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Good point, I have it all mentioned in my site as well that’s fairly easy to navigate. I just wouldn’t want to risk getting scolded for not following the rules. Just the other day I wrote something that I think said appointments, and the whole paragraph got wiped out

Back to your question (and I’m not trying to prove you wrong), I just want people to UNDERSTAND WHY. It’s not as easy as it seems. And lookie, that was faster than I thought:

I’m going to tell you why in a moment, but: I DO mention deposits in my profiles and my website. You may not see it on RentMen because they don’t allow rates, but on RentMasseur and Adam, I have mentioned this. I believe however, last time I tried to update my profile mentioning anything about pay/deposit verbatim it wasn’t included. However I have often mentioned something like a % is asked to confirm. And didn’t have any issues posting. Who said people don’t pay deposits because they don’t know how? It certainly wasn’t me. I was just letting someone know that it’s NOT a matter of it being difficult, and that it’s easy to do so with a number of apps or transfer services like Zelle. Now if it’s a factor or it being difficult due to the other things I mentioned: I don’t have much control over that. Just like I have no control over deposits that hotels and apartments want when I want to host clients 🤷🏾‍♂️ And don’t try to take comments I make, and try to use that in a way to make a point. Just because I said what I said, has nothing to do with deposits. I don’t know the providers you mentioned or where they are based, so I can’t compare. You just mentioned 3 variables that likely don’t compare: your local market, another visiting and one when you were traveling and you don’t even mention what cities they are. So how can I even compare that to anything? If they’re not in my specific area, dealing with the specific type of market I’m dealing with: then there’s no reason to bring it up at all. And slowest month ever, doesn’t mean I didn’t just see $1,000 in 2 days last weekend ☝ The problem is: I can’t make that kind of money anymore in my own region. I had to travel 5-6 hours to the next state just to do it. It seems like many of the gay population here is broke and on a budget, and like I told a client buddy of mine yesterday who lives in the area: there’s more and more fly by night guys keep advertising in this area. Yet 99% most of all inquiries here is a flake or a phony. It’s the perfect storm: few clients, too much competition. Deposits probably only have like 0.5% to do with it because, I try to book people without deposits on alternative sites, and they still don’t want to pay for anything. Or they want to pay $100-$120. Best to have the whole picture, before making statements that you don’t have all the info on. Slowest month is in regards to my home area of Kansas City. And even before I started charging deposits here, people were still not reliable, flaking on appointments, cancelling as I was about to walk out the door…any and everything. Then I would have to regularly travel long distances for appointments to other regions, and I didn’t want to take the risk going to places just based on a couple flirty texts. It’s not eharmony. It’s escorting. All of my clients all understand and have no issue with deposit. And don’t compare me to other providers. You keep making anecdotal comments, which can’t be verified. And anybody can lie and tell you they’re busy, to make you feel however they want you to feel. The real world is talking totally different: Also: The issue is: people are asking questions, yet people keep bringing up how they never have to, how others don’t, etc etc. Is it really end stop if people can’t just agree: “some providers will, some providers won’t. It does not imply in any way anything other than a personal preference, and each escort has the option to do whichever method they choose to do”. Simple as that.

Well that sounds moreso of a personal preference versus actual facts. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with making available plenty of travel locations. Especially within close range of one another. Even if I don’t go to all of them, there may be someone in at least a couple who’s willing to connect. The best way to resolve that is by reaching out to the person ahead of time. Just because other guys may have taken a day or two to respond doesn’t mean everyone is the same. It’s not necessarily that I’m focusing on just small cities, it’s simply what I have to work with based on where I am and where I’m nearby. I’m not close enough to a megapolis to actively post up in those, so I try to focus on areas I can get to within a couple or so hours. One that’s not going to involve hundreds of dollars before I even get my first client, to visit. As for ease of deposit: you can’t sit here and tell me this is difficult: There’s 2 buttons: pay/request and enter the amount. It’s not rocket science. A 5th grader can do it. There’s nothing difficult about a deposit, people do it very easily. The ones who don’t want to deposit and comment about how difficult it is: are often either non-committal, not trustworthy, not trusting of the provider, too paranoid within their marriage (and plenty married clients do fine to send deposits), or they just don’t have the best intent. I can’t sit around and be fixated about what other providers are doing or not doing to make it easier for clients. There’s also guys giving it up for free, if I were to worry about them making it easier for people, I would be not even doing this at all 🤷🏾‍♂️ And as I’ve said before: I’ve not done deposits in the past, and people were still on the same ole games and BS. Only difference now, I’m not on the games and BS. I’m not a newbie anymore who’s willing to take risks going places or setting up hotels, just to be cancelled on. And time and time again, the ones who either don’t pay deposits or I forget to ask: usually end up bailing anyway. I have nothing to lose based on the things I’ve experienced.

Sounds like you’re on the right track. I even talk to non escort friends about the deposit thing, and they all agree. Non of them would be driving to the next town or paying to book a room without a deposit. I used to do stuff like that, but times have changed. Many sites have shutdown, hookup apps have affected the market, men are flakier. And too: my risk level has changed. I used to like the thrill of maybe getting 5 clients, maybe getting 0. But that’s too much gambling and speculation for me. I need to do things fair and sensible. I would be foolish to do that now. It’s not necessary to get overly technical about it, but just the simple fact: the providers take a bigger risk in the situation and should be given assurance without feeling up against the wall to be a scam. I want to laugh with you, but don’t get it 🤔 Hard to tell in that specific exchange…and yeah some providers like myself, I may advertise in multiple cities. Some I’m WILLING to go to, others I actually will be passing thru. If I’m say: going to Phoenix and someone reaches out asking if I ever go to Las Vegas: it’s a chance the message may not have the urgency to immediately reply to. Or if it’s some place far out, I might bookmark it or reference my site instead. As for the clients asking rates/availability/location: it’s a fine line. If a client gets rate, availability and my address and then flakes out: that’s not just an inquiry. At that point I’m expecting for something to happen. Issue is, many providers don’t have a “head hunter” handling all the inquiries. Or a madam. So I assume when a client reaches out, he’s done his part to read/review my ad and website with rates and ready to book. When someone comes empty handed with no idea of anything, and I take the time to walk them through and get no booking out of it: that’s when I want to start asking for a consultation. At the end of the day, the phone bill doesn’t get paid answering inquiries that go nowhere. The hotel, rent and car insurance don’t get paid when inquiries go unreplied to either. Escorts and providers are still relying on people to follow thru. Answering texts aren’t going to pay for those things if they’re not getting a booking out of it.

Well asking a deposit shouldn’t be any less customer friendly than not asking for one. That should be fairly irrelevant. Besides I always say, if someone is going to pay anyway…what’s the issue? Assuming it’s not a scam but a verified, reputable provider with reviews and longevity. That said, this month alone I’ve had 3 clients who have sent deposits, and bailed on the booking. Thanks but, I’m not about to sit around and listen to people harp on about an escort scamming someone out of a deposit. If anything some people are scamming themselves out of a deposit 🤷🏾‍♂️

As a Pro or a Buyer? That said, since then I’ve put my profile back up…However it’s not been serving its use much in my current market. Few even contact via the number in profile and 9/10 are flakes and phonies anyway. Used it recently in a nearby state and seemed like I was going to get 3 appointments: non of them came thru. Plus, it’s nothing new but: many the ones on there don’t have a sense of price and often want to offer some lowball amount. I’m hanging into it for visibility but, I’ve found a different site megapersonals…which is just as quirky and 🤦🏾‍♂️ as Adam but: at least it’s free. Paying $30 a month just to deal with nonsense, is starting to be too much…

Canada does the same too… Crossing borders is just too much. You pretty much have to invent an entire legitimate reason to be going, and not even think about anything you might be doing. That said, I’ve lost interest in hopes of going to Canada. But if I were to do it again, definitely would stick to train or air, use a clean phone and device, have everything laid out. Like @BenjaminNicholas said, they want your whole life story, how much money you bringing, etc etc. Plus it’s too damn cold up there lol. If I want to go to Canada, I can just go to Minnesota or New York and that’s pretty much Canada for somebody from Florida lol.

Ha Ha Ha. Actually not… I already have a long list of upcoming travel planned. Last time I worked retail (circa 2005-06), the rule of “anyone who doesn’t show up the Friday after thanksgiving, gets fired”. And of course that was precisely the time I was scheduled to go with relatives to Miami 🤦🏾‍♂️ Fortunately I was able to keep my position, but I think I tapped out just before Christmas. The frantic women did it for me 🚯 1 lady wanted to make a snide remark with me about a towel at the register, goodbye 😂 That said, I wouldn’t blame someone for wanting to go that route. If I didn’t travel, I would be in deep shit right about now. My home market is just dead, dead, dead. I don’t think I’ve ever lived in a city, where things have been more consistently down for MONTHS than it has in Kansas City. And then like Los Angeles, I’m seeing more and more ads popping up (though not many gold ads, telling) yet nobody is even paying for nothing out there. Makes me wonder who’s all aware at how frugal and unreliable these men out here can be. Even some of the real clients, show little respect and dependability when dealing with escorts. It’s common some will attempt to book a session, do it very half ass and haphazard (don’t respond for hours and then last minute try to fit something in which rarely works). Then ghost or not contact for months. Unless like last week: I just happen to already be ready, in my car driving around and not doing much else with my time except: getting into the gym just 10 minutes ago. I’m just disgusted, dismayed. Disconcerted. Everything that starts with a D, I feel…and not the D I want to feel lol. I haven’t experienced such an extended period of slow biz until I came here…it used to be fairly tolerable, but lately it’s just gone straight to 🔥 in a 🧺 I see escorts posting, but I know not many actually booking 🤦🏾‍♂️ Once I finish my next tour: I’m hoping I save enough to make a strategic exit plan 🪂 next month.

I must say regardless of how asinine someone may think or feel about it: Come next week, my phone numbers will likely be down. Because last thing I wanna do is responding to Timewasters who are bored or angry with family over Thanksgiving and Black Friday, and want to take it out by using a provider for free entertainment. Absolutely not.

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Gotcha… …I mean, I suppose. I don’t think talking about competition in a city though is whining or moaning. Like me for example, I’ve had to learn more than once: running out to the biggest city like it’s a designer label, was not the smart thing to do. I used to think, “ooo there’s LOTS OF ESCORTS THERE, I’LL DO GREAT”. I would end up spending more, and getting less. Less serious clients and less money. Now, I move more carefully and go to cities that aren’t as heavily competitive. I still go to the big cities, but with strategy and limitations. Like when I did DC, I only did it because friends were going. I didn’t do it solely as a biz trip, however I was doing it as a biz journey for myself. At the same time, some cities have next to 0 competition but equally don’t have much business either. Just have to be strategic, but doesn’t mean it’s whining if I say I would never work in Los Angeles without advanced booking, and Kansas City used to be good but now there’s so many more ads that I don’t even make much money here. That’s not whining, it’s just facts of the matter 🤷🏾‍♂️ I travel every week or 2, so I’m doing something about it at least.

It sounded like the poster was posting from a client standpoint though, and perhaps saying the competition he has of “picking” guys? Good point, and yes that was fun! First Denver and then D.C., might have to be somewhere 🏝️ 🏔️ else next year 😜 I get it though, when you’re traveling you have less time to arrange things and someone could potentially fall thru. I still think having some sort of imaginary time frame would help, but I also imagine some clients only take a certain amount of time in a day, and just reach out to a couple and talk to a couple. Though I generally seem to connect only with the ones who have been checking me out for awhile, and are pretty set with arranging a visit with me once I get to their area or mine.

Good point (I know, 2 weeks later but…) still. I’ll also say: if people, clients and the world wants positivity from providers specifically: they have to be willing to give out that same energy. And I’ve been noticing not many been practicing and giving that courtesy. For example my latest semi-cancellation I guess you could say, was someone I haven’t heard from in over 3 years. Last message was September 2020 and I told him then how I felt about him and was thru: Fast toward to yesterday, dude reaches out like it never happened just saying it’s been awhile and he wants a massage (and don’t ask me why I didn’t block him, I believe I did but it seems like each time get a new iPhone: blocked numbers aren’t transferred sometimes). And I have so many blocked numbers as it is… Well then he starts telling me about his dad who passed away, and then saying he has to make sure he’s going to have hotel to himself. Long story short, cancels the meet saying his sister is going to be staying with him: And people wonder why I talk about what I talk about. Sometimes I feel it’s a bit insensitive (not saying you) when I hear or read people trying to say we should all just keep a bubbly attitude and not post about anything unless it’s happy. But it has to be recognized how hard that is to do sometimes, when it’s people like this who aren’t reliable and don’t keep their word. Then they come around years later, and when I open a chance: they only do it again. So I have to stay on top of things I need to do to protect myself from people like this, because they give me migraines and mood swings. They bring unnecessary drama to my space and have no intention of being dependable.

That’s disheartening for sure. I don’t think it’s necessary to beat someone up over not willing to do a deposit. I could see where someone may want to defend their choice, or perhaps reference reviews to show that others have done so. But part of doing so is letting people know: it’s not a choice or something to be argued over. It’s a way of doing biz that works for me, regardless of how uncomfortable it may be for some clients. I know it’s more uncomfortable driving somewhere, and the client cancels mid-trip. I know it’s more uncomfortable booking a hotel room, and having people cancel and being unable to get a refund. On my most recent trip, I had 3 clients all send a deposit. Only one who didn’t, was someone I met before, however I almost wanted to because he lived about an hour away (and 6 hours from where I actually reside) Except he hasn’t done flaky things yet, and I also reached back out to him first so I was open to be flexible.

Must say, I doubt it’s anything “new” or unknown. LA is the west coast version level of competition that rivals New York. It’s always been that way since I’ve started. RentBoy back in the day used to have something like 300-400 profile. It’s one of the most, and likely most: competitor provider cities in the country. Doesn’t mean one can’t have fun, but from an escort perspective: all that candy 🍭 could give you a toothache if not properly approached. I would likely suggest just contacting one guy at a time, being in no particular rush however…having a time frame in mind. Today? What time of day? Next week, which days? Something of that line. Don’t reach out to multiple providers in a day. Be patient and wait for the guy to get back to you, and generally allow 24 hours to complete an exchange. 4 hours at minimum. 2 hours at absolute minimum. If you start messaging a bunch of guys and then pick the one you want, you’ll come off like a flake. This is not hookup apps or any of those other timewasting sites where wasting time is part of the deal. Timewasting is not part of the deal with escorting, as some like to believe. It’s just become a common situation that has not been properly mitigated by websites. Give each guy a chance to discuss what they offer, and make a proper yes or no plan. They may not be interested in you, you may not be interested in them. That’s why I started asking $20 for a consultation. It’s not to be greedy, it’s just I understand: it’s not always as simply as “rate? Come over now? Room number?” I have to set aside at least 30 minutes to figure out what a client wants or needs.

That’s always good practice. However, what I contended with last week was just downright bizarre. It gets to a point where, it becomes silly and immature. Game over for the flakes and bullshit. Thats why I’m just like, fuck it. I’m not doing the book a hotel and hope I have 5-6 clients per trip thing anymore. That’s 2012 strategy. People these days aren’t reliable enough, to trust that is going to work. I feel the pandemic has changed sex work to where, numbers don’t matter anymore. It’s all about loyalty and quality. Going forward it’s 1 or maybe 2 clients max in a day, and not even everyday: when I travel. I’ve already started adjusting my ads to imply I only want 1.5 to 2 hour visits minimum when I host. I’m trying hard not to resort to only $500 and higher/per session meets. I mean, I was given that just the other day…So it’s not out of this world, but I don’t want to alienate a large part of the market.

Well I was able to catch a break and woosah 🧘🏾‍♂️ over the weekend and squeeze in a 1st timer and a return visitor, and rescheduled one of my cancellations who booked me a room in his city. Exactly what I’ve been asking the universe for. Finally. However, I am still motivated to make (more) changes due to the number of flakes and phonies. Had someone off adam4adam who I was considering to meet without a deposit. Texted the first part of the day, no response around the time we set to meet. And nothing the next day when I seen him online 🤦🏾‍♂️ As for big city/small city: I don’t know. The answer seems obvious but, the bigger cities aren’t always the better results. In fact I was in DC back in September, I was disappointed. Luckily I had friend’s hotel downtown so didn’t spend but 1 night on a hotel room the 5 days I was there, but other than 2 trusted guys on here 😉: I didn’t get any bookings. I was like, what the hell? In DC? I’ve done other trips to DC in the past and some were better, some weren’t. DC seems very dependent on how politics are looking (which is crap at the moment it seems). I might of went too close to after Labor Day, and not enough advance notice (I was meeting friends short notice on their conference schedule). I would have preferred to advertise for a couple weeks more ahead than I did 🤷🏾‍♂️ I always assume it’s best to do it the day prior? Seems after 3-4-5 p.m. the rates can go up. But I think I have noticed every so often, a price will go down mid afternoon. so I’ll try to look more for it. For me though, it’s not just the price part. Even if I get a perfect steal on a 5 star hotel for $50 (and due to 98% of “inquiries” out there these days being phonies: I’ve stopped using the money saving 3rd party discount websites: so that’ll likely never happen) if nobody shows up the day or 2 I’m there: that’s not favorable. To me, getting a hotel is like a photographer renting a studio and having no models show up. That’s time away from home, time spent waiting around bored, and money spent. There’s nothing more depressing than a provider going to get a room, and the people who were expected to show: don’t. And I had to pop off on like 2-3 bookings last week because of that. Then they get an attitude with me, and I’m like wait: you’re the one who initiated all this. By being a fake: they’re not just wasting my time, they’re wasting my money and entire schedule. Thats why going forward, I’m not even going to host in hotels locally for less than 2 hour sessions. Whether they need the whole 2 hours or not. And when traveling, I’m definitely going to have to stick with deposits as usual when hosting. But I may just start making sure all my first day in City arrival bookings, are Outcalls. I did that couple weeks ago in another town, where I asked the client to book the room: and it just got the whole trip off to the right start. I did the booking, then stayed at a friend’s place.

And another thing: I wish people would stop saying, “well you don’t have to come all the way here/book a room JUST FOR ME.” Well who said I was?? And even if I was, why ask me if/when I’m coming to a city if you don’t want to be the reason for it? Why come off so contradictory. You may not be the only reason but, you may be the reason I’m coming that particular day or hour…When I may want to come at a different time if it were my decision. I would like to think clients trust that we are smart enough to have a secondary purpose for traveling to a city or booking a room. Regardless if that’s to book other clients or sightseeing personal venture. But that shouldn’t mean they get to be loosey goosey about meeting, and be left with 0 obligation to keep their word. Couple years ago I drove from St. Louis downtown (right on Illinois border) to Indianapolis (1 hour time change) just to see 1 client who was hosting. I didn’t have a desire to stay in Indianapolis and “work inquiries”, so I went to see him for a 2 hour booking, and turned around and came back that same night. So what if I went just to see him, I got paid and can make my own decisions on how much more I want to or don’t want to do, beyond that. I used to travel 13 hours to a small town, just to see one client for overnights every summer. But I would halfway stop over in a bigger city along the way. So even though I was going there just for him, I was able to add onto what I was getting…and it was always an advantage.

I don’t have all the specifics figured out for this, but I’m starting to feel the “common” way of booking hotels and traveling to a city and lining up clients (like many seem to think we all do) just isn’t it anymore. In the last couple days: I’ve had 3 confirmed bookings and 3 “maybe” bookings cancel, and I’m on my 2nd night at a hotel. Then a handful of inquiries here and there that haven’t panned out. This after I traveled over 5 hours to a city, in shitty weather at that. Livid would underestimate the way I felt. I had to take myself to a movie, just to escape the reality for a couple hours. I’m at a point, I’m done with booking and paying for hotels: and having their inflated rates suck up my funds. Then, if something goes awry on the way to a city: Lot of clients can only squeeze in a narrow window of time to meet an escort when I’m hosting. Time and time again I’ve booked rooms, and the client omits the fact that they have other obligations going on, that prevents them from being able to set aside more than an hour or 2. So there’s times I’ve ended up with cancelled bookings, and waiting in a hotel trying to book other clients…only for them to not show either. So I’m basically about to just quit hosting all together, unless I’m doing it from my actual place. But since that could potentially lower the amount of clients I get, I might have to start doing minimums of no less than $500-$1,000 anytime I travel, that would be enough to offset the expenses. I’ve found some clients don’t mind getting a room to host, and have even gone to cities where every client hosted (my first time to San Francisco some years ago was like that: all my bookings hosted). Only caveat is how to work that in if I need a room anyway. I don’t mind figuring out my own accommodations after I earn for the session in full. But that would give me the flexibility to pick any hotel of preference in any area of town. Not necessarily central for taking clients. Right now this is just a preliminary idea, but it might be something I reserve for certain markets. But the ultimate goal would be: send the deposit, include the address, and I’ll come to you. Amazon delivery 🚚 basically. No booking hotels or hosting unless it’s an overnight or 2+ hour evening session. It’s not that I don’t like hosting, I’m just over having to cover it all: travel, book a room, check into the room, and perform. I’ve often found it easier to just travel and perform when I’m going to cities. The whole hotel process adds a whole extra layer of work for me. And like the other day, one client failed to tell me he was going out of town that same night, and was waiting in a company vehicle for me to get to the hotel. Then he cancelled because his boss was calling. So I had to then call/cancel the hotel, and call the 1800 number to get the hotel to approve getting my points returned so it wasn’t lost. But just the day before, he tells me he was available “anytime” and made no mention of this. That’s why I have to remember to always ask every client before I make any hotel or outcall plans: “If you have ANYTHING else going on in your schedule I need to know about around the time of our appointment, be sure to let me know the earliest and latest you can meet.”

This is exactly why I rather just have a site with all this info listed. The issue comes when people don’t click my “about me” section especially on RentMass. I know pricing is a topic, but why have the extra rejection factor of having to ask and find out what the price is, instead of just being able to freely list it along with any extras or add ons

And that’s why I ask for deposits…Why they behave that way, is long unconcerned for me. I just need to do what I know is best for me. …now that escort has to wonder if the guy is going to be just address collecting him. I stopped relying on people to be “on their way” long time ago. Why am I going to tell someone where I’m staying or where I live with no assurance of them showing? When I’m in one city it’s a bit easier because there’s a row of town homes on an narrow street, all connected with different street numbers. I can give them the one across the street, look outside to ensure they’ve arrived, and then come outside to meet them or direct them to the proper side of the street. If they want to be stupid and play games, they get the address to the abandoned house down the street. Maybe they’ll have more fun with the neighborhood raccoon 🦝 or possum (yes they live in some city’s downtowns, not sure where they hide) 😂

What I meant by that was: not just this country but just political/economic stuff in general. I’m only 36 but: I know the early 2000s had its crisis, the 90s had its crisis, and the 80s, 70s and 60s too. All which likely had people afraid and uncertain for a period of time. That is the bullshit what I’m referring to. Whether that’s pandemic, epidemic, war, Y2K, Cuban missile crisis, stock market crash, housing market crash, oil embargo, civil rights unrest: it’s always some bullshit. This whole thing now with Russia, Iran and who’s going to get elected next: is all part of the 2020s saga that we’re living in, but isn’t particularly unique in the scheme of things. I never know exactly why/how sex work; an intricate industry, is affected by these things but: somehow it manages to persevere and rebound thru it all. Well thankyou, classy I am (I try to practice what I post when dealing with other businesses: like the ones that quote me $3,000 for a paint touch up 🤦🏾‍♂️ That’s the spirit!

I just wanted to go back to this again, just to clarify. It’s not that I’m charging for information. I have my ad, my website, and reviews. All that information is readily available. The thing is, many people who browse the sites skip all that information, that I’ve put my foot into baking 🥧 lol, metaphorically speaking: and go straight to dialing or instant messaging me. Then when I go over that information, they are clueless: no idea that I prefer advance notice, no idea that I ask for a deposit, no idea that I travel and post in different cities, no idea that I have a website, no idea my rates, no idea about anything. And they want to reach out at random times and tell me they are only available “Today”. I remember few months ago, some dude contacted me while I was visiting at the Air Force base with a guy I was dating. I took the time to reply to him: he was visiting in a town about hour away, but it was the nearest major city to the Air Force base: he had a hotel but didn’t want to host because quote: “his dog isn’t friendly with strangers”. Then when I was trying to arrange a booking, he’s like “only in town tonight” and then gets all dismissive towards me when I asked for deposit because: why the fuck am I going to go way out there and book a hotel out of my pocket, and not have any assurance of it happening? It distracted my whole Air Force base date that day, and I should have never even responded to his cheap ass. But now: I’ll never have to worry about that again because: my number won’t be posted and they’ll have to do a bit more effort to reach me. I don’t have time for that shit anymore. Too many clueless people contacting all the time, who have no intention to coordinate anything. They just think a provider is going to fall into their lap (or other areas) with no sort of effort to figure out what can work. For example this article (because people love to compare our industry to other businesses…well let’s go ahead and compare it to other businesses 😂 GlowdayPRO - 30 Days Free WWW.PRO.GLOWDAY.COM If you’re not charging for your consultations, it might be time to ask yourself if that makes good...

I understand that but: I’m specifically talking about this profession. I know it happens elsewhere. By all means, I can go on any hookup app and experience that all day/everyday and think nothing of it. But we’re dealing with a different dynamic here. If I’m paying $$ to post on a site, I shouldn’t have to contend with the same level of flakiness as a free platform. And people have to do their part to acknowledge when they are coming off flaky, and be let known it’s not acceptable practice to do in the industry. I mean, look at that guy. More than 1 providers saying he stood them up. I have to wonder if they have said anything to him at all, and if they did: why would he continue? And on top of that, to someone the client has met before. We can keep making excuses for inconsiderate behavior, and relate to every other business: or we can at least address it and call it out when it happens. Many who behave that way, have no idea the inconvenience they may cause. I’m not saying ever interaction has to be an obligation to book: but people who know better and still do it: need to realize it’s unacceptable. And most specifically: I refer to the ones who: I respond to them, and they don’t reply back. And then a year later hit me back up trying to meet “today”. And when I reply back, they either don’t respond or do what the guy I mentioned does. That’s not just being a ghost or a flake. That’s someone who lacks etiquette, and needs to be let known. Now, if they enjoy escorts getting upset with them and do it on purpose: they deserve to be on every report and blacklist available. A First-time Client’s Guide to Escort Booking Etiquette TRYST.LINK The sex industry often feels mysterious to outsiders - full of rules and customs that aren’t... The sex industry is rife with ‘time wasters and tyre-kickers’ - would-be clients who never follow through after contacting an escort. If you want your first attempt at booking to be successful, you’ll need to stand out as a serious customer.