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Update: decided to request a change to this thread because I didn’t want it to just be passed off as another rant/complaint. When I think about it, it is an actual epidemic within the industry. There shouldn’t be this expectation that, a provider’s time is less important to that of a client: and trying to speak and think for a provider should not be considered acceptable. Hopefully we can all leave off on a positive note, with a better understanding of the message 📝

Well, this is exactly what I had pushed and projected would be the case, And part of that “strike” I had proposed not long ago. Providers are tired of guys looking at pics and not booking. And providers are also tired of these incessant spam texts day in/day out talking about painting a mural of us, offering a text buddy, a sugar daddy: just about everything besides actually putting money into our hands or accounts. So Hollywood is off strike, but we’re on it…Not necessarily verbatim in the same way, but the “strike” is moreso a demand from the customers to either start paying up, and stop playing around: or less free jerk material. And it’s also: until RentMen gives the option to get paid for private pics, don’t expect everyone to want to unlock for free… It’s funny how RentMasseur doesn’t allow any public nude pics, yet it seems just about every person who contacts me by phone: is from RentMasseur. On RentMen, they private message in droves, but the turnover to text that I request, most don’t do it.

Funnily enough, I usually debate whether to turn my phone on or off for Black Friday. I wonder why 🤔

And I have done certain things to make solutions accordingly. But to insinuate a set of solutions is immediately attainable per one’s circumstances, is a bit assumptive. Just like the article above I stated: change the pity to empathy. But if that’s how you feel, then that’s on you. You don’t have to understand, you already said you could never be an escort and prefer to stick with massage. That’s great. But I don’t think that could be used as a “solution” on a site that’s called “company of men”. So if you’re going to get snappy and start being condescending towards me, you can leave too. Here’s the door 🚪 and please don’t wish me best of luck if you don’t really mean it. The whole point of this thread is addressing passive aggressiveness, and you’re epitomizing that by leaving off with that, after you just insulted me. Don’t ✋🏾

There is no, “charge his account” button on cash app. The only way to wipe any account, is to add cash to your own cash app from your bank account. I try to imply this with clients who use apps or my site. Also: there’s many “text buddy” and “sugar daddy” scammers who contact me by text daily, even multiple times daily. This is another reason I have to regularly remove my phone number from my RentMen ad, and hope clients click my website or send me a messenger which delivers my auto-reply. I recently came up with a clever line in my ad, to further let people know: you can trust me: Meet one of RentMen’s longest 🍌 running advertiser, since 2009! So when someone says something equally clever like: “I’m not going to send money to a stranger”, I’ll know what to do 🚪 ☎️

Thanks for the tips. I appreciate what you’re saying but, I can’t only hear one person’s side and then expect it to speak for each particular situation. I also still say: there’s no getting defensive, but rather I’m answering the questions and comments that are being given. If someone misinterprets something I say, or do: I have the option to address and/or give my take on that. That’s why it’s a forum, unless I just post a topic and run off and never respond to anyone. Which some do. But I’m also not going to just sit back and say: “you’re right you’re right” to everyone. Not that a person is “wrong”, but maybe misinterpreted. Just like I mentioned about the therapy statement that you said: I have friends who have gone to therapists, but fact is: people are going to be who they are regardless. That’s the thing that you, and a few others just need to accept. You’re not necessarily going to change my reaction or perspective about a particular client. I have my way of dealing with them, to ensure I make it clear: it’s over and done with. Don’t come back around next year or the year after and think it’s going to be all good. As for the rest: I agree with what I need to do. I do plan to move, in fact I have a client who owns rentals in a neighboring state: and last we met we discussed my desire to leave this area. I got in contact with him yesterday, and hopefully the ball can get rolling. But even if it doesn’t, I’m still looking. The other thing is: telling me to move without giving me the means to do it, doesn’t help either. I know I need to move. Yes, I hate my home market. I have never traveled more in my life, than I have since I moved here. I mostly never fully unpack my bags because I already have another trip coming up. The days I try to stay here, all I do is deal with timewasters, people who make fake appointments, last minute appointments that I can rarely accommodate: it’s a racket. And all that traveling makes it hard to save money. It’s really been a merry go round to an extent. Normally I would be able to use proceeds from travel to save and make a move: But RentMen, RentMasseur and Adam4Adam are SLOW ever since the political climate has become toxic. Take for example this real text from a former client (and he’s far from broke; Edited for privacy and censorship obviously): So where am I going to get the money to pack up, uhaul, put a down payment, transfer vehicles, and do ALL of that: when you see right here: I lost $400 between 2 clients, in one DAY. One guy agreed to pay my regular rate $250, the other wanted just my basic $150 rate. And both cancelled on me Sunday. Neither was my fault in any way. I don’t care how people make it seem like the guy didn’t have an exact time, etc etc. He knew what he was doing, being a liar. Now, that’s $400 I don’t have to relocate with. So now: if I’m supposed to move in 30-60 days, where am I going to get that money? That’s what I’m saying: you’re telling me everything that worked for you: that’s great. It worked for me too, I wasn’t always in this position. I been sex working since 2009. I’ve had several apartments, in different cities. I even had a condo for 5 years in Denver. I paid so much for it, I could have practically brought it. But it wasn’t for sale and then, goodbye Rentboy and hello rent prices skyrocking. And guess where that left me? Figure that one out… Don’t look at me now like I’m struggling and have nothing going on, or don’t know how to manage my life. That’s not the USUAL routine. That’s only the current moment, and that’s because of having to work in a market that literally hates sex workers. Like yes: In Kansas City these people literally HATE SEX WORKERS. I hear it all the time from friends, men on hookup apps in the area. They talk about us derogatory, they’re interested until any mention of payment is brought up, the “potential” clients are just the worse inconsiderate types I’ve encountered. It’s easily the worst place I ever marketed in my life (albeit almost a tie with Nashville which however used to be quite decent for me during the time I lived there). But they were also hit with the rental crisis and influx of escorts. And that’s the thing: even under performing markets like Kansas City are filled to excess with escorts, so everybody is all trying to reach the same decent clients who are here. Or, the only ones doing good happen to be the guys lucky enough to marry an older well off White guy (which is very common I see in this area). Many minorities in this part of the Midwest partner up or marry much older White guys with money, and do their BEST to keep other Black men away from them, unless it’s like their trusted trusted guys from high school: even if they are 30 and 40 years old. I’m just over it. I talked to my therapist so many times, that there was nothing else to talk about. Only suggestion he made that was similar, was consider looking for other sources, and worked with me to find things I would like: but But I’ve also had jobs PRIOR to being an escort, and they had not much promise than some of these flaky clients have. Many companies hire an influx of semi-qualified candidates, then use them for a few months/couple years, only to drop them once their busy season is over. Which is okay if that’s what you’re looking for but: that’s a lot of commitment to something that’s temporary. Many jobs want your whole life, each and every day: but don’t want you to depend on them “too much”. Because: it’s “at will”. I have an idea and suggestion right now: how about we raise some money TONIGHT to help me relocate, so I can stop dealing with what I am dealing with. Then I can stop talking about it here 🙂 In the meantime, I’m thinking about removing all of my nudes on RentMen, and making them only available for rent on my website. That way I can have an extra source of income, versus relying on in person visits only. Just put my nudes on sale. If people want to start donating $100, $500, $1,000 to my cash app: it can be used to help me fund a move. Because at this point, with the shit I’ve been dealing with: I don’t have the means to move. Like I said, I’m hoping a client of mine who owns some rentals, can come up with something. If so, I might be moving to Arkansas ✌ I’m tired of over saturated, cesspool markets where there’s nothing but flakes and unreliable.Then you have 20 escorts being contacted all at once by the same flakes at the same time ✋🏾

Interesting read. At the same time: I should have better prepared for the typical nonsense that often arises when I have re-market back in my home base area. I should have known better than to make a rookie mistake like I did, but I’m looking forward from here. And the only reason I even took that route that I did, by posting: is because this person descended from being a potential client to: okay this guy is just fucking with me, and it shows from TWO prior messages that he either can’t make up his mind, or is very inconsiderate. I don’t get bent out of shape about clients looking at my profile and not booking, or asking reasonable questions with intention to book. But I draw the line at those who know better: they didn’t do it once, or twice. For every person who says I’m not this or that or need to do this or that with my life: apply that to every person who does the things I mention above. It’s funny how people always want to say what I need to do, but never make an honest assembly about those who instigate the situation: need to do. And in my case, I’m usually trucking along just fine minding my business…doing what I need to do and focusing on good clients: then some bozo clown (not referring to bozoTclown here) wants to come around and be childish. I don’t have time for that. And I definitely don’t have time to be reading texts at 6 fucking 30 in the morning, talking about he need to cancel a booking because he doesn’t want to part with the money.

Well you’ve just included DOZENS of other providers, many who on this board who are over 30, 40, even 50 and 60 and are still in the biz. I definitely don’t “feel” old, I don’t look old, I’m still bagging 20 year olds and have clients who are in college even. So, you really need to lay-off that mentality. 36 is not “old” and if anything, it levels out the playing field because, as a Top; many clients want an older nature guy, they don’t want to get fucked by someone barely out of high school (hopefully, I mean…I would think). The escort shelf life for Tops is likely a bit longer, I can be 70 years old, and still be escorting as a top and I guarantee I would still have some young guys wanting me. I know for a fact because: I just had a (real and in person) client tell me this the other week. He’s 75 and has young guys hitting him up all the time. And I appreciate the career advice but, reserve that for someone who’s asks for it: please.

Well, thanks? I guess 🤨 I mean yeah…I used to talk about race more but, it’s a bit deeper and more complex than that. Plus, I got tired of going down the race rabbit hole, that wasn’t necessarily pertinent to the specific situation at hand. Like for example, I could easily have made this title to: a racist client stood me up. But then, that solves the issue prematurely without really addressing the other factors. When in reality, it was an inconsiderate, impatient client who stood me up: but he probably does treat other Black prospects that way too. Which is a very real aspect of racism. I’ve found that attitude from guys rife, specifically in certain places in the Midwest, Tennessee, Pennsylvania, and Texas. But it’s all over the country pretty much. You can’t come off rude and condescending, then expect to be in the mood to sleep together. Why some guys like to make their potential sex quest upset, is beyond me. But I think it would be easier to address the impatient and inconsiderate part, before trying to solve the racist part because: the latter is something one needs to work on within and can take WORK to resolve, whereas the former directly affects my scheduling and our communication IN that moment. I can’t book someone who thinks I’m supposed to show up MOMENTS after he works up the courage to FINALLY contact me again. After a lousy A4A message where he essentially semi-flaked twice, and then was making passive aggressive statements to try to “think ahead of me” like he suddenly has my whole life figured out. Dude, calm down and have a seat 🪑 You haven’t even known me 24 hours ✋🏾 Which leads to the next article, because I’m just about done. I’m going to let articles speak for me. Just replace every line that says “women”, with “male escorts/masseurs” No More Last Minute Dates! | Dee's Dating Diary DEESDATINGDIARY.COM More and more men seem to think it is okay to ask women out on a date with less than 30 minutes notice! While I...

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Nobody is fighting, until you said what you said. And those “potentials” you refer to weren’t potentials at all. They were about as real of clients as was mentioned in this thread And I included about how some escorts out there aren’t real either. You may not think there’s been no resolution, but it’s already happened. Don’t take a simple rant on the forum, to imply there’s been no solution. That’s just the steam coming from the production. If you really want to help like you say you do, just contact the people on the list I’m going to formulate for you…who you should be referring to therapy. Talk is cheap. If you’re going to suggest therapy for one, suggest for all who are involved. Because it takes 2 to tango. Why don’t you go find an article online: about passive aggressive behavior, how to respect customers/self employed people, and post it here. You doing all that barking but not doing shit encouraging or uplifting of value. Since you can’t, I will: give me a few minutes.

Bro please, keep that well wish to yourself because you don’t mean it. Especially after everything you just said above that. Don’t come to me with that fake well wish, and you lie in your sincerity. You clearly have animosity against me, and it shows in your post. You can’t even make up your mind whether you’re for me or against me. You know the stuff I say is accurate, but you only side with the parts that you can relate with. Yet, you disparage my business model, and have no basis on anything directly relating to what I say. You don’t have to defend me. Leave. I can do that all on my own. I’m not here to have you defend me. Sorry you were mistaken. You don’t even know the half of everything. Go to my RentMen ad right now, and see all the good reviews. What circles are you talking about? I can talk about whatever I want to talk about. Other posters like @Simon Suraciand @BenjaminNicholas are actually using factual and informative dialogue that understands what I’m dealing with, and takes that into account. It’s not always about you, me or a common denominator. I have a right to express things in a way how I feel it needs to be said, and I said it exactly how I wanted. Some of these guys do come off impatient, and needy and passive aggressive. But I don’t need them to use that as leverage while they dangle money and then try to take it away from me. I don’t need them. For every client who falls thru, I always find someone else to replace. But these websites have done very little to help us avoid it. They just want our money every month, and collect. I’m being innovative and coming up with strategies to help, and you have the audacity to make a joke about: I’m losing prospective clients because they don’t want to adhere to my deposit guidelines.” I never said that. You putting words in my mouth. My issue with you is, your tone is ratchet to me, and you’re coming at me condescending and trying to put me down. And I’m not even with it anymore. I’m definitely not going to let you do that. So you can see your way out, please. Leave…

On the contrary, I have have plenty of clients who are fine with my deposit policy. This whole thread has already proven that I’m not losing prospective clients based on my deposit guidelines, but rather: weeding out the trouble makers who don’t. On my latest tour: every client I met sent me a deposit. The ones who didn’t, wanted me to either A) stop in their city AND host, which essentially is me putting my money upfront for nothing more than a series of texts, or they wanted me to come to a hotel with very little verification. So what point are you making, sir? You’re making no sense to me now. One minute you claim to be having my side, next minute you’re being 2 faced and saying something offensive. Make up your mind. Either be on my side or don’t. Because you can’t be on my side and then trying to pop jokes and sarcasm towards how I choose to do things, all in one page. That’s what I call: being phony. And I don’t tolerate fake people, any more than fake clients. And if you come to me with that energy, I’m going to call you out.

See, now you’re trying to be funny and I’m having a hard time believing if you say you weren’t trying to offend me. Because right here you’re now trying to insinuate something. When you say problems and common denominator, I know what you’re trying to do. And personally it’s non of your business what we discussed, that’s why it’s therapy in the first place. Mind your own, please. Thankyou very much.

Right, but: my thing is you’re saying these things and putting the burden on me to “accept it”, yet I’m not hearing specific solutions. As you can see from this thread and all the response: some guys seem all okay up until a certain point. At one point do I “ignore them?” When an appointment is already made? When they reach my phone, or when they have me going to a location they cancel en route? I already know what I need to do, and I’ve done it. I know I can’t change people, but I can continue to require deposits. That was the ultimate mistake I made yesterday, not getting a deposit from this guy before I left. Even though it was just going to be a short visit. And even though it wasn’t a 100% wasted trip since I was already going elsewhere in the area: I don’t care anymore. I don’t even care if a client is in the same hotel as me, I will STILL require a deposit before I leave my room or give out mine.

I did address the timing thing in my post above: the client contacted me out the blue on a time of day I wasn’t expecting to take a booking to begin with. But, had he just been patient and not pushy, I would have easily been able to fit him in. I had specifically told him I would need to follow up to get a time to him. Nobody told him to stop or not do anything. If it was that urgent he should have told me from the start, he needed to meet by a certain time. However I’m done with could have/would have with him. He seems the type of client that would likely be trouble anyway. People like that come on very strong, but then don’t pan out in the long run. Or, they brag about how horny they are: but then 10 minutes into it: tap out or get some weird reaction (very common in this area) I understand what you’re saying, and the confidence you’re wanting to instill, and thankyou for acknowledging my “seniority” in the business (as we can see though in DC: being older/experienced doesn’t always equate to “respected by all lol”) but this is the terrible by product of living in a bad market. My worst nightmare used to be, man: what if I moved or lived in that city I had a bad tour in, how would I even survive? My current market is that worst nightmare. I used to travel from Denver to the South/East Coast years ago, and I usually always skipped many of the cities in the Midwest except Minnesota and Wisconsin, simply because I noticed right off the bat how disrespectful and rude many of the clients were. I was like yuck, I would NEVER move to Kansas City or St. Louis, such rude and flaky clients! I would sometimes overnight in a neighboring town far away from both cities, versus risk getting a hotel and placing an ad just to deal with all the idiot flakes in the city. And now, here I am. Wasn’t even really my choice, but a compilation of things made that happen. That said, not all the clients are bad apples. And consistent advertising and staying local has helped me meet some good quality guys, who I probably wouldn’t have met just stopping in for a night or 2. So, there’s some perks. Overall, you’re right. I’m done making leeway for these people. For now on, everything is going to continue to be even more to the point and laid out, with the instructions I give, and I’m not making any exceptions again. Thanks, but again: you still have to acknowledge the disrespect and those who are dishing it: need to be willing to CHANGE. It’s like saying: getting whipped is bad, but you must be willing to grow a thicker skin! No, how about those who are doing the whipping stop and educate themselves, stop being an ass and treat each other better 🤷🏾‍♂️ When you send me a money order or cash app me $50,000 so I can slow down for a year and take time to focus on other things? Well I should mention: I was bored that night…and I just wanted to throw it at him on purpose. But then look at this. I noticed on my cash app, he changed his name and declined my $20 request. I wish I could say I was making this up 🤦🏾‍♂️ At this point, I’m not even offended. That person was a bullet dodged and just proof of stupidity or someone with very low intent. Get a job? But he’s the one calling me begging to meet, and I’m the one turning him down because he was hella sketch. I been around long enough to know when something doesn’t add up, next… and then later… Trying to keep that on the low, because it’s a different type of forum. There’s a lot of venting from providers going on there, and I been trying to keep quiet here and keep it there: but it’s like, this needs to be discussed here because it’s a different level of clientele than the straight community.

You say therapy like I’m supposed to be offended. Guess what? I went to a counselor. We would meet every 1 to 2 weeks. He knew also I am a sex worker. And he basically told me everything that I already know: lot of people project their bullshit on me, and are inconsiderate: and he didn’t recommend any medication or psych meds that will change that. And I went to a Black, gay, MARRIED counselor. Not some straight Protestant or evangelical White therapist who likely wouldn’t understand my position. But then again, maybe they would because: they’re usually the ones who know what these weirdos are thinking and why they do the shit they do. I confide in them often and they tell me stuff that doesn’t surprise me at all 😆 I even suggested medication lol, because hell: that’s probably why many in the industry smoke weed and/or other anyway. But he said it’s just my personality and level of tolerance, and gave me some recommendations for anger management. And I definitely managed my anger yesterday because, the old me-(when I was younger) would have took a 🧱 or 🔨 to his window, did doughnuts in his yard, spray paint his door…anything. All I did this time was gently blow the loud horn a few times in front of his house, then I left and wrote an informative comment to warn others not to fall for this fraud. Plus : I also didn’t have full proof that was HIS actual home, and I know how innocent people often get caught up in unintended drama. Plus there is a story in Kansas City about a Black teen ringing a door bell, and getting shot. So, I rather take the Christian route: leave it in God’s hands, but warn thou fellows of the devil ☝️ How about this: worry about your own therapy. Or better yet, I’m not going to attack you because you’re innocent in this. Why don’t I email you the phone numbers of all the guys who do these things, and you text bomb them in one big group message, and suggest them get therapy, because clearly they are the one with the issue. I’m just minding my business, taking calls and texts. THEY are the one doing stupid inconsiderate shit, and poking the bear. I was having a perfectly fine day and plans of my own. I’ll go ahead and send you that list of clients you need to refer to therapy. Thankyou for the suggestion.

I get what you’re saying, but that’s not how it went. Like I mentioned, he just happened to contact me out the blue: after 2 years, and be suddenly interested in meeting. Whatever anticipation he had, was not anything I GAVE him, he took it upon himself to assume a timing that was never discussed. I couldn’t give him a time, because the only person I had on schedule for Sunday was Mr. “I’m not going to pay your cancellation fee” who I posted earlier. That’s the only person I had on schedule. This “Raytown” guy didn’t contact me until 11:30 on a Sunday on Adam to request a booking, and he waited until just after 1 to even text me and request the visit. This is a common misconception needy types make, and they do it prematurely before getting any word.. I specifically told him: I would need to follow back: Nothing but 1 hour passed, and he’s already hounding me. And just because he’s ready now, doesn’t mean I’m ready now. I just got his fucking text from Adam at 1 p.m. on a Sunday. That’s too bad that he assumed I am Mary Poppins and the genie 🧞 on standby with an umbrella and magic carpet. I never gave him that impression. He came off impatient, pushy, and was disrespectful. And here’s the kicker: he wasn’t in a hurry back in 2021 when he cancelled on me: Look at how his message appeared, tied to his last message; and look at the bullshit excuse he gives and how I tried to be nice with him and still be professional: That’s why I wrote what I did because: this guy has a habit of being fickle, and he shows blantant disrespect for me as a provider, yet expects to get A+ service from me.

That I can say, may be true. But, sometimes not everybody in the business: is actually even in the business. Or even existence at all. I’m finding this out more as I’ve come across stuff like AI renderings of people, who aren’t even real! For example, I went back thru a text from a “couple” who contacted me last year. I cross examined the picture further and realized: it wasn’t even a real picture! It was so pixelated, and the edges of the skin were very jagged. It looked very fake. The “client” basically sent me a fake picture of a couple that doesn’t even exist. I knew something wasn’t right about it from the get go. But it just goes to show. People in the business who have no business in the business: probably aren’t even in it to begin with. Using someone else’s pictures, or doing some scammy type of stuff. Almost congruent with the notion of “clients” who aren’t actually clients, they just do exactly what you have described; looked at profiles 100s of times under the disguise 🥸 of being a client. Well, that’s the feature that the site allows. It’s not trolling, it’s part of what you signed up for when you become a member. It’s like if you walk into a go go dancer bar, specifically for go go dancers: if you look at a guy, they will likely turn around and say hi to you. But that’s also how the innovation of RentMen, can sometimes backfire when mimicking a “personals” site. That’s why I also don’t engage on RentMen messenger. I love the feature, it’s great: for auto responses. I’m not about to sit there and just be chatting to a dozen guys at once for free, knowing they probably doing the same with others. On a dating platform, maybe people don’t mind wasting their time: but we’re trying to run a service. Now maybe if each chat message was $10 to start, I would be more engaged. That’s insightful you’d share that revelation about your past trauma. In my case, I have reached out to clients who looked at me. Every so often, I’ll reach out to a list of several who have. However, I lately stepped back from doing so because: I don’t want to feel compelled to bend my rules and rates to accommodate a situation that wasn’t initiated by the client, and it seems to be: when an escort hits up client first, client takes it as an invitation to ask for a discount or “maybe maybe” the conversation. So even though I don’t mind initiating first, I don’t always. On the flip side, I have had some successes come out of reaching out to some who checked me out. Also: story of my life in public seems to be, men rarely ever approach me anymore. I get approached by Women more than any gay guy, only a daily basis. No matter how gay I try to dress. I’m usually always the one to have to strike up a conversation first. So occasionally I’ll turn the tables and play my hand by sending out some invite messages…because that’s just what I’m used to. And in person, it has gotten me laid more than once. Online: the results are mixed but usually in favor of the client making the first move.

And that’s sometimes all is needed, is just to listen (or in this case read) and just: see from a different window. Spread the word, tell your friends. I know clients tell their friends about RentMen. Which is great. But they can also learn how use the service wisely, not pull this “I’m new and scared” shit and use it as an excuse to do things they (hopefully) wouldn’t ever do to someone else in a normal business. But: I wouldn’t be surprised if they do. I’ve seen people do some shitty things even to regular businesses. I know in the past I had such posts, and sometimes I could see where I may have messed up or overreacted, or came off unprofessional. But with this new site layout, where I can easily just screenshot texts and post: now people can actually see for themselves, the stupidity which exists and understand why: I have to regularly make big changes to how I work. I mean, at this point I have everything laid out how I want it. The hardest part of it, is sticking to my own policies and not letting gaslighting “inquiries” stray me away from what I already know works. And what I already know works is: not seeing, or trusting clients who can’t send a deposit, regular or newbie. Limiting same day/short notice appointments, because they’re usually always liars and flakes. Unless they can do deposit AND same day booking: And sometimes, I like to waste these guys time back by quoting a crazy number like I did with the guy in St. Louis I quoted. Yes, if you ignore my messages and then call me two days later at 1:45 a.m.: it’s going to be double the price. As for needy: I’m not putting down those who are NEEDING the experience. I’m putting down those who expect me to suddenly be at their instant beck, and then turn impatience and needy when I can’t be available at the very moment and second they suddenly have a need to meet. I’m not a fucking emergency. I’m not 911, or AAA. I’m somebody that you’re supposed to be meeting privately for a very intimate service. I don’t want to be treated like I need to be on standby 24/7, like a fire truck 🚒 or ambulance 🚑 with a team of people, to service your dick or ass emergency. Just like I described the other guy, how he go from not contacting me since 2021 when he flaked, to now all of a sudden wanting to meet today, and then barely even giving me a couple hours to arrange? That’s what I refer to by needy: The annoying, impatience NEEDY guy who doesn’t really need anything at all: that’s why they cancel because they only want attention. Needy, attention seeker. Now this doesn’t apply to all same day bookings or all client situations. I know sometimes the moment is necessary when it comes up. But don’t have me getting into sense of urgency and then backing out. That’s when you cross the line. And I have no tolerance for clients who do that.

And I really don’t think “massage” clients are any more reliable either. Case in point from the other night. Why are you calling me at 1:45 a.m.? Yeah I was awake, but I wasn’t about to be leaving my place for some sloppy last minute invite when I asked him twice the other day prior to confirm 🤦🏾‍♂️

I’m trying to scout some new locations going into next month. But before I move I have some things I’m trying to get taken care of, which have been held up because the effect that’s been had on my earnings dealing with types like this. I’m really at the point of just like, fuck everything and leave and just try to finish when I get to where I need to be. But I’m waiting for something that might help with staying in my current location. If I can be closer to the city, it might help reach the impatient, bad planning types who imply they have all day availability, but in reality have no fucking patience once so ever: However, I’ve damn near blocked and blacklisted 3/4 of the Kansas City and St. Louis market. Majority of them have multiple bad reports, or they lie and never keep their word on booking. Or they reach out once, fail to follow thru or have a million excuses just like the 2 imbeciles I mentioned earlier do, and then come back around months later outta nowhere, asking for a booking that they can only fit in a tiny window of time. That’s not doing business, that’s just blatant stupidity. And I find it very hard to maintain patience with those types, even though they probably would pay every so often. In fact, I am TOO patient with them, and they abuse my patience. They want a fight, but then start pulling the unprofessionalism card when I start “threatening” and “blackmailing” them (like one of the clients accused me of). No it’s not blackmail, it’s an option. Reimburse me a portion of the agreement we had, or be reported. It’s that simple. You don’t just get away with asshole behavior, and leave me in the dust looking empty handed. They need to be professional and view me as a professional, not just some panhandler on the street asking for change, who they can treat like a bum. As far as the issue with race: I do believe it’s a factor. I know @Decatur Guy posted the question about why are there not more guys doing this. Well this thread here: is your answer why. I even notice too: there seems to be fewer “top notch” Black escorts, except in the bigger cities: And I know for a fact, I even discussed this with another forum member about one: some of us escorts of color who weren’t big name porn stars, used to be able to go city to city successfully. Now, many of the cities you generally have guys who have just started up in the past year or 2, or with questionable ratings. I’m probably one of the select few Black providers who have been around since 2008, 2009, 2010. And only reason I’m even able to tolerate it this long, is by having innovative policies to protect from the things Adam and RentMen FAIL to protect us from. But soon as I fail to do it, like today: I agreed to meet this idiot and didn’t bother to ask for a deposit: this is the disrespect I get. So once again, I will never meet anybody new without a deposit, I don’t give a fuck how much they bitch about it being difficult, or how they never had to send a deposit before. I’m not hearing the excuses anymore.