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A tangential remark – I read an article here awhile back that a guy, I think from GB, had issues with his penis and they regrew another one on his arm to replace it. It wouldn’t function sexually, but it would be there and would assist in going to the bathroom etc. The article made it sound like a nonfunctional dick wasn’t an issue because he already had kids. I’m like – talk about a puritanical understanding of sex as (only) about procreation if it’s not a problem it doesn’t work right because he already has kids… “Sex is only for making babies, Tommy.”

This. The social aspect of the trans life is hard to fathom until you’ve encountered it. And I lived it only vicariously. I just don’t think I’m cut out for it...

There were issues related to his being trans. I fully support trans folks. But having dated a transguy, I don’t think I’m cut out for the social demands it requires. And as a bottom, as much as I was into him, I couldn’t have the same sexual satisfaction I do with a cisgendered man.

I did it. For about 18 months. I will not repeat.

Enzo on Rentmasseur is good. I went to him when I lived in Philly.

Another reason why I bristle at the notion that communicating with a provider before meeting up is a waste of time. It doesn’t take long communicating with a possible provider to get a sense if he’s a fake or not. But some level of communication is needed for that. I also am very skeptical of providers who have photo sets that are too perfect. I get having some professional photos, but unless you’re a professional porn star, it seems unlikely that your naked pictures are going to be photo shoot exquisite.

I’ve never seen a scientific survey, but it would be interesting to know what percentage of Americans are fine with prostitution if it’s between consenting adults where no human trafficking or other unsavory business is going on is happening. I suspect if it’s just a financial transaction for sex, most Americans wouldn’t be against it.

Also the government could collect some revenue from reputable providers. I’d expect there to always been an underground market, like for marijuana still, but by opening it up and regulating it, the government can collect revenue from the work escorts do. And I’m sure some of us would be less likely to gravitate toward the blackmarket escorts if legal, regulated options were available. There are ways for the government to collect this tax if they wanted to, as well. Ways that protect both client and provider. I honestly believe decriminalization and taxation for sex work would solve a lot of the problem.

@Jarrod_Uncut – dem’s the rules. Don’t like ‘em, find another hotel to take your business.

Why not? We live in an information age with computers. It’s as simple as the cleaning staff clicking a button on an app or device when they’re cleaning. Information is associated with your room when you check in and check out.

The last overnight I had (3 nights), we both slept great each night. I actually woke more rested than I had in a long while, and earlier too. The final night we overslept and he almost missed his train home...But all in all, worth it. I value sleep and I like a guy in bed with me, so the idea of not sleeping on an overnight seems foreign to me.

I’m really surprised how many guys on here pay for porn. That’s not a judgement. Just a statement of surprise.

@Jarrod_Uncut – When you’re the provider, you demand platinum treatment. When you’re the client, you want every accommodation and grace. Your hypocrisy is gobsmacking.

How’s the business going in Charlotte?

I always hire for the BFE. I expect that part of that for me is having a good night’s sleep after fucking with the escort. That’s important to me. So I don’t think it’s unheard of. I echo everything from those who have said to be an open communication if it’s about something like this that is important to you. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Uncommunicated expectations means disappointments.

I had tried the gift card route with an escort once for an Amtrak ticket. It didn’t work out for him. So I just broke down and decided that I would Venmo him the money. In the end it was a very fine transaction, and I would do it again with him. But I totally understand the hesitancy the first time

In my work, we call that “boundaries.” And it’s always the provider’s job to keep them.

There’s so much meanness in the world as is. I echo this a million times. In fact, your whole post. People are so fucked up. The wasting time to prep only to be a no-show, the hounding via different numbers...that’s harassment. Craziness...

@Jarrod_Uncut – Blurred boundaries are the whole source of this. If it’s important to you, set him down and explain how you feel. You are not a man of few words or hesitant to share your thoughts and opinions. Use that same hutzpah here. If he is just a client, it shouldn’t bother you if he exits your life over it. Just a client after all. But if he’s more than just a client, then you have to figure out how you’re handling it. And you can fairly expect him to be treated as “just a client” in that case. In other words, you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

I feel like that’s the reasonable, adult thing to do. I’d also expect an escort to the same with me if that’s in fact what happened. I’m not pissed if in the course of planning a meeting with him someone beat me to it. That’s how the cookie crumbles. As for getting sick – I had to reschedule a weekend by a week because I got the stomach bug. The escort was perfectly fine moving things a week. I feel like communication is key in those moments, but if an escort feels communicating is beneath them if they’re not comped for it, that makes the experience that much more anxiety-producing and unlikely to be pleasant all around. I’m not saying it’s illegitimate, but who has a last minute unforeseen need to move? That one makes me suspicious but I’m not saying it’s not real. Just that it seems very strange...

I did not see that movie.

Going to roll out the plumber analogy again... It’s not unheard of to call up various plumbers and get a quote. Some might also not handle the problems you need addressing. When you finally decide on a plumber, you set the date and go with it. Plumbers recognize that not everyone calling them up is necessarily going to hire them. They also don’t think people who call and ask questions are timewasters for doing that. A similar situation could apply to escorts and clients. I don’t see why it’s so unacceptable to contact a few providers to see what their rates are and if they’re compatible. Asking such questions, which will take some back-and-forth and an investment of time on the part of the escort, is not unmerited. And it doesn’t mean such clients are timewasters. I wonder...if you’re looking for an hour, you might not care as much how compatible you are with an escort. But when I’m hiring for multiple days and a BFE experience, the questions become important. They’re not a waste of time then. So if an escort is going to list “boyfriend experience” on what he’s offering but doesn’t want to engage questions about what that entails pre-meetup, is he *really* interested in providing a BFE?

Aside – generalizations are helpful to an extent. But just like we can’t make blanket statements that “All guys 70 years old or more are reliable.” we can say that “All guys 40 years old or younger are timewasters.” Interesting question – If a guy who’s 70 years old ends up being unreliable, does he color the opinion of escorts for all older men, or is he just an anomaly? Because one younger guy seems able to influence an escort’s opinion about all younger guys.

This is a new term for me. In the last few days in fact. Did I miss something?

Massages I’ve had were us both naked, 60 minutes, $185, I suspect to make tipping to $200 easier and logical.