Jamie21

If I knew how I would!! But if you’re on Twitter you can see loads of excerpts on there…follow me @massageforhim

As an older provider I can say that the age of my clients doesn’t matter, it’s their attitude that’s important. My aim is to help them feel attractive, desirable, interesting and for them to have fun. If they start off by firmly believing they’re too old (or young) for that then it’s challenging so I suggest they pretend at first. We all like pretending. After a while they forget they’re pretending and relax, and then it comes naturally. Once you stop worrying what other people are thinking you can really enjoy yourself.

I’m usually top. If you’re hung most guys assume you’re a top and bottoms seem to get attracted like bees to a honey pot. I’m not complaining, it gives me good business but I’m equally happy to bottom as I am to top. Although it’s much more work to bottom so I only tend to do it when making movies.

Describes himself as “athletic perfect body and face”. I think it’s up to the beholder to decide whether his body is perfect….and the pics do confirm he has a face. Perhaps change that bio?

There’s over 50 full length massage movies on my justforfans site here: https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim All include myself with either amateur volunteer models or porn guys. Lots of hot massages where anything goes, and everyone cums 🙂

Agree, I don’t do it full time. I wouldn’t have the energy let alone the inability to plan. I do like some degree of certainty about how my week will go, although I appreciate the flexibility I get. I think a lot of the guys who do work full time tend to be comfortable with not planning in advance. I’ve tried to set up filming sessions with them for my porn fans site and very few want to commit in advance to a day for filming. It’s almost always a provisional date to be confirmed on the day, presumably because nothing more interesting or lucrative hasn’t come up! That doesn’t work for me because I’ll have booked the location and arranged cameraman etc.

Exactly. When I’m away on holiday there’s texts and e mails asking to book. When I get back from holiday….tumbleweed.

During July I worked 14 days. Most days just one client, some days up to 3. That includes my other work (filming for my fans site). I can plan to have a day off but then someone asks to book and I’ll usually take the booking. That’s the issue: last minute bookings and the inability to plan ahead definitively. So I keep my time very flexible and can pick up or drop other things I’m doing as required.

If I’m bottoming it definitely needs more than 1 hour notice!

I’ve always been surprised by the use of ‘passionate’ in a profile. To me passionate is a minimum requirement for a provider whether they’re an escort or masseur. Most of my work is as a masseur and I would like to think that I’m passionate with all of my clients (of course it’s for them to decide that), but passionate is what I aim for. A sensual massage delivered without passion is not a sensual massage, it’s just a perfunctory massage and hand job. Likewise an escort session delivered without passion is reduced to a bodily function. If you’re unsure what the provider means by ‘passionate’ in their profile and want to check I think it’s worth asking them about kissing. I think sometimes passionate is used as a synonym for kissing.

No. I couldn’t be exclusive. It’s impossible for me.

I take credit cards, or cash (£ or US$ or €). Mostly my clients pay by card. I don’t mind how they pay as long as they do actually pay.

In the UK there is no legal gray area of escorting. It’s lawful here. Masseurs offering sensual / erotic are not doing anything unlawful. You might want to allow different details to be included depending on what’s lawful in each jurisdiction. I work as a sensual masseur in London and include sexual services in my massage. Clients need to know what’s included in what they’re purchasing.

I went on holiday with a client but it wasn’t working as such. He paid for the flight, food, drinks etc and entertainment and I paid my share of the hotel, which I was happy to do. There was no payment for my time, and as such no expectation of anything, even though plenty of action happened both with him and when we hooked up with other guys during the holiday. He’d asked me to join him because otherwise he’d have travelled alone and he wanted someone to share the holiday with. I was reticent at first because it’s one thing to get on during his sessions, and on the occasions he’d asked me to dinner or theatre etc (these occasions as friends) but it’s a more challenging situation to spend a week on holiday with someone. You really have to have shared interests outside of sex. I decided to agree to his request though because we get on really well and he had become a friend..,which is of course fraught with difficulty and I’d never recommend but there you are…it happened and it had worked out very well. I was glad he let me pay for some of it because otherwise I’d have felt awkward. So what am I saying? Only go if you are ok with the client / provider relationship changing. Treat it like friends and it’s more likely to be successful, especially if you have interests outside of sex in common. If you go as a provider then basically you’re working the whole time (even when you’re not having sex) and that I think would be very challenging.

Yes, it was. Very unsubtle. Glad it’s gone.

Hmmmmm

Talking of taking on “staff”…I do employ (or ‘contract out’ to be more exact) my movie editing work (for my justforfans) and some of my admin type social media work to a guy who does all that for me! I can’t be bothered with those things …I just focus on the performance 🙂.

The interesting part of being a sex worker for me is that I don’t know who is coming to see me, obviously if they’re a regular I do, but many clients are new so I’ve no idea what they look like until the moment we meet. If I was to ‘select’ my clients that air of mystery is lost. Some clients send pictures and some send a description, even asking me if they’re ok to book a session, as in fit enough or sufficiently hung. I really don’t need to know, or mind how big you are or whether you’re overweight or skinny. All I need to know is that you’re healthy (and no Covid!) and will be fresh and clean. I also certainly haven’t got time to be scrolling through client profiles to select those I deem good enough to visit. So it’s a nice idea but I think most providers wouldn’t be interested.

I don’t reach out to them. I respond to all enquiries and messages but if someone is just looking at my profile regularly but not contacting me then I just leave them to it. If they’re interested they’ll ask eventually.

The lack of communication is difficult I totally agree about that. So many times a client will contact me to check availability or ask questions. I reply….then tumbleweed. Nothing….not even I changed my mind. I’m left thinking “he wanted next Wednesday or whatever” so I’m left doubtful about whether to make plans. All I’d like is the client to reply and either book or say “no thanks “. Please don’t just leave it hanging!

The more sex establishments are open the better. It’s good for business. In my experience the more sex guys get the more they want, so I’m happy. I notice an increase in clients once lockdowns ended and now that most are vaccinated. I think people are more confident to go out and start living again.

What a lovely reply. And a good conclusion I think. It’s much better to raise your ideas with him in person because you can give context and gauge his reaction.

Yes me too. I’ve no problem giving those details. Places that are loose on protocol are more likely to have loose practice on cleaning, drug use prevention and safety standards. Give me a professionally run establishment every time. Just because it’s a sex establishment shouldn’t be a reason to be rubbish.

That’s a brilliant idea….I’ll steal it and use it. I often ask clients to describe what they’d like, some struggle to do that because they’re a bit shy to ask or because their English isn’t so good. A picture is worth a thousand words so a porn movie scene is worth even more.

Often they hold a Portuguese passport and (pre Brexit) have the right to live and work in UK. London is a wealthy and big market for guys who want to live in UK (or Europe) and learn English. Escorting is easy to get into, pays well and can fit around other jobs. I think that’s at least part of the reason.