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uh huh…okay, yeah I’m listening 🥱 Meanwhile there’s still plenty of viewers out there who don’t mind sending deposits or partially arranging via apps:

Actually it’s not sinking in for you. Bozo. But since you are stuck in a perpetual willingness to disagree with everything under the sun I say, I’m just going to start responding to you with what other people are saying, that way I don’t waste my energy clowning around with you:

There is no denying of services because I have it transparent across all my ads and website. So they are already aware of what I ask before even contacting me. See, that’s the difference. There’s no surprises on my end. Even when RentMen doesn’t allow rates or mention of deposit, I still have it in my website that gets sent along with every inquiry. It does mean something, and it means I know what is best for me, regardless of what some other anon person feels about it.

Okay, now that my eyes have been desecrated by the long winded dribble that really has nothing to do with the escort industry: I’m going to respond back as friendly as I possibly can… First of all: you are so lame and tired to keep bringing up old news, when I’ve been using the same name along with my own website and biz card for YEARS now. You stuck on some 2009 shit, grow up. If you’re a doctor, you got too much time on your hands to be coming on here; and arguing with a sex worker about what rules they choose to have in their business. I’ve been using the same name, since the last time I went to the Palm Springs event back in 2019: 7 YEARS AGO. Why are you still on some decade old shit? Because you don’t have a life. I don’t give a fuck if you are a doctor or not. You being a doctor and me being an escort have no relation. The medical industry, is not the escort industry. What you’re doing is more of a “necessity based” whereas what we do is “luxury based”. There’s plenty of businesses that require their money upfront. You don’t get Amazon sent to you until you pay the product. You don’t get to purchase a car without putting a down payment. You don’t get to see a movie FIRST, and then pay after. You coming at me with the wrong comparisons, and sounds like you’re bitter about your profession and want to project that shit on me. Get out of here with that. And for the record, even though I’m taking the time to respond to your condescending post, I did still report your post because you have no business trying to say things to make me look bad. All my reviews speak for themselves. Non of my clients have problems with deposits. You think you are more important just because your profession and education in the medical field: news flash, that don’t mean shit in the would of escorting. Before you talk all that shit, why don’t you try being an escort for a week. A month. A year. If not, keep it moving. Stick to what you do best, don’t come and try to dictate what another independent professional should do 🎤

In my case I wouldn’t request an Uber or Lyft because I take my own commute. But I can understand NYC being a different market. I also tend to stick with cities that are easier to get around. Despite the differing opinions on here, I generally don’t have an issue arranging deposits. Before deposits, I’ve had times where someone may have to cancel en route to them for whatever reason, so it’s too much of a risk these days especially since my commute can be anywhere from half an hour to a few hours.

If you don’t like what I have to post, you don’t have to hang around. Like you being attracted to me or not, makes any difference. What do you look like? Easy to say when you don’t even have a pic up of yourself 🤣 Only a coward or a bitch would stoop to that level. And you been around since 2003 and making comments like that? You should know better 🤔 Does it make you feel better about yourself now that you said it? For your own peace of mind, I hope so…now leave, please.

First off: you spelled my name wrong. Nice try though to try to embarrass me 😉 But thanks for the free advertising on my behalf. I in-fact do still travel and still take deposits. I also enjoy serving smaller markets and actually meet some pretty good clients. Kansas City and St. Louis aren’t the small markets I refer to though. Anything else you want to ask me about my curtailed business? I’m all ears…

Still assuming Dr. appointments are the only things an escort may have scheduled outside of clients 🙄

Well every person I know that I show up at the last minute, tells me “next time give me some more notice and I can plan”. So don’t give me some bullshit anecdotes about all these other escorts you know. If you want me to see the glass how you want me to see it, you can’t just talk about what someone else is doing and expect me to fall in line with it…when you don’t even know what I’m referring to. If I have a Dr. appointment or some other apppintment scheduled 2 weeks in advance, do you think I’m supposed to just “decide whether I want to see the client” instead? All of my current favorite regulars, are all guys who have been willing to book in advance. Even if I initially booked them the same day, long as they show a willingness to reserve a day or more ahead I’ll keep seeing them.

Goodbye. Obviously you don’t want or need to understand why everyone does not operate on the same level, so you may escort yourself from this conversation. There is no “complaint about someone hiring them” and then to trivialize “on my way out to do something” being something I should drop to see a client, goes to show the type of ignorant and self centered mentality people like you have. What I want to see, is people like you: drop what they’re doing to see me. And see how they feel about it. Guaranteed they won’t because last week, I had a client tell me when I offered him a same day booking (the next day)…”oh I already made plans”. Okay fine, you don’t want to drop your plans for me so don’t expect me to do the same! Yes I am also grateful for clients who book and hire me. But, the best way to go about it is to find a mutually convenient time. Even if that does have to be 2 or 24 hours from now. The type of work we do is very personalized. I’ve done the same-day appointments for years. Don’t forget I been in the industry awhile. I’ve done same day, right now, hell I’ve done: walk right past me and let’s fuck right now. But as a matured escort, I’ve come to realize not everything is about money. Money comes and go, but the same way they can plan other things in their lives with other people: I want that same courtesy.

#1 don’t compare me to “many escorts” who I have no relation to or cannot verify even exist. First of all. 2nd, it means nothing to me. Those other escorts could be doing more than just “viagra and some water” and to assume that’s all it takes, shows you may not understand the facts of what’s really involved. It has nothing to do with getting hard. Even when I have offered and been available “right now” to clients, it’s not always as convenient and easy as it seems. Keep in mind, most don’t know where they are going “in 30 minutes”. It’s often very rushed and even if it is a good experience, I may have flaked or pushed back on plans I had. And you won’t believe it but, the same day “right now” calls tend to come at the precise moment I’m getting ready to walk out the door to do something else. And if the tables were turned and I tried to get them to meet right away, guarantee you they would say, “oh I’m busy”.

As far as I know, they don’t exist outside of major metros. At least here in the U.S. I can see it in New York or San Fran but, most hotels don’t want to rent a room out for an hour and then not have it clean for a full night stay. So I probably wouldn’t save any money doing that anyway because they would likely charge the same as a good rate from Priceline or something. However I am familiar with DayUse hotels. The problem is, sometimes when I’m visiting a city, I need a place to stay anyway. And even if I’m staying with friends, sometimes I need the WHOLE day/night to myself before and after client lol. I’ve done dayuse a couple of times, but they aren’t offered in all cities and in order to do so, I need to be able to have a main place to stay at. The problem comes when, I’m not set up to host but some guys are just like, “can I come over NOW”. Like ummm, no. There was no expectation of an appointment. Just because my ad says “available now” does not mean “I’m hosting and you can come over now”. It’s just simply saying: I can be available to meet today, if we can agree on a time, rate and place. Doesn’t mean they can come over right now. Perfect points, my dude 🫱🏾‍🫲🏻 I’m surprised you never need to spend on hotels lol. I’ve been platinum or diamond tier with at-least 1 or 2 brands every year. However, my hotel nights have dropped a lot, because I try to stay with friends as much as I can when I travel. But the caveat to that, non of them allow me to host (nor would I really feel right about that) so I still have to plan hosting accordingly. However, that’s also why I require deposits. Most clients don’t want to host, or don’t want to book a room. So the best compromise is doing a deposit. That’s why it disgusts me when guys on here, parade such stupid and ignorant rhetoric about never sending deposits. It’s like HELLO 🔔, all of us are having to also spend money upfront as well. From the very get go, we have to spend money to post on RentMen, with no assurance or timeline of when a client will book. I also assume by “streets”, you mean gay bars/events or hotel bars possibly. I wouldn’t feel right doing actual streets lol.

I just hope everyone encouraging no deposits, is also willing to be on call with money to give in the event a provider travels to a city with no deposits…and everyone flakes out on their booking. It can and does happen. And with the price of things now, anticipating going up even more: I don’t think a sweeping advice about not providing deposits is exactly conducive to encouraging providers to shoulder the risks and costs of travel and accommodations.

That’s unfortunate, however I do feel the “gay society” has often sought masseurs over escorts in some cities. And it seems like the portrait of a well to do escort, who does it like the porn movies, doesn’t exist in many areas. It’s why I still keep up a RentMasseur profile along with my RM, although sometimes clients see me on both. However I do have 2 separate masseur/entertainer prices. I do cringe when I hear someone every so often, talk about so and so who does such and such for $80 including a massage. That’s just not sustainable for everyone, and the guys who do that usually doing this as a bonus on the side…and usually don’t travel outside of their neighborhood. If they did, they’d quickly see how exhausting it is to play and massage for $80, 5 different guys a day…when they could just do $300/400 and make the same 😆

Huh? First of all, I wasn’t talking about what he was talking about. I was saying, based on the ORIGINAL thread posted…LA does NOT sound like he’s referencing Louisiana (LA is the abbreviated state name of it but that doesn’t seem like that’s what we’re discussing) or New Orleans. Common sense would say, L.A. the city is one of the more expensive places between there and Louisiana. So critical thinking would say he’s talking about Los Angeles. Don’t be petty and find an argument where there wasn’t one ✋🏾

I have an active thread on same day appointments, but my last response explains why it is not always productive: but it doesn’t mean I’m “upset” about it. However, some people ALWAYS expect a same day booking. Sometimes it’s the same ones as well. You’re coming from a place that is viewing the industry “like a Grindr profile”. It isn’t nor was it ever. Even when I first started around 2008, most all my best bookings were requested a day or 2 or longer ahead. I used to often run out for same day appointments, because I didn’t know better. I also used to accept guys asking for discounts, for same day appointments at that. Nowadays, I would never. It’s extra, not less. But having an attitude like, “sometimes I am, sometimes I’m not” isn’t going to put any value on it. As for for deposits for incalls: being that I have to spend extra money to host sessions, typically in a hotel set up (I stopped offering bookings from home couple years ago) I do need a deposit for that. If they don’t show, I’m out of the money for it. Many people outside the industry think, “just do outcalls”. But they don’t understand that a large percentage of clients aren’t going to book a room solely for the purpose of a session. I just spent some time up north, and I had to host 4 clients, reserving accommodations each time. Many of them would rather send me a deposit (one even dropped the deposit off to me in cash…) than to book a hotel room for our time. It’s not over complicating by any means, it’s just years of experience has showed me what works, and what is stupid and foolish as all fuck. And couple years ago I booked a Sheraton Hotel for 2 different clients, SAME DAY NOTICE without a deposit: THEY BOTH flaked out on the same day. One even mocked me, saying: “I didn’t tell you to book a hotel room”. He tried to rebook for an outcall later on and flaked again, I was like…you can send the cancellation fee or I’ll come and get it personally myself 😆 Way too many idiots and time-wasters ESPECIALLY in the Midwest, but they’re everywhere. I won’t go back to working without a deposit whether it’s host/travel or a combination of the 2.

LA = Los Angeles? I’d think anyone talking Louisiana would be saying Nola or Orleans.

Like I said, every year it needs a reboot and to be discussed again, to touch on new points 🤣 It’s not that I don’t want to hear thoughts and advice, it’s just that I rather not have to always decide whether to keep plans with friends/family (or even myself) or flake on them to take a client last minute. But as a low volume provider (aka someone who doesn’t have dudes coming and going all hours of the day -or- running out for every “u available now” request) I get: I also don’t missing out on money because I don’t always have the choice to cancel such plans. Last year was one example of why I don’t like same day bookings: I accepted a date IN ADVANCE from someone I liked who wasn’t a client, but as it always happens a client hit me up earlier in the day, but he was MIA all afternoon and waited hours to finally say, “I can send the Venmo deposit now”. By that point I had already told the other guy I was on my way. I ended up turning down $450, but the price of integrity is even more. That’s true and I know it’s a dilemma. However, I also feel sometimes these guys get “flaked on” by another escort for whatever reason, and then try to make a last minute move (like the one guy recently who talked about deposits). Thats why I feel the game can really use a reinvention. I can’t think of it right now but, something better than just being on the fringes never knowing when a same day appointment may come thru. Or: like some do…

No idea who you are referring to but, not sure that has anything to do with same day/available now appointments. If and when you do have something relevant to say about that, you can continue.

Read the context: “People are willing to hook up for free and with no phone number, it’s become super trashy🚮, and it’s unsafe.” Exactly. And when I said trashy, I was referring to it in the way that people on these trashy apps normalize trading NUDE pics, but yet can’t trust someone with an exchanging a phone number. It’s not simply about free sex, it’s moreso the expectations some have. Not to mention, people on apps act so anti-escort but yet, they’re doing the same thing but with no screening and for free.

If it’s not on one of the HLN shows, it’s too soon…

I think it’s probably more to it than that: recession sounds convenient but it’s also due to different factors: no rates posted, “scammers”, contacts who only contact asking to unlock private pics not book anything, and of course the over populated amount of profiles with selfie phone pics…making it look like just another hookup app, versus a site for attracting paying clients. Non of that suggestion RentMen isn’t effective, but if a person is expecting high volume like the Hookup apps: it’s not going to happen. Most guys probably get bored with the bullshit, if they aren’t really in it full time. Or they do it briefly for a quick “fix” but aren’t generally relying on it long term.

I’ll occasionally receive the members gift from someone. You can do it for 1 or I believe 3 months. For guys that often travel, the Gold membership is usually needed but can always upgrade during that time.

I’m sure this has been brought up before, but it always seems to be a new dimension to it each year. I been finding the same day meetups to be more common lately. I used to get emails asking about my travels in advance, now it seems mostly people texting the day of looking to meet. I have across all my ads that I prefer 24 hours notice. If I take on a same day meet, 2 hours notice is the minimum but: people don’t understand that if it takes an hour or 2 to confirm, that is then added to the amount of notice I need. For example: If someone texts me at 4 PM, but doesn’t complete confirming along with address and/or deposit until 5:30 p.m. (likely due to asking questions, breaks in texting, etc etc) I’m not going to meet them at 6 p.m. The amount of notice will start from the 5:30 that they confirm. Which could mean 7-7:30 IF I have nothing else going on at that moment. But what happens? The person may not be willing to meet after such and such time. So wait: you wanted to catch me off guard and be available, BUT you’re also limited on time that you can meet. How does that work 🤔 For example, some people ask for same day appointments but then attach conditions to it like, “but I have to meet before 3 p.m. or 4 p.m. or 9 p.m. Well, if timing was so important, why try and do it at the last minute to begin with? Why not ping me the day before or atleast EARLIER in the day (I had one recently text me at 6 pm on a Friday asking to meet tonight…how many people do y'all know, that can be available at the last minute on a Friday evening?). When I suggested it would be 2 hours at least before I could be available, the plan fell thru. In regards to “available now”: I sincerely wish all sites removed that label and changed it to “available today”. It’s not that same day appointments are so bad, it’s moreso people expecting NOW. It’s not possible to stay ready for an appointment 24/7, especially if like me: you’re only used to seeing clients 2-4 times a week max. So when someone pops up asking to meet right away, I don’t know to expect that. Part of me wants to do away with all same day appointments, but I can appreciate the unexpected earning (and a nice alternative to cumming 💦 , that doesn’t require going to a cruising bar or using a hookup app…which is tempting on days I don’t have clients) it can bring. They certainly come in handy, but I also don’t like cancelling what I have going on, to accommodate. Sometimes same day isn’t a problem at all really. The problem is I find, once I agree to a same day appointment one time, there’s an expectation that I can do it ALL the time. And usually I’ll allow it once but the 2nd time they ask I’ll usually have to say no. It’s like: I’ve mentioned during our last visit the amount of effort it takes to do an appointment same day. My Solution: I wish all same day/same night appointments would CONFIRM by 12 p.m. Why 12 p.m.? Well if I’m in a hotel, it gives me time to extend a day. Even if I’m not in a hotel, confirming by noon ensures I can make plans early enough that won’t interfere with friends or family. I just don’t want it to be confused with “all same day appointments must MEET by 12 pm”. No, it’s like a cutoff time for a utility/credit card bill: But instead have it to book by noon, for your appointment to be had that day. And to the ones who “don’t know my schedule/just had time pop up”…you know you like to look at escort/masseurs. Even if you have to wing it and put down a retainer of $50/100 to someone you’re familiar with, in the event you may be free but aren’t sure.

Sums it up fairly accurately. But in case anyone wonders: it’s not just that way in the industry either. I met 4 new guys outside of clients while visiting a university town. Out of the 4, only 1 showed to really be communicative about their intentions and followed up with meeting again. The other 3 ghosted after our meet. Played all the cards right at first though. Meanwhile all my clients sent thankyou messages after the session. That’s why I’m tired of hooking up. When I allow myself to give it up them for free, they don’t appreciate it 😝