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Not necessarily. Why do you think: RentMen offers advertisers the option for verified photos? Why do you think we can’t place our numbers in our ad (search bots). Why do you think we have reviews? Why do you think we have a block function on RM messenger? Why do you think RM has no need to filter anything? I’m not saying they’re not responsible for anything. Things are a long way from newspaper and “HotSpots” magazines (which I don’t personally have experience in but: I could imagine the lack of screening and just having nothing but a phone number had to be a different experience). They have recognized that they have some power over the screening methods. Which is great, but we need more. Ha. I woulda never thought YOU, woulda never thought. Sex workers have been lobbying for the cause for years, where have you been?

I just wrapped up my 1 week “hiatus” from RMen. But since then I earned a client from RMass the other day. Fortunately/Unfortunately, I had to go back to work. But, I paid for it with borrowed money 💳 : The one client I had all week wasn’t enough to cover my personal expenses AND a Gold RM ad. I understand RM is basically an advertising platform. I know they don’t make or break or steer the industry. They also can’t help some “potential” clients are full of shit and play games. Especially in areas where the men are already cheap and stingy with their money and always looking for free dick and ass. RentMen can’t change that mentality. That’s why I had to come up with my own set of standards and website for dealing with people.

Great coverage. I’ll be reaching out privately. Everything said hits the topic. That’s why I’m glad I found Reddit sex work community, they are so much more real about things. It’s just with it predominantly women, it’s not always the same level. For example, it’s more common to do quick visits and also charge $500-$600 an hour. However, what ways do you refer to specifically scarcity mentality among M4M providers? Well I think it bears mentioning: I can’t speak on RB but the whole thing with backpage was bigger than just sex work. Agendas, trafficking, different kinds of seedy activities. That’s why I was not condoning one poster in another thread not to “go to the police” being harassed over phone by a provider. First thing the police going to do is ask a million questions, and then bringing RentMen up just further scrutinizes the site and industry. Not that the behavior is justified at all but, it’s just the reality of it.

I am aiming to do that, however it’s not as easy as just dropping everything and going. I used to be able to do that more readily in my 20s, but now I realize doing that means making concessions for change of license, health insurance, car insurance. Example: I always had the desire to move to Arizona, but when I brought a used car there one year: I didn’t realize how hectic it is to get a tag. Such as: won’t pass emissions if your check engine light is on. Then that’s a rabbit hole of additional expenses to pay. Then when I took the car to Florida, I was hit with another surprise in change of insurance rate and “one time new resident” fee. Which fortunately I was able to bypass, considering I had a license plate from there previously. But it took multiple trips to the DMW to figure that out. Of course non of that is unattainable, however: that makes it take more time. In the meantime however, I travel my ass (and other parts) as much as I can. But, I’m not able to consistently stay on the road long enough, to always be the new guy in town. Especially in the summer, I have a tropical garden that I can’t always rely on it to get rain, and it’s been close to 100 degrees everyday. So I usually have to come back and regroup in between trips, but that often means not being in a position to immediately travel again. And this month, has been exactly that. After sashaying in a few cities during May, June and early part of July: I’m beat from the heat and expensive hotel rooms. Not to mention, lot of areas this summer can be slow anyway due to vacations, kids out etc. Gurl, have a seat 🪑 I have moved to different markets HOWEVER: I have also seen markets CHANGE. For example, Nashville was once a somewhat lucrative market for me. Wasn’t always the best. But it was better than what it is now. The amount of ads have tripled, and the prices of living have skyrocketed. My last trip there last month, I stayed for a week and earned less than $300. Minus the amount I spent on the hotel…It was horrible. But not surprising. It’s too saturated. Just because I’ve switched markets doesn’t necessarily mean it was the market I chose. Most times I’ve moved, it’s been due to a reason not related to the business, or to be closer to relatives. Exceptions were Denver, which I first moved back in 2011. It used to be a gold mine, but similar to nashville: it became overpriced, overnight; and saturated with sex workers: When I moved there, it was only like 5-10 of us. Cities change all the time. What was hot in 2016 might not be popping in 2023. Making mocking statements isn’t necessary. It takes a bit more understanding of these things. Exactly! And even high expenses doesn’t guarantee more opportunities in the industry either. So many guys getting into it, it’s not the same it seems. The good news is, there’s opportunities still in crowded cities. Sometimes it just depends on where one’s look will sell the best. Even though I complained a little bit about San Diego earlier this year, overall I did GREAT because all my visit were $250+, sent deposits without fuss, and were fun during the session. But I only met 4 during my 2-3 weeks there. I had wanted like 2-3 during the week, and 1-2 on the weekend. It just wasn’t as busy as I wanted it to be, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t have a good time. And the nightlife…was giving everything lol. Not to mention the beach: I’d move to San Diego if I had the means to do so. However I can’t just up and go without a couple thousands to drop on a place or a roommate who already has a place. It’s just not a joke to move there on a limited budget. I need $5,000. How much income is required to afford rent in San Diego? FOX5SANDIEGO.COM As rent prices continue to climb across the country, San Diego appears to be no exception.

I think too that’s the main hurdle with same day bookings…it’s too hurried and rushed to be able to plan anything. However I like to secure it with a deposit to be sure. And that’s exactly why I do it, so yeah: that’s the only way to game the system. It’s the incentive and screening, and weeding out the curious from the serious. It’s also easier for clients to no show incalls versus outcalls. Even though getting stood up for outcalls is much more inconvenient, I still ask deposit for both. I think the key is, to not be afraid or intimidated or even persuaded to feel you will lose/not get business if you ask a deposit. Even if clients talk about being ripped off before. That’s unfortunate but, clearly this client was “ripped off” and didn’t even send a deposit. So it’s not the deposit that’s the scam, it’s the provider who’s the scam.

I’ve never had to do anything like that before. Especially for an hour visit, assuming it doesn’t involve “multiple loads” (which is usually never). I’ve done overnights and accommodated clients the next day or beforehand. Not something I’d normally do, but…I know the inconvenience of being cancelled/stood up on, so wouldn’t want to do the same. But anyone who does, they can consider themselves “privileged” for being able to drop one client for another. I never find that to be good “dick energy”. There’s ways to value and include bookings without leaving anyone hanging

I’ve been hearing about tryst from the other side of the pond (and not talking about England). However I wasn’t aware one could post for mSm type of sessions. I’ve signed up but, I read it can take awhile to be approved. Like, months. But could be some way to expedite… Sometimes though, sites that blend with straight providers, can bring an extra challenge of iffy responses. Similar to Craigslist and BP. But might be doable in the right areas

Especially if you’re driving even moreso lol…the flexibility is great, but sometimes it may 🤔 some clients. I may decide to stay in a city longer or shorter than posted. That’s why lately, I’ve kinda stopped planning trips so far out anymore. Only if I’m planning to be heading there that week. But right now I’m eyeing some destinations to travel in August, and haven’t posted anything except my local area. It helps to get some visibility ahead of time, but most of the inquires are going to think you’re there. Or they won’t be when I get there. And nothing pains more when the area you’re in is dead, but the area you’re traveling to next month is all your inquiries for the week 🤦🏾‍♂️

I think some people expect to be one step ahead of the game, if they skip over an escort’s ad writing, and just contact outright. It must be a belief that’ll get what they want faster than just taking 1 to 2 minutes to scroll thru and read the ad… But it’s not ideal if they have to ask right from the bat if they’re in town, or can they meet today despite it showing dates.

I feel I’m spending the equivalent of $5 of gallon living in the area I’m in. I’ve gone to Seattle, San Francisco and San Diego where that’s common…but once I arrive to my destination, I don’t have to drive much more than a couple miles to where I need to be. Especially in San Diego earlier this year. The beach was walking distance, and tons of stores within 1/2 gallon of gas away. The only time I had to commute, was for my specific gym, to see a client or go to Hillcrest. Meanwhile, I’m commuting an hour or more living in thee Midwest, to visit fwbs and clients. Some of these fwbs know that I have to drive far to see them, yet they turn their nose up or don’t even offer to cover what I spend on the ride there or back. That’s why I’m just going to focus on clients until I relocate, and leave all the frugal fuck boys in the dust. They don’t value my time or energy, and it’s all about their pleasure and convenience…at my expense. Most won’t even travel too far outside of their neighborhood/town for sex anyway, so why should I bother going out of my way if they aren’t paying…

I wasn’t intending to imply I had a bad day. In fact yesterday I had a great day. Had a new outcall appointment that went well, and later won something in a game. It’s not about good day/bad day. It’s just bringing light to the fact it’s some shiesty people out there. Specifically, sheisty guys who are always out looking for MSM sex. They put on a facade, showering with compliments and talking how horny they are and how they want multiple loads. But it all changes when there’s a request for some payment or reimbursement. If I don’t get a no-response, I’ll get an insult, or be compared to some dick they can get for free. But wait, just a few minutes ago he made it seem like I was exactly what he wanted 🤔

I suppose, that would be the easy, low effort way to handle it. But I’m believer in, if someone wants to make it happen, they’ll put the effort. I know because, I’ve met guys (mostly non-clients) who couldn’t host. And guess what I did? I picked them up, like a gentleman and brought them back to my place or hotel. And took them back. And the sex…out of this 🌎 . I’m not looking for easy and convenient, I’m looking for those who seem attentive and have the look I want.

that’s a good analysis, however I just want to clarify I’m not really interested in running a new escort site. I have my private site that I’m running, and it’s the furthest I want to take it for the time being. However I feel, since I’ve been with RentM since they started in 2009ish, I do hold some level of loyalty with them. I understand some of my suggestions might not be possible (I discussed the paying for content thing before, and there was an explanation for that. And rates obviously, that’s something that would need to be carefully implemented as well). I just want a few simple changes, that can make a big difference. Having a site myself, I know how easy…yet tedious it can be to make basic changes.

Well, hate to break it but: this section was once ask an escort, now it’s ask Questions about hiring. Not dissing the update but, it didn’t exactly “further inclusion” by providers. So… But other thing, I have found a new community where sex work is discussed more by providers. Albeit it’s mostly women, and tend to operate on a different pricing: they seem much more open to initiating discussions and topics, even among clients who actively read and post. I just feel many of the MSM pay community like to play the safe route: presenting a facade and avoiding transparency. Understandable if you’re protecting your bottom line, but not great for the better good of those in the industry. Also, the current sites don’t seem to be directing providers to the platform as much as prior sites. Remember, Rentboy used to direct us to daddy’s reviews. Now RentMen/masseur has become its own review platform. It’s not as necessary to win over people here for reviews. IMO, for an escort to want to post here, they have to really want to engage and be a part. Since the forum seems mostly client oriented, I can see how some wouldn’t want to step into the lion’s den…

And since posting this, gas went up like 30-40 cents in my area overnight 🤦🏾‍♂️ Gas prices just saw their biggest one-day increase in a year | CNN Business AMP.CNN.COM Gas prices are going up. The national average price for regular gasoline surged by 4 cents a... That said, going forward I won’t be expending any extra energy on stingy men, no matter how bored or horny I am. And if they want to get an attitude and play ghosting games just because I ask them to do their part, then fuck ‘em. Actually, won’t fuck ‘em. They want me to go out of my way, while they do the bare minimum. I’m not for it:

All the guys who claim to not/never pay for sex, do exactly that but don’t realize it. The drinks, the dinners, the driving across town, the apartment they rent so they can host, the time they spend trying to package themselves for consumption on Instagram: is not free. Going to the club spending $100, not free. But I realize I am having a moment because, the part of the country I’m in the amount of “I don’t pay for it” mentality is exorbitant. It almost seems to be a fad out in this area. Being cheap and finding it for free as much as possible, is cool. Fuck this place, giving it one more month to work out: if not I’m out of here for good 😤

Yeah, I feel part of the change has to start with “us” (gays). As long as people give it and throw it away for nothing, that’s going to be the norm. And especially for non-White gays. I won’t go down a race card route but, that’s the other reality: Wealthy gays will let a White guy use and abuse them for thousands of dollars, yet the moment a non-White (e.g. Black) guy gets $250 and doesn’t put out, we’re every name under the sun, plus a scammer. It’s not right. When it comes to gas money, people like to make it sound trivial like…it’s something one should be able to afford. If not, they look at you like you’re a broke bitch. But, many gays seem to be oblivious to the fact that $3+ gas for this amount of time does have an effect. I’m basically paying what California prices were for gas, back in 2018. For example, there’s one card that I use for gas purchases. And it’s likely more than that because I don’t even use it every time. It’s likely in the $500 range. And one guy I was briefly dating had the nerve to question my earnings, when I told him I didn’t have the gas money to go 90 miles out of my way, to see him. Because generally, I need to reserve that for clients. I told him the next day, how dare you. So out of line, to even question me, when I’m the one spending money to go out of my way and meet. And he was too cheap to ever offer gas, but on our (last and final) date, had the nerve to discuss with someone else, how the military is paying him $24,000 to relocate Overseas for a couple years. Why even bring that up, when I just had a discussion previously that I’m hard up for funds as it is? It’s stuff like that…shows blatant disregard for the ones they want to be intimate with. I’m just breaking that down once and for all, for all the ones who look down on others who ask for gas money. Because it’s really not even about that. The main topic is much bigger than that.

…Why do many gays treat their prospective hookups, like the s*x isn’t worth a dollar? Now, I’m not judging the fact people hookup for free. Or saying everybody should pay for any type of connection. But one thing that gets me, is how: one can say to another gay that they’re for pay, and they get an attitude or turn it down, or always have to make some sly remark. Case in point: I thought I had another but, I blocked him so: message is gone. But it was something like: “I don’t pay for what I can get for free”. I responded, umm..get who for free? Not me…maybe someone else though. I am so over the aire of entitlement that many gays have. As if they SHOULD get free access from anybody they approach. The other day, I went with a friend of mine to the Tiffany store, and he dropped $1,500 on accessories. No shade to that, it’s his money free to do how he pleases. But I know for a fact this guy also doesn’t pay most of his hookups, which are always met off hookup apps. Sure he may do drinks and dinners, which is cool. But I know there’s guys out there that operate the same way: they’ll spend hundreds and thousands on material things, and drive a Mercedes/BMW. Yet won’t even offer $20 for gas, to someone who’s coming from 100 miles away to visit them. (true story). As much as I enjoy the good clients in the biz, it’s a lot of “emotional labor” (gotta love that term) dealing with weekly instances of gaslighting behavior from potential and even return clients. Gaslighting to make me feel I don’t know how much to charge, and am delusional. Meanwhile, during the Taylor Swift concert in Kansas City, people (some gay) were paying $1,000+ just for a seat. The hotels were higher than my rate. Yet, I have to be expected to bend over backwards and forwards, just to be gaslit that $400 is too much. $300 is too much. $200 is too much. Hell, for some of these guys, they act as if $25 for gas is going to send them to the poorhouse. Meanwhile they’re bragging on this and that, and how good their job is 🤦🏾‍♂️ Then there’s these guys out here who have plenty of money, and a partner/husband (aka dual income), yet still expect to get free cake and eat it too. I have friends like that, and I think to myself, these people are counterproductive to everything I stand for. Why even be in their presence, if they believe sex is only worth a drink and a burger…but will spend $1,000s on high end accessories and meaningless home upgrades. But I’m crazy for asking $300?? 🤷🏾‍♂️ I think if I were to leave the biz, I wouldn’t even be compelled to replace hookups with the action I get from biz. Being I see and have experienced so much devaluing of gay sex, I would only do it sparingly and with someone I know is serious about having a genuine, consistent connection.

As someone who has done all of those drives you’ve mentioned: I tend to more likely incorporate locations within a tour/travel plans versus limiting it to just 1 appointment. I’ll often have an anchor city (somewhat similar to anchor client but: moreso a city with a purpose for visiting) that is my main destination, and then just include locations along the way. Like when I travel to the west coast from the Midwest, I usually have several anchor cities that may be 2-4-6 hours apart. So I try to work it all in. In that case, it wouldn’t necessarily be out of my way, though it would still involve travel. Which will typically requires a deposit as well. As for how far I’d go to meet a client on a non-tour drive, I will do that up to 3.5 hours away. I feel 3.5 hours is just within the amount of time to be able to go there and back, and spend the night. And even if I only have 1 client, it could be worth it. But there’s usually the opportunity to see more. For example, being in Kansas City I’ll occasionally go to Tulsa, Arkansas, Des Moines (though I haven’t been to Omaha in awhile) Last year I tried to do 2 trips, but clients kept dicking around with booking, and it seems to be a common scenario in that area 🤦🏾‍♂️ However, all of those require the caveat of needing to be booked AHEAD. Not a week in advance, but at-least the day or 2 prior. But most people reaching out don’t think that far ahead for some reason. I usually won’t drive 3.5 hours away for a same day appointment when I’m home. Usually when I’m already on tour, I can get on the road quickly. It’s not always guaranteed if I don’t have enough notice to arrive. For a typical same day ride/come home or back to the hotel same day for 1 client: I will usually max it to 90 minutes away. Here’s also an example below of driving time between 2 cities you mentioned: but notice how it’s not rush hour in SF yet. That could easily add 30-60 minutes: In my case, if I were visiting San Francisco, I wouldn’t leave there to visit someone in Reno for a 2 hour session. I would try to incorporate it along the way to my next destination. If I were living in SF, Reno would be close enough to my 3.5 hour limit preference. But I’d work it in if booked ahead, and with deposit+tip.

Can we step away from what the technical requirement/definition of a strike has to be? We may not “work” for them, but we still pay monthly memberships to them. I also didn’t advocate for a boycott, but moreso a plan of change. Just because I want something to be better or different doesn’t necessarily mean it has to be a rebellion. I just sent them a message basically going over the same things I mentioned here. Hopefully they’re open to consider the suggestions.

Well one thing for sure, a full time change of market for me is definitely. I can’t move overseas. I have too much to move, and moving overseas would be starting from scratch. Plus visa and all the stuff involved with immigration. I had discussed this with someone via DMs the other day. There’s other cities here in the USA I know I’ll be more appreciated in, versus sitting around dealing with cheap, emotionally laborious men. I just spent over an hour in discussion with a client friend across the country about it. Living in a counterproductive city threatens the ability to even stay in business. Granted a strike wouldn’t seem reasonable to those who may be in areas with a good supply of clients, and few advertisers competing for those same ones. But I feel I’m in an area where not only is there a handful of local and traveling advertisers, but it’s not enough clients to work with. And because of that, it would help having some extra resources. Resources that need to be implemented into the RM platforms to save us time, money, and frustration. And I’m just telling myself, if I have to pick up and leave by any means necessarily..I am ready. I just had to do another loan just to pay for some urgent expenses, because it’s been that bad since I came home from tour earlier this month. I shouldn’t have to do that. But I have to do that because that’s what the reality is here. In Kansas City, all I see is dudes hooking up for free left and right and everybody on the apps. If you do it that way, you’re guaranteed to get laid most the time. On top of that, you have to be in and around the main gay district, which I don’t reside in…And lots of hanging around doing spur of the moment quickies, which is not my style. Most of the “pay” inquiries come off rude, unreliable, half the time just string along or play games. And the timewasters here go out their way to waste my time every few months, until they are blocked. I almost fault myself for not blocking them when they show their colors on the initial messages, such as not responding or giving negative replies when asked for basic details like a name and deposit. But the moment I drop my guard and attempt to meet them: they won’t come thru. Well, who’s to say someone can’t do their individual strike in a way that suits them? I’ve already started doing that. There are times that I remove my number and disable email on my ads, and see who’s attentive enough to read the ad and go to my website. And of course you have the ones who take breaks and leave the industry quietly without explanation or warning as well. I wouldn’t concern about lost business being given away. Because it’s no guarantee there’s going to be some big surplus of clients within a 1 week time frame. which is the longest time I’d go for a hypothetical RM strike. That would still allows 3 weeks of paid time. There’s also the option of freezing ads, but that wouldn’t give the chance to be visible in the process. Though if one has a website or Twitter page, that can be the announcement platform.

The issue is: people need to be prepared to do both if they want to meet someone for sex. Stop relying on 1 person (namely, the escort) to do it all. Be ready to travel AND be ready to host. There’s $60 hotels in most any city. Not many, and hardly non in some areas but: Some accept cash. I highly doubt it’s going to send a client to the poorhouse, to get a hotel. I know that sounds ironic, considering the topic: but it’s true. For most of my escort time: Including when I first started, I have ALWAYS offered to host AND travel. I always kept a vehicle for Outcalls and always booked a hotel or had an apartment. I have accommodated above and beyond. However, I am not Superman who has endless money to spend…especially these days. Hotels are higher, rents are just ridiculous. I am also finding some cities/ states are harder to get approved with escort money than others. In St. Louis for example, (likely due to predjudice towards renters based on the demographics) I have hardly been able to find anywhere that’ll rent without a laundry list of requirements. So, I rent a room from a “partner in biz”. However, it’s not always available to me and I have to coordinate schedules with him. Problem is, even when I’ve had the place to myself and ready to host, people would still lie and ghost, play games and BS. So it’s hampered the thought of wanting to book into a full time place. So for clients: be flexible. If you can’t host, offer to get the hotel if the escort can’t host either. I’ve had plenty of clients do this, and even clients who were hosting: I had them come to me if for whatever reason, I needed the hotel anyway and it was easier. Example: In Nashville earlier this month, the client was hosting. However, he was hosting at a big hotel, and I was staying at a friend’s. Both my friend and client had early mornings (client was nice enough to offer me his place, but): which would have involved me having to be up and out by 8 a.m. That’s inconvenient, and I learned my lesson letting someone else I was dating do that to me: and I broke up with him that same morning. So I suggested to the client that I would rather get a room and have him come over. So yeah, it sounds like it’s not an issue and it should be simple but no: it’s a real issue. Who hosts and who travels. The solution is: every man who wants to have 1 on 1 time needs to be willing to do BOTH. If I can go book a hotel for a client, a client can book a hotel for an escort…if the escort doesn’t have the means to do so. Unless you’re willing to send a deposit.

Not necessarily. Hosting could mean spending more money. That would only apply if the escort straight up said: “I can’t host”. In my home city, I do host….by appointment only and when clients confirm. So I still get to see those clients. However, the ones who can’t plan more than 15 minutes in the future, never see me because I’m not just hanging outside of my door at the bathhouse, waiting for them to come over when I never expected them to come over to begin with 🤷🏾‍♂️

With everyone in Hollywood doing their walk outs, I wonder how that would look for us? I personally feel it’s time. I have emailed to RentMen and RentMasseur, and Adam4Adam (I know, not the greatest for trying to find clients…But there’s still some gems on occasion) my suggestions, but nothing ever seems to get done. I feel we as advertisers need to stop accepting whatever is defaulted and stand up. This isn’t directly an assault towards RM, but they are controlling the ship…and the ship has hit an 🏔️ 🚢 and is filling with water. What would a strike benefit? Here’s some changes I would #1: allow paying escorts to access a private portal of reported clients that we can report (this doesn’t have to compromise client confidentiality). The current “app” for doing this, I find isn’t know by providers in smaller markets. Plus they charge a fee, so some people probably don’t use it as much. It’s also kinda glitchy and vague. We need something like what men4rent offered, before the RB raid scared them into shutting down. I have seen a website offer this option, as explained here. #2: rates need to be reinstated, plainly. Not hidden somewhere. it’s no reason I need to be arguing and fussing and low balling with clients who don’t know my rates before contacting. It should show when the click our number. It also doesn’t need to be in reference to sex, simply: the cost to host you, the cost to travel to you. Period. Nothing else implied . #3: No more free private gallery/videos. They need to pay for extra content #4: Cut the “available now” to “available today. Nobody is ever available now unless you’re at a bath house or nudist beach. Unless: a person is indoors for 2 days straight, not stepping out at all and can maintain that consistently: it’s most likely not possible. But I go ahead and put “available now” anyway because I am “available today”. #5: Educate clients with a simple pop up, showing them a brief tutorial how to book. They should be informed; an escort may ask for your name. Your age, location. Basic details about yourself. Don’t make them have to fish it from you. Too many buffoons hit me up not wanting to share anything about themselves, thinking I’m just going to go to them or open my door to a complete ghost with no info. #6: anything else someone can add…should be promoted. What would a strike look like? Taking down our numbers, disabling email contact. Let them stare and be unable to book until change is made. Let them know: I am temporarily unavailable while we come up with a better way for providers and clients to establish boundaries on the rentmen platform 🪧 I know it’s not as simple as that but, even just acknowledging these things and discussing it with RM could make a difference.

Definitely facts. That’s exactly why I’ve come to plan things around confirmed bookings. I did the book 2-3 days in a hotel thing before having anyone confirmed, more times than I can count: I’d be a fool to keep doing that. Nowadays I only book ONE NIGHT (maybe 2 max if I traveled far, and not feeling moving the next day) at a time when traveling. It’s day by day. If a client doesn’t hit me up by noon next day, preferably a couple hours before that: I’m checking out or going elsewhere. I have no guarantee paying for an extra night is going to earn me anything, without a deposit…. Or at the least, a steady flow of clients. I usually find: 2 to 3 days is ample time to see everybody who’s available in a given period of time in a city (though in San Diego earlier this year, I went an entire week before my first client and then another week for my 2nd client 🫤 luckily I had friend’s spare room. All the stragglers who reach out at 11:30, 12, 12:30: Knowing that’s usually an hour that visitors maybe checking out of hotels, will have to send a deposit immediately for another night, or be ready to show up asap. Had that in Dallas couple months ago. I had the hotel ALL DAY MONDAY Memorial Day. What does he do? Contact me at 11:30 a.m. Tuesday as I’m walking out, asking to come over. I told him: book a room if you can’t host. I’m checking out. I also don’t rely on who all may be available to plan my trip either. Long as I have 1 confirmed client for a decent number, all else will come together. That’s why I ask $300-$400 majority of times I host. So if I only have 1, at least I have made back the hotel and money earned.