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I live in Missouri. Remind you. Ask me if it gets any less diverse than this. The whole state is one big supremacy group, including the gay bars 🤦🏽‍♂️ . I’m pretty certain I’ve unknowingly fucked with a few White Supremacy guys before…I don’t mind at all 😆 long as he don’t try to kill me, let me fuck that tatted daddy ass 😋

When I used the word “invest” I wasn't necessarily talking about the business world definition of it. I was using that more to relate to things that someone could do (invest) if they feel they need to suggest I can be doing something better. Okay? It’s easy to tell someone an opinion but very few actually want to (invest) their own money into it. And just to be clear, I wasn’t looking or expecting that from someone. I’ve been doing it myself all along. The whole scenario is merely hypothetical. That said: some people have done that. One friend sold me a vehicle for an amazing price, and lent me an air bnb for a day when he checked out early. Others have done either regular or one off things that have made a difference. Of course: I’ve helped in return as well. Being “kept”: that’s something else. and not something I look for. I’ve seen guys who are actually “kept”. That’s not me.

I’m getting ready to do just that…I’m loading up and driving to the Pacific Northwest next week. If I find a place, great. Tired of this shit. I deserve so much better than the rude guys I been dealing with in the Midwest. And to quote @sniper again: it’s easy to be on the sidelines and make it seem like I’m the only person bothered. But when I constantly deal with repetitious idiots so much, it’s hard not to be. For example: this idiot has been contacting me on and off since July last year, and still can’t get around to a booking: Completely disrespectful, and no consideration for my time. It may not be directly related to racism per say, but it’s still a racist mentality in some ways when someone thinks they’re more important, just because maybe they’ve been conditioned to feel that way. If he thinks blocking him is the most I would do, he got another thing coming. I actually added him to the shit pile of timewasters on Mr. Number 😆

Curious: what area have gyms been closed for 2 years? In many areas in the Midwest they closed for like 2 weeks back in 2020. Pretty much all hotel gyms I’ve gone to are back up and running. That said there’s a lot more questions about am I vaccinated. I just got another dose 💉 last week…even though I and a few others I know were ill towards end of last year. I should also mention; Covid seems to be the latest fashionable excuse at times to flake on a booking. I only say because a client admitted that to me couple weeks ago. Last minute jitters. But we ultimately linked up.

Right on 👍🏾 That’s why I say: if someone doesn’t think I’m doing enough, assist with the 90%. If they can do that, then they’ll know…

I concur. To be clear, I was merely discussing people’s objectives as a whole. Not so much on your suggestions. But, having an extra leg in the industry is a good thing. But you say “sex work” and “other” work. Isn’t having a fan’s site also sex work? (Even if you’re just doing solo jerk off vids) What my whole sermon 🎤 above was referring to, was those who seem to push completely alternative work from the biz…instead of helping contribute to the business we’re already in. Like, instead of telling an escort to get another job: how about make a video with them and help increase their ratings (one of my clients did that for me, it was a simple 2 minute hand job, but it was a good demonstration of my 🌋 load 😆 But as it sounds, it seems like you are exclusively a sec worker, or only do sex work related activities, correct?

I edited that out (I hate bragging, especially in such an up and down industry lol), but I was referring to just the amount in deposits/payments on the app. But to further answer your question, as it relates to the other thread circulating: maybe $1,200 is all someone may make a month off escorting. There shouldn’t be any shame in that if they were: $1.200 month is a nice apartment in many cities (of course IF they had an extra side job to pay for everything else and only used it for that). However, if you take $1,200 and divide by either $150, 200, 250 or $300…that’s not out of the question. And like I said before: there’s times I’m in my home market and may only get 1 or 2 clients a week. If I didn’t go anywhere else, $1,200 a month would be very realistic. And that’s lucky considering the fallout. If I had a regular 9-5 job, I’d likely miss ALL the clients in some markets in a month. Which would essentially make being an escort pointless. The Midwest is a very “late morning/afternoon before 5” market. If you can’t catch em by then, don’t expect to get anything else at night.

Well, I get what you’re saying. But I’ve already found the strategy to make the change: and that’s to exit the market. You may say “bothered than most” (and according to whom?), but the listings speak for themselves. As it relates to the last question I answered, If you look at listings in a particular area and there doesn’t seem to be many, often times that can either be an opportunity or pending disaster. You won’t really know unless you’re an escort posting and actively working “on foot” in that market’ to really experience it. And my experience in some markets has shown that it’s better to be in a place where I can be appreciated as a Black provider, versus sitting around some bum ass town dealing with guys who like do stupid shit like talk about the other big black dicks they can get for $100/150….or worse yet, for free. Fuck you (not you, them lol). It may not change, and I get that. But I know where to go and what to do to change it. Like I’ve touted before: I ask all my clients for deposits mainly for hosting/advanced bookings. I started that because I got tired of booking hotels, or sitting around at home expecting some muppet to show and they don’t. Some have criticized for that. But it’s been working fine for me, the ones who don’t…that just weeds out the ones most likely to flake anyway. Don’t be lead astray. Just because I talk about something doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything about it. I’m just talking about the way it is. If it’s uncomfortable for some, sorry.

I guess it just depends on who you ask. Kansas City and St. Louis are about the only real Black populations here. However, many of the GBMs seem to aspire to move elsewhere, out of state. I was talking to one guy and things were going okay but sure nuff, he's moving to Houston 😒 Otherwise, the gay scene in both cities seems very much like a White social club. Especially in Kansas City. Many the gay White guys love it here, but I've spoken to some who can't wait to leave also. Dating here is also pointless, I find the guys here don't even actually date. It's all hookups and maybe...something will come out of it. I decided officially I'm done dating in Missouri. That extends even to meeting anyone for free sex, PERIOD. The type of man I envision for dating, does not exist here. That's also not to insinuate I don't enjoy White guy's company or only want to be around diverse backgrounds...but in Missouri THEY only want White guy's company and aren't open to diverse backgrounds. I've met countless amounts of dudes here, and they seem cool on grindr and after 2 a.m., but all of em are so fake and phony and shit...I'm done. I have clients who take care of majority of the sex stuff, but as I've said here: that is not always the case either. Most of my client hits in the area come from business travelers, many of the locals are flakes and often end up blacklisted before the 1st meet or 2. It's tragic. Trying to make this Spring, my exit... That IS a lot of moving parts lol. We're talking about 6 people, and only 3 people in the mix. That's why (not discussing you specifically)... married clients can sometimes unintentionally be a pain in the ass to do biz with. Even though for some or many, it makes up a majority of our client base, most can't really "commit" or plan things properly. I end up getting annoyed and done with it. Like one guy, we met once but ever since he's tried to squeeze me in the middle of the afternoon with no notice. And he's like, "I have to meet before xx:xx time". I'm like, what do people think? You can't just pop up out the blue to meet with me having no idea of it happening. Where is the common sense and courtesy anymore?? Especially when they want me to furnish the host location. They wouldn't want me popping up on their doorstep with 2 hours notice, why should it be any different?

Your stance is correct, but rather abstract. Can't tell whether you were quoting what I was saying, or just saying in general. I certainly wasn't implying that guys should, would or only do sex work out of desperation. I'm just saying, there's an unspoken habit of people looking DOWN on guys who SOLELY do sex work for a living. I say that because I used to know a friend (now sadly deceased) who had a habit, of whenever I went thru a rough patch in the biz, first thing that would come up is suggesting to do some alternative work (which never came with any viable suggestions). But, never did this person or some others actually take the time to: Take professional photos of me Show me how to make a website Write a review for me as a "client" Invest in me a professional wardrobe Invest me a car/place to live to better serve clients Point to/fund a visit to a city where I can do better at Actually have another job to offer me At the end of the day: people (specifically, gays both connected and not connected to the business) talk a lot of fucking shit. Everybody has a suggestion, but half the time, non are actually doing shit. It took me awhile to get to a point where I was like: if you can't be a supportive, contributing friend...and not just monetarily: I'm not interested. People always want to try and force their opinions and way of living on others. All of that stuff above I mentioned, I figured out all of those on my own and thru other sources. But if I woulda sat around listening to some guy telling me, "do this and do that while you're escorting" I'd of never reached my full potential and gotten to see the country and make all sorts of opportunities. I may not be doing exactly what someone else's standard of biz is, but maybe I don't want to settle that for myself. And most likely, they don't have it perfect either. They just present on the outside that it's all good...in reality if they could take my lifestyle, they'd do it in a heartbeat. And if not, so be it. I've seen life thru many windows to know what I do and don't want. I see the "happily" partnered gay couple with the jobs, house and the dogs, but then I have my own experiences of that not being so pleasant...and also not what it's cracked up to be. I don't want or need a man controlling my every step and move and not being able to handle a joke, or one who always think it's okay to make stupid, bitchy jabs (Like some shitty guys in relationships do) to wear at my self esteem. Likewise, I don't care for a job that I have to commit to everyday, no matter how part time it is. If I wanted one, I'd get one when I feel like it. But as you suggested, I do have like 2 additional escort evolved stuff which does take the pressure off "sex" work. There's a escort guy in Kansas City who has a job, and a side air bnb business. And he's like, you wanna work at the gym I'm at as a trainer? And even though I thanked him for the offer and opportunity, no. I don't want to do that because I'm not trying to do MORE stuff to tie me down in a city that I'm trying to move on from. Likewise, as I often say: it's bad assumption that clients hire out of desperation. That said: everyone's choices are different. If someone feels they need to do this or that in addition...by all means. But there should be nothing seen wrong with relying on the industry if one so chooses to. Instead of suggesting a person do something else, that energy can go towards helping the industry change and become better.

That’s a happy ending (pun intended). However, it’s important for others to understand that one person’s reasons for escorting may differ from another. Some may be in it to make extra money and play, whereas others may have more interest invested in it. Not saying you are, but I think some people view escorts who are just “doing this for fun and extra money” on a higher pedestal than those who are relying on it for their day to day/month to month expenses. As if, they’ve “arrived” and are above those who are having to essentially have it as their main or sole source of income. There’s nothing wrong with that either, right? I bring that up because: clients on the forum often mention being flaked on by an escort sometimes. Well: if a guy is only doing it for extra money or fun, maybe it’s a bit more convenient to flake out if they feel like it. If you’re working another job, just got a paycheck and feeling a little tired +there’s a hotter guy who wants to hookup: that’s a no brainer: flake on the client. Whereas if someone who’s invested and taking it seriously, they may (as in my case) be more trying to leave themselves available for a booking. Not saying that a person who has other sources won’t take it seriously, but it probably lessens the chances. And if the person in question is 50s and has a home paid off, the question as it relates to the topic would be: was it from escorting or something else? Because if it’s from something else, I’m not sure it would fully cover the topic at hand. Anybody can do other stuff and escort on the side once a week. That’s not going to give much solace to a guy who’s trying to revitalize a tanking 🚢 client base…

Yeah it’s crazy. So many attractive, “horny” athletic guys are into that lifestyle. It can be hard to avoid..

With that said, there may even be connects out of Las Vegas, Reno, San Diego or Phoenix also. Rental car rates have been so crazy lately that, I decided it would be better to get a 2nd vehicle. Hell, don't forget https://www.amtrak.com/home either. I did Amtrak twice last year, and as long you're not going cross-country: business class can be so comfortable. You aren't constrained on bags and have ample room to sit and walk.

For anyone not familiar with LA traffic, that's just driving at night with NO traffic. Plan on it taking 3.5-4 hours... LA, Chicago, Atlanta: add 2 hours to anything over 100 miles lol.

Thanks for your perspective and willingness to be open. If the avatar is your pic, it’s their loss because I’m mmm mmm loving the view from the back. I just wanna massage all over those tats 😆 But as it relates to your story: it sounds like the failure to meet wasn’t just due to the hookup site, but the fact that there was 2 DL married guys who also hooked up with each other (red flag). Even though such things do happen in real life (I can attest), those things tend to be built or more popular among confirmed m4m couples, versus sought after online. I know a gay couple now and it seems like they open to me to join their relationship, but I’ve spent the past couple years being friends with “couples” to where I need to move forward with my own life and plus: couples often want to move at their speed and pace. I ain’t got time for that shit. Trust me, you didn’t miss out on anything except maybe 1 good fling. Maybe they were serious and looking for that, but when you add wives to the mix, that’s a recipe for “something never going anywhere”. I met a client in Denver who gives the white daddy vibes. But every time after we met, it was always “because the wife”, etc etc. So we only met once so far. Like dude, I didn’t sign up to just keep hearing about how hard it is to get away from your wife all the time 🤦🏽‍♂️

I remember staying at a "budget" hotel in Orlando, and there was a note posted saying that there would be a $50 fine for cooking in the hotel room. I guess it was akin to smoking as far as fire danger goes. On some trips I'd take a George foreman grill along, but you have to carry your own cleaning stuff to avoid staining the hotel rags when cleaning it. I guess I've done all of the above already lol. Sometime I get tired of going to grocery stores too because it's like..dealing with various crowds in various cities lol. I think too my mood changes day to day or time of day. @Shawn Monroe remembers: we ate out 1 night, then the next night I just wanted to eat in and make our own food. Especially when it comes to seafood. If I'm entertaining i prefer to make it myself. But, I do love it when a client shows me to a nice seafood restaurant lol. I just don't make enough disposable income to just randomly go to legal seafoods or ocean prime just because I'm hungry. I guess the real question was: who avoids sitting down at restaraunts and just takes to go lol. Now that I read it, i don't really like cooking unless I have a room at residence inn or towneplace suites or similar. Problem is, ever since post pandemic: many of these hotels have gotten to be so expensive ru where you almost end up spending same money going out. And when the possibility of a client coming is looming, it can be tricky to commit to cooking. But i kmow when i cook myself i lessen my chance of food poisoning, which happens far too often!!!

That's not my first choice for protein (I tend to get the tubs or grab whichever ones the store has in the fridge) But as @Benjamin_Nicholas said it's definitely a lifesaver especially after long workouts. Only issue is, the protein shakes aren't enough when needing to take pills/supplements..when I do, I tend to like the high protein drinks: Yah when I have points or can find a good market I'll go with rooms with a kitchen. But even then (I know I sound uncompromising), sometimes I'll do that, cook once or twice and get tired of that too. I've actually lost interest in the cooking at hotels thing also because it's too much work to grocery shop, buy/carry seasonings, sometimes hotels (even Marriott branded) don't have enough pots and pans. Then I have to buy my own, and then carry them around the duration of the trip. But I also worry about nutrition and making sure I'm eating enough to build/maintain muscle while traveling. So is hard for me to eat something like 1 pizza for a meal, and feel okay with myself. Maybe the money part is "relative", assuming I budget my hotel expenses and not overspend on things like going out (which lately I've been feeling stupid wasting my money going to shitty ass gay bars, only to stand around and look at cliquey people or drugged up types make out in a corners). The last night of my last trip, I ordered 2 prepackaged wraps from a gas station ($5.99) and that was my dinner. I actually felt okay with that because the little Podunk country town I was in, I wasn't really trying to explore (like @nate_sf said). But the next day I had a mediocre hotel breakfast and then went to the ihop type of diner across the street for brunch lol.

I was reading something similar on a travel forum, about people who challenge themselves to go on trips without eating out: but their alternative seemed to have involved having some sort of camper or traveling with more than 1 person and doing groceries/cooking. I ask because one thing that's kinda taking the fun out of extended travel for me, is the eating part. I joked around with a friend and said I'm going to take up the "addict" diet, that way I won't really be eating much to think about going out 😄 I suppose eating out is supposed to be a fun part of travel, but after a few days of doing it, and not having a "stipend", I start to feel like it's just an extra expense that should be cut out. On some trips, I've done the air bnb style hotels with kitchen for a couple days just to get a break from eating out...but sometimes I've found by the time I get groceries for what I'm making, I've already brought a dinner out, and the cost of the time buying/making it. It's crazy because, there's so many restaurants in a normal sized city, and I've known people who live off of uber eats/take out/dining out. I'm considering switching to non perishables and microwaveable when traveling, and only going out to eat if its client or friends involved 😄

That's all good info, but I must interject and say it sounds like you're referring to what cities make best for "clients choices", versus what would be the best for escorts. I guess technically that "could" be a 1 in the same list, but I'd consider it a "results may vary" simply because being in a city with tons of hot escorts like Miami, doesn't guarantee an escort will actually make any profit by going there. But very good point on the San Francisco market. Can you elaborate? A friend of a friend is relocating there and we talked about making a visit out there. I haven't been since 2016 (when people were running up the hills protesting the Trump winning). I ask because I'm debating between going west coast or east coast next month. I feel even though there's more cities on the east, the west might be the better opportunity for what I'm looking for in terms of art and model gigs and client opportunities. It seems like the only cities in the east that are tolerable to me (so far) are Washington DC and Indianapolis. The rest just seem either too congested or too conservative for what I'm going for. I lost track of this post and never seen the rest of the response until now. Well I guess, thanks? For the heads up...I guess it's no wonder I went into Seattle without much enthusiasm, spending 2 days in an area like you mentioned lol. It's disappointing that so many cities in the country are like that. Cities like Atlanta, Chicago, Denver, and I suppose Seattle are surrounded by some not so liberal areas. And since I do majority of my tours not flying into cities and going straight downtown (I find that stressful and uninspiring), I see a lot of it 1st hand. Even the capitol of DC is surrounded by some pretty iffy towns.

Each year I've done...I've always driven. After 5 months of winter, I don't want to think about a "return flight", I just want to take my time and stay as long as I feel I need to. It's not bad coming from the middle of the country and stopping in places along the way. Next time, I'm going to arrive on Thursday or Friday because...getting in on Saturday, it's too much having to get settled on the first day. Better just to chill.

Well I’m not quite sure what it’s supposed to mean, but based on the demographics of the city it seems about right I suppose: However, seeing a city having lots of other Black providers isn’t much of a determining factor or “it will be great for me too” assumption. I’ve found cities like Chicago, Houston, Atlanta, even the bigger cities in Florida…aren’t really that great in terms of having a busy schedule. Places like that tend to have enough Black providers already, and even if there’s guys who are doing well…it doesn’t guarantee another Black provider will meet the same experience right away (it took me a couple of trips to Chicago before I was able to break in and meet some good clients).

Appreciate the perspective. I have also noticed less of the blatant stuff on the apps (I also tend to be in areas where there's not much diversity anyway, so my inbox stays pretty full lol). However, there's also the "White" app Grindr /Scruff and the "Black" app, Jack'd. So in some ways, the gay world is still divided. However, don't get me wrong: I am very much aware of the dynamic and the most efficient ways to let that be advantageous. I recently did a 5 day extended "weekend" run, and by the end of it, I was so depleted sexually that I needed to go home and stock up on vitamins and electrolytes lol. I even had a fairly hot White guy client come thru and we smashed. But I still feel I should have gotten "more" clients. I know there's not always an immediate thing I can do about it, except wait and change up pictures, but sometimes the insecurity of things being "slow" versus having a steady stream of bookings round the clock, can make me wonder and get paranoid about things. Especially if there's another person saying he's getting x amount of booking requests each day. Not that people don't lie but...I don't necessarily doubt the validity of such claims when I see it 1st hand: how White guys often get preferential placement in gay world business and other scenarios. Ha, interesting. Well...that's good you're able to see a broader perspective. I can't vouch on Philly because I'm from a bit a ways south of there by the way of Florida, but I can say growing up my encounters generally were Black and Puerto Rican at first...but I think one of my 1st White guy encounter was someone in Tampa who sent me a cab (think, 2002 and under 18 lol) there and back...and gave me a wild all night blow job...and after that I was an equal opportunity fucker 😛

Not quite always the case though. There's a guy who goes by https://rentmen.eu/Xandre and he's from Brazil. a client booked us both for a session. I won't kiss and tell but, let's just say I was still horny for days after I bust 🤣 . So, even though I know there may be some merit in the stereotype, it may not apply to all Exactly. In fact, I actually find many clients are POPULAR and either have partners or wives, kids, grandkids, etc. etc. Sometimes I wish I could model the lifestyle my clients have, but I also realize it's different levels of spectrum. What may seem like an ideal lifestyle during the day, may not be so Wait. wait. Stop. Back up. Rewind. Let's just start here: having a workout routine is no guarantee of "free" companionship. First off. Secondly, there's still no guarantee you would have met any of those guys you mentioned, "for free" even if you were Brad Pitt, Arnold in the 80s, or Bradley Cooper WITH the dick of Cutler X combined...I am in shape, have done lots of work on my body, dental, personality, money/cars, you name it: and I STILL have a hard time finding the relationship I want. The only difference is, I get guys easier than I used to. However, most of the guys are in just for sex or "what can you do for me" bullshit...which is why I stay escorting. I already know most gay guys out there either want sex or someone to use. The people who manage to stay in relationships, usually have found a way to either tolerate it, or incorporate that into something meaningful. I also don't "hookup" just to hookup. I have so many guys hitting me up on the apps. Some of them have hit me up on RentMen and been a client. Even one the other day, cute face, body was not impeccable but not out of shape, early 30s. Not bad by any means. But I wouldn't of met him "for free" because I was traveling and I came for the purpose of meeting clients. So, he wouldn't of met me for free, because I wasn't offering that to begin with. And if I wasn't an escort, he'd of never met me because I wouldn't of traveled there for any other reason except at the invention of me being a traveling escort. Some things in life: are on a biblical level of understanding. It involves a degree of cause and effect 😆 I have to say, for your benefit: there's nothing you need to regret. You did it, and now you don't. That's the challenge in life, decisions. I make them all the time, and regret them...all the time. But at the end of the day, you decided what you decide based on the best knowledge you have of the situation at the time. In your case, your decisions were based on WHICH and HOW to find the best escorts, not IF you should be hiring in the first place. I'll also say where you might have gone wrong: 100+ guys in your 30s is an exorbitant number of escort hires. Some of my best and longest clients were those who had only hired once or twice previously. If you're hiring 100s and hadn't stuck to a regular, there's certainly something blocking you. And in my opinion, a person like that (not saying you, but in general) would likely be a problem client: likely to flake or be disrespectful because, it's a numbers game. It's like the shitty clients who say, "I'll call someone else" when I tell them my rates or that I'm not available until a certain time. Well fucking call someone else, good luck with that, and you're now blocked 😄 It's okay to have variety, but similar to the Grindr circuit: if you're just hooking up with new guys (even if it's for free) every day/week...you're going to burn out and your experiences won't be fulfilling. So handle that. Maybe down the line (and this is not being funny, because I'm in counseling also and it's not a bad thing), perhaps you can take sessions with someone who can direct you in the right direction. You can stop seeing providers, but it may still help to read self help books and see a counselor on certain issues.

I can understand your concern for this type of scenario, but like @RadioRob stated…there’s so much more aspects to the equation. I can attest I’ve been in that situation (actually still am). My client list in my 2 home markets of KC (home of the unstoppable Kansas City chiefs, but just a tragic City for single gay men and escorts) and Saint Louis have dried up significantly. I’m also in my mid 30s However, I have a game plan to change the situation. The 1st thing to do in that type of situation, is relocate or travel. Sometimes a base can dry up not just due to the escort, but changes within the city market itself. In my case, traveling isn’t enough. A full on relocation is going to be the ONLY way to alleviate the circumstances. Also 30 isn’t a “declining” age by any means. Unless a person isn’t working on themselves/exercising or doing drugs. I’m actually in better shape now than I was in my 20s. I struggled to gain ”mass” in my 20s, and now I’m at 215 pounds. I’m also a bit older and wiser, even though my tolerance level probably isn’t where it used to be. I don’t like to schedule things without deposits and I’m more quicker to burn bridges with problem clients than I used to. But that’s just a by product of dealing with the same shitty type of clients over and over, and the stress of being in a shitty market: which like I said, it’s URGENT that I fix this. There’s no reason to “fade into the sunset”. There’s so many things out there to do revolving around sex work, you don’t have to JUST be an escort. I recently did a nude calendar and majority of the guys were 30-40+. It opened doors to 2 subsequent events where I was able to get more exposure. So basically, there’s nothing to worry about. You can retire at 25 or 55. It’s all a matter of personal drive and decision making.

Well it goes both ways. I had to turn a client down yesterday because he reached out to me right after a late morning/noon appointment, and hit me up out the blue saying he could ONLY meet at 2 p.m. When I tried to suggest meeting at 3:30/4 or the next day, he wasn’t able to do that. I understand clients and people in general may be busy, but sometimes shit isn’t my fault. I feel in some ways, clients “create” problems for us unintentionally. Can’t name how many times someone has contacted me and rushed me to meet with no notice or flexibility in their schedule. I can’t do much if you only have 1 hour out of 24 hours to meet. Don’t come to me wanting a solution, but not willing to be patient. At the end of the day, I’ve realized clients and escorts can be very different in the perception of time sometimes. I know that’s just the way it is, due to the sometimes spontaneous nature of the biz…but it’s easy to get frustrated and burned out when clients expect miracles without much consideration. For example: yesterday I wanted to go to the gym at the time the client contacted me. I haven’t been all week, and was intending to do that. I started to just take the appointment, but I needed more time in between my last appointment also. But in that situation, it’s like “I don’t care what you’re in the middle of, I need to see you at 2 and only 2.” However, when I try to get clients to change their plans around, they can rarely ever do it. But I feel we are expected to when they want to meet. That’s bullshit. So I just be like, if you don’t want to change your schedule for me, don’t expect me to change my schedule for you. You don’t get superiority just because you’re paying. I’ve gotten to a point where I’ll tell people, my time is just as important as yours. I hate losing money and turning people down, but dignity and respect is a price to pay as well. And I find when I allow it once, they expect it again and again, and eventually the interaction fails.