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I agree with this. I generally do provide a time or a window especially when I'm traveling. And if the provider isn't available, I move on. 
But if a provider says they're wide open and then declines one or two times you offer, that's a wrap for me. 

Run a mile.
But next time you book, give him a time. Vague clients are problematic.
I get messages like “Hi, are you available for massage?”
Well…yes I am because that’s what I do but when?? Now?, later?, tomorrow?, next week?… Just be clear about when you want. If I can’t do it I’ll come back with an alternative. 

What I have found is if you see someone more than once, more things happen including cumming. 
I have 3 regulars and none of them came the first time we met, now all 3 do everytime we meet.
I also never get cut short on session time with my regulars, in fact they often go past.  I also don't screw them around and I tip well.  I always get a great time with all 3.  Treat them right and you get it back tenfold I have found.
Someone you only see once, yea I have been cut short on things.
 
 
 

A regular is a client who has come more than 3 times, especially if that’s in a single session. 

In my experience, when you seem the same masseur regularly things progress naturally to the level they're comfortable. My regular guy definitely goes way further now than when I started seeing him three years ago. But we also have lovely chats, and genuine chemistry. But that unfolded over time. 

His profile description as “muscular” would give me cause for pause. He may be a nice guy but it doesn’t look like he lifts much of anything beyond maybe his fork.

I don't think it's a problem to contact an escort/masseur who takes his ads down.
Worse case scenario, he just tells you that he's no longer providing services.
Best case, he has an active client base, which includes you, and of course he'd love to set up a new appointment.

It would be foregivable if his phone went dead but my guess is that’s not what happened. One cancellation without an excuse is a hard pass for me. Two back to back cancellations for any reason is also a hard pass

I think it pays to be more direct and convey some sense of urgency if you want an actionable response. 
 
Like “ Looking to get a 90 minute massage on Tuesday evening. Are you available and how much do you charge incall?”

I think it pays to be more direct and convey some sense of urgency if you want an actionable response. 
 
Like “ Looking to get a 90 minute massage on Tuesday evening. Are you available and how much do you charge incall?”

I don’t have an issue getting responses. I’d say 80 percent respond. 
i think your issue is you’re not asking a question or giving a time frame. Maybe you if you give a time “are you available next Monday or Tuesday? If so, can you tell me what your rates are?” 
I also sometimes give a vague description like “I’m a married professional guy who enjoys erotic massage.” 

Yes, I use condoms. Yes, I bring my own pack of condoms. But I am happy to share. 😉

Remember: Don't be a fool - wrap your tool! 

Yes and yes.
And yes, I’ve been "condom shamed" by bottoms for using a condom.
I just laugh in their face and leave.
I’m not fucking a moron.

It would be foregivable if his phone went dead but my guess is that’s not what happened. One cancellation without an excuse is a hard pass for me. Two back to back cancellations for any reason is also a hard pass

There are a decent amount of options in Boston, for those who live in Boston - 1 hour South of Boston might as well be Virginia, and at "rush hour" 1 hour might be 3 hours.  You will have enthusiastic responses if you are willing to travel into Boston, you might also consider Providence or Provincetown on Cape Cod (fewer options, but less daunting then driving into Boston).  You may consider taking the train (MBTA) to/from Boston.   There are options on RM to search by towns - try Plymouth or Fall River to see who is located South of Boston.  If you offer to pay for travel time you might have better luck, good luck!

Thanks, all. The consensus does seems to be that the combo of "no communication and no show" is the dealbreaker and that 15-30 minutes is a fair "grace period" in such situations. 
I did find that communicating the boundary of my patience ("if I don't hear back by ___") proved a sanity-saver for me yesterday, so I'll likely carry that forward.
And for those who might be interested:
The gent did ultimately contact me, about two hours after we were set to meet. His story -- if true -- would suggest that he simply had a very bad day, complicated by some truly bad luck. So I'm willing to accept that he may actually be legit, given the enthusiasm of other posters. As for me, I go back and forth on whether I believe the gent's story as I also take come comfort from the not-insubstantial pile of dollars that remain in my pocket.

It would be foregivable if his phone went dead but my guess is that’s not what happened. One cancellation without an excuse is a hard pass for me. Two back to back cancellations for any reason is also a hard pass

It would be foregivable if his phone went dead but my guess is that’s not what happened. One cancellation without an excuse is a hard pass for me. Two back to back cancellations for any reason is also a hard pass

I prefer either bi providers, or partnered gay providers. I find they have less “baggage” and tend to be less self absorbed.

I tip my massage guy 25%. Every time I see him he does a little more and adds a little extra time to the session. You get what you pay for.

When hiring a masseur who you think may be available for extras. Hire for an erotic massage and let them do their thing. Tip well and then inquire about extras on the NEXT visit.
Masseurs appreciate a regular customer and are more inclined to take it up a notch for a gentleman who is a good tipper and a nice person.

I normally outcall, so if they communicate an issue that is delaying them, I will try to be as flexible as possible.  Traffic around me can be a mess no matter how well you plan.  If they are late with no communication, 30 minutes and I'm done.

I prefer either bi providers, or partnered gay providers. I find they have less “baggage” and tend to be less self absorbed.

I prefer either bi providers, or partnered gay providers. I find they have less “baggage” and tend to be less self absorbed.

Here in Portland there are bike lanes and racks everywhere. I bike to restaurants and coffee shops to meet friends several times a week. It’s so much better than mass transit or lugging out the car. Bikes in a downtown city are really the fastest way to go.