
Your question is understandable towards us providers but keep in mind that an average gay in a big city have unprotected sex with multiple partners daily.
Personally I have less casual sex (grindr, bars, clubs, parties, orgies) and I focus mainly on my health and status so I'm more comfortable clients that ask me if we can do bb (if we do both have tested recently, on prep and "feel" healthy).
Yes, I do a visual inspection and yes it happened that I insisted on wearing a condom or refused to be breeded.
If you don't wanna catch STI then use condoms, if you wanna do bb then that's a risk. If you have a wife at home it's on you having unprotected sex with risk of bringing home something.

When the time comes, maybe he can get the word “once” tattooed after it. 

Not sure how posting yourself looking demonic is supposed to be sexy. Conjuring Gene Simmons ? 🤔

I had scheduling problems with him and reacted with a vicious homophobic rant.  

One of my current favorite providers is bi. We've had no issues with him being passionate or kissing. I do think you run a bigger risk with bi guys having more limits than a gay guy, but I also agree with others that perhaps you've been unlucky. 

I knew several providers who claimed as bi but never had intimacy with a girl 😂 

I would caution you regarding this tingly desire to impress him.  

I have an ongoing joke with my husband about how I clean for providers like my mother's coming over. I am 100% doing too much, but I can't help it. 

I wish I could. I don’t know how people aren’t embarrassed to bring someone back to their place if it’s disgusting, especially if they plan on getting intimate. I’ve heard some real horror stories on this which is why I ensure nobody who comes to my place has a terrible experience. It’s a case of treating people how I would like to be treated.