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The escort doesn’t have enough info at this point in the conversation to be selective. Nothing of any substance was exchanged…It barely registers as a conservation. The provider couldn’t even provide a conversation… I wouldn’t be and am no upset one iota about a provider determining a meetup won’t work after we’ve communicated some, but there is literally 7 words and one contraction from him. A few more from me, but really nothing whatsoever for him to be able to determine if I’m not a good client for him. If the 3-night booking was a problem (despite advertising weekends and travel as offering), the least he could have said was he was uncomfortable with the 3-night BFE out the gate…or ever. I’m still waiting to hear something from this exchange that highlights me as a potential problematic client, where my fault lies.

Could you please point out in the exchange I posted, the sum total of exchange the provider had with me, where the problem was indicative? I’d appreciate being enlightened so I don’t keep making the same mistake. As I’m the problem, I’d like to do something to correct it if it’s something I’m able to address. Clearly I’m missing something.

By necessity, no doubt. But also a lucky bullet dodged. The problem is it seems like an unnecessary waste of time to message provider only to exchange two or three content-bereft texts… I’ve been hiring since I was 29. It was my early 30th birthday present to myself.

My three regulars are good communicators. Maybe I should just be satisfied with them until the need arises to book someone new. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Maybe the problem is what? Complete your thought. Don’t let us all hanging… You want an example of what I’m talking about? See below…Tell me. What/who’s the problem? Maybe I am in fact doing this all wrong.

Anywhere between 25-35. I don’t think I’ve ever tried set up a meeting with a guy older than 35. I suspect I know where this is going. “Young people don’t know how to communicate.” I may be an exception, but I’m 33 and I’m the one bitching about the poor communication. I’m always told by the older crowd that I’m young, so if I’m young and want more responsive communication, it can’t be simply a (dys)function of age that these guys – and to be clear, it’s a subset – are piss-poor at communicating. It has to be more than that…

I don’t understand why it’s so hard to hire a guy. It shouldn’t be hard. We’re not playing matchmaker here. It’s almost as difficult as setting up a Grindr date with some of these guys. The ones who really see this as their job are infinitely easier to arrange with, but I sincerely believe A LOT of these providers are looking to get paid to do the Grindr thing. Rentmen isn’t Grindr. The selectiveness from some providers is almost akin a baker saying they won’t make a cake for certain types of clients. I totally get when it is clear that a potential client is likely not a potential client, but you can’t know if a client is serious in four texts between the two of you that total less than 50 words, sometimes less than 25… I really am thankful for my regulars who are a dream to work with…

Here’s how I feel about paying for transportation: it’s your gut. I don’t think there’s a hard-and-fast rule. But your gut, not your dick, will likely not lie to you. I’ve paid for bus, train, and plane tickets before meeting a provider, and every time it was okay. But I’ve also declined because my gut said it was off. As for paying for transportation to work and having your employer pay for work travel, the IRS is pretty clear. Travel to and from work is not travel for work. Your employer is not responsible for paying for you to get to work. This isn’t difficult to understand…

@Axiom2001– 👍🏻 All around good choice!

I suggest @MrMattBig https://rent.men/MattAnthony

I really don’t enjoy being the one that sets the stage, so to speak. I am up front about that when I hire, and so far, I’ve had three guys fail to understand what I mean by it or simply tell me they’d do it but didn’t, and two guys who get it. The two guys who get are now my regulars and the other three haven’t been rehired.

I’m of conflicted opinion. On on hand, a seasoned sex performer is likely more able to pull off a convincing BFE. On the other, they tend to over an overinflated sense of their time’s value. I also find myself also questioning the whole time if he’s genuinely enjoying his time with me or just acting. That’s why I appreciate my regulars. We have an established relationship.

When I hear $3k for an overnight, I am turned off. Not because I can’t do it, but because someone thinks they’re time is that valuable. Perhaps it’s just me though…

Does this mean that there will be a reviewed reviews sub forum? I don’t see why reviews couldn’t be posted and reviewed before going live. Is that not a function of the forum’s moderation? “Thank you for your post. It will be reviewed and posted upon approval?”

I wholeheartedly and enthusiastically suggest @MrMattBig!

I’ll say it again. He. Doesn’t. Intend. To. Meet. It’s pretty clear from a) his pricing and b) his behavior after sharing his pricing. I wish there were a way to get guys who don’t intend to meet off RM. Like escorts don’t want guys who aren’t serious, clients don’t want guys who have no intention of providing.

In order to receive this image, you have to subscribe to his OF. He didn’t follow up after sending this image when I asked him how we can go about making an appointment. That’s what makes me think he’s not at all interested in actually meeting. He makes his money by leading guys along with the promise of meeting but only gets them to subscribe to his OF.

Is there something I’m missing? Is Dubai some escort hotspot? It seems a lot of the guys I’ve browsed on RM in the last 2-3 weeks are in Dubai or headed there...Something I’m missing about that locale?

Quoted me $2500/hr as well after subscribing to his OF to get the info. He didn’t follow up to OF or text communication attempts after the quote. I think he has no intention of meeting guys. The behavior smacks of scammery.

Caveat emptor...he’s back. https://rent.men/ChaseStPatrick Cranston man arrested in “commercial sex” operation

That cuts both ways. I hate being made to feel like because I’m a client I don’t expect to fairly compensate or that I want to waste someone’s time. The assumption that every potential client is a time waster makes me really hesitant to reach out to any potential new talent because if I’m not immediately ready to book, I’m a time waster. In my line of work, when considering someone to do work for us, we talk to contractors and see if they can do it. We also get bids. That’s not billed. Nor is it considered inappropriate or a waste of time. It’s part of doing business as a self-employed person.

If we agree to 60 minutes and you want to keep it to that, fine. If we agree to 60 minutes and you stay over, that’s fine too. I will likely tip. If we agree to 60 minutes, we’re “done” in 50 minutes, and I say you don’t have to stay, that’s fine. If we agree to 60 minutes, we’re “done” in 50 minutes, and you start talking about leaving, that’s not fine. If prep time and cleanup time are part of comp time, what’s left in an hour session?

Everything is a turn on for someone.

Aside – I’ve always really understood “available now“ as they were literally on the site right then. I think that “now“ is a relative term. I could want to eat lunch right now, or I might not be in the position to hire right now…Both of those mean two different things.